{"id":97490,"date":"2020-09-17T13:46:35","date_gmt":"2020-09-17T13:46:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=97490"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:01:17","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:01:17","slug":"ser-la-mejor-persona","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/ser-la-mejor-persona\/","title":{"rendered":"Esta es la raz\u00f3n por la que siempre debes ser la persona m\u00e1s grande"},"content":{"rendered":"

When your real friends tell you to be the bigger person, they\u2019re saying that you should always find the fuerza en tu coraz\u00f3n para perdonar<\/a> a los que te han hecho da\u00f1o, y el\u00e9vate por encima de todas tus experiencias negativas.<\/p>\n

Ser el <\/b>persona mayor<\/b> significa que, por mucho que alguien te haga da\u00f1o, no guardas rencor hacia \u00e9l. <\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll find some kind of justification for those who have broken your heart, made your life miserable, or even abused you in any way. <\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn’t matter whether we’re talking about your ex, high school friend, coworker, or family member, the bottom line is pretty much the same: You should take the moral high ground and let positivity take over you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re more than someone who wants revenge for all the pain you\u2019ve suffered. You\u2019re above holding grudges or giving someone a taste of their own medicine.<\/b><\/p>\n

Instead, whenever another person does you harm, you should understand them in a way, move on, and get over whatever it is they\u2019ve done to you.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Un siendo el <\/i>persona mayor<\/i> quote says: \u201cDon\u2019t treat people as bad as they are. Treat them as good you are.\u201d<\/p>\n

Sounds almost perfect, doesn\u2019t it? However, what happens when the person who hurt you doesn\u2019t deserve you treating them this way?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 ocurre cuando tu agresor ve en tu perd\u00f3n una luz verde para seguir quebrant\u00e1ndote? Cuando ven que aceptas <\/b>el buen camino<\/b> como una aprobaci\u00f3n de su <\/b>comportamiento t\u00f3xico<\/b><\/a>?<\/b> <\/p>\n

From one point of view, you behaving like this should have a therapeutic effect on the other party as well. They\u2019re expected to admire your reaction, which will make them ashamed of their own actions.<\/p>\n

En este caso, el sentimiento de culpa se comer\u00e1 vivo a quien te ha destrozado la vida. Acabar\u00e1 pidiendo perd\u00f3n por sus fechor\u00edas o, como m\u00ednimo, se apartar\u00e1 de tu vida. <\/p>\n

Sin embargo, por desgracia, las cosas pueden tomar un cariz completamente distinto.<\/p>\n

En lugar de tener un enorme respeto por tu capacidad de perdonar, en la mayor\u00eda de los casos, la persona t\u00f3xica empieza a considerarte un tonto al que puede seguir haci\u00e9ndole cosas malas.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

En darte por sentado<\/a> y esperan que les perdones, te hagan lo que te hagan. Al fin y al cabo, tu amor incondicional por ellos es evidente. <\/p>\n

Una vez que experimentas algo as\u00ed, tambi\u00e9n empiezas a verte a ti mismo como un est\u00fapido. <\/p>\n

All this time, you\u2019ve been always the forgiving one \u2013 the one who\u2019s walked away from arguments and tried to understand whoever\u2019s hurt you \u2013 without looking for ways to pay them back. <\/p>\n

However, rarely has anyone appreciated it. Instead, they\u2019ve kept playing and using you. So naturally, you\u2019ve given up.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve decided that the only way to survive this harsh world is to blend in with the masses. You have no other options but to become just like everyone else in your surroundings. <\/p>\n

You simply have no more strength to give away your unlimited forgiveness to those who have never deserved it. You\u2019ve stopped accepting the non-apologies and  praying for your heart to soften up. <\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m here to tell you that you\u2019re making the mistake of your life if you don\u2019t change your ways. In fact I\u2019m begging you: Be the <\/b>persona mayor<\/b>, no matter who or what you\u2019re dealing with.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

At first, you may think you\u2019re doing all of this for the sake of the other party with a toxic vibe.<\/p>\n

You want to show them that you\u2019re above them and would never stoop to their level, despite the fact that you\u2019re the damaged one. <\/p>\n

Naturally, you think to yourself that your positivity and forgiveness are the last things they deserve. After everything this person has put you through, no one\u2019s expecting you to wipe their slate clean.<\/p>\n

Excepto que esto es exactamente lo que deber\u00edas estar haciendo. Por supuesto, perdonar es una cosa y olvidar es otra.<\/p>\n

Nobody is telling you that you have to welcome them back in your life and pretend that everything is in perfect order. Instead, just be the better person and don\u2019t play their game. <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me. I\u2019m not giving you this advice because the personas t\u00f3xicas en tu vida<\/a> deserve it. Don\u2019t be the bigger man to make things easier for them.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t behave like this because it\u2019s the right thing to do either. Don\u2019t do it because it\u2019s expected of you or just because you want to prove a point to someone else, including the one who hurt you.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

En cambio, hazlo por ti, ya que es una de las pocas cosas que diferencian a las malas personas de las buenas. <\/p>\n

Do it because it will serve as proof that you never had the same vibe as them and that they didn\u2019t manage to pollute you with their evil.<\/b><\/p>\n

Como prueba de que nunca podr\u00e1n alcanzar su <\/b>altura moral<\/b>. <\/b><\/p>\n

Most importantly, be the better person because, at the end of the day, it\u2019s the only way to free yourself from their chains \u2013 the only way for you to finally start your process of dejarse llevar<\/a> y seguir adelante sin ning\u00fan equipaje que te lastre.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the best thing you could ever do for your self-esteem.<\/p>\n

Hazlo porque te liberar\u00e1 de su toxicidad. Porque te purificar\u00e1 y te traer\u00e1 paz.<\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, siendo el <\/b>persona mayor<\/b> doesn\u2019t mean becoming someone\u2019s <\/b>felpudo<\/b>. Instead, it\u2019s about not allowing anger, resentment, and other negative emotions to take the best of you.<\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean being blind or stupid. In fact, it means being smart enough to choose your battles wisely and know how to get rid of pettiness.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t make you a coward who backs out. On the contrary, it makes you a hero. It makes you emotionally intelligent to the point where you can redirect your energy in the right direction. <\/p>\n

It\u2019s about not allowing the bitterness to turn you into someone you essentially aren\u2019t. About not giving this person even more importance by allowing them to change the core of your personality. <\/p>\n

Conf\u00eda en m\u00ed. Este es el camino a seguir. En el <\/b>fin de la jornada<\/b>, tomando <\/b>el buen camino<\/b> es la \u00fanica manera en que tu conciencia ser\u00e1 cristalina. <\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s the only way for you to leave this painful situation being proud of yourself and of the fruits of your <\/b>trabajo propio<\/b>. <\/b>La \u00fanica forma de sentirte mejor y de reforzar tu autoestima. <\/p>\n

That said, your real friends will never blame you if you don\u2019t have the strength to be the bigger person just yet. After all, you\u2019re just a human being and it\u2019s perfectly normal to have a vengeful part of yourself. <\/p>\n

Nadie te juzgar\u00e1 por no ser capaz de controlar tus impulsos y emociones en todo momento. Sin embargo, ser el mejor hombre es algo por lo que debes esforzarte.<\/b><\/p>\n

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