{"id":97236,"date":"2020-09-17T12:20:37","date_gmt":"2020-09-17T12:20:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=97236"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:10:04","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:10:04","slug":"mi-marido-elige-a-su-familia-antes-que-a-mi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/mi-marido-elige-a-su-familia-antes-que-a-mi\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfQu\u00e9 debo hacer cuando mi marido elige a su familia antes que a m\u00ed?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If you&#8217;ve ever stopped for a moment and thought to yourself: <i>Mi marido elige a su familia antes que a m\u00ed<\/i>, know that you&#8217;re not alone. Starting your own family is a beautiful thing, but it can also be a tricky one.<\/p>\n<p>Marriage doesn&#8217;t only include two people \u2013 the in-laws come into the equation as well.<\/p>\n<p>El problema surge cuando tu suegro, tu suegra y otros familiares traspasan los l\u00edmites y se convierten en intrusos.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Para ser m\u00e1s concretos, el problema surge cuando uno de los c\u00f3nyuges empieza a sentirse desatendido en el matrimonio (mentalmente, econ\u00f3micamente o de cualquier otra forma). As\u00ed es exactamente como te sientes ahora, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n<p>Sientes que tu marido ya no te elige y que su familia es su prioridad n\u00famero uno.<\/p>\n<p>Because of this, you might decide to confront him (or your husband&#8217;s family) or withdraw and spend lots of time contemplating the reasons why he\u2019s doing it.<\/p>\n<p>D\u00e9jame decirte una cosa. <b><i>Hagas lo que hagas, enfrentarte a \u00e9l u obligarle a elegir entre t\u00fa y su familia nunca es una opci\u00f3n.&nbsp;<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Deb\u00e9is esforzaros siempre por evitar cualquier tipo de conflicto con vuestras respectivas familias e intentar resolver las cosas de forma pac\u00edfica como matrimonio.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>As I already said, you&#8217;re not alone on this one.<\/p>\n<p>Below you&#8217;ll find some handy tips to help you deal with the issue, after which you&#8217;ll find a list of common reasons explaining why men (sometimes) choose their family over their spouse.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><em><b>11 cosas que hacer cuando tu marido elige a su familia antes que a ti<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Don&#8217;t let your hurt feelings turn into resentment<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97427 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-standing-near-window.jpg\" alt=\"mujer con el pelo casta\u00f1o de pie cerca de la ventana\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-standing-near-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-standing-near-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-standing-near-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-standing-near-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-standing-near-window-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>S\u00ed, tienes todo el derecho a sentirte traicionado, herido y abandonado.<\/p>\n<p>You shouldn&#8217;t pretend that you&#8217;re not offended by your husband&#8217;s decision to prioritize his family over you but do you know what else you shouldn&#8217;t do?<\/p>\n<p><b>You shouldn&#8217;t let your <\/b><b>sentimientos heridos<\/b><b> se convierten en resentimiento.<\/b> Esto significa guardarle rencor, rebobinar constantemente los acontecimientos pasados, fantasmear con \u00e9l, etc.<\/p>\n<p>Todo esto es extremadamente t\u00f3xico para tu salud mental y f\u00edsica. Te sorprender\u00eda saber lo poderosos que son nuestros pensamientos.<\/p>\n<p>We attract whatever we think about. No, I didn\u2019t just invent that idea, it&#8217;s called <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/10-pasos-para-manifestar-el-amor-con-una-persona-especifica-utilizando-la-ley-de-la-atraccion\/\">la Ley de la Atracci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Another reason why you shouldn&#8217;t let your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/ex-ya-esta-saliendo-con-otra-persona-y-me-duele\/\">sentimientos heridos<\/a> a su vez t\u00f3xico es porque s\u00f3lo empeorar\u00e1 las cosas.<\/p>\n<p>Ni una sola alma en la Tierra ha resuelto sus problemas pensando \u00fanicamente en lo herida que se siente (cr\u00e9eme).<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve tried it multiple times, but it\u2019s never worked out. As I already said, it is okay to feel hurt, but you shouldn&#8217;t let it turn into &#8220;a year of resentment&#8221;. Instead, you should do the following:<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Comunicarse abierta y honestamente<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97428 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-talking.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer hablando sentados en un sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-talking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-talking-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-talking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-talking-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If there&#8217;s one thing I&#8217;ve learned so far, it&#8217;s the following: <b>Resolver siempre las cuestiones matrimoniales relativas a <\/b><b>familia ampliada<\/b><b> y <\/b><b>mejores amigos<\/b><b> s\u00f3lo con tu pareja.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Consider this the best marriage advice you&#8217;ll ever receive. (You&#8217;re welcome.)<\/p>\n<p>Communication. As you might already know, it is the basis of every healthy relationship \u2013 from friendships to marriages (ESPECIALLY marriages).<\/p>\n<p>Lamentablemente, las mujeres tendemos a creer que nuestras parejas son capaces de leernos la mente.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, they aren&#8217;t. Another priceless thing I&#8217;ve learned is the following: <b>If you don&#8217;t SAY IT to a man, he WON&#8217;T know it.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>I like to compare this one with cats. If you don&#8217;t show that something bothers you, your kitten will continue doing it because they don\u2019t know that they are doing something wrong.