{"id":100443,"date":"2020-09-24T11:46:22","date_gmt":"2020-09-24T11:46:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=100443"},"modified":"2021-08-12T06:34:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T06:34:25","slug":"cose-che-non-credero-mai-piu-sullamore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/cose-che-non-credero-mai-piu-sullamore\/","title":{"rendered":"4 cose che non creder\u00f2 mai pi\u00f9 sull'amore"},"content":{"rendered":"

Prima di sperimentare il mio primo colpo di fulmine<\/a>Avevo una percezione completamente diversa dell'amore e delle relazioni sentimentali. Alcuni direbbero che idealizzavo entrambi, mentre altri avrebbero potuto definirmi stupida o sciocca.<\/p>\n

Ebbene, con il tempo tutto questo \u00e8 cambiato. La realt\u00e0 mi ha colpito duramente e mi ha aiutato a vedere alcune verit\u00e0 che hanno aperto gli occhi.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me; I still have an enormously strong faith in love. However, there are some things I\u2019ll never believe about it again.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 sempre sufficiente<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Quando ero pi\u00f9 giovane, vedevo l'amore in modo diverso. Lo vedevo come una forza onnipotente che poteva sconfiggere chiunque e qualsiasi cosa, ma che non poteva mai essere sconfitta.<\/p>\n

You know, like in fairy tales, where the prince loves the princess and the evil stepmother or witch can\u2019t do them any harm, despite all of their attempts.<\/p>\n

Nobody asks them if they\u2019re compatible or whether they have similar world views. Nobody wonders whether they can handle each other\u2019s emotional baggage or whether their past traumas are in sync.<\/p>\n

No, i protagonisti si sono solo visti ed \u00e8 stato pi\u00f9 che sufficiente per innamorarsi a prima vista. Ma non solo: \u00e8 stato sufficiente per farli vivere per sempre felici e contenti.<\/p>\n

Beh, io sciocco ho immaginato la vita reale in modo molto simile. Pensavo che l'unica cosa che contasse fosse l'amore che condividevo con il mio partner.<\/b><\/p>\n

Finch\u00e9 ci amavamo, potevamo superare ogni ostacolo. Avremmo dovuto avere una comprensione infinita e la capacit\u00e0 di perdonare, a prescindere da tutto.<\/b><\/p>\n

Until life showed me otherwise. Taught by experience, now, I see things differently. Now I know that real love isn\u2019t as powerful as I considered it to be.<\/p>\n

Ora so che ci sono cose come il rispetto, l'impegno, il compromesso e la compatibilit\u00e0 che devono andare di pari passo con le emozioni.<\/p>\n

Cambia le persone<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The next misconception I no longer believe in is that love changes people. Guess what? It doesn\u2019t, it never did and it never will.<\/p>\n

I thought to myself that if he loved me that much, it would be no trouble for him to get rid of some of his negative personality traits. He\u2019d work on his flaws once he saw that his behavior was harming me.<\/p>\n

I hate to be the one to burst your bubble but trust me, it\u2019s way better to learn from my mistakes.<\/p>\n

If you keep on waiting for a guy to miraculously turn into the man you need him to be, you\u2019ll just waste years of your life.<\/b><\/p>\n

The worst part is that you\u2019ll never get the desired final result. Remember one thing: your love and effort can\u2019t change a man<\/a>.<\/p>\n

In sostanza, avete due opzioni. Si pu\u00f2 accettare una persona per quello che \u00e8 realmente oppure allontanarsi in tempo.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not saying that you have to accept everyone\u2019s personality just because it\u2019s who they are. It\u2019s perfectly acceptable to have standards.<\/p>\n

However, if a man doesn\u2019t fulfill your deal-breakers, don\u2019t fall for his potential.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t think about the person he can become. Instead, just leave before it\u2019s not too late to do so without any emotional consequences for either of you.<\/p>\n

Trust me, it\u2019s the only thing you should do.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s blind<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Il vero amore dovrebbe essere cieco, giusto? Una volta che ci si innamora di qualcuno, si indossano immediatamente gli occhiali rosa e si vede che ha zero imperfezioni.<\/p>\n

Well, this is false. Yes, this might be true at the beginning of your romance but at this stage, you can\u2019t call this sensation love; instead, it\u2019s more of an infatuation and affection.<\/p>\n

Later on, whether you like it or not, you\u2019ll start noticing your partner\u2019s imperfections. Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019ve stopped loving him; it just means that you\u2019re not blind.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

If it\u2019s real, it will last forever<\/h2>\n
\"coppia<\/figure>\n

Infine, ero solita pensare che ogni vero amore avesse un lieto fine. Lo vorrei!<\/p>\n

Pensavo che l'universo facesse in modo che tutte le coppie che si amano veramente finissero insieme.<\/p>\n

Years or even decades may pass but at the end of the day, they\u2019ll wake up next to each other, even if it\u2019s in a retirement home.<\/p>\n

Almeno, io credevo che non si smettesse mai di amare veramente qualcuno per cui si provavano forti sentimenti. Se le emozioni che provi per loro si affievoliscono, \u00e8 solo un segno che non le hai mai amate davvero.<\/p>\n

How romantic of me to think that way. It\u2019s even cheesy and pathetic. Yes, it would be nice if the first part of the story was true. However, life showed me that things don\u2019t actually work that way.<\/p>\n

First of all, many true loves don\u2019t have a happily ever after. <\/b>Nevertheless, that doesn\u2019t make them any less real.<\/p>\n

D'altra parte, \u00e8 sicuramente possibile <\/b>smettere di amare<\/b><\/a> qualcuno che un tempo si amava.<\/b> Nevertheless, that doesn\u2019t mean that your love for them was something weak or insignificant.<\/p>\n

Call me a cynic but I prefer the word realist. Trust me; these are all harsh truths not many have the courage to accept. However, it\u2019s better to face them in time, before you run into any disappointments.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Before I experienced my first heartbreak, I had completely different perceptions of love and romantic relationships. Some would say I idealized both, while some might have even called me stupid or foolish. Well, all of that changed with time. Reality hit me hard in the face and it helped me see some eye-opening truths. Don\u2019t…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":100445,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-100443","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/4-Things-Ill-Never-Believe-About-Love-Again.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100443","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=100443"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100443\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/100445"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=100443"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=100443"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=100443"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}