{"id":99143,"date":"2020-09-21T12:56:41","date_gmt":"2020-09-21T12:56:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=99143"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:12:46","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:12:46","slug":"cosas-a-tener-en-cuenta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cosas-a-tener-en-cuenta\/","title":{"rendered":"22 cosas que hay que tener en cuenta cuando algo no va bien"},"content":{"rendered":"

We’re all familiar with the nagging feeling that something doesn’t feel right. That\u2019s your gut instinct trying to warn you of something.<\/p>\n

Bad things happen all the time but when your inner voice keeps telling you that your current situation leaves a lot to be desired, it’s time for some big decisions.<\/p>\n

Whether it’s regarding your <\/b>relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica<\/b> <\/a>o la vida en general, escuchando atentamente su <\/b>intuici\u00f3n<\/b> es siempre un acierto.<\/b><\/p>\n

That little voice inside your head knows what it’s talking about. While pinpointing your issues and taking follow-up action is a lot of work, it beats waiting for an impending meltdown.<\/p>\n

Let’s carefully examine what’s causing you this uneasiness in order to help you find the best solution for yourself.<\/p>\n

If Something Doesn\u2019t Feel Right In Your Relationship, Never Ignore These 10 <\/b>Enormes se\u00f1ales de alarma<\/b> <\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Su pareja ha empezado a alejarse de usted<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Hasta el a\u00f1o pasado, ten\u00edas una relaci\u00f3n tan sana que tus amigos no paraban de pedirte consejo. Pero eso ha cambiado.<\/p>\n

Now, your partner has started to distance themselves from you. There’s a palpable physical sensation of discord between you two. Something doesn’t feel right.<\/p>\n

Tanto si vives en una peque\u00f1a zona rural como en una gran ciudad, todo el mundo se ha dado cuenta y tu autoestima est\u00e1 por los suelos. <\/p>\n

You keep wondering if it’s something you did or if you simply found la persona equivocada<\/a> and now, it’s all coming down on you.<\/p>\n

Patrones de comunicaci\u00f3n poco saludables e ineficaces<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Una comunicaci\u00f3n sana es vital para una relaci\u00f3n sana. A estas alturas, todo el mundo debe saberlo. Y sol\u00eda ser as\u00ed para ustedes dos.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, ahora tu pareja es brusca y cortante contigo. No encontr\u00e1is un t\u00e9rmino medio en ning\u00fan tema. No par\u00e1is de explotar el uno contra el otro, y todo os parece un ataque.<\/p>\n

No recuerdas la \u00faltima vez que os comunicasteis como adultos. Tu pareja pasa m\u00e1s tiempo en las redes sociales chateando con amigos que contigo, intentando arreglar las cosas.<\/p>\n

Should you keep pushing to salvage things or have you reached the final stop? The answer is within you. It’s time to start listening.<\/p>\n

Notable changes in your significant other’s behavior<\/h2>\n

\"cuatro<\/p>\n

They’ve changed and a lot. Nobody can tell you otherwise. Their habits are no longer characteristic of them. They even hang out with new people.<\/p>\n

Apenas reconoces a esa persona y sus acciones. Las cosas que sol\u00edais hacer juntos se han marchitado en el olvido.<\/p>\n

The way they took care of you is long gone. Now, they’re someone new and you can’t figure out how or when this happened.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 15 cambios corporales y mentales despu\u00e9s del matrimonio que nadie te cuenta<\/a><\/p>\n

Comportamiento excesivamente controlador<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Su pareja ha empezado a manifestar un comportamiento controlador. Es muy pegajoso y quiere saber d\u00f3nde est\u00e1s en todo momento.<\/p>\n

No puedes salir con tus amigos sin que te acribillen con un mill\u00f3n de mensajes o llamadas. \u00bfD\u00f3nde est\u00e1s? \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo vuelves a casa? \u00bfEst\u00e1 (nombre de un amigo) contigo en este momento?<\/i><\/p>\n