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If you don&#8217;t communicate openly and honestly, your husband will never know that you&#8217;re feeling neglected because he\u2019s choosing his family over you.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed pues, el primer paso es compartir con \u00e9l c\u00f3mo te sientes y qu\u00e9 es exactamente lo que te pasa por la cabeza.<\/p>\n<p>Una vez que lo hagas, te sentir\u00e1s diez veces mejor. Lo m\u00e1s importante es que tu marido est\u00e9 dispuesto a cooperar y a escucharte con atenci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Esto demuestra que sigues siendo su prioridad, pero que, por alguna raz\u00f3n, no te lo ha demostrado.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Trabaje en equipo con su c\u00f3nyuge<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97429 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-on-couch.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con tel\u00e9fono y mujer sentados en el sof\u00e1 y hablando\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-on-couch.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-on-couch-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-on-couch-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-on-couch-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-on-couch-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Recuerda que lo peor que puedes hacer en esta situaci\u00f3n es poner a su familia en su contra, discutir constantemente con \u00e9l y cosas similares.<\/p>\n<p>En lugar de involucrar a su familia y pelearse con su c\u00f3nyuge, trabaje para crear un esp\u00edritu de equipo en su matrimonio.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfQu\u00e9 significa esto? Significa escucharse mutuamente y trabajar juntos para encontrar una soluci\u00f3n a este problema concreto.<\/p>\n<p>Implicar a toda la familia en el asunto s\u00f3lo crear\u00e1 m\u00e1s confusi\u00f3n y complicaciones.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Recuerda que el matrimonio es un trabajo en equipo y que ambas partes deben esforzarse, proponer soluciones y apoyarse mutuamente pase lo que pase.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>After that you can decide to share your conclusions with your family members. That way they will understand that you\u2019ve come to an agreement as a couple and this will prevent any potential conflicts.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Also, remember that we aren&#8217;t born team players and we need to constantly work on this skill.<\/p>\n<p>Cuando aprendas a activar la compasi\u00f3n, la comprensi\u00f3n y la capacidad de compromiso, desactivar\u00e1s al instante todos los aspectos negativos que podr\u00edan destruir tu matrimonio.<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s nothing greater than being a team player with your spouse because it means you are friends, colleagues, partners in crime, and spouses all in one.<\/p>\n<p>It means you have each other&#8217;s back and you&#8217;re willing to face any problem together instead of being opponents.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Dale a tu marido algo de tiempo y espacio para tomar la decisi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97430 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-drinking-tea.jpg\" alt=\"mujer bebiendo t\u00e9 mientras mira por la ventana\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-drinking-tea.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-drinking-tea-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-drinking-tea-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-drinking-tea-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-drinking-tea-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I know what you&#8217;re thinking! You probably think I mean you should give your husband some space to choose between you and his family. I&#8217;m sorry to disappoint you but that\u2019s not what I mean.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>What you need to do is give your husband some time and space to make the choice to CHANGE. You&#8217;ve probably heard multiple times so far that all change starts within us.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Esto significa que ni t\u00fa ni sus familiares pod\u00e9is influir en su decisi\u00f3n de mejorar y cambiar las cosas en su matrimonio.<\/p>\n<p>Es \u00e9l quien puede tomar la decisi\u00f3n de empezar a trabajar en s\u00ed mismo y mejorar su rendimiento como marido.<\/p>\n<p>This means you shouldn&#8217;t force him, nag him, or demand that he choose right away between you and his family.<\/p>\n<p><b>Hay que tener en cuenta que tanto su <\/b><b>familiares<\/b><b> y t\u00fa eres importante para \u00e9l y no se trata de elegir entre dos bandos.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s a matter of agreement, understanding, and compromising. His family and your family will always be a part of your marriage and it&#8217;s up to you to set boundaries and inform them about it if needed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>But, before all that, you have to wait for your husband to initiate the process. If he&#8217;s not willing to cooperate, there&#8217;s not much you can do about it alone.<\/p>\n<p>You have to perform as team players \u2013 it&#8217;s the only right way to deal with this type of situation.<\/p>\n<p>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-arreglar-un-matrimonio-roto\/\">C\u00f3mo arreglar un matrimonio roto: Un plan de rescate en 15 pasos<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Tener en cuenta las circunstancias<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97431 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-chair.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sentada en una silla cerca de una ventana\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-chair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-chair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-chair-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-chair-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-chair-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Cuando nos sentimos desatendidos y menospreciados, tendemos a reaccionar de forma exagerada y a pensar s\u00f3lo en c\u00f3mo nos sentimos en ese momento.