{"id":99899,"date":"2020-09-21T16:08:00","date_gmt":"2020-09-21T16:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=99899"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:07:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:07:10","slug":"cosas-que-hacer-cuando-haces-dano-a-alguien","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cosas-que-hacer-cuando-haces-dano-a-alguien\/","title":{"rendered":"9 cosas que hacer cuando haces da\u00f1o a alguien"},"content":{"rendered":"

Being heartbroken by someone you love is hard. However, if you’re not a bad person or a narcissist, you can also go through a tough time when usted <\/i>herir a otra persona. <\/p>\n

That is exactly what’s going on with you right now. The guilt is killing you because you’re aware of your harmful actions.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about your significant other, a coworker, a friend, or a family member, the bottom line is pretty much the same: You broke your loved one’s heart and you’re looking for ways to fix things.<\/p>\n

Well, you’ve come to the right place where you’ll get all the professional advice you need. Here is exactly how you should behave and what you should do when you hurt someone. <\/p>\n

Remember that you\u2019re a human being<\/h2>\n

\"primer<\/p>\n

First and foremost, you should always keep one thing in mind: You\u2019re just a human being made out of flesh and blood. Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re entitled to do whatever the hell you want.<\/p>\n

However, one mistake doesn’t automatically make you a mala persona<\/a> tampoco. <\/p>\n

The fact is that you\u2019re not a robot or a preprogrammed machine that is not allowed to <\/b>cometer errores<\/b>.<\/b> You might have tried running away from this fact but the truth is that you\u2019re far from perfect. <\/p>\n

You have your set of flaws and whether you like it or not, now is the time to accept them. Knowing this, will make it easier for you to come to terms with the fact that you\u2019re simply sinful, just like the rest of us. <\/p>\n

On the other hand, precisely because you\u2019re a <\/b>ser humano<\/b>Tambi\u00e9n significa que tienes conciencia.<\/b><\/p>\n

Tienes una mente y, por lo tanto, la capacidad de arrepentirte de esos errores y de corregirlos eventualmente. <\/p>\n

Una posici\u00f3n dif\u00edcil, lo s\u00e9. Excepto, que esta misma combinaci\u00f3n de cualidades es lo que te trajo aqu\u00ed en primer lugar. <\/p>\n

It\u2019s what made you hurt the person you love and it\u2019s what made you feel guilty for your actions. <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t defend your wrong action<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

What you did wasn\u2019t right. When you hurt someone who cared for you, you didn\u2019t only cause their heartbreak, you also stabbed them in the back. You violated their trust and you killed their faith in people.<\/p>\n

Therefore, the consequences of your actions are numerous and the pain you\u2019ve caused won\u2019t go away overnight.<\/p>\n

En su lugar, su v\u00edctima tendr\u00e1 que pasar por un proceso de curaci\u00f3n<\/a>. Let\u2019s be real: It\u2019s all your fault.<\/p>\n

Seg\u00fan la mayor\u00eda <\/b>coaches relacionales<\/b>El <\/b>lo peor<\/b> you can do at this point is to try and pretend that you haven\u2019t done anything that wrong.<\/b><\/p>\n

De hecho, defender tus acciones puede ser incluso m\u00e1s doloroso para la v\u00edctima que lo que hiciste en primer lugar.<\/b><\/p>\n

When you do something wrong, you\u2019re the only one responsible for it. There is no point in looking for excuses or justifications.<\/p>\n

Your mistakes are not canceled by the fact that you were \u201cprovoked\u201d to behave like this, that your victim \u201cmade you\u201d hurt them, and so on.<\/p>\n

Tienes que ser lo bastante responsable como para respaldar tus actos, como un adulto de verdad. <\/p>\n

Por favor, evite a toda costa el juego de las culpas.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that the other party is perfect or that they never did anything to hurt you, but this is beside the point; you\u2019re looking for redemption for your harmful behavior. <\/p>\n

La \u00fanica manera de hacerlo es aceptar toda la responsabilidad, sin tratar de eludirla. <\/p>\n

Acknowledge the other person\u2019s emotions<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

What you have to be aware of is that we all have big differences in character. Therefore, someone is not weaker than you just for having a harder time accepting the things you\u2019ve done to them.<\/p>\n

Maybe you wouldn\u2019t be this hurt if you were in their shoes and that\u2019s your right. However, the other person is clearly heartbroken and they\u2019re entitled to feel that way.<\/p>\n

So, please, acknowledge the other person\u2019s emotions, even if you don\u2019t fully understand them. Give them the right to feel sadness and pain.<\/b><\/p>\n

