{"id":111708,"date":"2020-11-09T13:04:04","date_gmt":"2020-11-09T13:04:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=111708"},"modified":"2022-02-27T03:28:07","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T03:28:07","slug":"come-iniziare-ad-amare-se-stessi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-iniziare-ad-amare-se-stessi\/","title":{"rendered":"Come iniziare ad amare se stessi in 10 modi rivoluzionari"},"content":{"rendered":"

L'amore \u00e8 l'emozione pi\u00f9 bella di tutte. Tuttavia, per quanto sia sorprendente essere aperti di cuore verso gli altri, la domanda pi\u00f9 importante del mondo \u00e8: come iniziare ad amare se stessi?<\/p>\n

When you have a hard time caring about yourself, nothing else in your life can go right. You have zero self-confidence, you feel no security and at the end of the day, you don’t live a happy life.<\/p>\n

Tutti continuano a parlarne. Ovunque si guardi, si leggono e si sentono cose che ricordano l'importanza dell'amore per se stessi.<\/p>\n

So, you’re perfectly aware that you have to start giving yourself more love. However, nobody actually tells you how to start loving yourself.<\/p>\n

Beh, nessuno tranne noi.<\/p>\n

Ecco una guida passo passo al vostro viaggio nell'amore per voi stessi e la risposta alla domanda come amare se stessi<\/a> di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n

Dimenticatevi di essere perfezionisti<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The number one reason why most people don\u2019t love truly themselves is the fact that they’re perfectionists.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me; trying to improve yourself and putting effort into your own personal development and personal growth is admirable.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che non si pu\u00f2 mai diventare perfetti, per quanto ci si sforzi, quindi, per favore, smettete di aspettarvi di essere i migliori in tutto ci\u00f2 che fate.<\/p>\n

In fact, there is no such thing as being perfect. You\u2019re just a human being made of flesh and blood, just like any other person in this world.<\/p>\n

Tutti noi abbiamo una serie di difetti e non ha senso stressarsi per ognuno di essi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, cosa significa essere perfetti? Voi o qualsiasi altra persona al mondo avete la stessa visione della perfezione? Scommetto di no.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The thing is that you have to stop wasting your precious energy on trying to achieve something that is unattainable. Go easy on yourself and don\u2019t try going on a wild goose chase.<\/p>\n

Instead of focusing on poor choices, concentrate on all the things you have done well. Stop looking for your own flaws and start observing yourself as someone worthy of everyone\u2019s admiration.<\/p>\n

Accettazione di s\u00e9<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to start loving yourself or how to love yourself more, firstly, you have to accept your true self. Before anything else, begin with knowing who you really are.<\/p>\n

What are the parts of you that you truly consider to be yours? What are the traits others imposed on you but you\u2019ve actually never accepted? Who are you and who do you want to be? How do you see yourself?<\/p>\n

Siete la persona che avreste voluto diventare per tutta la vita? E soprattutto, che tipo di persona vorreste essere se tutto dipendesse da voi?<\/p>\n

Well, guess, what? It all really does depend on you. In fact, you\u2019re the only person who needs to accept all of your qualities and flaws.<\/p>\n

To practice self-love is about self-acceptance. It’s not denying any parts of your personality.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You know how you don\u2019t laugh as loud as you would just because your partner doesn\u2019t like it? How you stopped wearing that colorful shirt just because your family thought it wasn\u2019t appropriate?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time to stop pretending to be someone you\u2019re not. Dig deep inside of you and ricordare la ragazza o il ragazzo che eri un tempo<\/a>. Amate le vostre imperfezioni nello stesso modo in cui amate i vostri lati positivi. Sapete perch\u00e9?<\/p>\n

Because they all form one amazing person\u2014YOU.<\/p>\n

Remember: you\u2019re one of a kind. In a million years, there won\u2019t be someone the same as you so what\u2019s there not to love about this uniqueness?<\/p>\n

Forget about society’s validation<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Now that you\u2019ve done the hard part, it\u2019s time to stop comparing yourself to others as well. Guess what? You\u2019ll never please everyone around you so you might just as well stop trying. This is one of the best recipes for an vita pi\u00f9 facile<\/a>. <\/p>\n

If your parents don\u2019t see you as good enough, they\u2019ll never appreciate you or see your worth, regardless of how much effort you put into trying to change their opinion.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, you might be the best possible person to them but maybe your partner has some expectations you can\u2019t seem to fulfill.<\/p>\n

Il punto \u00e8 che, qualunque cosa facciate, ci sar\u00e0 sempre qualcuno che vi dir\u00e0 che dovreste fare le cose in modo diverso.<\/p>\n

