{"id":113241,"date":"2020-11-13T20:08:30","date_gmt":"2020-11-13T20:08:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=113241"},"modified":"2021-11-03T15:10:35","modified_gmt":"2021-11-03T15:10:35","slug":"disgusto-di-se-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/disgusto-di-se-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Una guida di sopravvivenza in 16 passi attraverso il disgusto di se stessi"},"content":{"rendered":"

La definizione di autocompatimento<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

According to the self-loathing definition, it is the hatred of yourself. But, it’s not that simple: it’s also a deeply rooted belief that you’re not enough and that you’re not worthy of amore per se stessi<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As a self-loathing person, you’re always in search of your new flaws. You’re overwhelmed with self-doubts and negative thoughts that you simply don’t have the strength to get rid of.<\/p>\n

Pensate a voi stessi come privi di valore, inadeguati e insufficienti. You don’t know what to do with your life<\/a>. You’re convinced that all of your self-hatred is justified and your self-concept is pretty much ruined.<\/p>\n

5 fonti inaspettate di autocompatimento<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Self-hate always has its reasons, even though you don’t have to necessarily identify them right away. To defeat it, you have to get to the bottom of your condition.<\/p>\n

Dovete trovare le cause profonde e il punto di partenza della vostra natura autocritica.<\/p>\n

Trauma passato<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

In most cases, negative thoughts connected with self-loathing don’t appear out of the blue.<\/p>\n

Secondo la psichiatria e la psicologia, questo stato \u00e8 di solito causato da una radicata traumi passati<\/a> di cui forse non siete nemmeno consapevoli.<\/p>\n

Questo sentimento \u00e8 di solito strettamente legato a esperienze infantili negative. Quasi tutte le persone che provano disgusto per se stesse hanno passato tutta la vita ad ascoltare critiche.<\/p>\n

Da quando avete memoria, non siete mai stati abbastanza bravi per i vostri genitori. Forse vi hanno paragonato a un fratello di maggior successo o non hanno mai creduto in voi.<\/p>\n

D'altra parte, anche la vostra storia sentimentale potrebbe avervi provocato disgusto per voi stessi. Se in passato siete stati trascurati emotivamente da qualcuno a cui tenevate profondamente, potreste aver iniziato a rimproverarvi per questo.<\/p>\n

Either way, what\u2019s important for you to realize is that each one of our experiences shapes us into the people we are today.<\/p>\n

You might be convinced that you forgot about a certain trauma but trust me\u2013they\u2019re all deeply inscribed on your mental health.<\/p>\n

Piacere alle persone<\/h2>\n

\"leader<\/p>\n

Qualunque cosa si faccia, non si pu\u00f2 mai accontentare tutti. Quindi, perch\u00e9 disturbarsi a provarci?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time you realize that your people-pleasing traits brought you to this condition in the first place.<\/p>\n

The process is actually pretty simple: you do your best for someone to like you; you go out of your way to please them, and, finally, you don\u2019t get the reaction you were expecting.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t appreciate you the way they should, nor do they love you, despite all of your efforts. As a result, you start to blame yourself for it.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t see the people around you as too demanding. You don\u2019t consider them ungrateful and inconsiderate.<\/p>\n

Al contrario, si detesta se stessi per non essere in grado di soddisfare le loro aspettative irrealistiche. Sembra assurdo, lo so.<\/p>\n

However, if you do some introspection, you\u2019ll begin to admit that this has been going on inside your head for years.<\/p>\n

Ambiente ipercritico<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Whether we like to admit it or not, others have a significant impact on us. After all, we\u2019re all social beings who live in a symbiotic relationship with other people.<\/p>\n

Pertanto, la loro influenza \u00e8 inevitabile. Questo vale soprattutto per i nostri cari.<\/p>\n

Vedete, i vostri pensieri e sentimenti autocritici hanno una fonte.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve spent most of your life around people who made it clear that they don\u2019t think much of you, your self-esteem never had a chance to grow.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re surrounded by those who keep on diminishing your self-worth and who keep on telling you that nothing you ever do is good enough, the consequences will be devastating.<\/p>\n

Knowing all of this, you can\u2019t help but wonder: \u201cDo Odio me stesso<\/a> because of my hypercritical surroundings?\u201d<\/p>\n