<\/p>\n<p>Nos olvidamos de prestar atenci\u00f3n a otras cosas y circunstancias que podr\u00edan ser la clave de toda la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>For example: if one of your husband&#8217;s family members is sick or needs help and support in some way, this is an emergency situation. In which case, you shouldn&#8217;t <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/6-senales-de-que-eres-una-mujer-desatendida-emocionalmente\/\">sentirse abandonado<\/a> porque es una situaci\u00f3n temporal.<\/p>\n<p>I understand that it&#8217;s easier said than done but taking circumstances into account is a necessity and not an option.<\/p>\n<p>En lugar de juzgar, te ayudar\u00e1 a ver las cosas desde otra perspectiva y a comprender la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p><b>When you know that something won&#8217;t last forever, it&#8217;s easier to stay calm and accept things as they are at the moment.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97432 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-bed-1.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sentada en la cama mirando por la ventana\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-bed-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-bed-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-bed-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-bed-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-on-bed-1-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><b>As\u00ed que, en lugar de centrarte \u00fanicamente en tus propios sentimientos, presta atenci\u00f3n al fondo y a todos los dem\u00e1s detalles que te rodean.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>You can also ask your husband to confirm to you that there&#8217;s nothing you should worry about and that you&#8217;re still his priority \u2013 only this time there are more important things he has to deal with.<\/p>\n<p>This reminds me of a guy I&#8217;ve been texting with for a while now.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>He told me that he would like to date me, but he can\u2019t at the moment because he has tons of obligations for college.<\/p>\n<p>He said he would be more than happy if I were to wait for him, but if I don\u2019t, he will respect that as well.<\/p>\n<p>Now imagine if I didn&#8217;t know about all this and he just told me that he couldn&#8217;t date me without any logical explanation.<\/p>\n<p>Ser\u00eda muy confuso, \u00bfverdad? Pero, cuando tienes en cuenta las circunstancias, cada situaci\u00f3n se vuelve m\u00e1s clara y f\u00e1cil de soportar.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Hacer concesiones<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97433 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-looking-at-man-2.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sonriente mirando a hombre sentado en interior\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-looking-at-man-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-looking-at-man-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-looking-at-man-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-looking-at-man-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-looking-at-man-2-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>First of all, shout out to the person who invented compromising! There&#8217;s nothing better in the whole world than coming to an agreement using the tool called compromising.<\/p>\n<p>It means you&#8217;re willing to give and take (sacrifice and gain) in order to make things function. Truth be told, we don\u2019t all know how to compromise, but as with everything else, this can be learned.<\/p>\n<p>Compromising is exactly what you should do when your husband chooses his family over you. Let&#8217;s say that he always brings his family members on vacation with you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Si t\u00fa te vas de vacaciones dos veces al a\u00f1o, podr\u00edas acordar llevarte a los miembros de su familia una vez al a\u00f1o. O si \u00e9l les ayuda econ\u00f3micamente, podr\u00edais llegar a un plan presupuestario razonable.<\/p>\n<p>The same thing goes with every other issue you might be facing now or in the future. This way your husband won&#8217;t be forced to choose between his family or you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Al comprometerse, puede hacerles saber que siguen siendo una parte importante de su vida, pero que no puede desvivirse cada vez por ellos porque ahora tambi\u00e9n tiene su propia familia a la que cuidar.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Establecer un calendario<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97434 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-drinking-wine.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer bebiendo vino sentados cerca del mar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-drinking-wine.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-drinking-wine-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-drinking-wine-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-drinking-wine-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-drinking-wine-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00bfSu marido pasa mucho tiempo con su familia cada fin de semana o cada dos d\u00edas?<\/p>\n<p>Or do his family members come as they please, uninvited to your place if you&#8217;re not already living under the same roof?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>En estas y otras situaciones similares, lo m\u00e1s importante y l\u00f3gico es establecer un calendario.<\/p>\n<p>En ese horario, debe haber tiempo para ti y tu marido como pareja, tiempo a solas para ambos y tiempo para pasar con los miembros de tu familia.<\/p>\n<p><b>El acento se pone en crear equilibrio, porque \u00e9sa es la clave de todo matrimonio feliz y exitoso.<\/b> Cuando establezcas un horario, recuerda informar a los miembros de tu familia al respecto.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Esa voz dentro de tu cabeza que te dice <i>Mi marido elige a su familia antes que a m\u00ed<\/i> will be muted because you will know exactly when you&#8217;re about to spend time with them, together as a couple, and have some &#8220;me&#8221; time.