{"id":92141,"date":"2020-09-10T13:36:49","date_gmt":"2020-09-10T13:36:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=92141"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:17:12","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:17:12","slug":"tu-hombre-estresado-se-retira","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/tu-hombre-estresado-se-retira\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfQu\u00e9 debe hacer cuando su hombre estresado se retrae?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cuando se enfrentan a tiempos dif\u00edciles, la mayor\u00eda de las veces recurren a cerrarse en banda.<\/p>\n

So when your stressed man withdraws with no explanation, don’t take it personally.<\/p>\n

If you sense that he needs space (even though you’re in a long-term relationship and you want to talk things through), give it to him.<\/p>\n

Here’s the deal with men in stressful situations: Instead of coping, men pull away due to their fight or flight response.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When they’re under a lot of stress, they suppress their emotions, which manifests as them being distant toward their loved ones.<\/p>\n

Pero todas las grandes relaciones sufren altibajos, y enfrentarse a situaciones estresantes forma parte del proceso.<\/p>\n

Don’t worry if he runs away to his man cave every now and again. It’s his way of dealing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And as someone who’s had her fair share of aloof and distant men, here’s something to help you handle this challenging period.<\/em><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Una relaci\u00f3n disfuncional: Qu\u00e9 es y c\u00f3mo reconocer las se\u00f1ales<\/a><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son las razones m\u00e1s comunes por las que los hombres se alejan?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Sus niveles de estr\u00e9s son extremadamente elevados<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Todos estamos de acuerdo en que el estr\u00e9s es uno de los factores que m\u00e1s influyen en la forma en que afrontamos las situaciones cotidianas, y el mundo actual est\u00e1 muy revuelto, as\u00ed que no es de extra\u00f1ar que un hombre se retraiga.<\/p>\n

Have you stopped to think that maybe he’s been going through a lot at work?<\/p>\n

\u00bfHay otros aspectos de su vida que le producen ansiedad o le exigen un gran esfuerzo?<\/p>\n

I’m sure that, just like you, he also has a lot on his plate, and sometimes it’s hard for him to process his emotions.<\/p>\n

Give him the benefit of the doubt. Don’t automatically assume that it’s you and give him space. Right now, that’s probably all he craves.<\/p>\n

He’s feeling a little suffocated in your relationship<\/h2>\n

\"tipo<\/p>\n

Cuando dos personas mantienen una relaci\u00f3n sana y feliz, sus cuerpos liberan la hormona oxitocina.<\/p>\n

En el caso de las mujeres, se sabe que esta hormona disminuye el estr\u00e9s, pero en los hombres en realidad disminuye su nivel de testosterona, y esto en realidad les induce estr\u00e9s.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que cuando veas a tu hombre retraerse, \u00a1es su forma de recuperar sus niveles de testosterona!<\/p>\n

No matter how happy your love relationship is, he’s going to withdraw until he starts feeling like a man again.<\/p>\n

It might seem silly, but it’s how men’s brains operate.<\/p>\n

And while there’s not much you can do about it, it’s reassuring to know it’s not (necessarily) you.<\/p>\n

He’s emotionally immature<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Let’s hope this isn’t the case. Basically, when men are in love, they respond in one of two ways.<\/p>\n

O bien son lo suficientemente maduros como para aceptar el amor y dejarse llevar, o bien se retiran.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que cuando su hombre estresado se retraiga, sepa que puede que no sea estr\u00e9s despu\u00e9s de todo.<\/p>\n

Es muy posible que su inmadurez emocional le impida quererte como te mereces.<\/p>\n

Enfrentarse a un amor que lo abarca todo le hace querer retirarse a su cueva de hombre y dar unos pasos atr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

And unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do. He just needs to put on his big boy pants and start acting his age.<\/p>\n

He fears that he’s starting to lose his freedom<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

La libertad es algo que los hombres consideran que no tiene precio.<\/p>\n

And I haven’t met a man on this earth who didn’t fear commitment precisely due to the false idea of losing their freedom.<\/p>\n