To be clear: I\u2019m not trying to free you from responsibility and put the entire blame for your state on someone else.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che l'autocritica a volte appare come il risultato di una disapprovazione.<\/p>\n

Perfezionismo<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The next possible cause of self-loathing is the desire to be perfect. It doesn\u2019t matter if others have imposed this aspiration on you, or you\u2019re the one who is chasing perfectionism on your own.<\/p>\n

The bottom line is the same: every time you notice that your life is not spotless and that you\u2019re not flawless\u2013you begin with self-hatred.<\/p>\n

With time, you\u2019ve adopted the idea that only being the best is good enough. This mindset has inspired you to become better, which is awesome.<\/p>\n

However, on the other hand, it has also taken a negative toll on your emotional and mental health. Basically, you beat yourself up every time you don\u2019t meet your high standards.<\/p>\n

Every time you notice an imperfection in your character or whenever your life doesn\u2019t look exactly the way you want it to\u2013you think of yourself as a failure.<\/p>\n

Standard sociali<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Paragonarsi agli altri \u00e8 un grande no, a meno che non si voglia finire con un sacco di odio verso se stessi e di dubbi su se stessi<\/a>. Tuttavia, questo \u00e8 esattamente ci\u00f2 che fate.<\/p>\n

Quando vi guardate intorno, sembra che tutti abbiano la meglio su di voi. I vostri amici del liceo sono uomini d'affari di successo; alcuni di loro viaggiano in tutto il mondo, i due successivi hanno costruito una famiglia, e cos\u00ec via.<\/p>\n

In ogni caso, hanno tutti un aspetto fantastico e, a quanto pare, stanno vivendo la loro vita migliore.<\/p>\n

Almeno, questo \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che si ha la possibilit\u00e0 di vedere sui loro profili sui social media o quando li si incontra. Vedete amici e sconosciuti che hanno sempre il sorriso sulle labbra.<\/p>\n

Poi si guarda da vicino la propria vita con tutte le sue imperfezioni. Ci si guarda allo specchio, si scrivono i propri successi su un foglio di carta e cosa si conclude?<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re miserable compared to them. Consequently, your feelings of worthlessness trigger a depressive episode.<\/p>\n

All of a sudden, your inner critic wakes up as you realize that you’ll never be able to meet these social standards. You’ll never be as attractive, as smart, or as successful as what is expected of you.<\/p>\n

7 sintomi di una mentalit\u00e0 di autodisprezzo<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Well, to do something about your self-hate, first of all, you have to be sure that you’re a self-loathing person. Now that you\u2019re confident about the meaning of self-loathing and its causes, it\u2019s time to look at the symptoms.<\/p>\n

Autocritica<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When you define self-loathing, you’ll connect it with self-criticism and negative self-talk that influences your salute mentale<\/a> negativamente.<\/p>\n

You’ve spent most of your life thinking negatively about yourself, your actions, and your choices.<\/p>\n

Whatever you do\u2013someone else could have done it better. Whatever you accomplish\u2013you could have done better.<\/p>\n

Sounds familiar, right? No matter what happens in your life, you’re always to blame for all the negative consequences, which eventually awakened your desire for self-harm.<\/p>\n

When you come to think about it, you don’t treat others this way. When someone else makes a mistake, you are ready to stop them from feeling responsible.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, quando si tratta della vostra vita, vi trasformate improvvisamente nel pi\u00f9 grande critico.<\/p>\n

L'amore severo per se stessi<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When you use tough love on someone, you don\u2019t let them get away with mistakes. You know what they are capable of, and you don\u2019t allow them to do anything below their real abilities.<\/p>\n

Basically, you act harshly and treat them as if you don\u2019t love them to inspire them to do better. You\u2019re a jerk to them so they can take responsibility for their lives and so you could help them in the long run.<\/p>\n

Well, in your case, you\u2019re not applying the concept of tough love to your relationship partner, a friend, or a sibling\u2013you\u2019re doing it to yourself.<\/p>\n

Anche se questo tipo di approccio pu\u00f2 aiutare in alcuni casi, vi ha gettato nell'abisso della disperazione e dell'odio verso voi stessi nella vostra situazione.<\/p>\n