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Yo misma soy una mani\u00e1tica de la organizaci\u00f3n, lo que significa que todos y cada uno de los eventos y cosas tienen que formar parte de mi agenda.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve tried both ways (casual and schedule) and I can say for sure that the latter is ten times more productive and effective.<\/p>\n<p>En caso de que necesites recordar un horario, puedes guardarlo en tu cartera o en la nevera. Adem\u00e1s, si incumples las normas puedes pensar en algo parecido a un castigo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It doesn&#8217;t necessarily have to be a real punishment but something with which you will compensate each other in case you forget about your deal and do something against the schedule intentionally.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-salvar-un-matrimonio\/\">C\u00f3mo salvar un matrimonio: 10 M\u00e9todos Probados Que Siempre Funcionan<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Toma<b> todas las decisiones en pareja<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97435 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-man-3.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sonriente hablando con un hombre sentado en el sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-man-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-man-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-man-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-man-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-man-3-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Whatever you do, don&#8217;t ever assume that your husband thinks one thing or agrees with you on something if you haven&#8217;t talked to him about it.<\/p>\n<p>Ten\u00e9is que tomar todas las decisiones en pareja porque <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/como-comunicarse-con-los-hombres\/\">comunicaci\u00f3n saludable<\/a> es la base de un matrimonio.<\/p>\n<p>Just because you decided that you want him to ignore his family for the rest of his life (or for the time being), it doesn&#8217;t mean that he has to accept it.<\/p>\n<p>Como ya se ha dicho, tu marido es el que tiene que tomar la decisi\u00f3n de cambiar y actuar en consecuencia.<\/p>\n<p><b>La cuesti\u00f3n es que si ambos c\u00f3nyuges no est\u00e1n dispuestos a trabajar en su matrimonio, est\u00e1n condenados.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Me atrever\u00eda a decir que el hecho de que tu marido elija a su familia antes que a ti no es realmente un problema si se da cuenta de ello y decide hacer algo al respecto.<\/p>\n<p>If he doesn&#8217;t, then you have a bigger problem and that is selfishness. There&#8217;s no need to accentuate how tiring and exhausting is to be with someone who thinks they&#8217;re always right no matter what.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>The truth is, marriage is not about being wrong or right, but about admitting when you&#8217;re wrong and being willing to make it right when needed.<\/p>\n<p>There will always be critical situations and if you decide to go through them as a couple, you&#8217;ll resolve them in record time and with minimum effort.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Haz que tu familia tambi\u00e9n sea una prioridad<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97438 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/mother-and-daughter-having-launch.jpg\" alt=\"sonriente madre e hija teniendo lanzamiento interior\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/mother-and-daughter-having-launch.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/mother-and-daughter-having-launch-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/mother-and-daughter-having-launch-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/mother-and-daughter-having-launch-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/mother-and-daughter-having-launch-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If your husband chooses his family over you and you barely ever bring any of your family members into the equation, maybe it&#8217;s time to change that.<\/p>\n<p>Your family should be your priority as well, so you shouldn&#8217;t only worry about spending time with his.<\/p>\n<p>Por ejemplo, si los miembros de su familia van regularmente de vacaciones con usted, usted tiene todo el derecho a invitar tambi\u00e9n a los suyos.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If your own mother, father or other relative has health issues, you shouldn&#8217;t think twice about spending more time with them and being at their disposal in case they need you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Remember that there&#8217;s nothing wrong about making your family a priority. The problem arises when they become your only priority.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Esta es una buena lecci\u00f3n tambi\u00e9n para tu marido.<\/p>\n<p>Si suele pasar mucho tiempo con los miembros de su familia y espera que est\u00e9s all\u00ed cuando \u00e9l quiere, puedes decirle que ahora es tu momento de pasar tiempo con tu familia tambi\u00e9n.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Aprender\u00e1 que no puede elegir a su familia antes que a ti porque, si lo hace, t\u00fa har\u00e1s exactamente lo mismo. Esto le ayudar\u00e1 a comprender la necesidad de equilibrio en el matrimonio y en las relaciones en general.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mostrar compasi\u00f3n y comprensi\u00f3n<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97440 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-holding-hands-2.jpg\" alt=\"hombre y mujer cogidos de la mano sentados en un sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-holding-hands-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-holding-hands-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-holding-hands-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-holding-hands-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-holding-hands-2-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>En lugar de juzgarle y hablar mal de su familia y de su car\u00e1cter y similares, haz lo posible por mostrar compasi\u00f3n y comprensi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Ten en cuenta que sigue siendo un ni\u00f1o para sus padres y comprende que las cosas no pueden cambiar de la noche a la ma\u00f1ana.