{"id":10420,"date":"2020-03-07T12:12:59","date_gmt":"2020-03-07T12:12:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10420"},"modified":"2021-08-12T09:40:08","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T09:40:08","slug":"lettera-aperta-uomo-ferito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lettera-aperta-uomo-ferito\/","title":{"rendered":"Lettera aperta all'uomo che mi ha fatto del male"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ogni giorno penso che non pu\u00f2 andare peggio di cos\u00ec. Sono sceso il pi\u00f9 in basso possibile. Ma poi il terreno si apre di nuovo e mi inghiotte ulteriormente.<\/p>\n

Mi hai messo tu l\u00ec. Mi hai scavato la fossa, mi hai seppellito vivo. Continui a tirarmi addosso le tue stronzate. Altre bugie, altre verit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been screaming for a long time. I found anger that I never knew I had. Una rabbia che ho imparato da te.<\/b><\/p>\n

Mi sembrava che nulla potesse migliorare la situazione. Non c'era nessuna spiegazione, niente che mi aiutasse a capire come e perch\u00e9 avevi fatto tutto questo.<\/p>\n

Hai scelto questo.<\/b> Hai scelto di ferirmi ogni giorno, con le tue parole, con le tue azioni.<\/p>\n

Each day that you didn\u2019t tell me of your betrayal. Two years of my life based on an illusion. I felt robbed.<\/p>\n

Like someone had stolen my time and energy, stolen my love. I gave you everything I had when it wasn\u2019t even yours to get. Non sei mai stato mio<\/a>Non per un momento.<\/p>\n

But in the midst of my pain, I forgot that no one will suffer as much as you will now. Now that you have finally accepted what you\u2019ve been, and how you\u2019ve treated everyone who was close.<\/p>\n

You will have to live with yourself, with the emptiness and regret. And that saddens me, it scares me, it makes me feel sorry for you. You caused the damage and now you\u2019re trying to pick up the pieces.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Non ho mai voluto che tu soffrissi da solo.<\/b> Ho sempre voluto coltivare il buono che c'\u00e8 in te. Volevo far emergere l'uomo che hai sempre voluto essere.<\/p>\n

And now I have done, even though I wasn\u2019t there to do it. Pushing me away left you alone and forced you to confront yourself. It finally made you want to change.<\/p>\n

Le mie preghiere sono state esaudite in un modo che mi ha lasciato completamente a pezzi. Ma se cambia la vostra vita, se inverte i vostri anni di sofferenza, allora ne \u00e8 valsa la pena.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m glad for the good that has come from it. There is comfort in seeing myself as a martyr and that my pain isn\u2019t for nothing.<\/p>\n

The last step I can take to help you is to tell you\u2026 Ti perdono.<\/b> Ti perdono perch\u00e9 finalmente ho capito che le persone ferite fanno male alle persone.<\/p>\n

Mi hai ferito perch\u00e9 avevi paura. Perch\u00e9 la felicit\u00e0 ti \u00e8 sempre crollata addosso.<\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec si rimane un passo avanti: si distrugge da soli. Si gode di questo controllo perch\u00e9 almeno si \u00e8 fatta una scelta.<\/p>\n

I was the thing you destroyed, when all I wanted was to build that happiness in your life. But that\u2019s because you\u2019re hurt, it is not my fault. And although that doesn\u2019t make anything better, it allows me to move forward.<\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s difficult. Pensavamo di essere anime gemelle<\/a>che saremmo stati insieme per l'eternit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

But we must accept that the time we had was all we were destined to have. Not a moment less or more. I guess we will always be connected in our trauma. You brought out a pain in me that I hope never surfaces again when I\u2019ve healed.<\/p>\n

Take this and continue to learn from it. Don\u2019t let me suffer in vain. I will have to reshape myself, a me without you.<\/p>\n

Ho fatto s\u00ec che la mia vita ruotasse intorno all'aiutarvi, al sostenervi, all'amarvi. Ora il mio lavoro \u00e8 finito. E devo trovare chi sono senza questo.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve been in a state of constriction for years, reducing you to nothing.
\nDa qui si pu\u00f2 solo espandere. Accoglietela.<\/strong><\/b><\/p>\n

da Hidden Treasure<\/em><\/b><\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Each day, I think, it can\u2019t get worse than this. I\u2019ve gotten as low as I could. But then the ground opens up again and swallows me further. You put me there. You dug my grave, you buried me alive. You keep throwing your bullshit at me. More lies, more truths. I\u2019ve been screaming for…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":77766,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10420","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/An-Open-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Hurt-Me.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","parent":29651,"count":207,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29653,"category_count":207,"category_description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","cat_name":"letters","category_nicename":"letters","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10420","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/41"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10420"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10420\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/77766"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10420"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10420"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10420"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}