Il peso dei social media<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

Today, the most common symptom of self-loathing is seen through someone\u2019s behavior on social media. Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat don\u2019t serve you to stay in touch with your friends or for business purposes.<\/p>\n

Instead, they affect you in numerous negative ways. You feel this heavy burden every time you open your News Feed. You feel the need to impress all those strangers on your phone, and you\u2019ve stopped enjoying life.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve become obsessed with the impression your accounts leave. You spend hours and hours looking at other people\u2019s photos and comparing yourself to them.<\/p>\n

Apparently, your life is not as impressive as theirs. You don\u2019t have enough money, you don\u2019t travel as much as you would like, and you don\u2019t look as awesome as your followers.<\/p>\n

Non destinato ad essere amato<\/h2>\n

\"ritratto<\/p>\n

Self-loathing people are convinced that they\u2019re non destinato ad essere amato<\/a>. After all, if you can\u2019t force yourself to love the person you are, what can you expect from others?<\/p>\n

Naturally, this couldn\u2019t be further from the truth. However, this is how your mind works: you think that you\u2019re destined to die alone, and nobody gives a damn about you.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not only talking about romantic love here. You don\u2019t think that a single person in your surroundings exists who genuinely cares about you.<\/p>\n

Even worse, deep down, you believe that you are not worthy of anyone\u2019s affection. You\u2019re convinced that there is absolutely nothing to love about you.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t deserve anyone\u2019s attention, time, or effort. Why? Because you\u2019re utterly worthless.<\/p>\n

If this is something you can relate to, you not only suffer from low self-esteem; you\u2019re also guilty of self-hatred.<\/p>\n

Invidia<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

I hate to break it to you, but if you\u2019re a self-loather, the chances are that you\u2019re an envious person as well.<\/p>\n

Instead of working on yourself, you\u2019re focused on other people\u2019s accomplishments. Everyone seems to be more successful than you, and that eats you alive.<\/p>\n

Ma permettetemi di farvi una domanda: che effetto vi farebbe se loro avessero una situazione peggiore?<\/p>\n

Avreste magicamente abbastanza soldi se loro perdessero tutti i loro? La vostra carriera fiorir\u00e0 nel momento in cui la loro fallir\u00e0? Avreste una vita sentimentale felice se la loro fosse infelice?<\/p>\n

You and I both know the answer. So how do their accomplishments impact you? That\u2019s right; they don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m asking you to say \u201cno\u201d to envy. Trust me\u2013it\u2019s not hurting anyone but you.<\/p>\n

Paura di fallire<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd you ask, \u2018What if I fall?\u2019 Oh, but my darling, \u2018What if you fly?\u2019”<\/em> \u2013 Erin Hanson<\/p>\n

What prevents you from achieving greatness is your fear of failure. You avoid taking any risks since you don\u2019t believe in yourself.<\/p>\n

Your self-doubts don\u2019t allow you to think that you\u2019ll succeed. So, you think it\u2019s much better not to try at all. You end up setting low effort goals just to avoid the possibility of failing.<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re not alone in this because nobody enjoys losing. However, failure is a part of life, whether we like it or not.<\/p>\n

Chiedere continuamente scusa<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

L'ultimo, ma certamente non il meno importante o comune sintomo di odio per se stessi<\/a> \u00e8 il costante bisogno di scusarsi.<\/p>\n

Look, saying that you\u2019re sorry when you do someone wrong is a sign that you\u2019re a good person who has manners.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, c'\u00e8 una grande differenza tra l'essere educati e il chiedere continuamente scusa per il minimo inconveniente.<\/p>\n

By doing that, you\u2019re showing the rest of the world that you consider yourself to be guilty of everything that happens.<\/p>\n

Se qualcuno vi d\u00e0 un pugno, probabilmente vi scusate perch\u00e9 la vostra faccia ha ostacolato il suo pugno.<\/p>\n

What I\u2019m trying to tell you is that your self-hatred has made you walk on eggshells around others without demanding any respect in return.<\/p>\n

4 modi infallibili per superare il disgusto per se stessi<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Per fortuna, \u00e8 possibile sconfiggere questi sentimenti di disgusto per se stessi e cambiare il proprio concetto di s\u00e9. Ecco una guida passo passo su come farlo nel modo pi\u00f9 sano possibile.<\/p>\n

