{"id":93235,"date":"2020-09-16T22:06:38","date_gmt":"2020-09-16T22:06:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=93235"},"modified":"2022-06-06T15:21:51","modified_gmt":"2022-06-06T15:21:51","slug":"ex-es-caliente-y-frio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/ex-es-caliente-y-frio\/","title":{"rendered":"Esta es la raz\u00f3n por la que tu ex tiene fr\u00edo y calor (y qu\u00e9 hacer al respecto)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Tu relaci\u00f3n termin\u00f3 hace tiempo. Sin embargo, incluso despu\u00e9s de todo este tiempo, todav\u00eda su ex es caliente y fr\u00edo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Hay veces que act\u00faan como si te quisieran y quisieran volver contigo.<\/p>\n<p>Periods when they keep on texting you, when they&#8217;re jealous of your new life, and when they tell you how much they miss you.<\/p>\n<p>Al d\u00eda siguiente, su comportamiento cambia. De repente, dejan de responder a tus llamadas y... <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/mensajes-de-texto-para-el\/\">mensajes de texto<\/a> y empezar a ignorarte.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If this is something you can relate to, your ex is definitely playing a hot and cold game. They&#8217;re playing mind games and consequently, you have no clue about where you stand.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>No dejas de preguntarte qu\u00e9 sienten por ti. \u00bfCu\u00e1les son sus intenciones? \u00bfTu ex tiene las mismas dudas que t\u00fa?<\/p>\n<p>Well, you\u2019ve come to the right place because you&#8217;re about to get all the answers you need. Here is everything you need to know about what to do when an ex is hot and cold and why they behave like this.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><em><b>9 Reasons For Your Ex&#8217;s <\/b><b>Comportamiento fr\u00edo y caliente<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Ruptura no procesada<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93240 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con camisa verde de pie cerca del mar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The first reason for this type of hot and cold behavior is the fact that your ex still hasn\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/etapas-de-la-ruptura\/\">proces\u00f3 la ruptura<\/a> de forma saludable. Esto puede ocurrir incluso si te han dejado.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You see, many people think that the person walking away always knows what they\u2019re doing \u2013 that they\u2019re 100% certain about their decision and that they have no doubts about ending the relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Theoretically, this makes sense. After all, they\u2019re the ones who chose to call it a quits so it doesn\u2019t seem logical for them to have second thoughts.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, in practice, things don\u2019t always go as smoothly as you might expect. Maybe they broke up with you impulsively or maybe they\u2019re regretting their decision.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Either way, the point is that your ex is still not fully aware of the fact that you\u2019re no longer together.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Hay d\u00edas en los que todav\u00eda te consideran su pareja y en los que act\u00faan como si lo fueras <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/todavia-lo-amo-5-senales-claras-de-que-es-hora-de-dejarlo-ir\/\">todav\u00eda enamorado<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, there are days when their boundaries are clear. Days when they\u2019re sure about your break up and when they treat you like their ex, which you actually are.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93241 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con chaqueta negra cerca de un \u00e1rbol\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If this is the case, there is no doubt about one thing: this person hasn\u2019t accepted that it\u2019s over. They\u2019re doing their best to process some post-breakup emotions, which can change by the hour.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Hay momentos en los que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/es-mi-ex-sobre-mi-o-simplemente-enojado\/\">they\u2019re angry with you<\/a> por algunos errores que cometisteis mientras estuvisteis juntos, o incluso enfadados consigo mismos por no haberlo sabido mejor y haber permitido que vuestra relaci\u00f3n fuera cuesta abajo.<\/p>\n<p>Moments when they\u2019re disappointed and can\u2019t accept the fact that your romance didn\u2019t succeed. Moments when <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/6-senales-de-que-esta-jugando-a-destruir-a-la-victima\/\">se sienten v\u00edctimas<\/a> y momentos en los que se sienten culpables por dejarte.<\/p>\n<p>Por otro lado, tambi\u00e9n hay momentos en los que tu ex siente todo el amor que sinti\u00f3 por ti en el pasado. Momentos en los que todos los problemas que tuvisteis parecen solucionables y una tonter\u00eda.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Each one of these dilemmas going on in their head reflects their behavior toward you. They\u2019re going through a rollercoaster of emotions right now and they\u2019re behaving accordingly.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">La lucha contra uno mismo es real<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93242 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con el pelo rizado mirando por la ventana\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve been in a situation before where your heart was telling you one thing while your mind advised you otherwise.<\/p>\n<p>En una situaci\u00f3n en la que, en el fondo, sab\u00edas qu\u00e9 era lo correcto, pero tus emociones quer\u00edan seguir su propio camino.