{"id":11216,"date":"2020-08-03T12:07:32","date_gmt":"2020-08-03T12:07:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=11216"},"modified":"2022-01-10T20:43:20","modified_gmt":"2022-01-10T20:43:20","slug":"ha-dato-per-scontata-la-gentilezza","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ha-dato-per-scontata-la-gentilezza\/","title":{"rendered":"Ha dato per scontata la mia gentilezza"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b><i>Ha dato per scontata la mia gentilezza e ha perso la persona che pi\u00f9 gli stava a cuore.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>In the beginning, our love was something everyone else wanted. He listened, he cared, and he would have done anything for me. I fell in love with a kind-hearted and understanding guy, or so I thought\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Lentamente, la sua gentilezza cominci\u00f2 a svanire. Cominci\u00f2 a usare il tipo di persona che ero a suo vantaggio.<\/p>\n<p>He knew me as the person who would apologize for anything and everything. He knew that if he made me feel bad enough for something or twisted my words around to make it seem like it was my fault, I would say \u201csorry\u201d and I did.<\/p>\n<p>Ho chiesto scusa cos\u00ec tante volte per cose per cui non capivo nemmeno di cosa mi stessi scusando. <b><i>Mi sembrava di essere pazzo. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>La cosa peggiore \u00e8 che potevo contare sulle dita di una mano il numero di volte in cui si era scusato con me e lo aveva fatto davvero. Ottenere delle scuse da lui era come tirare i denti. <b><i>Alla fine della giornata ho sempre sofferto di pi\u00f9.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-110243 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone.jpg\" alt=\"una donna triste si siede sul divano e guarda il suo cellulare\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-woman-sits-on-the-couch-and-looks-at-her-cell-phone-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Le sue scuse non significavano nulla, erano solo parole e promesse vuote. <b>.<\/b> He became the type of person that just said things to say them. Even when I knew this, I still tried to believe him\u2026 <i> <\/i><b><i>Speravo che le parole fossero vere.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>I continued to find myself apologizing at the end of any argument of ours. I don\u2019t know how he did it. How he always found a way to flip the situation into being my fault.<\/p>\n<p>Ho lasciato ogni nostra conversazione sentendomi turbata e confusa. <b><i>Ha sempre trovato un modo per <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/6-cose-che-gli-uomini-fanno-sentire-come-se-tu-fossi-pazzo-uno\/\">mi fanno sentire pazzo.<\/a><\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>Mi ha detto che ero egoista e non lo apprezzavo perch\u00e9 i miei standard erano troppo alti. Mi ha detto che a volte ero troppo da gestire perch\u00e9 mi sentivo troppo. Mi ha detto che non avrei mai potuto essere soddisfatta perch\u00e9 non ero mai contenta di quello che avevo.<\/i><\/b><i> . <\/i><\/p>\n<p>When in all reality, it wasn\u2019t my standards that were high; it was my hopes that he could do better. I wasn\u2019t unappreciative of what he did for me, I was unappreciative of the way he treated me. I wasn\u2019t satisfied with what I had because of the lack of effort he put into our relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of reminding him of these things again, I kept my mouth shut and apologized. I did that because I hated fighting and I didn\u2019t want to lose him. <b><i>Ha usato la mia gentilezza a suo vantaggio.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-110244 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind.jpg\" alt=\"la donna abbraccia il suo uomo da dietro\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/the-woman-hugs-her-man-from-behind-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I loved him with every fiber of my being. I would have done anything to make him happy. He knew this\u2014he knew I hated fighting. He knew I couldn\u2019t stay mad at him even when I was hurt. He knew how much I wanted him and he used that to his advantage.<\/p>\n<p>Non si \u00e8 mai sforzato di essere presente nella nostra relazione. Sapeva che c'era e questo gli bastava. <b><i>Ero la sua ultima risorsa e lui la chiamava relazione.