{"id":112730,"date":"2020-11-13T19:59:08","date_gmt":"2020-11-13T19:59:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=112730"},"modified":"2021-08-30T13:50:54","modified_gmt":"2021-08-30T13:50:54","slug":"peter-pan-femmina","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/peter-pan-femmina\/","title":{"rendered":"Confessioni di una Peter Pan al femminile: Perch\u00e9 mi rifiuto di sposarmi prima della fine della mia seconda pubert\u00e0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sono una donna di 30 anni. E non sono sposata. Anzi, non ho nemmeno una relazione stabile. Che paura deve fare.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The other day I was talking to my grandma, and after I told her that I\u2019m not planning on tying the knot anytime soon, I saw the disappointment in her eyes.<\/p>\n

She didn\u2019t say anything, but she gave me \u201cthe look.\u201d If you are a single woman in your thirties, I bet you know the kind of a look I\u2019m talking about. Basically, she looked at me as she was sorry for me.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me: I know that my Nana loves me to the moon and back. However, the truth is that she doesn\u2019t consider me enough of a woman.<\/p>\n

Dopotutto, devo avere qualcosa che non va. Altrimenti avrei trovato un uomo che mi sposasse secoli fa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She sees past all of my successes. She doesn\u2019t care about my degrees, my career, my charity work, my social life\u2026<\/p>\n

Vede solo una donna infelice e non pi\u00f9 giovane che avrebbe dovuto sposarsi quando ne aveva ancora la possibilit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Reading this, you might assume that my grandma\u2019s generation is the only one to feel this way. Well, I beg to differ.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t care how modern you are; the fact is that you\u2019ll also probably feel sorry for the donne single<\/a> la mia et\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

They won\u2019t say it out loud, but deep down, many people think similarly to my grandma.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t go on and on here about how men and women are treated differently. But, if a guy my age isn\u2019t married or doesn\u2019t date anyone exclusively, he\u2019s a player. He\u2019s a stud no woman has managed to catch just yet.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, most people assume that I\u2019m single because nobody ever wanted to marry me. I already know the jokes: I\u2019ll probably end up dying alone with a bunch of cats, won\u2019t I?<\/p>\n

Bene, the joke is on you because I\u2019m single per scelta<\/a>. Infatti, rifiuto volontariamente e consapevolmente di sposarmi prima della fine della mia seconda pubert\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What is the second puberty? Well, it doesn\u2019t have a lot to do with your actual age. Instead, it is connected with emotional maturity.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m going through my second puberty right now. Simply put, this is the time of my life where I\u2019m figuring out what I want.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most importantly: it is the time in which I\u2019m trying to get to the bottom of who I am, the period when I enjoy my single life, and I\u2019m getting to know the woman I\u2019m growing to become.<\/p>\n

This is the time in which I\u2019m stabilire i miei standard<\/a> and realizing my true values. It\u2019s when I\u2019m spoiling myself, and I\u2019m turning all my dreams into reality.<\/p>\n

It is the period in which I\u2019m becoming emotionally and financially independent.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Most importantly: this is the time when I\u2019m learning how to love myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is the time when I\u2019m accepting the imperfections I cannot change and improving the parts of myself that can be altered.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 il momento dell'auto-miglioramento, dell'auto-riflessione e dell'auto-realizzazione.<\/p>\n

So, guess what? Despite my age, my second puberty still isn\u2019t over. Call me an immature female Peter Pan, but the bottom line is that I\u2019m still not ready to get married.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Truth to be told, I\u2019m not sure I\u2019ll ever be. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t make me a failure, and it certainly doesn\u2019t mean I\u2019m not enough.<\/p>\n

Yes, you heard me right. I\u2019m not a pathetic lady who is desperately trying to trick some poor guy into spending the rest of his life with her.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t feel any less worthy for not having a boyfriend or kids. I don\u2019t feel like I\u2019m missing out on a lot just because I\u2019m going through my life all alone.<\/p>\n

So, please stop valuing me only through my relationship status because it\u2019s the last thing that defines my worth.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I am a 30-year-old woman. And I\u2019m unmarried. In fact, I don\u2019t even have a steady relationship. Boohoo, how scary that must sound. The other day I was talking to my grandma, and after I told her that I\u2019m not planning on tying the knot anytime soon, I saw the disappointment in her eyes. She…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":112735,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-112730","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Confessions-Of-A-Female-Peter-Pan_-Why-I-Refuse-To-Marry-Before-My-Second-Puberty-Ends-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112730","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=112730"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112730\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/112735"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=112730"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=112730"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=112730"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}