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Well, there is a real possibility that this is exactly what\u2019s going on with your ex right now.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They are not only struggling with you \u2013 they\u2019re also struggling with themselves, which is much more difficult.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Tu ex est\u00e1 en un constante estado de dilema. Sabe que a\u00fan siente algo por ti pero, por otro lado, cree firmemente que volver contigo ser\u00eda una idea horrible.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019re aware that you are <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/true-love\/coupled-up\/8-signos-mas-comunes-de-incompatibilidad-en-las-relaciones-de-pareja\/\">no compatible<\/a> with each other, that you probably wouldn\u2019t last much longer if you were to reconcile, and that you can never find the middle ground.<\/p>\n<p>Por otro lado, cada vez que te ven o simplemente tienen noticias tuyas, la fuerza de sus emociones les desborda.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93243 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con camisa negra apoyado en una mesa de madera\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Entonces, se preguntan qu\u00e9 ser\u00eda mejor. \u00bfSer\u00eda mejor <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/fake-love\/brokenhearted\/se-necesita-mucho-valor-para-alejarse-de-alguien-que-amas\/\">alejarse de ti<\/a> and find someone they\u2019ll get along with better and to let go of this enormous love you both feel?<\/p>\n<p>Si lo hacen, \u00bflo superar\u00e1n por completo? \u00bfVolver\u00e1n a enamorarse de alguien tan profundamente?<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, are their feelings worthy of doing the wrong thing? Are they ready to spend the rest of their life next to someone they\u2019ll never get along with?<\/p>\n<p>These questions are the reason why your ex is hot and cold. There are times when their mind wins over \u2013&nbsp; they ignore you and act like they couldn\u2019t care less about you.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s when they act heartless and when they manage to pretend that they\u2019re completely indifferent.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, there are times when their heart gets its way. Times when they can\u2019t control themselves and when their emotions take over.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s when the \u201chot\u201d phase begins. This is when they act like they love you, when they&#8217;re texting you, trying to reach out to you and want to talk things through.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You are taking a test and you don\u2019t even know it<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93244 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2.jpg\" alt=\"mujer usando el tel\u00e9fono sentada en la cama\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that your ex walked away from your relationship because they felt like you weren\u2019t giving them enough attention? Because they felt like your second choice and last resort?<\/p>\n<p>Well, if that is the case, it\u2019s very likely that they\u2019re acting hot and cold because they want to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/9-senales-de-que-te-esta-poniendo-a-prueba-para-decidir-si-eres-material-para-novio\/\">ponerte a prueba<\/a>. Ven esta ruptura como una oportunidad para que aprendas la lecci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t want to actually continue living without you. Instead, they want to use this situation to make you grow fonder to them.<\/p>\n<p>La conclusi\u00f3n es que tu ex est\u00e1 utilizando la psicolog\u00eda inversa aqu\u00ed. Supone que la \u00fanica forma de que empieces a apreciar su presencia es sentir su ausencia.<\/p>\n<p>They think that once you realize they\u2019ve abandoned you, you\u2019ll understand what you\u2019re losing. Only then will you be aware that you want them by your side, and only then will you figure out their worth.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Su comportamiento fr\u00edo y caliente en realidad no es m\u00e1s que una prueba que tienes que pasar para volver con ellos.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfEst\u00e1s listo para <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/true-love\/finding-the-one\/esta-es-la-razon-por-la-que-debes-luchar-por-la-persona-que-amas\/\">luchar por ellos<\/a>? \u00bfSer\u00e1s t\u00fa quien d\u00e9 el paso hacia tu reconciliaci\u00f3n?<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfO dejar\u00e1s que se vayan sin mover un dedo? \u00bfTe sentar\u00e1s tranquilamente y ver\u00e1s c\u00f3mo te abandonan para siempre?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93247 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sujetando las persianas de la ventana durante el d\u00eda\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The choice is all yours. Trust me \u2013 they won\u2019t change their behavior until you show some initiative and action.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, what your ex wants is for you to try a little bit harder. They want to see that you\u2019re ready to put some effort into winning them back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Your ex wants you to fight for them. They want to see that you want them back and that you\u2019re ready to do whatever it takes to be a part of their life once more.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>En otras palabras, quieren volver contigo. Sin embargo, se niegan a hacerlo sin oponer ning\u00fan tipo de resistencia.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t want you to think that you can have them whenever and however you like. Instead, they want to be appreciated and fought for.