If you merely mention marriage to a man, you’ll see him clam up. It’s like a death certificate.<\/p>\n

Gracias a Dios por el peque\u00f1o n\u00famero de t\u00edos que son realmente guays en esto.<\/p>\n

But if your man has fallen for you and things are heating up, know that he may be worried about losing any freedom he’s had thus far.<\/p>\n

And when a man pulls away, it’s usually just as things are getting serious.<\/p>\n

De nuevo, todo depende de \u00e9l. Su amor por ti debe prevalecer sobre sus miedos inmaduros. Puede que le lleve poco tiempo, as\u00ed que ten paciencia.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Relaci\u00f3n Enmeshed: Definici\u00f3n, se\u00f1ales y consejos para superarla<\/a><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo puede USTED ayudar en esta situaci\u00f3n?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t interrogate him, let him come to you<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

There are few things men hate more than the question ”What’s wrong?” If he wanted to tell you what was wrong, he would have.<\/p>\n

People can’t be forced into having certain conversations unless they’re ready.<\/p>\n

You can’t expect your man to open up when you feel like it. It doesn’t work that way. Sense the vibe of the situation and respect it.<\/p>\n

His stress hormones could be going berserk right now and it’s crazy to expect him to open up just like that.<\/p>\n

If he’s going through something, you need to let him come to you of his own volition. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Anything other than that will be forced and won’t help matters at all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You want him to feel safe, comfortable, and relaxed, right? Then playing detective won’t help you.<\/p>\n

Let him go through his thing, respect his space, and don’t crowd him.<\/p>\n

When he’s ready to talk, he’ll give you a hint. But when a stressed man withdraws, the last thing you should do is resort to ‘attack mode’.<\/p>\n

Patience is your best friend here. Stress management ain’t easy, so let him take control of his emotions before diving deep into this.<\/p>\n

Create a comfort zone where he’ll be likely to respond to your subtle attempts<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It’s all about feeling safe and not like you\u2019re being attacked. He needs to know that you’re not interested in starting a fight.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo intentas ayudarle a salir de su agujero.<\/p>\n

Take him out to lunch to his favorite restaurant or go for a picnic. Create a comfortable environment where he’ll be more likely to open up.<\/p>\n

Here’s how I do it. If I suspect a certain issue, I’ll just downright say ”I have a feeling things aren’t going so well with your new boss”<\/em> and he’ll take the bait.<\/p>\n

He’ll open up because I made it easier on him by openly broaching the subject.<\/p>\n

If you have any suspicions as to what has made your stressed man withdraw, don’t be shy to say it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Combine that with a soothing, relaxing atmosphere, your warm tone, and he’ll immediately feel relieved to tell you all about it.<\/p>\n

Just don’t rush it. Observe the signs he’s giving out. If you sense that he’s still hesitant to discuss it, leave it be.<\/p>\n

Now he knows that you’re there, and he’ll talk when his stress levels decrease.<\/p>\n

Offer him a conversational inroad, and he’ll reveal his inner issues sooner rather than later. It’s all about knowing your audience.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Identificar, manejar y sobrevivir a una suegra narcisista<\/a><\/p>\n

Know that it most probably isn’t you<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Lo peor que puedes hacer es suponer que tiene algo que ver contigo y hacer que se sienta a\u00fan m\u00e1s inc\u00f3modo.<\/p>\n

Don’t start panicking until you have solid proof that his behavior stems from something you did or said.<\/p>\n

If you do, you’re only going to worsen things for him and give him yet another cause for concern.<\/p>\n

Tuve una amiga cuyo novio pas\u00f3 por una fase compleja.<\/p>\n

\u00c9l se retrajo, dej\u00f3 de mandarle mensajes como hac\u00eda normalmente y se comport\u00f3 distante. Estaba fuera de s\u00ed pensando que era ella.<\/p>\n