I could go on and on. It’s like they’re trying to take your freedom from you. Every decision you make you have to run by them.<\/p>\n

When did they become this way? Why can’t they let you live your life the way you always have?<\/p>\n

Discusiones t\u00f3xicas frecuentes<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

At this point, it feels like you’re fighting for the sake of fighting. There’s nothing you can do that your partner approves of.<\/p>\n

If you’re being honest, something doesn’t feel right on your part either. You keep wanting to yell at them for no reason. <\/p>\n

It has gotten to the point where you have to stop yourself from reacting impulsively or else… <\/p>\n

Couples fight, you know that but this is different. It’s toxic, unhealthy and there is never any resolution in sight; just two people biting each other\u2019s head off.<\/p>\n

Una repentina falta de empat\u00eda por tu parte<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Just like that, you stopped caring. You don’t know how and you don’t know why. It feels wrong and you’re ashamed but you can’t lie to yourself anymore. <\/p>\n

Your gut feeling has been telling you for a while now to break it off but you’re not sure anymore.<\/p>\n

Have you become ice-cold? Is it actually you or has your partner brought this on themselves? It’s definitely something to ponder.<\/p>\n

Comportamiento emocional o f\u00edsicamente abusivo<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

El maltrato, sea cual sea su naturaleza, NUNCA es aceptable. Ni emocional, ni verbal y especialmente no maltrato f\u00edsico<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The moment your relationship starts being disruptive in an abusive manner, call it quits. You don’t need your gut instinct to tell you this.<\/p>\n

Te mereces cari\u00f1o, devoci\u00f3n y aprecio. Si temes no poder seguir siendo t\u00fa mismo, m\u00e1rchate antes de que empiecen a ocurrir cosas malas.<\/p>\n

La confianza hace tiempo que desapareci\u00f3<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You used to trust your partner with your life but now, you’re not sure you’d let them watch your dog for an hour.<\/p>\n

You simply sense that something doesn’t feel right and you can’t shake it off. It’s as if there is doom and gloom awaiting you if you stay with this person.<\/p>\n

You cannot pinpoint exactly what it is but you’ve lost your confidence in them. There’s a clear wedge that has become insurmountable.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Por eso debes confiar en el calendario de tu vida<\/a><\/p>\n

Hacer planes sin los dem\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

And the worst thing is, you don’t even mind! You couldn’t care less if your partner makes plans and doesn’t invite you. <\/p>\n

Esto significa que puedes invitar a tu propia tripulaci\u00f3n y disfrutar sin ellos. <\/p>\n

Your need for their company has vanished. While this does worry you, it’s not enough to do something about it.<\/p>\n

Perhaps the relationship has come to its natural end and one of you simply needs to say it out loud. It’s okay if you’ve grown apart. That’s how life goes sometimes.<\/p>\n

La din\u00e1mica de tu dormitorio se ha marchitado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You used to be a beast in the sack and your partner knew exactly how to stay in tune with your body. But now, you can’t force yourself if your life depended on it.<\/p>\n

You used to be extremely adventurous as a couple and did it basically anywhere but that has since gone and you don’t even care.<\/p>\n

When something doesn’t feel right, it’s best to address it ASAP. There’s no point in staying with someone who just doesn’t do it for you anymore.<\/p>\n

7 se\u00f1ales de advertencia de que tu vida est\u00e1 desequilibrada<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Tu mente est\u00e1 inquieta y te impide estar presente<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Haces un esfuerzo por quedar con los amigos y ponerte al d\u00eda, pero tu mente te dificulta estar presente.<\/p>\n

It’s like they are out there living their best life and trying to reconnect with you and you cannot bring yourself to actually listen and communicate with them.<\/p>\n

Tu mente va constantemente a 300 km\/h, lo que afecta gravemente a tus relaciones con los dem\u00e1s. <\/p>\n

