{"id":92179,"date":"2020-09-10T13:40:14","date_gmt":"2020-09-10T13:40:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=92179"},"modified":"2022-02-27T02:27:17","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T02:27:17","slug":"el-dolor-es-amor-sin-lugar-a-donde-ir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/el-dolor-es-amor-sin-lugar-a-donde-ir\/","title":{"rendered":"El duelo es amor sin lugar adonde ir (3 pasos hacia la aceptaci\u00f3n + citas)"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cGrief, I\u2019ve learned, is really just love. It\u2019s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.\u201d\u2015 Jamie Anderson<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Hay cinco etapas del duelo:<\/strong> negaci\u00f3n, ira, negociaci\u00f3n, depresi\u00f3n y, en \u00faltima instancia, aceptaci\u00f3n<\/strong><\/em>.<\/p>\n

En la fase de negaci\u00f3n, primero nos sorprendemos y luego nos negamos a aceptar la informaci\u00f3n que recibe nuestro cerebro.<\/p>\n

We feel the abrupt emotion but we’re not sure where to put it.<\/p>\n

We know we’re about to go through a very difficult time but we still refuse to accept that.<\/p>\n

Emociones profundas y pesadas, todas las desamor<\/a> de repente empiezan a brotar en forma de frustraci\u00f3n e ira.<\/p>\n

In the bargaining phase, we’re trying to find a logical solution, a way out of the overwhelming emotional stress we have found ourself in.<\/p>\n

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Once we finally realize we can’t avoid or stop what’s happening to us, we become depressed.<\/p>\n

Finalmente, dado que no hay otro lugar al que ir que dentro de nuestra propia mente y coraz\u00f3n, nuestra pena se transforma en aceptaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

When we lose a loved one, a family member, a best friend, a lover… how do we deal with the dolor de la p\u00e9rdida<\/a>?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00bfHay algo que pueda ayudar a un ser humano a atravesar el proceso de duelo?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs cierto que el duelo es amor sin lugar adonde ir? \u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer con todo ese gran amor? \u00bfC\u00f3mo utilizarlo?<\/p>\n

I feel for you. I understand your heartache. I’ve been there, I know just how you feel. Tired, sickened, furious, confused…<\/p>\n

Loss is painful and even more so if it’s the first time you go through it but there are ways to use all the love that’s left, there are ways to help yourself move on.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: A Letter To My Mom \u2013 PS I Miss You<\/a><\/p>\n

3 pasos cruciales para aceptar el duelo:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Conf\u00ede en su intuici\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

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High above all the blurry thoughts of sadness that are in your mind, there’ll be a voice. A thin, soft voice telling you that you will be okay.<\/p>\n

You won’t want to listen to that voice because you will need to allow yourself to truly, deeply feel the pain in every cell of your body.<\/p>\n

That’s perfectly okay. Moving on and keeping your mental health begins with learning to allow yourself to feel pain.<\/p>\n

Still, pay attention to that little voice, as it’s the light at the end of the tunnel.<\/p>\n

Saber que el dolor trae regalos y aceptarlos<\/h2>\n

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We’ve already said that grief is love with nowhere to go. Well, use all that love. Think about the person you’ve lost.<\/p>\n

They would want you to do something amazing with what you have left of them, even if it’s grief.<\/p>\n

Grief teaches us to love each other more and to say, \u201cI love you,\u201d more.<\/p>\n

Nos recuerda que la vida es corta y que tenemos que traer m\u00e1s bondad, gratitud y empat\u00eda a este mundo.<\/p>\n

Becoming better instead of bitter because of our grief is the beautiful gift our loved ones leave for us when we’re gone.<\/p>\n

Ser\u00eda una verg\u00fcenza incre\u00edble y un derroche de amor no recibirlo y utilizarlo.<\/p>\n

Sepa que las personas y las cosas m\u00e1s inesperadas pueden traerle paz<\/h2>\n

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Before you went through a loss, you probably had ideas about how you’d deal with it.<\/p>\n

You maybe even thought about the people in your life who’d probably help you accept your situation.<\/p>\n

When something bad happens, people are shocked to find out that the things or people they expected to bring them solace don’t.<\/p>\n

Don’t let this hurt you even deeper. You’ll be surprised to see that you’ll find peace and comfort in things you never expected to find them in.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Echo de menos a mi madre en el cielo (una historia personal y citas)<\/a><\/p>\n

If you’re looking to read what other people have said about grief or wish to help a grieving loved one by sending them kind, inspirational words, read these grief and love quotes to bring yourself or them comfort.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Citas de duelo profundo para compartir con quienes est\u00e1n en proceso de aceptaci\u00f3n:<\/h2>\n

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1. \u201cThe reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not \u2018get over\u2019 the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.\u201d\u2014Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler<\/p>\n

2. \u201cGrief is a matter of the heart and soul. Grieve your loss, allow it in, and spend time with it. Suffering is the optional part. Love never dies, and spirit knows no loss. Keep in mind that a broken heart is an coraz\u00f3n abierto<\/a>.\u201d\u2014Louise Hay and David Kessler<\/p>\n