\u00bfY sabes lo que hizo? En lugar de mantener una conversaci\u00f3n madura, le atac\u00f3 (verbalmente), le se\u00f1al\u00f3 con el dedo y lo convirti\u00f3 todo en su<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Even though she’s a friend of mine, I was disgusted by her actions. Why?<\/p>\n

Porque la gente tiene todo el derecho a pasar por momentos dif\u00edciles sin tener que justificar su repentina actitud distante.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

No podemos hacer que las personas se sientan a\u00fan peor de lo que ya se sienten porque no podemos soportar que act\u00faen de una determinada manera.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And as for my friend’s situation, it turned out her man was dealing with the death of a friend.<\/p>\n

Estuvieron muy unidos durante toda la universidad, pero hace poco se pelearon. Y antes de que tuvieran la oportunidad de arreglarlo, \u00e9l falleci\u00f3.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que no hace falta decir que necesitaba tiempo, espacio y paciencia para lidiar con sus propias emociones antes de estar preparado para hablar de ello.<\/p>\n

Gracias a Dios que rompieron porque la forma en que ella le hizo sentir mientras estaba de luto fue simplemente horrible.<\/p>\n

Let your man breathe for a second. You cannot imagine what he’s going through, so you should never assume that it’s you.<\/p>\n

Hay otras personas en su vida, ya sabes.<\/p>\n

Find someone else to confide in until he’s mentally ready again<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You have to be mindful of his current emotional state. I’m guessing he’s not in the mood for talking and sharing right now, and that’s okay.<\/p>\n

La gente necesita tiempo y debemos respetarlo.<\/p>\n

Hable con sus seres queridos de cualquier asunto que le preocupe y deje que ellos<\/em> ayudarte hasta que tu hombre est\u00e9 mejor.<\/p>\n

Lo \u00faltimo que quieres hacer es poner m\u00e1s carga sobre sus hombros.<\/p>\n

Es el momento de recurrir a sus seres m\u00e1s queridos y darle tiempo para que se enfrente a sus dificultades.<\/p>\n

Las relaciones son un refugio seguro frente a todo lo que sucede a nuestro alrededor, pero a veces necesitamos leer entre l\u00edneas y saber cu\u00e1ndo dar un paso atr\u00e1s.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes – it means a literal step back. Give him space, both emotionally and physically, let him know that you’re here for him and go spend time with your friends.<\/p>\n

It’ll be a perfect escape for both of you. He’ll have some peace of mind and you’ll be in a well-known, safe environment where you’re free to share your concerns.<\/p>\n

Conozca a su pareja lo suficiente como para dejarle estar solo cuando lo necesite, pero sin dejar de apoyarle y estar a su servicio.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: La regla del no contacto: El poder del silencio tras una ruptura<\/a><\/p>\n

Don’t share his problems with anyone<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Let’s put it this way.<\/p>\n

If he’s not willing to share his problems with you, his long-term partner, he most definitely doesn’t want them to be known to anyone else.<\/p>\n

You must respect his privacy and not be tempted to tell anyone anything \u2013 even your best friend.<\/p>\n

His issues shouldn’t become public knowledge, especially since you don’t even know the extent of them.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo te sentir\u00edas si tu hombre decidiera contarle a sus amigos tus problemas m\u00e1s \u00edntimos?<\/p>\n

You’d probably feel exposed, vulnerable, and like your privacy had been breached.<\/p>\n

That’s exactly how it would feel for him too. So yeah, it’s understandable that you need someone to talk to about this, but you can’t.<\/p>\n

Until your man opens up, tells you what’s on his mind, and gives you permission to speak about it, your lips must remain sealed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you keep quiet, he’ll know that his secrets are safe with you (if he didn’t already know it).<\/p>\n

He’ll know that he made the right choice when he committed to you.<\/p>\n

And in his eyes, you’ll be the best girlfriend ever. It’s important that we’re able to contain ourselves when we feel like we can’t.<\/p>\n

If you don’t, it doesn’t really breed confidence and it will be a bad sign for your relationship.<\/p>\n

