{"id":10508,"date":"2017-12-18T10:25:52","date_gmt":"2017-12-18T10:25:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10508"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:36:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:36:47","slug":"6-segni-evidenti-di-una-relazione-codipendente-superati","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/6-segni-evidenti-di-una-relazione-codipendente-superati\/","title":{"rendered":"6 segni evidenti di una relazione di dipendenza e come superarla"},"content":{"rendered":"

Una causa molto comune di relazioni malsane \u00e8 la codipendenza. Il problema della codipendenza \u00e8 che non \u00e8 facile da individuare. Spesso le persone sembrano non essere disposte ad ammettere di averla o non riescono a riconoscerne i sintomi. Il modo migliore per iniziare \u00e8 determinare cosa sia effettivamente la codipendenza.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as \u2018relationship addiction\u2019<\/strong> because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and\/or abusive.\u201d <\/em>MHA<\/p>\n

Mi sono imbattuta per caso in queste righe e poi ho iniziato a indagare pi\u00f9 a fondo. Mi sono resa conto che anch'io sono stata codipendente una volta e che, se l'avessi saputo, sarebbe stato molto pi\u00f9 facile superarlo.<\/p>\n

Alcuni dei sintomi principali erano presenti: Avevo una relazione tossica. Ero eccessivamente indeciso. Ero molto consapevole di me stessa e insicura. Sentivo che era mia responsabilit\u00e0 aiutarlo ad affrontare i suoi problemi. Trascuravo completamente la mia vita a causa dell'amore che provavo per lui.<\/p>\n

It was all about him. I was non-existent in that relationship and I didn\u2019t mind. My only goal was to meet his needs. To make him happy. To see him. To obsess over where he was and what he was doing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ho sopportato molto. Era violento. Mi metteva sempre in difficolt\u00e0, mi chiamava per nome. Era sempre il re del castello e io ero la sua umile serva. Questa sarebbe stata l'immagine appropriata di me all'epoca.<\/p>\n

I tolerated it all till the point that he became physically aggressive. I am ashamed to admit that I also put up with that for some time, until I realized that I was on a road that would destroy me. I had to admit to myself that I was better off without him, but it\u2019s hard for an addict to to give up on their addiction.<\/p>\n

It took me a while but I managed. It\u2019s a bit funny when I look back at it now but I actually felt like I put myself through the recovery process of overcoming codependency. The first step of admitting that you have a problem is the hardest part of that but then it all gets a bit easier.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I wanted to share with you the most usual signs that you are in a codependent relationship and to give you some advice on how to overcome it.<\/p>\n

1. I suoi bisogni vengono prima di tutto e voi ignorate i vostri.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Vi preoccupate costantemente di ci\u00f2 che gli piace o non gli piace. Se fate questo o quello, lui approverebbe? Rimandate i vostri interessi, sogni e desideri per adattarli alle sue esigenze e preferenze. Cominciate a perdere il senso di voi stessi nell'amarlo.<\/p>\n

Innanzitutto, dovete rendervi conto che in una relazione sana i partner sono alla pari e non c'\u00e8 bisogno di grandi sacrifici e di perdere se stessi nel processo di amare qualcun altro. Dovete prendere la vostra vita nelle vostre mani e dovete essere la persona pi\u00f9 importante della vostra vita.<\/a> Solo quando inizierete a farlo, avrete una relazione felice e sana.<\/em><\/p>\n

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\"Giovane<\/p>\n

2. Vi sentite responsabili del suo comportamento o delle sue emozioni.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

He\u2019s had a bad day and he takes it out on you. It had nothing to do with you yet you still feel responsible. You start asking yourself if it was something that you\u2019d said or done and you automatically put the burden of guilt on your shoulders.<\/p>\n

You are not God and you can\u2019t control other people\u2019s behaviors or emotions or lack of them. If somebody snaps at you for no reason, don\u2019t jump to conclusions and blame yourself. It is something that is up to the other person to deal with on their own. By focusing on him, you lose track of your own feelings and that\u2019s something you have to change. Focus on yourself.<\/em><\/p>\n

3. Confondete amore e ossessione.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

You constantly wonder what your partner is doing when he is not around, whom he follows on social media, what he thinks about when he is silent and gloomy and says everything\u2019s OK. You overthink every move he makes. You would like to have insights into his mind and emotions. That\u2019s obsession, not love.<\/a><\/p>\n

Love is trust and giving space to one another. Love doesn\u2019t control or obsess. You have to realize you are on the wrong path that will only leave you miserable. You have to make a change. You need to have a bit of faith in yourself to be able to trust your partner. If you are with the wrong partner, this advice will help you in your future relationships.<\/em><\/p>\n

4. Lui vi tratta male e voi continuate a tollerarlo.<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n

He is abusing you. Sometimes physically but usually emotionally because it\u2019s harder to detect. He hurts you by using words. He manipulates you and makes you feel like you are not enough. He uses your insecurities against you. Your compassion and feelings for him are making you stay.<\/p>\n

Non tollerate mai di essere trattati male. La cosa migliore da fare \u00e8 andarsene senza voltarsi indietro. Potrebbe non essere facile, ma ne varr\u00e0 la pena, ve lo garantisco.<\/em><\/p>\n

5. Vi preoccupate troppo di cose che non sono sotto il vostro controllo.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Per quanto vi piaccia, vorreste essere in grado di controllare ogni situazione e il suo esito. Vorresti risparmiargli ogni situazione negativa. Passate le notti a pensare e a preoccuparvi di tutto tranne che di voi stessi. Il risultato \u00e8 che siete stressati.<\/p>\n

What is important here is to realize that not everything is in your hands. Life doesn\u2019t always go smoothly, it has its ups and downs. You won\u2019t be able to prevent him from worrying about them in advance. You have to take things as they come and deal with them then.<\/em><\/p>\n

6. Siete voi a dare il massimo.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Prendersi cura di lui \u00e8 quello che fai. Continuate a dare senza ricevere nulla in cambio. In seguito, vi sentite arrabbiati, risentiti o sfruttati. A volte aiutare e prendersi cura degli altri vi fa sentire necessari e vi piace, altre volte vi fa sentire arrabbiati ed esausti. Ma la maggior parte delle volte non ne parlate e vi tenete tutto dentro.<\/p>\n

This behavior is just going to make you insane sooner or later. You have to take care of yourself first. You shouldn\u2019t feel like giving your best is a burden. Of course, it will be if your efforts are not reciprocated. You need to discover self-love and then find a man who will be willing to invest in a relationship as much as you do.<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A very common cause of unhealthy relationships is codependency. The trouble with codependency is that it is something that is not easy to detect. People often seem to be unwilling to admit that they have it or they fail to recognize the symptoms. The best way to start is with determining what codependency actually is….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":10517,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10508","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/neil-fedorowycz-469549.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10508","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10508"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10508\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10517"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10508"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10508"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10508"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}