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not that your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend wants to see you begging them. They just want you to put in at least the minimum amount of effort into winning them back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Sobre todo si fueron ellos los que te dejaron. Ser\u00eda admitir su error si volvieran contigo as\u00ed como as\u00ed, sin que movieras un dedo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Les amenazas<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93254 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con capucha azul mirando al lago\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>La siguiente raz\u00f3n por la que tu ex est\u00e1 caliente y fr\u00edo podr\u00eda ser el hecho de que se sienten amenazados por su presencia.<\/p>\n<p>Ver\u00e1, su <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/si-quieres-recuperar-a-tu-ex-novio-lee-esto\/\">ex-novio<\/a> or girlfriend is afraid that you\u2019ll find a way to fool them back in your life and give your relationship another go.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que ponen un escudo alrededor de su coraz\u00f3n. Construyen gruesos muros a su alrededor, que sirven para mantenerte fuera.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, every time you come near them, they feel threatened. They\u2019re terrified that you\u2019ll manage to break their shield and that you\u2019ll find a way back into their heart in no time.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019re not running away from you here \u2013 they\u2019re running away from themselves and from the emotions they still have for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Seguir siendo amigos es una opci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93256 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer sentados en el muelle mirando el agua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that you\u2019re misinterpreting your ex\u2019s behavior? That you\u2019re seeing something that isn\u2019t there?<\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that you\u2019re making a big deal of your ex just calling you or liking your social media posts?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Odio ser el que rompa tu burbuja, pero podr\u00eda ser que tu ex s\u00f3lo est\u00e9 intentando ser amistoso.<\/p>\n<p>Tal vez est\u00e1n siendo educados y amables contigo, no porque quieran volver a estar juntos, sino porque quieren <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/debes-seguir-siendo-amigo-de-tu-ex\/\">seguir siendo los mejores amigos<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>A primera vista, puede parecer imposible. Despu\u00e9s de todo, tuvisteis una relaci\u00f3n seria y no hay ninguna posibilidad de que los dos pod\u00e1is ser mejores amigos despu\u00e9s de todo lo que pasasteis.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, this is just your point of view. You still have deep emotions for this person so it is expected that you\u2019ll feel like this.<\/p>\n<p>Por otro lado, para ellos tiene mucho sentido. Siguen sintiendo algo por ti, pero no lo mismo que t\u00fa.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93260 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface.jpg\" alt=\"hombre mujer sentado en superficie de cemento y hablando\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>They don\u2019t love you romantically any more but that doesn\u2019t make them completely indifferent.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>After all, you\u2019re the human being they spent so much time with, so it is natural that they can\u2019t forget about you overnight. They remember all the good memories and everything you shared together.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They especially don\u2019t want to see you as their arch enemy. They don\u2019t hate you \u2013they want the best for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In fact, your cold ex still wants to be a part of your life. They want to at least know how you\u2019re doing and if there is anything they can do to help you.<\/p>\n<p>However, you misinterpret their acts of kindness and see them as mixed signals or as signs that they\u2019re still in love with you. Every time they reach out to you, you see it as a chance for getting back together.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, this is not their intention. For you, it\u2019s enough to see their name on your screen phone to think that they\u2019re trying to win you back, while they\u2019re just trying to be nice and kind.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Problemas de confianza profundamente arraigados<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93261 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field.jpg\" alt=\"hombre de pie en el campo durante la puesta de sol\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Maybe your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend has the desire to be back in your life but they simply don\u2019t trust you enough yet to make that happen.<\/p>\n<p>Por favor, s\u00e9 realista y piensa en las cosas que hiciste mal en tu relaci\u00f3n. Piensa en tus errores y equivocaciones.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ver\u00e1, su <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/10-senales-innegables-ex-ama\/\">ex todav\u00eda tiene sentimientos profundos para usted<\/a>. Sin embargo, hiciste algo que viol\u00f3 su confianza.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you\u2019re aware of doing so or not, the fact is that you caused some trauma for them.