Silly me didn\u2019t only settle for breadcrumbs of his love. Instead, I was even happy that I\u2019d managed to make such an unattainable man mine \u2013 although he never truly was.<\/p>\n
Ero cos\u00ec grata per ogni briciola di amore che mi dava. Ogni sorriso, ogni bacio, ogni messaggio era cos\u00ec speciale per me perch\u00e9 proveniva da una persona che ovviamente non era in grado di amare.<\/p>\n
I won\u2019t lie to you. I felt miserable most of the time. I wanted out but I just couldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n
Inoltre, mi stava dando quanto bastava per tenermi al suo fianco. Quanto basta per risvegliare in me la speranza e impedirmi di andarmene.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ll be honest here. This entire scenario turned me into a naggy kind of a woman. Instead of changing my situation, all I did was complain about not being able to change him.<\/p>\n
Cos\u00ec, l'altro giorno, \u00e8 iniziato il nostro solito litigio. Gli ho detto che mi dava fastidio la poca attenzione che mi dava.<\/p>\n
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I told him frankly that I felt unloved and unwanted. I said that I felt like he couldn\u2019t care less whether I stayed or left.<\/p>\n
Mi sono lamentata di come non abbia mai fatto nulla di concreto per tenermi al suo fianco. Non ha mai mosso un dito per il bene della nostra relazione, mentre io muovevo montagne per noi due.<\/p>\n
E sapete come ha risposto? Mi ha detto, \u201cWhat more do you want from me? I\u2019m doing everything I can.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n At that moment, it hit me: This was really this guy\u2019s maximum. He\u2019ll never try harder and this is all I\u2019ll ever get from him.<\/p>\n Era davvero convinto che una relazione dovesse funzionare cos\u00ec. Pensava davvero di essere il fidanzato perfetto.<\/strong><\/p>\n After all, he wasn\u2019t cheating on me (as far as I knew) and he wasn\u2019t physically abusing me. According to him, that should do it.<\/p>\n Mi sono chiesto se questo fosse sufficiente per me. Ero pronto ad accontentarmi di queste briciole per il resto della mia vita?<\/strong><\/p>\n It didn\u2019t take me long before I came up with an answer: NO, and it never will be.<\/strong><\/p>\n So, what exactly was I doing next to this man? He won\u2019t change, my criteria won\u2019t change. Consequently, the only logical solution is that we\u2019d have to part ways before it\u2019s too late.<\/p>\n Proprio cos\u00ec, questa frase mi ha schiarito le idee. Mi costrinse a togliermi gli occhiali rosa e a vedere, per la prima volta, le cose come erano realmente.<\/p>\n Somewhere, I read that there are 20 steps between two people. Well, for all of these years I was making 19 and he wasn\u2019t ready to make just one towards me.<\/p>\n You\u2019re probably thinking to yourself that he didn\u2019t say anything awful. This wasn\u2019t a big deal and I was just making unnecessary drama.<\/p>\n But trust me, this sentence really was huge. And I\u2019m thankful to my ex for saying it out loud.<\/strong><\/p>\n Sapete perch\u00e9? 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