{"id":10169,"date":"2017-12-13T10:18:49","date_gmt":"2017-12-13T10:18:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10169"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:41:16","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:41:16","slug":"7-segnali-dallarme-di-abusi-domestici-silenziosi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/7-segnali-dallarme-di-abusi-domestici-silenziosi\/","title":{"rendered":"7 segnali di allarme di un abuso domestico silenzioso"},"content":{"rendered":"

As much as we would like to ignore it, domestic abuse is real and it\u2019s happening every day. We could be victims without even knowing it, or maybe ignoring it, because not everyone is strong enough to walk away from their abuser.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the person we fell in love with, it\u2019s the person we dedicated our life and time to, and it\u2019s simply impossible to deal with the fact that they\u2019re abusing us. How could they? We were in love once. We\u2019re still in love.<\/p>\n

Abuse comes in different ways and forms, but some warning signs are always the same. And if you\u2019re wondering if you\u2019re being abused, there\u2019s a high chance that you might be.<\/p>\n

The only person that can answer to that question is you, but to help you get there, we\u2019ve gathered some of the most common warning signs of silent domestic abuse.<\/p>\n

1. You\u2019re not upset to argue with your partner\u2014you\u2019re scared<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Being upset about argument is okay. You\u2019re upset that the person you love is angry with you. You\u2019re upset that you\u2019re hurt. But if you have a reason to be scared, that\u2019s no longer a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re more scared of him flipping out, maybe even hitting you, perch\u00e9 rimani?<\/a> Ask yourself: \u201cDo you really deserve to be with someone who scares you?\u201d<\/p>\n

2. You fear your partner\u2019s reaction more than the situation you\u2019re in<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Whether it was being late to dinner due to traffic, getting your car bumped or any other minor inconvenience, you\u2019re afraid how your partner will react instead of any other consequence it has on you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re supposed to feel safe in your relationship, instead of worrying all day what could be waiting back home. You should be worrying about your life, instead of about his reactions and his feelings.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re thinking more about how not to piss him off than you\u2019re thinking about what\u2019s best for you. And that would be leaving him.<\/p>\n

3. There\u2019s no trust<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Many relationships fail because there\u2019s no trust. But if he\u2019s constantly making you feel guilty for not trusting him and demands your trust, but he has not given you any reason to trust him, and instead he violates your trust repeatedly, that\u2019s also a form of abuse.<\/p>\n

La fiducia va guadagnata, non chiesta. Questa relazione senza fiducia ha davvero un futuro o state solo rimandando l'inevitabile?<\/p>\n

4. Vi sentite come se aveste bisogno della loro approvazione in ogni momento<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n

Checking on your partner\u2019s opinions is important in a relationship, but simply because you care for them and you value and respect their opinion.<\/p>\n

You see each other as equals, but at the end of the day, you\u2019re doing what\u2019s best for you after all. But, if you feel like constantly needing their approval for every little thing you\u2019re doing and if you\u2019re passing up great opportunities for yourself just because he might be unhappy, angry or upset\u2014STOP.<\/p>\n

You got here all by yourself, not needing his approval when you were building yourself up. You don\u2019t need it now. You\u2019re an donna straordinaria, forte e intelligente<\/a> who can do it on your own. There\u2019s no need to put your life on hold for some man who won\u2019t do the same for you.<\/p>\n

5. Vi sentite pazzi a causa loro<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

Il gaslighting \u00e8 una forma di abuso in cui una persona cerca di manipolare l'altra persona distorcendo e piegando la verit\u00e0 per sostenere il proprio punto di vista.<\/p>\n

It could manifest in a form of lying straight to your face or convincing you to believe you\u2019re wrong when you know you\u2019re right. If you start feeling crazy because you don\u2019t even know what you said anymore and who you trust, try to see what lead you here.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s the reason why you\u2019re feeling so insecure and crazy all of a sudden? You could find all the signs pointing to your partner.<\/p>\n

6. Vi sentite tagliati fuori dai vostri amici e familiari<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

When we fall in love with someone, it\u2019s normal that we want to spend every single minute together, but with time, it wears off. If he NEEDS to see you, to be with you, and guilt trips you to give up on going out with your friends, that\u2019s unhealthy behavior.<\/p>\n

\u201cI made the choice, he never asked me to.\u201d But why did you make it in the first place? If you were looking forward to seeing your friends\/family but gave up at the last minute, ask yourself why you did it.<\/p>\n

What was the reason you stayed at home with him\u2014again? Guilt tripping is also a form of abuse, and this one sticks with you for a long, long time.<\/p>\n

7. Quando si combatte, si cerca l'uscita pi\u00f9 vicina.<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

You might brush this off like: \u201cI\u2019m being irrational and silly. He would never hurt me.\u201d<\/p>\n

But if you\u2019re constantly on edge during an argument, and you\u2019re planning your escape route, that could be your gut telling you-you’re not safe.<\/p>\n

That could be your gut telling you what you don\u2019t want to hear, what you refuse to admit. If you find yourself on edge during your next argument, maybe it\u2019s time to look for that one final exit.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As much as we would like to ignore it, domestic abuse is real and it\u2019s happening every day. We could be victims without even knowing it, or maybe ignoring it, because not everyone is strong enough to walk away from their abuser. It\u2019s the person we fell in love with, it\u2019s the person we dedicated…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":10209,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10169","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/john-towner-133387.jpg",800,560,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10169","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10169"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10169\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10209"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10169"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10169"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10169"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}