<\/p>\n<p>You made them expect the worst from you so now they\u2019re scared of letting you back in their life and giving you another chance.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So, now it seems that your ex is hot and cold. However, this is nothing but them attempting to see whether you\u2019re trustworthy or not.<\/p>\n<p>They can\u2019t give you a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/7-razones-por-las-que-mantener-a-una-chica-da-una-segunda-oportunidad\/\">segunda oportunidad<\/a> sin estar seguro de ti.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93265 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con chaqueta negra sentado cerca de una ventana\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>They can\u2019t give you a second chance until they\u2019re one hundred percent sure that you won\u2019t repeat your mistakes and that you won\u2019t hurt them again.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, they see this period as a kind of test. They don\u2019t want you out of their life but they don\u2019t want you in it just yet, either.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Instead, what they need is to see that you\u2019ve changed. It\u2019s up to you to show them that you\u2019re a different person who won\u2019t break their heart all over again.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s your job to convince them that they can rely on you this time. That by giving you another chance they\u2019re not giving you a green light to keep on hurting them and doing them harm.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s up to you to regain their trust. They don\u2019t want you to back out as soon as they return \u2013 they want you to keep on fighting even harder and to show them that your relationship is worth the risk.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If this is the case, please don\u2019t play them once you regain their trust. Don\u2019t prove to them that breaking up with you was a good decision and that taking you back was the mistake of their life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Una nueva relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93267 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer sosteniendo tazas de caf\u00e9\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Odio ser yo quien te lo diga, pero la amarga verdad es que tu ex novia o novio podr\u00eda tener una nueva relaci\u00f3n de la que no sabes nada.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>En cualquier caso, la cuesti\u00f3n es que el nuevo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/se-esta-poniendo-serio\/\">relaci\u00f3n seria<\/a> they\u2019re in is dictating the tempo of your communication.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So, while it seems like your ex is hot and cold because of the mixed emotions they have for you, the fact is that their behavior depends on what it\u2019s going on in their relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Whenever their new romance is going great, there is no sign of them. They stop returning your calls, there\u2019s no texting at all, and they don\u2019t even keep track of your social media activity like they used to.<\/p>\n<p>Consequently, you\u2019re left wondering what went wrong. Did you do something that caused them to cut ties all of a sudden \u2013 without any explanation or closure?<\/p>\n<p>Then, out of the blue, they reappear in your life. It\u2019s possible that their new relationship has entered a crisis.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93271 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con chaqueta negra y mujer sentados cerca de un puente\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quiz\u00e1 se han dado cuenta de que su novio o novia actual nunca les querr\u00e1 como t\u00fa. O puede que se hayan peleado.<\/p>\n<p>Beware of the possibility that your ex is doing all of this on purpose. Maybe they\u2019re trying to make their current partner jealous of you, without you being aware of what they\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n<p>Either way, this is the period in which your ex is constantly present in your life. They\u2019re not directly pressuring you to reconcile but they\u2019re all over you.<\/p>\n<p>They give you the impression that you\u2019re one step away from getting back together. However, what you don\u2019t know is that you\u2019re only serving as a way for them to overcome the crisis in their relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Naturally, they won\u2019t be honest about their relationship status with you. Instead, they\u2019ll try their best to hide everything from you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>After all, they want to keep you around, just in case. They can\u2019t afford to lose you if their current relationship falls apart, so they\u2019re keeping you as their safety net.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Abuso de poder<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93274 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3.jpg\" alt=\"mujer apoyada en la mesa mientras mira el tel\u00e9fono\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Te guste admitirlo o no, cuando tu ex es caliente y fr\u00edo, gana alg\u00fan tipo de poder sobre ti.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re the one waiting for them to reach out the whole time, hoping they\u2019ll come back to you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You put your life on hold, while they\u2019re out there making their mind up about you and not worrying about your well being.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, you have no say in this entire situation. They\u2019re the one who needs to make the decision and you have no way of influencing it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Well, the truth is that in some cases, your ex is pretty much aware of all of this. They know that currently, they\u2019re the dominant one and they take advantage of that.