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Ha scelto di mettermi in fondo a una piccola scatola e di buttare via la chiave. L'unica volta che la scatola veniva aperta era quando gli faceva comodo. Anche quando apriva la scatola, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/quando-dai-a-un-uomo-tutto-e-lui-non-ha-ancora-la-decenza-di-scegliere-te-2\/\">in genere ha scelto tutti e tutto prima di scegliere me<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>La cosa triste \u00e8 che nei giorni in cui ha deciso di scegliere me, mi sono innamorata di nuovo di lui. In quei giorni sono diventata la persona pi\u00f9 felice del mondo. Giorni come quello mi hanno fatto credere che le cose sarebbero andate di nuovo bene.<\/p>\n<p>Mi hanno dato speranza. La speranza che finalmente avesse ascoltato tutte le nostre conversazioni. La speranza che si fosse reso conto di quanto stesse danneggiando il nostro rapporto.<\/p>\n<p>Hope that he had noticed the lack of effort and communication, he was putting into our relationship. Hope that he was going to change. That\u2019s the crappy thing about hope\u2014 <b><i>quando ti delude, ti <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/love-felt-like-hell\/\">fa un male cane.<\/a><\/i><\/b><b> <\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-110245 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman.jpg\" alt=\"il ritratto di una donna nera triste e preoccupata\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-portrait-of-a-sad-worried-black-woman-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The thought of leaving him crossed my mind many times, but my kind heart knew the man he could be. This hope pushed me into giving him second chances that he didn\u2019t deserve. Fool me twice shame on me, right?<\/p>\n<p><b>Sbagliato, si vergogni. <\/b> Si \u00e8 vergognato di avermi detto che mi amava e che voleva passare il resto della sua vita con me, ma mi ha trattato come una merda.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t get to treat someone you love like that. <b><i>You don\u2019t get to take advantage of a person&#8217;s kindness and then expect them to stay with you.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>At first I thought leaving him meant that I was giving up or wasn\u2019t strong enough to deal with our issues. Then I saw a quote that said, <i> \u201cA person who values you, wouldn\u2019t ever put themselves in a position to lose you.\u201d <\/i> Questo ha colpito nel segno.<\/p>\n<p>Gli avevo dato tutte le opportunit\u00e0 per lavorare sulle cose. Di lottare per me, di lottare per noi. Volevo che lottasse per me, tanto da farmi male all'anima. Nessuna parte di me voleva lasciarlo, nessuna parte di me voleva che la nostra storia finisse.<\/p>\n<p><b>Ho dovuto allontanarmi per <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/0-12322\/do-you-respect-yourself-enough-to-move-on-from-bad-relationships.html\" rel=\"noopener\">salvarmi. <\/a><\/b> Avevo bisogno di salvarmi dal dolore e dalla solitudine che mi stava causando. Ho trovato il coraggio e la forza di allontanarmi da quel pasticcio tossico che chiamavamo relazione.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-110246 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train.jpg\" alt=\"una bruna triste viaggia in treno\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/a-sad-brunette-travels-by-train-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Sono stata pi\u00f9 coraggiosa di quanto lui pensasse. Gli ho dimostrato che aveva perso la possibilit\u00e0 di cambiare e crescere con me. L'aveva persa dandomi per scontata. Pensava che avrei continuato a permettergli di calpestarmi. <b><i> Si sbagliava. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Alla fine, \u00e8 stato lui a mettere il chiodo finale sulla bara della nostra relazione. <\/b> Mi disse una cosa che mi spezz\u00f2 completamente il cuore e che di tanto in tanto riecheggia ancora nella mia testa.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Mi ha detto che sapeva di darmi per scontata, ma non ha mai pensato che fossi abbastanza forte da andarmene, quindi non \u00e8 mai cambiato.<\/i><\/b> .<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Bene,<\/i><\/b> <b><i>look who\u2019s sorry now.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-110247 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Ha dato per scontata la mia gentilezza\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>He took my kindness for granted and lost the one person who cared about him the most. In the beginning, our love was something everyone else wanted. He listened, he cared, and he would have done anything for me. I fell in love with a kind-hearted and understanding guy, or so I thought\u2026 Slowly, his&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":110242,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11216","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/He-Took-My-Kindness-For-Granted-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. 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