My man loves me. He really loves me. In fact, when we got our tattoos together, the tattoo artist looked at us and said, \u201cYou guys are like gag me kind of cute.\u201d<\/p>\n
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In ogni caso, era il suo modo di fare un complimento e lo abbiamo apprezzato. Tuttavia, abbiamo molto amore l'uno per l'altro<\/a> e si vede facilmente.<\/p>\n C'\u00e8 una cosa, per\u00f2, che quando lo faccio, Daniel si spegne completamente. Naturalmente l'amore c'\u00e8 ancora, ma forse non l'attrazione.<\/p>\n For women, we don\u2019t even think twice about it because for some of us it\u2019s so normal. The one thing that is a complete turn-off to him is when I criticize myself or exacerbate my insecurities.<\/p>\n It\u2019s when I try on a new pair of jeans in front of him and just give myself this disgusting look in the mirror\u2014wishing I looked a different way in them. It\u2019s when I spend some time getting ready for a night out and when I walk around the corner, getting ready to leave, and he smiles at me and says, \u201cWow honey, you look beautiful,\u201d and I reply with, \u201cWell this is as good as it\u2019s going to get.\u201d Or, \u201cThanks, but I feel really fat in this top.\u201d<\/p>\n He just rolls his eyes and we go on with the evening. If you think about it, it\u2019s not really fair because when he shows his admiration toward me and I shoot it down with a look, or another comment that dismisses his, it\u2019s disrespectful. At times he has told me, \u201cIt makes me feel like you don\u2019t believe what I am saying.\u201d<\/p>\n The truth is though, that I do believe that HE sees it. At times I just can\u2019t see it for myself. We\u2019re human and we\u2019re going to have insecurities but when it\u2019s frequent it starts to really take a toll on our men (and on us).<\/p>\n When I told my husband last night that I was going to be writing this article, he expanded a little bit on his thoughts. He said, \u201cWe already have you. When men are dating you or married to you we already know how unsexy you can be at times and we know how gorgeous you are in all your forms. There\u2019s no reason for you to feel insecure around us<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n His words, \u201cWe already have you\u201d were ringing through my head. This really resonated with me because oftentimes I feel as if I have to keep being perfect for his love but the opposite is true. Oftentimes when we\u2019re the most un-perfect is when they love us the most. Like all the times I would be crying like a baby, all my make-up running down my face, and he looks at me with those non-judgmental eyes, just pure love. Or the times when I have my hair in a messy bun, chilling on the couch with my raggy old shirt when he comes home from work\u2014heyyy there sexy.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong, I still want to dress up, look nice and take care of myself but at the end of the day it has to be for ME\u2014not him. Men are so much more attracted to us when we own who we are, love every piece of us, even the times when we feel the most ugly and insecure. They cannot be the ones to \u2018fix\u2019 us. We\u2019re the ones who have to look at ourselves in the mirror and say, \u201cOkay, this is it today and this is enough. I am enough.\u201d<\/p>\n Le nostre voci interiori di scoraggiamento, paura e insicurezza saranno ancora presenti, ma quando ci concentreremo di pi\u00f9 sulla spaziosit\u00e0 di noi stessi e sulla bellezza che abbiamo dentro, allora le voci cominceranno a svanire sullo sfondo.<\/p>\n Anche se per gli uomini questo pu\u00f2 essere l'ultimo dei motivi di disaffezione, dovrebbe essere il massimo della disaffezione<\/a> anche alle donne. Quando la sensazione di insicurezza inizia a sorgere dentro di voi, sorridete. Sappiate che siete 100% umani e 0% le bugie che ci raccontiamo. Potete anche ridere un po', sapendo che siete bellissimi.<\/p>\n