{"id":9412,"date":"2020-12-21T14:20:51","date_gmt":"2020-12-21T14:20:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=9412"},"modified":"2022-10-21T08:52:21","modified_gmt":"2022-10-21T08:52:21","slug":"2020-me-enseno-lo-que-no-es-el-verdadero-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/2020-me-enseno-lo-que-no-es-el-verdadero-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"2022 me ense\u00f1\u00f3 lo que no es el amor verdadero"},"content":{"rendered":"

Este a\u00f1o empez\u00f3 pensando que deb\u00eda de ser la mujer m\u00e1s feliz del mundo porque le ten\u00eda a \u00e9l. Era uno de esos raros tipos de hombre que se acercan a ser el novio perfecto. Era atento, cari\u00f1oso, f\u00e1cil de hablar, masculino, impulsivo y apasionado. Desde mi punto de vista, lo ten\u00eda todo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sent\u00eda que su misi\u00f3n en la vida era hacerme feliz. Me colmaba de atenciones. Pensaba en las formas m\u00e1s divertidas de sorprenderme. Siempre me dedicaba tiempo, por muy ocupado que estuviera.<\/span> Estaba encantada con \u00e9l y cre\u00eda que estaba en una especie de sue\u00f1o, esperando no despertar nunca. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Todo parec\u00eda perfecto. Pero, despu\u00e9s de un tiempo, empec\u00e9 a verle como realmente era. Era como si hubiera cambiado de repente. Se convirti\u00f3 en una persona que ya no reconoc\u00eda. Toda la atenci\u00f3n que me prestaba me parec\u00eda una carga. <\/span><\/p>\n

He was constantly on my case for this and that. He didn\u2019t like my behavior. He resented anything I had to say or he wouldn\u2019t approve of the way I was saying it. One day I was the most perfect girl alive and the next he couldn\u2019t stand to see me. He treated me like I was flawed from top to bottom.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lo peor fue que le cre\u00ed. Pens\u00e9 que era yo. Que no era lo suficientemente buena para \u00e9l y que ten\u00eda que cambiar. Me hizo dudar de m\u00ed misma en todos los aspectos. <\/b><\/p>\n

It affected my life, it affected my work and my relationships with other people, not to mention the relationship I had with myself. I was unable to make a decision because I didn\u2019t know if I was competent enough to make one. I used to run to him for advice for everything because he had me believe that he had all the answers.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Me hizo completamente miserable. I couldn\u2019t be happy anymore.<\/a> Claro, me re\u00eda de vez en cuando, pero no hab\u00eda felicidad en esa sonrisa.<\/span> Parec\u00eda que ten\u00eda que pagar por todos esos momentos de felicidad que compartimos.<\/b><\/p>\n

Me dijo que me amaba muchas veces. Juraba que yo era el amor de su vida. Afirmaba que no hab\u00eda amor en este mundo m\u00e1s grande que el nuestro. Ahora s\u00e9 que eso era cualquier cosa menos amor, porque el amor nunca deber\u00eda doler tanto. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he never would have given me all those happy moments just so he could ruin them with all those crappy ones.<\/b> He wouldn\u2019t have said I was pretty one minute and then call me all sorts of ugly names the next. He wouldn\u2019t even just say nice things when he saw that I was completely down. <\/span><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he would never have brought me down. He would have looked at me like I was his equal.<\/b> No le habr\u00eda gustado hacerme sentir mal conmigo misma. Nunca me habr\u00eda hecho cuestionar mi inteligencia o mi competencia. <\/span><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he would never have made me feel like I was not enough.<\/b> And that\u2019s all that he did\u2014made me doubt myself, made me think I was not pretty enough, smart enough, good enough or anything enough to be with him. <\/span><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he would never have stood to see me cry. <\/b>\u00c9l nunca habr\u00eda permitido que todas esas l\u00e1grimas corrieran por mi cara por su culpa. Nunca me habr\u00eda hecho da\u00f1o a prop\u00f3sito. \u00c9l nunca habr\u00eda sido el causante de esas l\u00e1grimas en primer lugar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Al final, todo lo que puedo hacer es decir gracias por mostrarme lo que no es el amor.<\/a> Thanks to you, I am entering 2023 as a completely different person. The one who doesn\u2019t allow herself to be put down. The one who knows she is good enough and would never allow anybody else to tell her otherwise. The one who is stronger from all the tears. The one who is learning to love herself again. <\/span><\/i><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

This year began with me thinking I must have been the happiest woman alive because I had him. He was one of those rare types of men who came close to being a perfect boyfriend. He was thoughtful, caring, easy to talk to, masculine, driven and passionate. From the way I saw him, he had…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":9414,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9412","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/roberto-nickson-366181.jpg",800,574,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9412","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9412"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9412\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9414"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9412"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9412"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9412"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}