<\/p>\n<p>Si le demuestras que comprendes c\u00f3mo se siente, \u00e9l har\u00e1 lo mismo por ti. No se ofender\u00e1, no te llamar\u00e1 friki ni nada parecido.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>En cambio, demostrar\u00e1 que entiende por qu\u00e9 te sientes as\u00ed e intentar\u00e1 por todos los medios cambiar las cosas en el futuro.<\/p>\n<p><b>El matrimonio funciona seg\u00fan el principio de dar y recibir.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>If you show that you&#8217;re ready to talk openly and honestly with understanding about your husband&#8217;s relationship with his family members, he will reciprocate.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Family issues are a delicate situation that require lots of patience and understanding. You don&#8217;t want to turn it into a game where the luckier or bolder person wins.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You want to go through it together, respect each other&#8217;s perspectives, and work on finding the best solution for both of you and your families.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Buscar asesoramiento profesional<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97443 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-therapist.jpg\" alt=\"mujer hablando con el terapeuta mientras est\u00e1 sentado en el sof\u00e1 cerca de un hombre\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-therapist.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-therapist-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-therapist-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-therapist-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-talking-to-therapist-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Si puede, considere la posibilidad de buscar ayuda profesional, ya que no s\u00f3lo resolver\u00e1 su problema actual, sino que mejorar\u00e1 su comunicaci\u00f3n y su matrimonio en general.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes it&#8217;s hard to explain to your husband why him choosing his family over you is a problem because he might not see it as an issue.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Hablar de ello con un profesional le ayudar\u00e1 a entender las cosas con m\u00e1s claridad. Quiz\u00e1 haya algunas causas subyacentes a su comportamiento que ni t\u00fa ni \u00e9l pod\u00e1is detectar.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Por ello, siempre es aconsejable buscar una tercera opini\u00f3n (opini\u00f3n profesional) sobre el asunto.<\/p>\n<p>Si resuelve las cosas parcialmente y descuida la cuesti\u00f3n central de un determinado problema, lo m\u00e1s probable es que con el tiempo las cosas vuelvan a su estado inicial.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>En otras palabras, lo m\u00e1s probable es que al cabo de un tiempo vuelva a elegir a su familia antes que a ti. Si quieres evitarlo, busca ayuda profesional y afronta el problema paso a paso.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><em><b>8 razones comunes por las que los hombres eligen a su familia antes que a su c\u00f3nyuge<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Tiene remordimientos de conciencia por no pasar tanto tiempo con su familia.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97445 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-leaning-on-fence.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con chaqueta negra apoyado en una valla\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-leaning-on-fence.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-leaning-on-fence-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-leaning-on-fence-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-leaning-on-fence-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/man-leaning-on-fence-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Antes de casarse, tu hombre viv\u00eda solo o con sus padres, como el resto de la poblaci\u00f3n masculina y femenina. Lo m\u00e1s probable es que pasara la mayor parte de su tiempo libre con sus padres (sobre todo si viv\u00edan juntos).&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You know the drill. Family meals, games, drinks, road trips \u2013 the list goes on and on.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t get me wrong: This is great and it&#8217;s exactly how it should be. The problem arises once your man decides to tie the knot and start his own family.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>De repente, se da cuenta de que ya no pasa tanto tiempo con su familia como antes. <b>His routine has drastically changed and that&#8217;s when he starts being confused about his priority list.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Quiere pasar tiempo contigo, pero al mismo tiempo se siente culpable por no pasar tanto tiempo con su familia.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Por eso, inconscientemente empieza a descuidarte, haci\u00e9ndote sentir menos digna y como si tuvieras que competir por su atenci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>Oftentimes, men are not even aware of this because it&#8217;s not something they can influence. Their conscience is eating away at them and forcing them to do things they normally wouldn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed es como acaban pasando m\u00e1s tiempo con su familia que con su c\u00f3nyuge.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Quiere ser un pacificador<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97452 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/people-making-toast.jpg\" alt=\"grupo de personas haciendo tostadas sentadas a la mesa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/people-making-toast.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/people-making-toast-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/people-making-toast-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/people-making-toast-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/people-making-toast-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;ve ever watched <i>Monstruo-<\/i><i>en-ley<\/i> o <i>Conoce a los Fockers<\/i>, then you know what I&#8217;m talking about.