They feel betrayed or disappointed by something you did. It\u2019s just how things are and you don\u2019t have a say in that. <\/p>\n

The worst thing you can do in this case is to try and diminish the other party\u2019s hurt feelings. Don\u2019t even think of accusing them of being too sensitive or overly emotional.<\/p>\n

If you do this, you\u2019ll show that you actually have no remorse whatsoever. You\u2019ll show that you\u2019re only apologizing because it\u2019s the right thing to do, not because you realmente lo siento<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Furthermore, this will be proof that you\u2019re completely unaware of your mistakes. You\u2019re not aware of the magnitude of your actions nor of the effects they had on someone else. <\/p>\n

Ac\u00e9rcate a tu v\u00edctima con la mayor delicadeza posible<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

What you need to know is that your victim\u2019s heart is fragile right now. They have hurt feelings and the last thing they need is someone aggravating their wounds.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you have to approach them as gently as possible. While you’re trying to repair your broken relationship, pay attention to their mental and emotional state. <\/p>\n

No hay peleas, ni gritos, ni juegos de culpas, ni expectativas demasiado grandes. <\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that you should walk on eggshells around them or that you should treat them like a little child.<\/b><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, hay que tener cuidado de no hacer nada que les haga da\u00f1o de nuevo. <\/b><\/p>\n

Yes, you might think that they\u2019re too sensitive now. Nevertheless, don\u2019t forget that you\u2019re the cause of their sensitivity and if you want them to forgive you, you\u2019ll just have to deal with it. <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t rush the process<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you hurt someone you love and want their forgiveness, you\u2019ll probably push them as hard as possible to get it.<\/p>\n

You want them to see how eager you are to come back into their life and you don\u2019t miss any opportunity to reach out.<\/p>\n

Sientes el impulso de llamarles, enviarles mensajes de texto, presentarte en los lugares donde esperas que est\u00e9n o incluso llamar a su puerta. Sin embargo, eso solo puede ser contraproducente. <\/b><\/p>\n

By doing this, you\u2019re putting an unbearable amount of pressure on your victim. You show them that their forgiveness is more important than the way they feel.<\/p>\n

Basically, you\u2019re apologizing because you want to clear your conscience, not because you want them to feel better. <\/p>\n

Consequently, when you pressure your victim, you make them feel guilty. They don\u2019t feel ready to perdonarte<\/a> just yet but can\u2019t seem to get rid of your presence in their life.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, your victim can get angrier at you. You\u2019re not giving them space or time to clear their head and to reach a conclusion.<\/p>\n

Instead, you\u2019re constantly on their back, without any understanding of the way they feel and for the problems they\u2019re facing. <\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, the best thing to do is let time work its magic. Show the other person that you\u2019re there and that you don\u2019t mind patiently waiting for them to be ready for you. <\/b><\/p>\n

Comprometerse con el autoperd\u00f3n y el autocuidado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

While there are people who act as if they didn\u2019t do anything wrong, there are also the ones who beat themselves up too hard.<\/p>\n

Estar aqu\u00ed y buscar cosas que hacer cuando haces da\u00f1o a alguien, claramente te hace parte del segundo grupo. <\/p>\n

Aunque no asumir la responsabilidad de los propios actos no es aceptable, juzgarse con demasiada dureza tampoco es saludable.<\/p>\n

De hecho, lo mejor ser\u00eda encontrar el t\u00e9rmino medio y el equilibrio entre ambos. <\/p>\n

Accept that your behavior was not okay and that it caused someone\u2019s emotional pain, but don\u2019t see it as the end of the world and as something you can\u2019t correct. <\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s: La otra persona puede perdonarte por todo lo que le hiciste. <\/b>After all, that\u2019s what will happen sooner or later.<\/p>\n

No obstante, <\/b>dejarse llevar<\/b> del autojuicio es a\u00fan m\u00e1s importante.<\/b><\/p>\n

Necesitas limpiar tu conciencia y deshacerte de la culpa si quieres preservar tu salud mental y dedicarte a alg\u00fan <\/b>autocuidado<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Beating yourself up and calling yourself a narcissist won\u2019t get you anywhere. <\/p>\n

Every time these negative feelings overwhelm you, remind yourself that they’re completely pointless and will achieve nothing.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t turn back time as much as you might want to, can you? Therefore, you won\u2019t erase your victim\u2019s pain by overthinking your actions. <\/p>\n