Tu incapacidad para estar presente ha empezado a abrir una brecha entre t\u00fa y tus amigos. Realmente quieres cambiar, pero algo te tira para atr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

You’ve been neglecting to take care of your mind, body and soul<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Even though you’ve always attempted to find the time to stay active, hit the gym and be conscious of your health, you’re finding it harder and harder to do so.<\/p>\n

There’s always something more important that you need to do and you keep postponing gym time. You promise yourself that you’ll make up for it the following week but you don’t.<\/p>\n

You can’t understand how you’ve become this way. You do care about yourself, you want to be proactive, so what gives?<\/p>\n

Tiene unos h\u00e1bitos de gasto excesivamente entusiastas.<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You’ve never been much of a spender but boy, has that changed. Your online shopping has started to become worrisome.<\/p>\n

Your credit card balance is also a clear sign that you should hit the brakes but you can’t. <\/p>\n

You see something and you have to have it. Your sound mind has gone out the window and there’s a new girl (o gu<\/i>y) in town and they’re trying to bankrupt you.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Persona adecuada, momento inadecuado: \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 siempre nos pasa lo mismo?<\/a><\/p>\n

You haven’t got in touch with anyone in your life for too long<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Tus amigos<\/a> est\u00e1n en suspenso. Tu vida social est\u00e1 en suspenso. Sigues intentando gestionar tu tiempo y encontrar un hueco para volver con la gente, pero es en vano.<\/p>\n

You can’t recall the last time you had a proper conversation with your friends. You’ve got dozens of texts and DMs waiting to be seen but they\u2019re at the bottom of your list.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the deal. Your work should never trump your personal relationships. At the end of the day, your people are the only ones who’ll stick by you when things get rough. No<\/i> trabajo.<\/p>\n

So, it’s time to reevaluate your time and how you spend it. Nurture those relationships and stop neglecting those who matter most.<\/p>\n

You haven’t had a vacation in ages<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You’re long overdue for a vacation. You know this but you can’t seem to do anything about it. Your life feels all sorts of messed up as you keep neglecting to take care of yourself.<\/p>\n

You haven’t had a proper break for ages. You’ve been feeling the negative effects a lot lately. Your mind needs a break.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe biggest wall you have to climb is the one you build in your mind: Never let your mind talk you out of your dreams, trick you into giving up. Never let your mind become the greatest obstacle to success. To get your mind on the right track, the rest will follow.\u201d <\/i>– Roy. T. Bennett<\/p>\n

Your \u2018go-go-go\u2019 mode makes you think of everyone else as lazy<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s constantemente en movimiento. No puedes parar de trabajar y ser demasiado ambicioso, lo que ha empezado a estropear tu mente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Cuando socializas con tus amigos y les oyes hablar de salir, divertirse y simplemente desconectar, tu mente los clasifica como perezosos.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the 411. It’s OK to nurture your \u2018go-go-go\u2019 mode as long as it doesn’t reflect on the quality of your life and most importantly, how you perceive your friends.<\/p>\n

People are entitled to have fun and relax after a long, hard day. And the reason why something doesn’t feel right is that you keep denying yourself a much-needed break.<\/p>\n

You’re not eating well<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

You’ve stopped keeping up with your body’s demands. Your diet has become extremely unhealthy and you merely throw stuff in your mouth during your five-minute breaks.<\/p>\n

Tu trabajo (o lo que sea que preocupe tu mente) ha ocupado tanto de tu tiempo que tus h\u00e1bitos alimenticios se han vuelto preocupantes.<\/p>\n

You used to pay great attention to what you put in your body but now, you\u2019re feeling anxious, uneasy and constantly on-the-go that you simply don’t have time anymore.<\/p>\n

It’s time to start prioritizing yourself and your health. Your energy levels will decrease if you keep acting in this self-destructive manner.<\/p>\n

If something feels off in your life, address it. Don’t take it out on your health.<\/p>\n