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Estas dos pel\u00edculas son sencillamente incre\u00edbles y, aunque son un poco exageradas, describen a la perfecci\u00f3n y de forma hilarante los problemas matrimoniales y los conflictos con las respectivas familias.<\/p>\n<p>Yendo al grano: la mayor\u00eda de los hombres se convierten en pacificadores para evitar conflictos.<\/p>\n<p>Puede que te apetezca: <i>Mi marido elige a su familia antes que a m\u00ed,<\/i> but in reality, he&#8217;s doing it to avoid any potential conflict between you two and his family.<\/p>\n<p>So, when he decides to accept every single invitation from his parents, chances are he&#8217;s doing it only to satisfy them and keep the peace between you. But, how can you know that, right?<\/p>\n<p>If he doesn&#8217;t tell you, you can only guess what is going on in his mind. Truth be told, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/los-hombres-tienden-sentimientos-misteriosos-16-signos-sutiles-gusta\/\">los hombres son criaturas misteriosas<\/a> y les gusta reservarse sus estrategias, lo que a menudo nos vuelve locas a las mujeres.<\/p>\n<p>Tal vez deber\u00eda reformular esto: Los hombres podr\u00edan hacer esto para volvernos locas. (Bueno, espero que no.)<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">He is suffering from &#8216;Mama&#8217;s Boy&#8217; syndrome<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97454 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother.jpg\" alt=\"hijo con sombrero abrazando a madre de pie al aire libre\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>We all know at least one famous mama&#8217;s boy out there. It is either one of our friends or if we aren&#8217;t that lucky, it is our loved one.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s interesting that we often don&#8217;t even realize we&#8217;re with a mama&#8217;s boy until someone points it out to us.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Or we don&#8217;t want to classify them as such because it doesn&#8217;t sound that good and we secretly hope that it won&#8217;t last forever. Whatever the case, being with such a man can be a real struggle.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Este tipo de relaci\u00f3n entre madre e hijo incluye lo siguiente:&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Llamadas telef\u00f3nicas incesantes (la mayor\u00eda sobre asuntos triviales como si han comido y similares).<\/p>\n<p>No estar dispuesto a mudarse lejos de donde vive su madre.<\/p>\n<p>Having trouble making decisions (on both minor and major things) without his mother&#8217;s assistance<\/p>\n<p>Depender econ\u00f3micamente de su madre<\/p>\n<p>Elegir constantemente a su madre antes que a ti, a tus hijos o a ambos.<\/p>\n<p>Estas madres no ven a sus hijos como adultos. Por el contrario, siguen pensando en ellos como ni\u00f1os peque\u00f1os y, al hacerlo, crean una relaci\u00f3n madre-hijo poco saludable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Sienten que su hijo es incapaz de hacer nada sin ellos y que deber\u00edan seguir estando disponibles para \u00e9l las 24 horas del d\u00eda, los 7 d\u00edas de la semana.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>And their son feels the same way. He&#8217;s convinced that his mother should always be an active part of his life regardless of whether he&#8217;s living alone or if he&#8217;s married.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Es realmente dif\u00edcil romper este patr\u00f3n porque sus ra\u00edces son profundas.<\/b> <b>Tratar con un <\/b><b>mama&#8217;s boy<\/b><b> requiere mucha paciencia y comprensi\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Como siempre, el matrimonio es cuesti\u00f3n de trabajo en equipo y si tu pareja est\u00e1 dispuesta a trabajar en s\u00ed misma y mejorar vuestro matrimonio, entonces la mitad de vuestros problemas ya est\u00e1n resueltos.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/las-7-cosas-que-los-hombres-hacen-para-destruir-su-matrimonio\/\">Las 7 cosas que los hombres hacen para destruir su matrimonio<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Los hombres viven m\u00e1s tiempo con sus padres<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97947 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother-1.jpg\" alt=\"hijo sonriente abrazando a su madre sentado en el sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-mother-1-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Estudios recientes han demostrado que es m\u00e1s probable que los hombres (de 18 a 34 a\u00f1os) sigan viviendo con sus padres que con su pareja o c\u00f3nyuge. Cuando lo analizo m\u00e1s detenidamente, esto tiene sentido. \u00bfPor qu\u00e9?<\/p>\n<p>Porque todos sabemos que las mujeres son las que maduran m\u00e1s r\u00e1pido que los hombres, tanto mental como f\u00edsicamente, lo que significa que se independizan y deciden casarse antes que la poblaci\u00f3n masculina.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Ahora bien, \u00bfc\u00f3mo afecta esta analog\u00eda a los matrimonios, o a su matrimonio para ser m\u00e1s exactos?<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Your husband&#8217;s strong relationship with his parents might have been the first thing you really liked about him, but over time it can turn your married life into a real burden.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If he&#8217;s lived with his parents for a long time, he might be having difficulties switching his priorities now that he&#8217;s a married man.<\/p>\n<p>He still feels as if he needs to choose his family over you (or he\u2019s doing it subconsciously) because his connection with them is still strong.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Aunque es deseable y est\u00e1 bien pasar tiempo con la familia, los amigos y la pareja, dar excesiva prioridad a uno de ellos nunca es una opci\u00f3n saludable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Todos viviendo bajo el mismo techo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97461 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/family-preparing-food.jpg\" alt=\"familia preparando la comida en la cocina\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/family-preparing-food.