3. \u201cI will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.\u201d\u2014J.R.R. Tolkien<\/p>\n

4. \u201cOnly people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.\u201d\u2014Leo Tolstoy<\/p>\n

5. \u201cWhat we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes part of us.\u201d<\/strong>\u2014Helen Keller<\/p>\n

6. \u201cGod gave us memory so that we might have roses in December.\u201d\u2014J.M. Barrie<\/p>\n

7. \u201cEvery time we make the decision to love someone, we open ourselves to great suffering, because those we most love cause us not only great joy but also great pain. The greatest pain comes from leaving\u2026 the pain of the leaving can tear us apart. Still, if we want to avoid the suffering of leaving, we will never experience the joy of loving. And love is stronger than fear, life stronger than death, hope stronger than despair. We have to trust that the risk of loving is always worth taking.\u201d\u2014Henri Nouwen<\/p>\n

8. \u201cPeople speak to me about my son – \u2018I\u2019m so sorry for you\u2019 – but no one says, \u2018I loved him so much.\u2019 I was busy in grief, which I don\u2019t expect to stop. Suddenly realizing that the last thing my son would want was for me to be very self-involved and narcissistic and self-stroking. It stopped me from writing. Which doesn\u2019t mean you stop feeling the absence. It was being willing to think about it in a way that was not self-serving.\u201d\u2014Toni Morrison<\/p>\n

9. \u201cSo it\u2019s true, when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.<\/strong>\u201d\u2014E.A. Bucchianeri<\/p>\n

10. \u201cTo weep is to make less the depth of grief.\u201d\u2014William Shakespeare<\/p>\n

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11. \u201cAnd when your sorrow is comforted (time soothes all sorrows) you will be content that you have known me. You will always be my friend. You will want to laugh with me. And you will sometimes open your window, so, for that pleasure… And your friends will be properly astonished to see you laughing as you look up at the sky! Then you will say to them, \u2018Yes, the stars always make me laugh!\u2019 And they will think you are crazy. It will be a very shabby trick that I shall have played on you…\u201d\u2014Antoine de Saint-Exup\u00e9ry<\/p>\n

12. \u201cThis is not goodbye, my darling, this is a thank you. Thank you for coming into my life and giving me joy.\u201d\u2014Nicholas Sparks<\/p>\n

13. \u201cNever. We never lose our loved ones. They accompany us; they don\u2019t disappear from our lives. We are merely in different rooms.\u201d<\/strong>\u2014Paulo Coelho<\/p>\n

14. \u201cGrief is the price we pay for love.\u201d\u2014Queen Elizabeth II<\/p>\n

15. \u201cTo live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.\u201d<\/strong>\u2014Thomas Campbell<\/p>\n

16. \u201cDeep grief sometimes is almost like a specific location, a coordinate on a map of time. When you are standing in that forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope.\u201d\u2014Elizabeth Gilbert<\/p>\n

17. \u201cWe were promised sufferings. They were part of the program. We were even told, \u2018Blessed are they that mourn,\u2019 and I accept it. I\u2019ve got nothing that I hadn\u2019t bargained for. Of course it is different when the thing happens to oneself, not to others, and in reality, not imagination.\u201d\u2014C.S. Lewis<\/p>\n

18. \u201cLife is full of grief, to exactly the degree we allow ourselves to love other people.\u201d<\/strong>\u2014Orson Scott Card<\/p>\n

19. \u201cNow there is one thing I can tell you: you will enjoy certain pleasures you would not fathom now. When you still had your mother you often thought of the days when you would have her no longer. Now you will often think of days past when you had her. When you are used to this horrible thing that they will forever be cast into the past, then you will gently feel her revive, returning to take her place, her entire place, beside you. At the present time, this is not yet possible. Let yourself be inert, wait till the incomprehensible power… that has broken you restores you a little, I say a little, for henceforth you will always keep something broken about you. Tell yourself this, too, for it is a kind of pleasure to know that you will never love less, that you will never be consoled, that you will constantly remember more and more.\u201d\u2014Marcel Proust<\/p>\n

20. \u201cAccepting death doesn\u2019t mean you won\u2019t be devastated when someone you love dies. It means you will be able to focus on your grief, unburdened by bigger existential questions like, \u2018Why do people die?\u2019 and \u2018Why is this happening to me?\u2019 Death isn\u2019t happening to you. Death is happening to us all.\u201d\u2014Caitlin Doughty<\/p>\n

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21. \u201cLife is tragic simply because the earth turns, and the sun inexorably rises and sets, and one day, for each of us, the sun will go down for the last, last time. Perhaps the whole root of our trouble, the human trouble, is that we will sacrifice all the beauty of our lives, will imprison ourselves in totems, taboos, crosses, blood sacrifices, steeples, mosques, races, armies, flags, nations, in order to deny the fact of death, which is the only fact we have. It seems to me that one ought to rejoice in the fact of death\u2013ought to decide, indeed, to earn one\u2019s death by confronting with passion the conundrum of life. One is responsible for life: It is the small beacon in that terrifying darkness from which we come and to which we shall return.\u201d\u2014James Baldwin<\/p>\n

