{"id":112722,"date":"2020-11-13T19:57:31","date_gmt":"2020-11-13T19:57:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=112722"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:35:49","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:35:49","slug":"larte-di-trovare-una-chiusura","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/larte-di-trovare-una-chiusura\/","title":{"rendered":"L'arte di trovare una chiusura per le vecchie ferite"},"content":{"rendered":"

Qualche giorno fa ha chiamato il mio ex. S\u00ec, il mio ex. Quello che mi ha spezzato il cuore in modo irreparabile, quello che ha lasciato cicatrici incancellabili nella mia anima, e quello che \u00e8 scappato<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I bet you know exactly who I\u2019m talking about. Let\u2019s be real: what woman doesn\u2019t have at least one of these in her past?<\/p>\n

Cosa voleva?<\/em> vi starete chiedendo: \"Che cosa pu\u00f2 volere un uomo tossico come lui dalla donna che un tempo lo amava come se non ci fosse un domani?<\/p>\n

If someone who doesn\u2019t know him had heard our conversation (Yes, I picked up the phone.), they would assume that he was a changed man trying to make things right.<\/p>\n

O forse vuole tornare insieme perch\u00e9 ha finalmente capito che sono la donna dei suoi sogni?<\/p>\n

But, I know him better than that. I know that this was nothing but a desperate attempt to reassure himself that I\u2019m still there.<\/p>\n

An attempt to check whether he\u2019ll rock my world any time he shows up in my life unexpectedly.<\/p>\n

Era il suo modo di vedere se poteva ancora contare su di me. Un tentativo di rafforzare ancora una volta il suo fragile ego e di dimostrare a entrambi che lo aspetter\u00f2 a braccia aperte ogni volta.<\/p>\n

However, that\u2019s not important now. I figured out this man a long ago, and nothing he does or says can surprise me.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ci\u00f2 che mi ha sorpreso sono state le mie emozioni.<\/p>\n

For the first time ever, I didn\u2019t shiver when I saw his number on my phone display.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t feel the butterflies fluttering in my belly, and I didn\u2019t get the urge to run towards him as if nothing bad had ever happened between us.<\/p>\n

This must mean that I\u2019ve moved on from this guy, right? Did I finally smettere di amarlo<\/a>?<\/strong> Il miracolo \u00e8 finalmente avvenuto?<\/p>\n

Could this be true? If it were, I would no longer feel this burning pain somewhere deep inside of me every time I think about everything he\u2019s done to me.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Poi ho capito: I\u2019m over this man \u2013 I\u2019m just not over the pain he\u2019s caused me. My old injuries are still alive, not because I still have feelings for him, but because I never got the closure I needed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ma come si fa a chiudere con qualcuno che ha un punto di vista completamente diverso dal proprio? How can I get an explanation from a man who\u2019s convinced he never caused me any harm?<\/strong><\/p>\n

The answer is: I can\u2019t, and I never will. Instead, I have to write the ending of this chapter by myself. After all, that\u2019s the art of finding closure for old wounds \u2013 you accept that there \u00e8<\/em> nessuna chiusura.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ll never get a logical explanation for everything that went on between us. This man will never give me a valid response to my unanswered questions.<\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll never find out why he feels the need to barge into my life every once in a while. I\u2019ll never know why he didn\u2019t let me go sooner when he knew very well that he could never give me what I wanted.<\/p>\n

The only thing that\u2019s left for me to do is deal with my crap by myself.<\/p>\n

Il primo passo nel mio percorso di guarigione \u00e8 il perdono. Devo perdonarlo per essere stato un idiota che si \u00e8 preso gioco di me, e poi devo perdonare me stessa per aver scelto cos\u00ec male e per essere stata cos\u00ec stupida.<\/p>\n

Ma soprattutto: I have to accept that this guy was never the man I thought he was. He doesn\u2019t have a hidden good side to his personality, no repressed emotions. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Non c'\u00e8 un cuore ben nascosto sotto tutti gli strati di indifferenza e tossicit\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dopo essere riuscita a farlo, devo lasciarlo andare. Devo lasciar andare il ricordo di noi e, soprattutto, devo smettere di essere ossessionata da ci\u00f2 che avrebbe potuto e dovuto essere.<\/p>\n

E poi, I have to stop picking up the phone when the past calls me. It\u2019s a well-known fact that you must keep your wounds clean if you want them to heal properly.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Devo accettare che le cose sono accadute esattamente nel modo in cui dovevano accadere. Nonostante tutto questo, c'\u00e8 una ragione per cui ho preso parte a questa storia velenosa: per imparare una lezione<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A quanto pare, non c'era altro modo per capire che tutte le ferite possono essere guarite. Bisogna solo conoscere il trucco per farlo.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A few days ago, my ex called. Yes, THE ex. The one who broke my heart beyond repair, the one who left unerasable scars on my soul, and the one that got away. I bet you know exactly who I\u2019m talking about. Let\u2019s be real: what woman doesn\u2019t have at least one of these in…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":112728,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-112722","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/The-Art-Of-Finding-Closure-For-Old-Wounds-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112722","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=112722"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112722\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/112728"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=112722"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=112722"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=112722"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}