Pida otra perspectiva<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

If you feel lost and as though you don\u2019t know what\u2019s the smart thing to do, the best thing is to look for another opinion and perspective. <\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re emotionally involved in this entire situation and you can\u2019t be objective about it, despite all of your efforts.<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re being too hard on yourself. At the same time, there is also a possibility that you\u2019re justifying your actions and looking for excuses for thems.<\/p>\n

De cualquier manera, you\u2019re not being neutral here and neither is your victim. <\/b>They\u2019re the ones hurt in this case and it\u2019s possible that they\u2019re blowing things out of proportion and looking for attention as well.<\/p>\n

Por eso debes acudir a alguien de confianza y contarle toda esta situaci\u00f3n. Elige un amigo honesto, un <\/b>compa\u00f1ero de trabajo<\/b><\/a>, or a family member, even if you\u2019re afraid that they\u2019ll be too harsh.<\/b><\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, eso es exactamente lo que necesitas: Una dura verdad de un ser querido. Necesitas a alguien que te quite las gafas de color de rosa y te haga enfrentarte a la realidad. <\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that they should tell you what to do with your own life or that you should listen to them blindly. Instead, they\u2019re just there to offer you a fresh point of view. <\/p>\n

Just be careful about the ones you tell your secrets to. If you\u2019re not sure whether you have loyal people around you, ask for professional advice. <\/p>\n

No es ninguna verg\u00fcenza hablar con un terapeuta sobre las cosas que te molestan. <\/p>\n

Another great piece of advice is to try walking in your victim’s shoes. Put yourself in their position and look at things from their perspective.<\/p>\n

What do you do when someone hurts you? What’s your first instinct when someone causes you heartbreak? What can they do to fix things? <\/p>\n

Do \u201cthe friend test\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Another great thing you can do is \u201cthe friend test\u201d. This will help you detach from the situation and make it possible for you to move in the right direction.<\/p>\n

Imagine that your friend has the same problem you currently have. They come to you and tell you that they\u2019ve hurt someone they care for deeply. <\/p>\n

They want their forgiveness but don\u2019t know how to get it. They\u2019re also beating themselves up for their mistake. <\/p>\n

Te piden consejo porque conf\u00edan en ti y te consideran una persona sabia e inteligente. \u00bfQu\u00e9 les dir\u00edas?<\/p>\n

Apuesto a que se le ocurrir\u00eda una soluci\u00f3n de inmediato. Les aconsejar\u00edas sobre c\u00f3mo acercarse a su v\u00edctima y les dar\u00edas los pasos exactos que se enumeran aqu\u00ed. <\/p>\n

No s\u00f3lo eso, sino que estar\u00edas lleno de comprensi\u00f3n por tu mejor amigo<\/a>. Hicieran lo que hicieran, les llamar\u00edas la atenci\u00f3n por sus acciones y tambi\u00e9n mostrar\u00edas compasi\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Lo \u00faltimo que har\u00edas ser\u00eda empeorar las cosas juzg\u00e1ndoles y atac\u00e1ndoles. En lugar de eso, les dir\u00edas que no fueran tan duros consigo mismos y que no dejaran que la culpa les comiera vivos.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 te impide tratarte a ti mismo de la misma manera? Al fin y al cabo, deber\u00edas quererte m\u00e1s a ti mismo que a cualquier amigo de este mundo. <\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, por favor, sigue el consejo que le dar\u00edas a tu imaginado <\/b>mejor amigo<\/b> y apl\u00edcatelo a ti mismo. <\/b><\/p>\n

Aprenda de su mal comportamiento<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Finally, even though you can\u2019t change what you\u2019ve done, you certainly can learn from it. Instead of lamenting your past, walk away from it with a dura pero valiosa lecci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Lo que hiciste fue t\u00f3xico. You broke someone\u2019s heart and your actions hurt their feelings. <\/b><\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean that you should turn this into patterns of <\/b>mal comportamiento<\/b>. En lugar de permitir que se convierta en un h\u00e1bito, aprende de tus errores.<\/b><\/p>\n

Promise yourself that that was the last time you displayed that selfish behavior and that from now on, you’ll think about the possible consequences of your actions. <\/p>\n

Tell yourself that that was the last time you didn’t show compassion and that from now on, you\u2019ll always take other people\u2019s feelings into account. <\/p>\n

Para ser sincero, cuando haces da\u00f1o a alguien, probablemente tardar\u00e1s a\u00f1os en recuperar su confianza y volver a unir la relaci\u00f3n rota. <\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you have to start this moment. Show them that you care and that you\u2019re ready to do whatever it takes to come back into their life. Good luck!<\/p>\n

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