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Juegan conscientemente con tu mente y tu coraz\u00f3n. Acuden a ti cuando se sienten solos y abandonados y cuando no hay nadie m\u00e1s a quien recurrir.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, as soon as their life gets back on track and as soon as everything starts to go smoothly, they\u2019re nowhere to be found.<\/p>\n<p>Suddenly, they\u2019ve forgotten all about you and start acting like you never existed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t fool yourself and think that this is their <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/signos-mujer-emocionalmente-no-disponible-2\/\">indisponibilidad emocional<\/a> talking. You can be certain that they\u2019re doing all of this on purpose.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93277 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con top de rayas sentada al aire libre\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t want to give you a chance to fall out of love with them. As soon as they notice that your emotions are fading away and as soon as they see that you might forget them, they go into attack mode.<\/p>\n<p>So, the next day they give you hope that reconciliation is possible. They say that they miss you and that they can\u2019t imagine living their life without you.<\/p>\n<p>However, all of these are just empty words that are never backed up with action. The fact is that they\u2019re not doing anything about actually reviving your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, as soon as they see that you\u2019ve caught the hook, they\u2019re nowhere to be found. They disappear, leaving you in agony and abandoning you when you need them the most.<\/p>\n<p>At first, you suffer because of their absence and the fact that they&#8217;re acting hot and cold. You miss them and constantly overthink your entire relationship and everything that went on later.<\/p>\n<p>However, after a while, you accept that they\u2019re gone. You no longer try to contact them and you give up on the idea that you\u2019ll ever be together again.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, when you\u2019re just one step closer to finding peace, there they\u2019re again. There they\u2019re with their sweet words and empty promises.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Before you know it, you\u2019re trapped once more in this endless cycle from which you see no way out. So what is this if it\u2019s not them using their power over you?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Se desenamoraron pero sienten nostalgia<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93279 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer sentados en un banco cerca del agua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Here is another thing you might have trouble accepting \u2013 there is a great possibility that your ex has sadly <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/34-signos-ya-no-ama\/\">dej\u00f3 de quererte<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>The first question then is, why have they contacted you at all if they\u2019ve fallen out of love?<\/p>\n<p>Bueno, a veces, a pesar de no sentir nada por una persona a la que sol\u00edas amar, sigues sintiendo nostalgia por los buenos recuerdos y los momentos que pasasteis juntos.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Maybe your ex is scared of moving on. You\u2019re their comfort zone and they feel some kind of security as long as they have you around.<\/p>\n<p>Even though they\u2019ve stopped loving you, they have a hard time admitting their indifference. They simply can\u2019t let you go and they don\u2019t feel ready to continue their life without your presence.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Por eso, cada vez que pasan por un mal momento, buscan consuelo en tu compa\u00f1\u00eda. Siguen pidi\u00e9ndote consejo y opini\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Naturalmente, considera que se trata de una situaci\u00f3n fr\u00eda y caliente.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><em><b>7 cosas que hacer cuando <\/b><b>Tu ex es caliente y fr\u00edo<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Figure out if you\u2019re being used or they\u2019re confused<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93282 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sentada junto a la ventana mirando al exterior\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Antes de actuar sobre su problema, todos los consejos sobre relaciones le dir\u00e1n que lo primero y m\u00e1s importante es llegar al fondo del mismo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Now that you\u2019ve read all of the possible reasons why your ex is hot and cold, rethink your situation for a couple of days and try to figure out what reason you relate to the most.<\/p>\n<p>Lo m\u00e1s importante es saber si <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/7-senales-alarmantes-de-que-te-esta-utilizando-emocionalmente\/\">you\u2019re being used<\/a> or they\u2019re confused. Are they doing all of this involuntarily, without being aware of the impact their behavior is having on you?<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfO se comportan as\u00ed a prop\u00f3sito, con la intenci\u00f3n de hacerte a\u00fan m\u00e1s da\u00f1o? \u00bfHacen todo esto sin importarles un bledo tu bienestar?<\/p>\n<p>S\u00e9 que responder a esta pregunta puede ser doloroso, pero cr\u00e9eme, es crucial que sepas la verdad. S\u00e9 lo m\u00e1s realista posible y no tengas en cuenta tus deseos y esperanzas.