Mant\u00e9n tus problemas en privado, y tu relaci\u00f3n prosperar\u00e1 por ello.<\/p>\n

Don’t be foolish and think that this issue can be resolved in the bedroom<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It’s really foolish to think that men only want one thing. They are big fans of bedroom romps, sure, but it’s not a cure for his issues.<\/p>\n

Don’t use your flirty methods as a means to cheer him up or make him forget about things.<\/p>\n

It’s not going to work, because he’s issues are deeper than that.<\/p>\n

Por no mencionar que es probable que sus niveles de estr\u00e9s afecten negativamente a su rendimiento, y ninguno de los dos quiere eso.<\/p>\n

And if he thinks that this is your way of being there for him, it’s going to be discouraging.<\/p>\n

Necesita que est\u00e9s ah\u00ed emocionalmente, no f\u00edsicamente. Necesita espacio, comprensi\u00f3n y tiempo para poner en orden su cabeza.<\/p>\n

A bedroom romp won’t achieve anything but make him feel less like a man and more likely to be negatively affected by this attempt.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So whatever you do, don’t use your seduction methods as a weapon. You know better than that.<\/p>\n

He’s not a 15-year old boy. He’s a grown man, with actual needs that go beyond the physical.<\/p>\n

He’ll be back to himself soon enough, and you’ll have your chance to be there in all the ways you want. But for now, respect his needs.<\/p>\n

If it’s space and time, so be it.<\/p>\n

Let him have it because the sooner he gets his head together, the sooner you’ll have your hunk of a man back in your arms.<\/p>\n

If nothing seems to work, it’s time for a more serious approach<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

This might appear to be a severe issue given the time he needs to get over it…but not necessarily.<\/p>\n

You see, when a stressed man withdraws, no matter what the issue is, he’s going to wallow in misery until you deliver a shock to his system.<\/p>\n

Algunos tipos no pueden procesar sus emociones para salvar sus vidas.<\/p>\n

So if nothing is working, he’s still distant, cold, perhaps even angry, it’s time for a more severe measure.<\/p>\n

Obviamente, esto no puede durar eternamente, ya que t\u00fa tambi\u00e9n tienes necesidades.<\/p>\n

If he’s not changing his pattern of questionable behavior regardless of your understanding, he needs an ultimatum.<\/p>\n

Normalmente, no apruebo ultim\u00e1tums de ning\u00fan tipo, pero cuando la situaci\u00f3n lo requiere, hay que hacer lo que hay que hacer.<\/p>\n

Face him with it head-on. Tell him that you’ve been patient, understanding, and have given him the space he needed. <\/strong><\/p>\n

And so far, things haven’t changed at all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si quiere mantenerte a su lado, tiene que dar una muestra de buena fe y dar un paso adelante.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

No puedes ser ignorado constantemente y estar bien con ello.<\/p>\n

There comes a time when we need to face our demons whether we like it or not. If we don’t, our loved ones will suffer for it.<\/p>\n

So either you work this thing out, or you’re done.<\/p>\n

Se acab\u00f3 el andar de puntillas a su alrededor, caminar sobre c\u00e1scaras de huevo y estar en un segundo plano. A veces, este es el enfoque que los hombres necesitan.<\/p>\n

Until you put him in this position and open his eyes, he won’t see how damaging his behavior is.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que crucemos los dedos para que entre en raz\u00f3n, se d\u00e9 cuenta de cu\u00e1nto tiempo ha durado esto y de que las cosas tienen que cambiar.<\/p>\n

If he doesn’t, at least you’ll know you did your very best.<\/p>\n

No puedes seguir poni\u00e9ndote en segundo lugar. Hasta que no vea la gravedad de sus actos y haga algo al respecto, tu trabajo aqu\u00ed ha terminado.<\/p>\n

While it’s admirable that you’re so determined to stick by his side through his passive-aggressiveness, it should nunca<\/em> a toda costa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Reto de 30 d\u00edas de amor propio: convi\u00e9rtete en la mejor versi\u00f3n de ti mismo<\/a><\/p>\n

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