1. You are trying too hard.
Men and women work on different levels. He might be into you but he is still not making long-term plans that include you. On the other hand, you can imagine your ‘forever’ with him. Even though we hate to admit it, women tend to get a little ahead of themselves.
It’s better to let everything fall into place naturally. Build your relationship gradually. Let him know that he is important to you but don’t exaggerate with emotional displays, as this is the most common reason why men pull away early stages.
2. You put him on a pedestal.
Love plays tricks on us so it can lead us to think that the man we are with is the closest thing to perfection that we will ever come across. Every time you see him he gets more handsome, way smarter and so much more appealing. This can also make you feel a bit insecure and it gives you that feeling that you are not good enough and you should reach that kind of perfection.
First of all, he might be the most amazing man alive but he is not perfect. Nobody is. You shouldn’t give him the impression that you are going to stay no matter what. Regardless of how much you care for him, you should expect him to admire and appreciate you as much as you do him. Second and last of all, you are more than enough, so don’t ever think otherwise.
3. You bend over backward to please him.
It’s nice to do something nice for someone and show them you care but when you are in love, you can tend to overdo it. It’s especially bad if you are doing all the work and investing in that person and in your relationship and it’s not reciprocated. So you come out looking desperate or a pushover and that’s not appealing to anyone.
We should have someone who will reciprocate everything we have to give. Also, you need to back off a little to let men raise their game and try a bit harder. If they get everything served on a platter to them, they won’t even bother to make any effort. Make him earn his place in your life.
4. You spend your time obsessing about him.
Female problem number #1 is overthinking everything about a guy, about every possible situation that happened and that might happen in the future. The old ‘What if I had said or done something differently? Would the outcome be different?’ Which leads to over-analyzing his words and giving them some greater meaning.
Most men are simple—they say what they mean without any deeper meaning. By overthinking and over-analyzing and sharing that with the person we are involved with, we only achieve in suffocating them. The best thing to do here is relax. Take it one step at a time. Things will work out as they are supposed to.
5. You give too much too soon.
It’s not just if you get into bed with him too soon, it’s also showing your emotions too soon. It’s good that he knows you like him but you don’t have to tell him that every single day as he will probably take your feelings for granted. Most likely he’ll think that he can come and go as he pleases and that you’ll always be there.
The best thing here is to follow his lead and adjust your pace. Take it one step at a time and see what happens. If he is the right guy he will meet your feelings at some point. Men sometimes need more time than women to see where they are.
6. You choose emotionally unavailable men.
If it seems like all your past relationships look alike, the problem might be that you fall for the same type of man over and over again. You keep choosing men who keep you close enough to hold on to them but distant enough when it comes to any greater feelings or commitment.
These kinds of relationships can be the source of your part-time happiness but it never works in the long run; they only lead to disappointment. Wait for someone who is ready to give you everything.