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93285 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1.jpg\" alt=\"mujer de pie cerca de un lago durante la puesta de sol\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Naturally, you shouldn\u2019t react the same way if your ex is struggling with their emotions rather than consciously playing mind games with you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>En el primer caso, deber\u00edas ser comprensivo. Al fin y al cabo, esa persona te quiere, pero tiene problemas para conciliar su cerebro y su coraz\u00f3n.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you know you\u2019re dealing with a jerk who is playing you, they don\u2019t deserve any sympathy.<\/p>\n<p>De hecho, lo que deber\u00edan conseguir es probar de su propia medicina o deber\u00edas echarlos inmediatamente de tu vida.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Whatever you decide to do and whatever approach you choose, please always put your emotions first. Don\u2019t engage in anything that might end up hurting you even more.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">No seas pegajoso<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93287 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con abrigo rojo de pie sobre un puente\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Another thing you shouldn\u2019t do is be overly clingy. You see, once you realize that you\u2019re losing someone you love, you may have the impulse to keep them by your side, no matter what.<\/p>\n<p>As soon as someone ignores you, you have an even bigger desire to get their attention. The same is true of you and your ex \u2013 this is just a part of human nature.<\/p>\n<p>Cuanto menos responden a tus mensajes de texto, m\u00e1s veces les env\u00edas mensajes dobles y triples. Cuanto menos te devuelven las llamadas, m\u00e1s excusas encuentras para ponerte en contacto con ellos.<\/p>\n<p>Cuanto m\u00e1s ignoren tu actividad en las redes sociales, m\u00e1s fotos y actualizaciones de estado publicar\u00e1s.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This actually makes sense at a first glance. You\u2019re subconsciously trying to keep them from leaving you and more importantly \u2013 from forgetting you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Este es tu intento de recordarle a esta persona de ti. Un intento de mantenerlos en su vida, a toda costa.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93291 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sentada en el suelo mirando la monta\u00f1a\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Well, let me tell you one thing: you\u2019ll actually only achieve the opposite with your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/5-cosas-por-las-que-eres-extremadamente-pegajoso\/\">aferramiento extremo<\/a>. By doing this, you\u2019re producing a counterproductive effect.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of pulling this person closer, you\u2019ll only chase them away. You\u2019ll make them feel suffocated and trapped and they\u2019ll want to run for their life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Besides, this approach will make your ex lose all their appreciation for you. You\u2019re sending them a message that they can treat you however they want.<\/p>\n<p>No matter what they do, you\u2019ll always be around. In fact, the worse they treat you, the more you\u2019ll love them.<\/p>\n<p>Entonces, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 exactamente cambiar\u00edan su comportamiento? No hay nada que puedan hacer para que dejes de quererles, as\u00ed que pueden seguir actuando as\u00ed todo el tiempo que quieran.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Demu\u00e9strales que puedes hacerlo sin ellos<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93349 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2.jpg\" alt=\"cuatro mujeres sentadas en un banco con vasos de cerveza en la mano\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Lo m\u00e1s importante de esta situaci\u00f3n es demostrar a tu ex que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/self-love\/girl-power\/date-a-girl-who-wants-you-but-doesnt-need-you\/\">you don\u2019t need them<\/a>. I\u2019m not saying that you need to act like you don\u2019t care about them, though.<\/p>\n<p>However, there is a difference between loving someone and being dependent on them. That is exactly what you need to prove to them: that you want them in your life but you won\u2019t be doomed if you lose them.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, you need to show your ex that you can make it without them. So, instead of making phone calls, asking for favors, or asking for their advice, show them that you\u2019re independent.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Aprovecha este tiempo para trabajar en tu autoestima y en convertirte en la mejor versi\u00f3n posible de ti mismo. Invierte este tiempo y toda tu energ\u00eda en mimarte y mejorar.<\/p>\n<p>En lugar de obsesionarte con tu ex y con tu relaci\u00f3n fallida,<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cuando-un-viejo-amigo-se-pone-en-contacto-contigo-de-repente-2\/\"> reencontrarse con viejos amigos<\/a>. Salir con gente y verlo como una oportunidad de conocer a alguien nuevo.<\/p>\n<p>Trabaja en tu educaci\u00f3n y en tu carrera. Lee libros, ve pel\u00edculas y busca un nuevo pasatiempo.<\/p>\n<p>Adem\u00e1s de cuidar tu mente y tu coraz\u00f3n, trabaja tambi\u00e9n en tu aspecto f\u00edsico. Ve al gimnasio o practica alg\u00fan tipo de actividad f\u00edsica.<\/p>\n<p>Esto ser\u00e1 beneficioso para su salud mental y <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/romantic-love\/love-advice\/construir-la-confianza-en-uno-mismo-vida-exitosa-citas\/\">confianza en s\u00ed mismo<\/a> tambi\u00e9n. Te aliviar\u00e1 el estr\u00e9s y la energ\u00eda negativa, adem\u00e1s de ponerte en forma.