{"id":105472,"date":"2020-10-23T13:53:57","date_gmt":"2020-10-23T13:53:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=105472"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:08:14","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:08:14","slug":"non-voglio-una-chimica-forzata","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-voglio-una-chimica-forzata\/","title":{"rendered":"Non voglio un'intesa forzata, voglio una connessione pura e semplice"},"content":{"rendered":"

Is it really chemistry if it’s forced?<\/em> I thought to myself while I was revisiting the last conversation with the guy I liked\u2026 or I thought I liked.<\/p>\n

It’s not that there was something wrong with him, it’s just that it didn\u2019t feel genuine.<\/p>\n

You know, he didn\u2019t make me uncontrollably think about him.<\/p>\n

He didn\u2019t make me daydream of our potential dates or forget about that banana bread in the oven.<\/p>\n

Non c'era nulla che mi facesse venire voglia di immaginare la nostra futuro insieme<\/a> o pensare ai nomi dei nostri figli inesistenti. E onestamente, questo mi ha infastidito.<\/p>\n

I know I\u2019m not 18 anymore and I know life isn\u2019t a fairytale \u2013 I\u2019m not being hysterical here \u2013 but knowing how unglamorous life is, IS the reason I want something extraordinary.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not talking about a perfect life, but genuine connection.<\/p>\n

Una vera comprensione, un'ossessione di entrare nel profondo di qualcuno che ami perch\u00e9 ti affascina cos\u00ec tanto.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Voglio studiarli come un libro religioso. Voglio imparare a memoria la mia persona.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about the decisione<\/em> not to get bored with someone because boredom only means you\u2019ve dare per scontato qualcosa<\/a>sia che si tratti di una persona o di una giornata poco stimolante.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re bored, it means you\u2019re not paying attention.<\/p>\n

I witnessed some very magical things in my life and I know love is real, and that\u2019s why I will never give up, which brings me back to that something that bothered me in my last quasi relazione<\/a>.<\/p>\n

What bugged me most was probably the fact that I just didn\u2019t feel comfortable enough around him. It still bugs me.<\/p>\n

That doesn\u2019t mean one of us had done something wrong, just that there probably was no deeper connection.<\/p>\n

I believe my intuition wouldn\u2019t lie to me when it comes to this kind of stuff.<\/p>\n

Anche il mio cervello si poneva domande come: Volete davvero passare un numero imprecisato di anni della vostra vita sentendovi cos\u00ec?<\/em><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

My immediate answer was no. No, I don’t want to feel like a half-finished painting. I don\u2019t want to feel like I’m missing out.<\/p>\n

E s\u00ec, so che la paura di perdersi \u00e8 una malattia di oggi, ma ascoltatemi.<\/p>\n

If I’m about to share my life and my body with someone for the rest of my life, I want that connection to be raw.<\/p>\n

Senza filtri. Senza editing, senza tab\u00f9, senza censure, senza vetri smerigliati.<\/p>\n

Voglio che mi veda cos\u00ec come sono. Voglio sentirmi abbastanza sicura da comportarmi in modo selvaggio o da essere completamente vulnerabile.<\/p>\n

Of course, there\u2019s that one part of me that tells me I need to lower my expectations, but then there\u2019s another that yells at me saying: Don\u2019t settle for less than YOU think you deserve.<\/em><\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, abbiamo una sola vita, e se questa affermazione a volte sembra una pressione, altre volte \u00e8 una rivelazione.<\/p>\n

No, I don\u2019t want forced chemistry. I don\u2019t want something that\u2019s going to disappear after the fase di luna di miele<\/em>.<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to constantly remind myself that \u201cthings could\u2019ve been worse.\u201d<\/p>\n

I want things to be \u201cworse\u201d and still feel completely content with my decision. I want to go through \u201cworse\u201d with the persona giusta<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The raw connection is felt on the soul level. It\u2019s not calculated by how comfortable your life will be with someone.<\/p>\n

In effetti, il comfort \u00e8 probabilmente la via pi\u00f9 veloce per raggiungere l'insoddisfazione in una relazione.<\/p>\n

Without challenges and growth, there\u2019s no real freedom \u2013 and freedom is love.<\/p>\n

Per essere felici, abbiamo bisogno di sperimentare l'amore che desideriamo<\/a>. Per sperimentare l'amore che desideriamo, dobbiamo essere autentici.<\/p>\n

In altre parole, dovete agire su voi stessi per attrarre la persona che vi amer\u00e0 per questo.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s a raw connection.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s something you deserve and why you shouldn\u2019t stop saying to yourself: Don\u2019t settle for less<\/a><\/em>.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Is it really chemistry if it’s forced? I thought to myself while I was revisiting the last conversation with the guy I liked\u2026 or I thought I liked. It’s not that there was something wrong with him, it’s just that it didn\u2019t feel genuine. You know, he didn\u2019t make me uncontrollably think about him. He…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":105508,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-105472","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/I-Dont-Want-Forced-Chemistry-I-Want-Raw-Connection.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105472","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=105472"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105472\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/105508"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=105472"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=105472"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=105472"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}