{"id":99949,"date":"2020-09-21T18:09:50","date_gmt":"2020-09-21T18:09:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=99949"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:02:49","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:02:49","slug":"dinamica-de-la-relacion-romantica-push-pull","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/dinamica-de-la-relacion-romantica-push-pull\/","title":{"rendered":"4 formas de superar con \u00e9xito la din\u00e1mica rom\u00e1ntica de empujar y tirar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Por muy emocionantes que parezcan las relaciones de tira y afloja, lo cierto es que no son sostenibles a largo plazo. <\/p>\n

Antes de que te des cuenta, este tipo de romance arruinar\u00e1 tu salud mental, te agotar\u00e1 emocionalmente y te incapacitar\u00e1 para entablar nuevas relaciones sanas. <\/p>\n

Te ense\u00f1ar\u00e1 que este tipo de comportamiento es normal y distorsionar\u00e1 tu visi\u00f3n del amor. B\u00e1sicamente, dejar\u00e1 da\u00f1os irreparables en toda tu personalidad. <\/p>\n

As\u00ed que tienes dos opciones. O dejar este momento o hacer un \u00faltimo intento para arreglarlo. <\/p>\n

Apparently, you think your relationship is worth saving. Otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be here. <\/p>\n

Pues bien, en ese caso, aqu\u00ed tienes cuatro cosas que debes hacer si quieres superar la din\u00e1mica de tira y afloja en tu romance. <\/p>\n

Aceptar el desacuerdo<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

T\u00fa y tu novio sois polos opuestos<\/a> \u2013 there is no doubt about that. Otherwise, you probably wouldn\u2019t be in this mess, would you?<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, esto es lo que probablemente os atrajo el uno del otro en primer lugar. <\/p>\n

However, after a while, your differences have become a big deal. You have different attitudes, want different things from life, and don\u2019t share the same views on romantic relationships.<\/p>\n

Yes, this is a problem between the two of you. But it\u2019s nothing that can\u2019t be resolved.<\/p>\n

You just have to accept that you\u2019ll never be on the same page regarding some things. You can\u2019t change him nor can he turn you into someone else.<\/b><\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 molestarse en intentarlo? Cr\u00e9eme, solo podr\u00e1s hacer que funcione si aceptas estar en desacuerdo.<\/b><\/p>\n

Instead of trying to change each other\u2019s opinion about literally everything, accept and embrace your differences. You don\u2019t have to be compatible in all aspects of your life. <\/p>\n

Once you do this, I assure you that it will be much easier for you to find the middle ground. This way, you\u2019ll meet each other halfway and your arguments will automatically reduce. <\/p>\n

Medir las p\u00e9rdidas y las ganancias<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in a type of push-pull relationship, breaking up is always an option. In fact, it seems that the chance of you and your boyfriend splitting is constantly hanging over your head. <\/p>\n

It\u2019s just a matter of time before one of you will have had enough of these constant tensions.<\/p>\n

Para evitarlo, poned en la balanza las p\u00e9rdidas y las ganancias. Cada vez que quer\u00e1is pelearos entre vosotros, ordenad vuestras prioridades. <\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 es m\u00e1s importante: permanecer juntos o enfadarse y salirse con la suya? \u00bfTener raz\u00f3n o <\/b>ser feliz<\/b><\/a>? \u00bfQu\u00e9 importa m\u00e1s: tu relaci\u00f3n o tu ego?<\/b><\/p>\n

Estas son las preguntas que ambos deb\u00e9is haceros cada vez que os top\u00e9is con un obst\u00e1culo.<\/p>\n

And if you don\u2019t know the answer, your love isn\u2019t strong enough and it\u2019s best to rather give up on any attempt to save it. <\/p>\n

Compartir la responsabilidad y el poder<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Recuerda una cosa: toda relaci\u00f3n es una calle de doble sentido y tu romance no est\u00e1 excluido. Por lo tanto, es totalmente imposible que una persona tenga siempre la raz\u00f3n o no. <\/p>\n

Por eso, ambos ten\u00e9is que responsabilizaros del estado de vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/b><\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que piensas que tu novio es el \u00fanico culpable, pero cr\u00e9eme, \u00e9l piensa lo mismo de ti. <\/b><\/p>\n

Del mismo modo, tambi\u00e9n es crucial compartir el poder. Est\u00e1 claro que ninguno de los dos es capaz de ser <\/b>sumisa<\/b><\/a>, so you have to reach a compromise in which you\u2019re both completely equal partners.<\/b><\/p>\n

A good suggestion is to take turns on the throne. For example, you can make all the decisions and be in charge one week. However, you have to follow your boyfriend\u2019s lead for the next.<\/p>\n

This way, you\u2019ll both feel equally important and leave the power struggle behind. All you have to do is stick to the arrangement without looking for loopholes. <\/p>\n

Identifique sus errores<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

One thing\u2019s for certain: This kind of a relationship dynamic is not how things should roll.<\/p>\n

Now that you know it\u2019s at least partially your fault, it\u2019s time to focus on your mistakes and wrongdoings, while your boyfriend does the same. <\/p>\n

Instead of pointing fingers and naming each other\u2019s flaws, you both need to focus on yourselves. <\/p>\n

More importantly, do your best to find the cause of this behavior. For some reason, you\u2019re both attracted to these kinds of relationships. <\/b><\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1s luchando contra la inseguridad? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 te atrae tanto no saber a qu\u00e9 atenerte?<\/p>\n

Where did you learn that this kind of behavior pattern is acceptable? Is the thrill of the push-and-pull relationship something you\u2019d consciously choose over the peace a healthy romance brings?<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, \u00bfqu\u00e9 puedes hacer para cambiar todo esto? \u00bfQu\u00e9 puedes hacer para cambiarte a ti mismo?<\/b><\/p>\n

T\u00f3mate un tiempo para reflexionar sobre cada una de estas preguntas. Una vez que tu pareja y t\u00fa encontr\u00e9is las respuestas, discutidlo juntos e intentad encontrar una soluci\u00f3n permanente.<\/p>\n

Even though all of this sounds like a lot of hard work, it can be done, if your will is strong enough. I won\u2019t lie to you, it won\u2019t be easy and it\u2019ll take a while before you see any significant progress. <\/p>\n

Pero si t\u00fa y tu pareja compart\u00eds el amor verdadero, todo este proceso ser\u00e1 pan comido para vosotros. Tened fe el uno en el otro y vuestro romance saldr\u00e1 con vida.<\/p>\n

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As exciting as push-and-pull relationships seem to be, the truth is that they\u2019re not sustainable in the long run.  Before you know it, this kind of romance will ruin your mental health, emotionally exhaust you, and make you incapable of building new, healthy relationships.  It will teach you that this type of behavior is normal…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":99954,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-99949","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/4-Ways-To-Successfully-Overcome-The-Push-Pull-Romantic-Relationship-Dynamic.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/99949","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=99949"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/99949\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/99954"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=99949"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=99949"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=99949"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}