The truth is that you can spend your entire life worrying about other people\u2019s opinions but even then, you won\u2019t change them and you won\u2019t succeed in making everyone love you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The first thing you have to do if you plan on forgetting about unrealistic society\u2019s expectations is to get rid of all of your social media accounts.<\/p>\n

Se questo \u00e8 impossibile, vi prego almeno di capire che quasi tutto ci\u00f2 che si trova su Facebook e Instagram \u00e8 falso.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, I know exactly how you feel. You go on your news feed and you automatically get the impression that all your friends are better in this game called life.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re of a certain age, you\u2019re expected to have it all figured out. It seems that everyone has graduated, started a family, has a happy love life and so on. Everyone except you.<\/p>\n

Tutti viaggiano, vanno in palestra, perdono peso e vivono la loro vita migliore. Tutti tranne voi.<\/p>\n

Naturalmente, quando ci si confronta con gli altri, ci si vede come il pi\u00f9 grande fallimento in assoluto. Sapete perch\u00e9 \u00e8 cos\u00ec?<\/p>\n

Because you keep limiting yourself by what is expected of you. You don\u2019t go after your desires; you\u2019re trying to fulfill society\u2019s standards.<\/p>\n

Who told you that there is a certain age by which you have to have a steady job? Who says that you have to get married? That\u2019s right, nobody. So please, forget about this nonsense and live your life the way you want.<\/p>\n

Dopo tutto, l'obiettivo \u00e8 rendere felice se stessi, non la societ\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Abbracciare la gratitudine<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Knowing this, you\u2019re probably wondering what the key to happiness is. Well, nobody can give you a concrete answer to this question but I can guarantee that gratitude is one of the most important ways to get there.<\/p>\n

A prima vista, si potrebbe pensare che le persone pi\u00f9 felici abbiano tutto, ma posso dirvi che la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 ben diversa. Al contrario, le persone pi\u00f9 felici sono semplicemente grate per tutto ci\u00f2 che hanno.<\/p>\n

After all, nobody has it all, therefore what you should do is embrace gratitude. I promise you that once you do, you\u2019ll grow to love your own life more and eventually, you’ll start this self-love journey.<\/p>\n

Most of the time, you\u2019re focused on the bad things around you. Well, for a change, try and look at things from a different perspective.<\/p>\n

Maybe you can\u2019t save enough money to decorate your house but hey, at least you have a home, don\u2019t you? Maybe you are not happy with your current career choice but you do have a job, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me, this is not me advising you to remain stuck in your comfort zone for the rest of your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m not telling you to ditch personal development, not to follow your dreams or to stop aspiring for greater things.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead, I\u2019m just begging you to stop paying so much attention to the things you want to change and instead, be thankful for all of your blessings.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Be grateful that you\u2019re alive and be grateful if you\u2019re healthy. You\u2019re surrounded by those who care for you and no matter what happens, tomorrow is always a new day.<\/p>\n

Credetemi, questo da solo \u00e8 molto di pi\u00f9 di quanto molte persone possano anche solo sognare di avere.<\/p>\n

Cambiare la percezione di s\u00e9<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Before getting the answers to your questions of how to start loving yourself and how to love yourself more, you have to get to the bottom of this question: Why don\u2019t you love yourself in the first place? Lucky for you, I have the answer to this one too.<\/p>\n

Vedete, il problema principale \u00e8 che avete una scarsa considerazione di voi stessi. Forse vi rifiutate di ammetterlo, ma la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 molto evidente.<\/p>\n

Obviously, you consider yourself unlovable. You are convinced that you\u2019re not worthy of anyone\u2019s love. Your inner voice is telling you that you’re not attractive, smart, intelligent or interesting enough for anyone to love you.<\/p>\n

Puoi negarlo quanto vuoi, ma sai che \u00e8 cos\u00ec che ti senti con te stesso.<\/p>\n

Per cambiare le emozioni negative \u00e8 necessario cambiare la percezione di s\u00e9. Dovete rafforzare la vostra autostima e ricordare a voi stessi che siete davvero degni e preziosi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Easier said than done, I know. Wouldn\u2019t it be perfect if you could snap your fingers and start seeing yourself in a different light, just like that?<\/p>\n

However, this change requires time. It requires you to get out of the box you\u2019ve put yourself in and to eventually start seeing all of your qualities.<\/p>\n

Per cominciare, iniziate un'abitudine straordinaria: il diario. Ogni sera, prima di andare a dormire, scrivete almeno cinque cose che vi hanno fatto sentire orgogliosi di voi stessi.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Write down five good things you\u2019ve done that day or the right choices you\u2019ve made. This doesn\u2019t have to be anything spectacular, as any milestone will do the trick.<\/p>\n