5 preguntas que debe hacerse cuando nada le parece bien<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que realmente le preocupa?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Todos experimentamos importantes episodios de estr\u00e9s en un momento u otro, pero para llegar al fondo de los problemas es necesario comprender las causas subyacentes.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es lo que te ha estado carcomiendo durante las \u00faltimas semanas o meses? \u00bfHa sido tu pareja t\u00f3xica la que ya no te hace sentir feliz? <\/p>\n

\u00bfEs el ambiente de la oficina y la forma en que sus compa\u00f1eros de trabajo se han comportado con usted? \u00bfSus hijos (si los tiene) le dan ganas de desaparecer a veces?<\/p>\n

Figure this one out and you’ll be closer to your answer.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo te hace sentir esa cosa y puedes influir en ella?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I know that this sounds like such a clich\u00e9 but it’s the natural next step in helping you cope during stressful times.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo te hace sentir esta cosa? \u00bfLe has dado demasiado espacio en tu cabeza? \u00bfPuedes influir en c\u00f3mo dejas que te afecte?<\/p>\n

It’s all about understanding the external factors so that you can influence how they affect you internally. You’d be flabbergasted at how easy it is to simply turn this little voice off.<\/p>\n

Las cosas casi nunca son tan graves como crees y, en \u00faltima instancia, T\u00da eliges c\u00f3mo te sientes al final de todo. Pru\u00e9balo y ver\u00e1s los cambios.<\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son las mejores maneras de manejar esta situaci\u00f3n?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Cuando te encuentres en una encrucijada y no est\u00e9s seguro de qu\u00e9 decisi\u00f3n tomar, preg\u00fantate qu\u00e9 soluci\u00f3n aumentar\u00eda tu calidad de vida.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo te afectar\u00eda cada elecci\u00f3n a largo plazo? Esto es algo que s\u00f3lo t\u00fa sabes y vas a hacer una buena elecci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Just don’t let yourself react impulsively. Always consider the bottom line and go in whichever direction leads you toward it.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Reto de 30 d\u00edas de amor propio: convi\u00e9rtete en la mejor versi\u00f3n de ti mismo<\/a><\/p>\n

\u00bfCu\u00e1les son las ventajas y desventajas de su puesto?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Listing the pros and cons has always been my favorite thing whenever I’m facing a dilemma. It’s all organized neatly and making the decision is so much easier.<\/p>\n

\u00bfLos pros superan a los contras? \u00bfPuedes cambiarlo de alguna manera? \u00bfPuede desea <\/i>para cambiarlo?<\/p>\n

Once you’ve gone through the list and fully understand the position you find yourself in, then you can make changes. Why? Because you’ve educated yourself enough to do so.<\/p>\n

Nunca tomes decisiones importantes en un ataque de ira. Rel\u00e1jate, espera, haz tu lista y considera racionalmente tus opciones. <\/p>\n

\u00bfPersigue lo imposible?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When something doesn’t feel right, we immediately feel like giant changes are needed. But are they really?<\/p>\n

Listen, sometimes you’re just doing the best with what you’ve got. Sure, there are always ways in which you can improve, as listed above but sometimes, we tend to chase the impossible.<\/p>\n

You’re probably wondering what the hell I’m talking about. It’s simple. Perfection isn’t real. Nobody has it all figured out and nobody’s exempt from feeling overstretched at times.<\/b><\/p>\n

But that doesn’t mean that you’re doing something wrong. It just means that your current situation isn’t ideal. But this too shall pass.<\/p>\n

If you’ve reflected on tu vida<\/a> and realized that there isn’t much you’d do differently, then just don’t! Your distress will pass and things will start normalizing again.<\/p>\n

When you find yourself chasing after something elusive, hit the brakes. You’re not superhuman, so stop putting unrealistic expectations on yourself.<\/p>\n

And remember…<\/p>\n

“Eventually all things fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moments, and know EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.” – <\/i>Albert Schweitzer<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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