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/family-preparing-food-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/family-preparing-food-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/family-preparing-food-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/family-preparing-food-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Otra raz\u00f3n com\u00fan por la que un hombre elegir\u00eda a su familia antes que a su c\u00f3nyuge es la situaci\u00f3n en la que todos viven bajo el mismo techo. Hablando de una situaci\u00f3n realmente complicada.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, not everyone has the ability to move into their own house with their spouse. Sometimes, we&#8217;re forced to live in a multigenerational household because we have no other option.<\/p>\n<p>Also, sometimes men choose to live under the same roof even though they have other options. This is usually connected with mama&#8217;s boys syndrome.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re living under the same roof, conflicts and potentially awkward situations become inevitable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>La intimidad empieza a escasear y la relaci\u00f3n con su c\u00f3nyuge experimenta m\u00faltiples desaf\u00edos.<\/p>\n<p><b>En alg\u00fan momento, tu marido sentir\u00e1 que tiene que elegir entre su familia o t\u00fa (sobre todo si su familia le presiona).&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Para apaciguarlos, empezar\u00e1 a bailar a su son y, como resultado, acabar\u00e1 descuid\u00e1ndote.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Podr\u00edamos decir que las parejas casadas que viven bajo el mismo techo est\u00e1n casadas con toda la familia y no s\u00f3lo con su c\u00f3nyuge. En tales situaciones, siempre habr\u00e1 peque\u00f1as o grandes fricciones y toma de partido.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Quiere darte celos<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97462 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-near-water.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sentada cerca del agua durante el d\u00eda\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-near-water.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-near-water-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-near-water-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-near-water-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/woman-sitting-near-water-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>S\u00ed, lo creas o no, hay algunos c\u00f3nyuges que eligen a su familia antes que a su pareja simplemente para darles celos.<\/p>\n<p>Cuando se trata de la poblaci\u00f3n masculina, podr\u00edamos estar hablando de narcisistas que quieren hacerte luchar por su atenci\u00f3n.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s say that he knows you will feel neglected if he spends all his weekends or free time with his mom and\/or dad instead of you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Even though he&#8217;s aware of this, he still chooses to do it because his main goal is to make you compete for his attention and time.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Es entonces cuando empiezas a pensar que t\u00fa eres el problema y que debes haber hecho algo malo para merecer ese trato.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Si crees que \u00e9ste puede ser tu caso, presta tambi\u00e9n mucha atenci\u00f3n a otros detalles (su lenguaje corporal, cualquier cambio en su comportamiento y similares).<\/p>\n<p>The biggest sign that he&#8217;s trying to make you jealous by choosing his family over you is if he hasn&#8217;t acted this way before.<\/p>\n<p>In other words, if he hasn&#8217;t spent much time with them in the past and now they&#8217;re literally inseparable, then you know something fishy is going on.<\/p>\n<p>Como siempre, la mejor manera de averiguar lo que realmente ocurre es simplemente preguntando, explicando la situaci\u00f3n y c\u00f3mo te sientes al respecto.<\/p>\n<p>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/10-preguntas-que-debe-hacer-a-su-conyuge-antes-de-acudir-a-terapia-matrimonial\/\">10 preguntas que debe hacer a su c\u00f3nyuge antes de acudir a terapia matrimonial<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Atados por la tradici\u00f3n<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97948 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-father.jpg\" alt=\"hijo indio abrazando a su padre sentado a la mesa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-father.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-father-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-father-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-father-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-hugging-father-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A veces los maridos deciden elegir a su familia antes que a su c\u00f3nyuge por tradici\u00f3n.<\/p>\n<p>This is especially true for married couples in India, where husbands feel like it&#8217;s their duty to take care of and prioritize their family.<\/p>\n<p>Por eso, deciden vivir m\u00e1s cerca de sus padres o bajo el mismo techo.<\/p>\n<p>Esto est\u00e1 en estrecha relaci\u00f3n con su cultura y tradici\u00f3n, y en tales casos <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/establecer-limites-como-mujer-de-alto-valor\/\">establecimiento de l\u00edmites<\/a> es extremadamente dif\u00edcil, si no imposible.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>En <\/b><b>vida familiar<\/b><b> se convierte en <\/b><b>n\u00famero uno<\/b><b> prioridad, el matrimonio queda eclipsado.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>When a woman feels like her husband is deliberately choosing his family over her, she might become desperate and think about doing something she usually wouldn&#8217;t do such as forcing him to choose between the first woman in his life and his spouse.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If your husband feels like you&#8217;re forcing him to choose between his mom and you, things might get even more complicated. The truth is, you cannot fight tradition but you can always compromise.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Otras razones (emergencias, finanzas, etc.)