Ad esempio, si pu\u00f2 registrare che ci si \u00e8 alzati in tempo per andare al lavoro, senza dover affrettare la routine mattutina, o che, tanto per cambiare, si \u00e8 pranzato in modo sano.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, fatevi un paio di complimenti e scriveteli.<\/p>\n

You can add some things such as the fact that you were calm enough not to respond to your co-worker\u2019s nasty look, that you smelled great or that you were extra funny today.<\/p>\n

The list is endless but I\u2019m sure you know where I\u2019m going with this.<\/p>\n

At first, remembering five good things will be difficult. However, with time, you\u2019ll even start to increase the number of compliments and the praise you give yourself.<\/p>\n

Quindi, la prossima volta che sentite di amarvi meno di quanto dovreste, fate un po' di autocritica. Rileggete il vostro diario dell'amore per voi stessi, leggete tutte le cose belle che avete fatto in quei giorni e fatevi dei complimenti.<\/p>\n

In questo modo, la vostra immagine di s\u00e9 inizier\u00e0 a cambiare, senza che ve ne accorgiate. La fiducia in se stessi salir\u00e0 alle stelle e l'amore per se stessi arriver\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Tagliate fuori le persone tossiche<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Per ottenere una risposta alla domanda su come iniziare ad amare se stessi, \u00e8 necessario trovarsi in un ambiente amorevole.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s impossible to care for yourself in a proper way if you\u2019re surrounded by hatred, pessimism and negative thoughts and people.<\/p>\n

Therefore, please cut off anyone who doesn\u2019t mean you well.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Regardless of whether these toxic people are your family or friends you\u2019ve known your whole life, if they don\u2019t send you positivity, it\u2019s time for them to go.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Basically, what I\u2019m advising you is to get rid of everyone who doesn\u2019t truly love you. You see, you\u2019re going through a sensitive time right now. You\u2019re easily subjected to other people\u2019s opinions and impressions of you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s actually pretty simple; if you surround yourself with people who think poorly of you, you\u2019ll adopt their opinions.<\/p>\n

If you surround yourself with those who keep you sending you the message that you\u2019re not meant to be loved, you\u2019ll start considering yourself not worthy of love.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you\u2019re constantly in the company of people who see all of your value, you\u2019ll start believing it as well.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in the company of those who think highly of you, after a while, you\u2019ll begin looking at yourself through their eyes as well.<\/p>\n

Abbracciare la cura di s\u00e9<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019re a great friend, co-worker or sibling and an even better son or daughter.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re always full of understanding about everything your loved ones do, you put a lot of effort into making them happier and you do everything in your power to help them out when they need it.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s an amazing trait, I won\u2019t argue against that. However, having all of this in mind, I can\u2019t help but wonder: What exactly is stopping you from treating yourself the same way?<\/p>\n

Why do you engage in that much self-criticism, self-loathing and self-doubt but you’re not like that where everyone else is concerned?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re being honest, you\u2019ll admit that you treat everyone else around you better than you treat yourself. Why is that so? Does that mean that you love all of them more than you love yourself?<\/p>\n

Why not engage in a little experiment. Try imagining that you\u2019re your own best friend.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What would you tell that friend, if they came to you and told you that they don\u2019t love themselves? What would you tell them if they made a mistake?<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Li accusereste di essere un fallimento o dareste loro la rassicurazione di cui hanno disperatamente bisogno?
\nCosa direbbe loro se fossero affrontare una rottura<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Would you rub salt into the wound by telling them that they\u2019re good for nothing and that nobody else would ever love them?<\/p>\n

Or would you tell them that they\u2019re better off single and that they should be happy about getting rid of their toxic ex?<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to answer any of these questions because I already know which options you\u2019d choose. So, why don\u2019t you start telling yourself each one of these lines?<\/p>\n

These double standards don\u2019t end there. Let\u2019s imagine that it\u2019s your best friend\u2019s birthday. I bet that you would do anything to get them the perfect gift.<\/p>\n

Spendereste tutti i soldi e il tempo del mondo solo per vederli felici.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, non trattate mai voi stessi allo stesso modo. Raramente fate qualcosa per compiacere voi stessi.
\nWell, it\u2019s about time to change that. I\u2019m begging you, start pampering yourself, the way you pamper others.<\/p>\n

Amare il proprio corpo<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be real here; you can\u2019t love your mind and emotions unless you love the physical part of yourself as well. Regardless of how you feel about it, your body is a part of you.<\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not here to tell you to lose weight and to become a supermodel because that\u2019s not a path to self-love. The truth is that you should try to get in shape but your health should be the number one reason to do so.<\/p>\n