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, you shouldn\u2019t do all of this to spite your ex. Your final goal is not to show them what they lost.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, you\u2019re working on yourself for your own sake. You\u2019re doing it to show yourself that you don\u2019t need anyone and that you\u2019re the creator of your own happiness.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mirror your cold ex&#8217;s behavior<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93350 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6.jpg\" alt=\"mujer mirando al mar sentada al aire libre\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>According to a lot of relationship advice, the thing you should do is mirror your ex\u2019s behavior when it comes to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/soplar-caliente-y-frio-la-psicologia-detras-del-juego-de-citas\/\">juegos fr\u00edos y calientes<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This person\u2019s intention is to confuse you and to bring you into a situation in which you don\u2019t know what to think or where to stand.<\/p>\n<p>Well, why don\u2019t you outsmart them for the first time ever? Turn the tables and <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/10-pasos-para-vencer-al-jugador\/\">ganarles en su propio juego<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Lo que debes hacer es reflejar su comportamiento. Cuando te ignoren, dales un trato a\u00fan m\u00e1s fr\u00edo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, don\u2019t let them in as soon as they try to reenter the hot stage. Instead, make them work for it.<\/p>\n<p>Ignore them for a little while after they start reaching out to you. Then, start acting like everything is in perfect order and make them believe that you\u2019re crazy over them.<\/p>\n<p>Al cabo de un tiempo, de la nada, s\u00e9 t\u00fa quien les d\u00e9 la callada por respuesta. As\u00ed de f\u00e1cil, reduce tu comunicaci\u00f3n al m\u00ednimo y empieza a mostrar falta de inter\u00e9s.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93351 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con una taza en la mano sentada en un sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>O puedes desaparecer sin m\u00e1s, sin darles una explicaci\u00f3n adecuada. Hazlo antes de que empiecen a ignorarte y anticipa sus intenciones.<\/p>\n<p>Believe me \u2013 this is how you\u2019ll turn the situation in your favor. Now, they\u2019ll be the ones wondering what is going on.<\/p>\n<p>Los que intentan descifrar tu <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/blog\/6-formas-infalibles-de-responder-a-sus-senales-contradictorias\/\">se\u00f1ales contradictorias<\/a> y los que se pasar\u00e1n todo el tiempo d\u00e1ndole vueltas a tus movimientos.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, I have to warn you about one thing: by doing this, you\u2019ll play with their head.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll probably even hurt their feelings. Nevertheless, there is also a great chance of hurting yourself as well here.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>The point is that you\u2019re ignoring them on purpose, so you end up missing them as well. To put things simply: you\u2019re breaking your own heart just so you can break theirs.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Reduzca su actividad en las redes sociales<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93352 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con gafas sentada en interior\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Social media is a big part of modern dating. So, even though you\u2019re not actually dating this person anymore, your social profiles can still help you a lot.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>When you first break up with someone you still love, you have the same impulse as the rest of us. You stalk your ex\u2019s profiles, you want to find out where and with whom they\u2019re spending their time.<\/p>\n<p>Adem\u00e1s, utilizas tus perfiles para enviarles un mensaje. Publica actualizaciones de estado tristes y citas sobre echar de menos a alguien, canciones que puedan recordarles vuestra relaci\u00f3n, etc.<\/p>\n<p>Por otro lado, puede que utilices tus perfiles para darles envidia. Pones fotos tuyas pas\u00e1ndotelo en grande o actualizaciones de estado sobre lo genial que es estar soltero.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Well, let me tell you that neither approach works. Even if you post your happy photos, they\u2019ll be aware that you\u2019re doing all of that in spite of them.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93353 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con mochila cerca del agua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Besides, both approaches are beneficial for your ex. Either way, they know where you\u2019re spending your time and what you\u2019ve been up to.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que lo mejor que puedes hacer es reducir al m\u00ednimo tu actividad en las redes sociales. Mantente en silencio y haz que se pregunten.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Do the same with your mutual friends. Don\u2019t reveal your plans or emotions and especially don\u2019t ask about them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Si es posible, lo mejor ser\u00eda que cortaras todos los lazos con cualquier persona relacionada con tu ex. Si quieren saber de ti, obl\u00edgales a que sean ellos los que se pongan en contacto contigo.