{"id":104908,"date":"2020-10-19T11:12:07","date_gmt":"2020-10-19T11:12:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=104908"},"modified":"2022-01-11T00:10:32","modified_gmt":"2022-01-11T00:10:32","slug":"chiedere-rispetto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/chiedere-rispetto\/","title":{"rendered":"Chiedere rispetto o cercare di controllarti? Ecco la differenza"},"content":{"rendered":"

Il vostro partner vi mette costantemente le parole in bocca? Vi manca di rispetto davanti agli altri? Vuole conformare le vostre azioni alla sua volont\u00e0?<\/p>\n

Maybe they do something more subtle like make comments on your clothing choices or bring up things they don\u2019t like about your friends and family in a way that implies you should reconsider your relationships with them.<\/p>\n

Sound familiar? Some of these things can look like advice and care but often, they\u2019re not so well-intentioned.
\nThere\u2019s a difference between someone showing you respect and letting yourself be controlled.<\/p>\n

Respect doesn\u2019t compromise your personal freedom. Control, on the other hand, wants to restrict it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Il rispetto sta dicendo,<\/strong> Capisco che le nostre posizioni sono diverse, non sono d'accordo con la tua decisione e quindi la penso diversamente, ma \u00e8 una tua scelta.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Il controllo sta dicendo,<\/strong> You can\u2019t do that because it\u2019s not good for you, you should do it my way.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ci sono molti punti di vista diversi quando si tratta di questo argomento. Ad esempio, i partner possono avere idee diverse su cosa significhi mostrare rispetto.<\/p>\n

Un partner pu\u00f2 percepire il fatto di lasciare vestiti sparsi per casa come un segno di mancanza di rispetto, mentre un altro potrebbe interpretarlo come un tentativo di controllo.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Un partner pu\u00f2 percepire la mancanza di parole di affermazione o di lode come un segno di mancanza di rispetto, mentre un altro potrebbe trovare strano che qualcuno abbia bisogno di tali affermazioni.<\/p>\n

Ecco perch\u00e9 la comprensione \u00e8 cos\u00ec importante. Prima di tutto, dobbiamo capire cosa significa il rispetto per l'altra persona e poi dobbiamo trovare un modo di implementare nella relazione<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Without respect, there\u2019s no close relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Alcuni dei pi\u00f9 comuni modelli comportamentali di controllo che possono essere mascherati da preoccupazione o richiesta di rispetto sono i seguenti:<\/p>\n

Isolamento dalle altre persone della propria vita, quindi dagli amici e dalla famiglia.<\/strong> Come ho gi\u00e0 detto, questo \u00e8 uno dei maggiori segnali di un partner veramente controllante.<\/p>\n

They might do it subtly because it will be disguised as a concern but what they actually do is strip you of support that isn\u2019t them.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easier to control a person when there\u2019s nobody they can go to or trust.<\/p>\n

Condizioni.<\/strong> Crazy conditions are another way of controlling a person. \u201cI would love you so much more if you (riempire lo spazio vuoto<\/em>).\u201d<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Using guilt can also be easily used in this manner, especially in a way that they do something very extra and grand for you and then accuse you of being ungrateful and selfish if you don\u2019t consent to doing something they ask of you.<\/p>\n

Critica costante.<\/strong> Unfortunately, many people don\u2019t realize how toxic this behavior is, especially because it starts as \u2018help\u2019 to make you a better person or something similar.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re getting criticized for everything you do all the time, that\u2019s abuse. People with low confidence are especially prone to believing that something\u2019s wrong with them while they\u2019re just being themselves.<\/p>\n

Questo pu\u00f2 lasciare enormi cicatrici emotive in una persona.<\/p>\n

Minacce di qualsiasi tipo.<\/strong> There\u2019s no place for threats in a healthy relationship. From threats to deprive you of something basic to threats to leave you without a home or kids and suchlike.<\/p>\n

Ficcanaso e gelosia.<\/strong> This one is self-explanatory. It shows a lack of trust and it violates the other person\u2019s boundaries.<\/p>\n

Schifo e ridicolizzazione.<\/strong> If your partner shames you or ridicules you because of your opinions and views, for example on a religious, cultural or political matter, that\u2019s very wrong and shouldn\u2019t be thought of as normal.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s okay to have a discussion and to disagree but it\u2019s not okay to bully another person just because you have different views.<\/p>\n

Conclusione<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s generally relatively easy to tell apart controlling behavior and asking for respect based on how you feel doing something. You shouldn\u2019t ignore your gut feelings.<\/p>\n

Alla base di tutto dovrebbe esserci sempre un senso di pace e di soddisfazione, anche se non si \u00e8 d'accordo con qualcosa.<\/p>\n

Se vi sentite costantemente spaventati, feriti o imbarazzati, allora qualcosa deve cambiare. Dovete imparare a stabilire dei limiti e a comunicarli al vostro partner.<\/p>\n

Respect is vital for any relationship and that\u2019s why it needs to be clearly addressed without holding back, as does behavior that makes you uncomfortable.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Does your partner constantly put words in your mouth? Disrespects you in front of other people? Wants to conform your actions to their will? Maybe they do something more subtle like make comments on your clothing choices or bring up things they don\u2019t like about your friends and family in a way that implies you…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":104910,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-104908","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Asking-For-Respect-Or-Trying-To-Control-You-This-Is-The-Difference.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104908","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=104908"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104908\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/104910"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=104908"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=104908"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=104908"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}