Instead, I\u2019m here to beg you to start loving your body, to ask you to embrace all of your physical imperfections, the same way you should do with all the personality traits you don\u2019t like.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can undergo all the plastic surgery and aesthetic treatments in the world but if you don\u2019t teach yourself to be happy in your own skin, you\u2019ll keep finding new flaws nobody else even notices.<\/p>\n

Your nose will always be too big, your mouth too small and your teeth never white enough. What I\u2019m trying to say is that loving your body means accepting it instead of changing it.<\/p>\n

Of course, that doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t do anything about the things that can easily be changed and that you don\u2019t like about yourself.<\/p>\n

For example, if you are really bothered about that extra fat you\u2019ve got on your stomach, start exercising.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, before you do it, ask yourself: Am I the one who can\u2019t stand seeing those extra pounds on me or do I want to get rid of them to be more likable to others?<\/p>\n

Essere egoisti<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Being egocentric is a negative trait. Everyone applauds those who are kind and emphatic. However, there is a thin line between being nice and being a fool and you\u2019re on the verge of crossing it.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me, I know that your loved ones are significant to you. Nevertheless, that doesn\u2019t mean that you should allow them to use you whenever or however they like.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, i loro bisogni e desideri non possono mai essere pi\u00f9 importanti dei vostri.<\/p>\n

THEY can\u2019t be more important than you to you. Instead, you have to ask how to love yourself first. No, this is not a toxic trait, it\u2019s the way in which we should all behave.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re your own number one priority and everyone else comes second. Your mental health, energy and emotions are the things that have to concern you the most.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Please, stop feeling guilty for not being at everyone\u2019s disposal 24\/7. Don\u2019t beat yourself up just because you don\u2019t feel like going out with your BFF tonight or for choosing yourself over your siblings.<\/p>\n

Remember this: All the relationships in your life can come and go. The heck with it, it\u2019s even possible to break ties with your closest family members.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, l'unica relazione da cui non si pu\u00f2 sfuggire \u00e8 quella con se stessi.<\/p>\n

Tenere a cuore quel rapporto non \u00e8 affatto egoistico. Prendersi cura di s\u00e9 non \u00e8 egoistico. Soprattutto, amare se stessi pi\u00f9 di chiunque altro non \u00e8 certo da egoisti.<\/p>\n

Lasciare andare il controllo<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to start loving yourself, one of the things you simply must do is stop being a control freak. As much as you try, you simply can\u2019t be in charge of everything.<\/p>\n

Che vi piaccia o no, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che non tutto pu\u00f2 essere nelle vostre mani. Non avete il controllo su come si comportano gli altri.<\/p>\n

In realt\u00e0, nella maggior parte dei casi, non avete nemmeno il controllo sulle cose che vi accadono e non avete il controllo della vostra vita.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, \u00e8 evidente che lei ha difficolt\u00e0 a rendersene conto. Il pi\u00f9 delle volte si finisce per odiare se stessi per il modo in cui gli altri ci trattano e per le cose che sono fuori dal nostro controllo fin dal primo giorno.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you, you love yourself less because you think that you weren\u2019t enough for them. When you get fired, you love yourself less because you think it was all your fault.<\/p>\n

Well, the only thing you can control is your reactions to other people and events. You can\u2019t choose whether you\u2019ll get betrayed or left behind. Nevertheless, you can choose the way you observe that situation.<\/p>\n

Will you put the blame on yourself and hate yourself for all that has happened? Or will you accept the situation the way it is and invest energy into healing yourself? It\u2019s all up to you!<\/p>\n

Per concludere:<\/h2>\n

Maybe the most significant step in this process is to take things slowly. You\u2019ve figured out how to start loving yourself but that doesn\u2019t mean that you should rush yourself into it.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest; how many years have you spent hating yourself? How much time has passed since you paid yourself a compliment?<\/p>\n

Quanti anni avete passato a sminuire la vostra autostima e a vedervi meno validi di quanto siete in realt\u00e0?<\/p>\n

I bet even you don\u2019t know the number so do you really think it\u2019s possible to annul this entire effect overnight?<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you, making a difference to your feelings is not a piece of cake. Therefore, don\u2019t expect magical changes with the snap of a finger.<\/p>\n

In effetti, la cosa peggiore che si possa fare \u00e8 spingere troppo su se stessi e aspettarsi subito una trasformazione completa. Invece di cercare di fare enormi differenze, fate piccoli passi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

One change at a time is the way to go! Before you know it, you\u2019ll be proud of yourself and of everything you achieved.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, la domanda \u00e8: siete veramente consapevoli di quanto sia fondamentale amare voi stessi?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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