<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97949 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-helping-father-walking.jpg\" alt=\"hijo ayudando a padre caminando con andador durante el d\u00eda\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-helping-father-walking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-helping-father-walking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-helping-father-walking-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-helping-father-walking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/son-helping-father-walking-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Hay montones de otras razones por las que un marido elegir\u00eda a su familia antes que a su c\u00f3nyuge y algunas de ellas son emergencias (problemas de salud), finanzas y similares.<\/p>\n<p>When it comes to emergencies, I&#8217;ll refer to my mom and dad who were in a similar situation.<\/p>\n<p>No hace mucho, mi t\u00eda tuvo algunos problemas de salud mental, as\u00ed que vino a vivir con nosotros y b\u00e1sicamente toda la casa giraba en torno a ella porque era una emergencia.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Now, my mother could have said that she didn&#8217;t want to live like that and blame my father for prioritizing his family, but she didn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>On the contrary, she agreed to nurture her when my aunt became immobile. I will always admire my mother&#8217;s strength and her selflessness.<\/p>\n<p>What I&#8217;m trying to say is that sometimes prioritizing a family member is not an option, but a necessity.<\/p>\n<p><b>En tales situaciones, tenemos que adaptarnos y sacar lo mejor de nosotros mismos.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Lo mismo ocurre con el aspecto financiero.<\/p>\n<p>If your husband&#8217;s mom and dad or other family relatives are in a financial crisis and he&#8217;s helping them, from his point of view, he&#8217;s doing a good thing and it\u2019s something he has to do.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Sin embargo, si su pareja se desvive constantemente por satisfacer todas sus necesidades y, como resultado, descuida las suyas y las de su matrimonio, es una se\u00f1al de alarma.<\/p>\n<p>Como siempre, el equilibrio es la clave y los c\u00f3nyuges deben esforzarse por establecerlo siempre que puedan.<\/p>\n<p>Por ejemplo, el hecho de que su marido pague siempre las vacaciones familiares (de sus padres y otros parientes) no es una situaci\u00f3n de emergencia, por lo que requiere un enfoque diferente y sus acciones no est\u00e1n justificadas.<\/p>\n<h2>Reflexiones finales<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-97950 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-near-water.jpg\" alt=\"hombre con camisa azul y mujer sentados cerca del agua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-near-water.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-near-water-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-near-water-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-near-water-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/couple-sitting-near-water-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Cada vez que la siguiente frase invada tu cerebro <i>Mi marido elige a su familia antes que a m\u00ed<\/i>Recu\u00e9rdate a ti mismo que no debes actuar por impulso.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t contact his family and threaten them or make him choose between you and his family members.<\/p>\n<p>Mant\u00e9n la calma y h\u00e1blalo abiertamente con \u00e9l. Te sugiero que lo hagas cuanto antes porque cuanto m\u00e1s lo prolongues, m\u00e1s te lo pensar\u00e1s.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Todos sabemos lo que ocurre cuando pensamos demasiado las cosas. En nuestra cabeza, las hacemos diez veces peores de lo que son en realidad.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Recuerda crear un esp\u00edritu de equipo en tu matrimonio y c\u00e9ntrate en llegar a compromisos. Adem\u00e1s, si puedes, busca ayuda profesional.<\/p>\n<p>If you do all that, there&#8217;s not a chance that you won&#8217;t succeed in resolving this particular issue.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Como resultado, ambos os har\u00e9is a\u00fan m\u00e1s fuertes y sabios, as\u00ed como vuestro matrimonio. Y recuerda:<\/p>\n<p><b>&#8220;The goal of marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.&#8221; \u2013 Unknown<\/b><\/p>\n<p>V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/romantic-love\/love-advice\/5-maneras-eficaces-de-devolver-la-chispa-a-tu-matrimonio\/\">5 maneras eficaces de devolver la chispa a su matrimonio<\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-98634 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/What-Should-I-Do-When-My-Husband-Chooses-His-Family-Over-Me-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"\u00bfQu\u00e9 debo hacer si mi marido prefiere a su familia antes que a m\u00ed?\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/What-Should-I-Do-When-My-Husband-Chooses-His-Family-Over-Me-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/What-Should-I-Do-When-My-Husband-Chooses-His-Family-Over-Me-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/What-Should-I-Do-When-My-Husband-Chooses-His-Family-Over-Me-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/What-Should-I-Do-When-My-Husband-Chooses-His-Family-Over-Me-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/What-Should-I-Do-When-My-Husband-Chooses-His-Family-Over-Me-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you&#8217;ve ever stopped for a moment and thought to yourself: My husband chooses his family over me, know that you&#8217;re not alone. Starting your own family is a beautiful thing, but it can also be a tricky one. Marriage doesn&#8217;t only include two people \u2013 the in-laws come into the equation as well. The&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":97389,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-97236","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/What-Should-I-Do-When-My-Husband-Chooses-His-Family-Over-Me.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. 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