22. \u201cThere are no happy endings. Endings are the saddest part, So just give me a happy middle And a very happy start.\u201d\u2014Shel Silverstein<\/p>\n

23. \u201cSometimes, only one person is missing, and the whole world seems depopulated.\u201d<\/strong>\u2014Alphonse de Lamartine<\/p>\n

24. \u201cWhile grief is fresh, every attempt to divert only irritates. You must wait till it be digested, and then amusement will dissipate the remains of it.\u201d\u2014Samuel Johnson<\/p>\n

25. \u201cA great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again.\u201d\u2014Maya Angelou<\/p>\n

26. \u201cTo spare oneself from grief at all cost can be achieved only at the price of total detachment, which excludes the ability to experience happiness.\u201d\u2014Erich Fromm<\/p>\n

27. \u201cThe pain passes, but the beauty remains.\u201d\u2014Pierre-Auguste Renoir<\/p>\n

28. \u201cGive sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it break.\u201d\u2014William Shakespeare<\/p>\n

29. \u201cLife seems sometimes like nothing more than a series of losses, from beginning to end. That\u2019s the given. How you respond to those losses, what you make of what\u2019s left, that\u2019s the part you have to make up as you go.\u201d<\/strong>\u2014Katharine Weber<\/p>\n

30. \u201cEvery one of us is losing something precious to us. Lost opportunities, lost possibilities, feelings we can never get back again. That\u2019s part of what it means to be alive.\u201d\u2014Haruki Murakami<\/p>\n

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31. \u201cThere is a point at which even grief feels absurd. And at this point, laughter gushes up to retrieve sanity.\u201d\u2014Alice Walker<\/p>\n

32. \u201cLa pena, por mucho que intentes atender su lamento, tiene una forma de desvanecerse.<\/strong>\u201d\u2014V.C. Andrews<\/p>\n

33. \u201cWe bereaved are not alone. We belong to the largest company in all the world, the company of those who have known suffering.\u201d\u2014Helen Keller<\/p>\n

34. \u201cGrief, when it comes, is nothing like we expect it to be. And when it does come, it unweaves the very fabric of our being. When love is lost, we lose the part of ourselves that did the loving – a part that, depending on the magnitude of the love, can come to approximate the whole of who we are.\u201d\u2014Joan Didion<\/p>\n

35. \u201chere is the deepest secret nobody knows (here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide) and this is the wonder that\u2019s keeping the stars apart… i carry your heart (i carry it in my heart).\u201d\u2014E.E Cummings<\/p>\n

36. \u201cThose we love don’t go away. They walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard, but always near. Still loved, still missed and very dear.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

37. \u201cIn the garden of memory, in the palace of dreams, that is where you and I shall meet.\u201d<\/strong>\u2014Linda Woolverton<\/p>\n

38. \u201cWhen someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

39. \u201cWhat we once enjoyed and deeply loved we can never lose, for all that we love deeply becomes part of us.\u201d\u2014Helen Keller<\/p>\n

40. \u201cAn eternal memory\u2026 until we meet again: Those special memories will always bring a smile if only I could have you back for just a little while. Then we could sit and talk again just like we used to do, you always meant so very much and always will do too. The fact that you’re no longer here will always cause me pain, but you’re forever in my heart until we meet again.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

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41. \u201cIt is perfectly okay to admit you’re not okay.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

42. \u201cThere are some who bring a light so great to the world that even after they have gone, the light remains.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

43. \u201cKeep your head up. God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

44. \u201cAnd sometimes, against all odds, against all logic, we still hope.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

45. \u201cThere is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, a deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.\u201d\u2014Washington Irving<\/p>\n

46. \u201cWhen it is darkest, we can see the stars.\u201d<\/strong>\u2014Ralph Waldo Emerson<\/p>\n

47. \u201cYou will survive and you will find purpose in the chaos. Moving on doesn’t mean letting go.\u201d\u2014Mary Van Haute<\/p>\n

48. \u201cBe the things you loved most about the people who are gone.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

49. \u201cMy scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

50. \u201cGrit your teeth and let it hurt. Don’t deny it, don’t be overwhelmed by it. It will not last forever.\u201d<\/strong>\u2014Rabbi Harold Kushner<\/p>\n

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51. \u201cYou have within you, right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you.\u201d\u2014Brian Tracy<\/p>\n

52. \u201cPerhaps they are not the stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

53. \u201cBlessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted.\u201d\u2014Matthew 5:4<\/p>\n

54. \u201cIf there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart. I’ll stay there forever.\u201d\u2014A.A. Milne<\/p>\n

Grief is love with nowhere to go. So many people are in pain. I hope I’ve inspired you to find a place for all your love and use it, as this world desperately needs it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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