{"id":115273,"date":"2020-11-26T12:51:50","date_gmt":"2020-11-26T12:51:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=115273"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:07:06","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:07:06","slug":"evitare-lintimita-quando-lui-desidera-lamore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/evitare-lintimita-quando-lui-desidera-lamore\/","title":{"rendered":"Perch\u00e9 evita l'intimit\u00e0 quando \u00e8 evidente che desidera l'amore?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00c8 stato ferito in precedenza? \u00c8 una cosa che fanno solo gli uomini? \u00c8 possibile che teme l'amore<\/a>?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, they don\u2019t say \u201cl'amore fa male<\/a>\u201d without good reason. However, it\u2019s the only thing we really crave in life. Everybody wants love even when they\u2019re set to \u201cstay single forever.\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s pretty obvious there\u2019s some underlying issue that needs to be addressed and understood when it\u2019s clear he wants love but refuses to receive it.<\/p>\n

Ci sono molte possibili ragioni per cui evita di essere intimo e mostrare i propri sentimenti<\/a>. For many of those reasons, we can blame society, which tells men to \u201csuck it up\u201d and \u201cbe a man.\u201d<\/p>\n

Per capire gli uomini, le donne devono passare a un punto di vista completamente diverso. Essere un uomo comporta una serie di problemi diversi da quelli delle donne.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And yes, even though it\u2019s generally accepted that men \u201chave it easy,\u201d that doesn\u2019t mean they don\u2019t have problems.<\/p>\n

In fact, having problems and not being able to talk about them (because it\u2019s not manly) is an issue on its own.<\/p>\n

Intimacy and love are universal things. If everything\u2019s balanced, neither men nor women should have a problem with receiving or giving it.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, molte persone, se non tutte, a un certo punto della loro vita, hanno un problema di comprensione di se stesse e dei loro desideri, bisogni e problemi.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when they usually slip into either essere bisognosi<\/a> (che chiede amore e attenzione) o di essere eccessivamente distaccato<\/a> (evitare l'intimit\u00e0 e non dare attenzione).<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quali sono i fattori scatenanti di questo tipo di comportamento?<\/p>\n

I nuovi sentimenti risvegliano le ferite del passato<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Maybe he was badly hurt before, so he\u2019s extra careful when it comes to a new relationship.<\/p>\n

Even if he\u2019s in a steady relationship and even if he manages to be affectionate initially, thoughts about past experiences will start to creep up over time.<\/p>\n

Questo rende una persona vulnerabile e La vulnerabilit\u00e0 \u00e8 vista come una debolezza.<\/a><\/p>\n

It usually isn\u2019t about the person he\u2019s with, but the situations that trigger something from the past.<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t just refer to experiences with romantic partners but also circumstances in which he grew up, his upbringing, and family dynamics, which have a huge role in emotional life later on.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t help that we too often choose partners with whom we unconsciously recreate problematic dynamics.<\/p>\n

Questo dimostra quanto sia importante e profondamente radicato il nostro comportamento appreso e quanto sia complessa la mente umana.<\/p>\n

Lo stress si sta impossessando della sua vita<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Lo stress \u00e8 un noto killer dell'umore<\/a>, and, in my opinion, it\u2019s not talked about enough regarding this context.<\/p>\n

Lo stress si impossessa della vostra vita, cambia completamente le vostre priorit\u00e0 contro la vostra volont\u00e0 e vi impedisce di sentire pienamente le cose.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not easy to get rid of or control. It gets into your mind and makes a person forget about things they really want or even live for, hence the lack of affection even if they love you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s no secret that love sometimes triggers existential fears because having someone to take care of means providing, especially when it comes to men\u2019s traditional role.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 questo che rende difficile attingere ai sentimenti, anche quando una persona ama sinceramente il proprio partner.<\/p>\n

Paura di un amore disuguale<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Everybody has that tiny voice in their head that sometimes tells them they\u2019re not enough.<\/p>\n

La paura di un amore disuguale \u00e8 reale e influisce su quanto una persona parli dei propri sentimenti.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we fear that we\u2019ll end up hurt, and sometimes we fear that the other person will end up hurt because of us. Either way, we\u2019re lacking in something, and it prevents us from expressing romantic feelings.<\/p>\n

Often this has to do with feeling unlovable deep inside ourselves. We refuse to love because we don\u2019t think we deserve it or think we\u2019re not capable of giving it back.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what sometimes makes people act colder than they are when in reality, they crave love the same way everybody else does.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Was he hurt before? Is it just something men do? Is it possible that he fears love? Well, they don\u2019t say \u201clove hurts\u201d without good reason. However, it\u2019s the only thing we really crave in life. Everybody wants love even when they\u2019re set to \u201cstay single forever.\u201d It\u2019s pretty obvious there\u2019s some underlying issue that…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":115278,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-115273","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Why-Does-He-Avoid-Intimacy-When-Its-Obvious-He-Craves-Love_-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/115273","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=115273"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/115273\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/115278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=115273"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=115273"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=115273"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}