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t let them get the information they need without moving an inch \u2013 through your friends or social media. Force them to make an effort or give you access to their life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Don\u2019t react when they go cold<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93354 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con chaqueta vaquera sentada en una silla azul\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The most important thing is to stay calm once your ex enters \u201cthe cold\u201d phase. Naturally, your first impulse here is to get angry but this is not how you&#8217;ll get your ex back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Quieres llamarles la atenci\u00f3n. Quieres gritarles y discutir con ellos sobre su comportamiento injusto.<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, esto es lo \u00faltimo que deber\u00edas hacer. Cr\u00e9eme: tu reacci\u00f3n es lo que quiere tu ex novio o novia.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They want to see that they\u2019ve accomplished their goal. They\u2019ve managed to hurt your feelings and to affect you in the worst way possible.<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, lo que m\u00e1s les doler\u00e1 es que les des la callada por respuesta. Esperan que les persigas, por mucho que huyan de ti.<\/p>\n<p>Quieren que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/nunca-le-pidas-a-un-hombre-estas-10-cosas-que-te-mereces\/\">rogarles<\/a> to come back every time they leave. They want you to get angry, even, because that is a sign that you\u2019re not indifferent.<\/p>\n<p>However, if you ignore their cold behavior, you\u2019ll make them lose their mind. They\u2019ll wonder why there is no reaction from you and whether it\u2019s a sign that you don\u2019t care for them at all.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me, before you know it, your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend will come knocking on your door. They\u2019ll come crawling back to you, just to check what\u2019s wrong and whether they still have a place in your life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Hable con ellos cara a cara<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93355 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer sentados a la mesa y hablando\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Finally, if you\u2019ve had enough of this situation, it\u2019s time to bring the subject up and talk to them face to face. After all, the two of you are mature human beings and I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;ll be able to find the middle ground.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be emotional and don\u2019t show them your weakness and vulnerable side.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, don\u2019t be arrogant either if you want to get your ex back. Just be as realistic as possible and talk to them about your situation.<\/p>\n<p>Be honest and tell them that you\u2019re not stupid and that they can\u2019t play you for a fool anymore. You won\u2019t put up with this behavior a second longer and you want to know where you stand.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be scared of telling them that you&#8217;ve wanted to get back together this whole time.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t cry or beg them: just tell them that you still have feelings for them and that you would like to give your relationship another shot.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t make them give you the answer right away or the next day.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Instead, give them a certain period of time \u2013 a couple of days or more to make up their mind.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93356 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sentada en el suelo cerca de una ventana\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>Aplica la regla del no contacto hasta que tomen una decisi\u00f3n. Si tu ex est\u00e1 caliente y fr\u00edo despu\u00e9s de ning\u00fan contacto, todo est\u00e1 claro.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, don\u2019t give them a lot of time. Set a date and be firm about it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If they don\u2019t give you an answer in that period of time, leave them for good. Don\u2019t allow them to keep playing with you or to keep you on hold.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Cuando tu ex est\u00e9 jugando al fr\u00edo y al calor y decidas adoptar este enfoque, estate seguro de tu decisi\u00f3n y de que puedes hacerlo.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t do all of this if you\u2019re going to fall for them the first time they contact you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>There is no point in bringing the subject up if you\u2019ll be too weak to stick to your decision.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t allow them to keep on playing games with you because that way, you\u2019ll just show them that you\u2019re nothing but a fool and that your words mean nothing.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93724 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Esta es la raz\u00f3n por la que tu ex tiene fr\u00edo y calor (y qu\u00e9 hacer al respecto)\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Your relationship ended a while ago. However, even after all this time, still your ex is hot and cold.&nbsp; There are times when they act like they love you and want to get back together with you. Periods when they keep on texting you, when they&#8217;re jealous of your new life, and when they tell&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":93238,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-93235","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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