Perdono di s\u00e9<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Prima di tutto, \u00e8 necessario abbracciare l'arte del perdono di s\u00e9<\/a>. Ricordate che tutti commettiamo errori, quindi perch\u00e9 dovreste prendere il vostro cos\u00ec seriamente?<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t learn from your bad choices\u2013you just need to stop beating yourself up because of them.<\/p>\n

Forgive yourself for all the times you broke your own heart, for every toxic person you\u2019ve let near you, and for all the missed opportunities.<\/p>\n

Moreover, forgive yourself for all the times you didn\u2019t respect, appreciate, and love yourself enough.<\/p>\n

Lasciare andare il passato<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Un'altra cosa a cui dovete smettere di aggrapparvi \u00e8 la vostra storia. Questo \u00e8 molto legato al perdono di s\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Often enough, your self-loathing sources from the things you did or didn\u2019t do in your past.<\/p>\n

Maybe you can\u2019t stand looking at yourself every time you remember how you allowed yourself to be treated.<\/p>\n

Maybe you hate yourself for not taking a few chances years ago. Or maybe your self-hatred comes from the way you treated those who didn\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\n

Well, all of this means that you\u2019re self-conscious, which is always a good thing. However, you won\u2019t achieve anything if you hold on to the past.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t change anything about it, so what\u2019s the point of sovrappensiero<\/a>? Per favore, fate del vostro meglio per lasciare andare il passato.<\/p>\n

Be brave enough to jump into your future because it\u2019s the only thing you can actually influence.<\/p>\n

Disintossicare la propria cerchia sociale<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t care if your parents, siblings, or childhood friends are the ones who make you feel like you\u2019re not worthy\u2013you MUST cut them off.<\/p>\n

If it\u2019s necessary, try finding another job or even move to another city to move away from everyone who feeds your insecurities.<\/p>\n

Credetemi: non si tratta di cambiamenti troppo radicali. \u00c8 qualcosa che va fatto.<\/p>\n

La salute mentale deve essere al primo posto se si vuole ottenere un qualsiasi tipo di miglioramento.<\/p>\n

Besides, you\u2019re already aware that other people\u2019s opinions impact your sense of value, so you have to get rid of everyone who spreads negativity.<\/p>\n

Disintossicate la vostra cerchia sociale e circondatevi di persone che non porteranno altro che positivit\u00e0 nella vostra vita, e state con persone che vi aiuteranno a trovare voi stessi e vi daranno una mano a risalire dal fondo, invece di mandarvi l\u00ec.<\/p>\n

Autocompassione<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The next step in the process of overcoming self-loathing is all about self-compassion. I bet you know what I\u2019m talking about.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re an empatico<\/a> when it comes to others, aren\u2019t you? You understand their point of view, and you find justification for their lousy actions.<\/p>\n

Basically, you don\u2019t think of them as bad people for making one wrong choice.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re like that with everyone, not just your loved ones. You possess empathy, even for people you don\u2019t know.<\/p>\n

To be precise, you\u2019re like that with everyone besides yourself. On the contrary, you keep on judging yourself for every little mistake you make.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you\u2019re only hard on the person you should love the most. When it comes to you, there are no excuses. You\u2019re the only person in the world who is not allowed to do anything wrong.<\/p>\n

Ebbene, questa situazione deve cambiare al pi\u00f9 presto. Per cominciare, provate a pensare a voi stessi come a un amico.<\/p>\n

Che consiglio dareste alla persona amata se si trovasse in una situazione simile alla vostra? Scommetto che li incoraggereste e sottolineereste tutte le loro qualit\u00e0 positive e i loro lati positivi.<\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s stopping you from treating yourself the same way? Don\u2019t be your own inner critic.<\/p>\n

Per concludere:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I know it would be best if you could snap your fingers and ditch the self-loathing for good. Well, sadly, things don’t always go as smoothly as you expect them to.<\/p>\n

The truth is that you’ve spent years despising yourself. So, you can’t change your entire mindset overnight.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, vi assicuro che ce la farete. Tutto ci\u00f2 che dovete fare \u00e8 essere perseveranti e non arrendervi mai!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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