{"id":11601,"date":"2019-11-09T11:33:01","date_gmt":"2019-11-09T11:33:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=11601"},"modified":"2022-02-10T12:00:16","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T12:00:16","slug":"perdere-fatto-trovare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/perdere-fatto-trovare\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco come perdere te mi ha fatto ritrovare me stesso"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">For most of my life, I have given attention and affection to all who asked. I\u2019ve <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yourtango.com\/2015278363\/why-women-put-everyone-elses-happiness-their-own\" rel=\"noopener\">put everyone else\u2019s needs before my own<\/a>che mi ha portato a ignorare la mia.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">L'unica cosa che ho ottenuto cercando di rendere felici tutti quelli che mi circondavano \u00e8 stato un cuore spezzato.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><em><strong>That made me realize that no one is worth my tears and my pain. It made me realize that I don\u2019t love myself. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><em><strong>Altri mi hanno costretto a odiare me stesso e ci\u00f2 che sono diventato.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I was never supposed to be the person I have become. I know I\u2019m not that person deep inside.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I know that a long time ago I was satisfied with myself, I loved and respected myself but life forced me to change\u2014you forced me to change.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ero piena di energia negativa e la tristezza imperversava dentro di me. Usciva da me, distruggendo tutto ci\u00f2 che amavo e facendomi sentire ancora peggio di quanto gi\u00e0 non fossi.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">But I didn\u2019t want to show what was going on inside my mind. I concealed that depression and anger that was raging inside me, which led me to the point of almost utter self-destruction.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Altri si sono chiesti come potessi essere cos\u00ec positivo anche quando <a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/tamara-star\/life-lessons_b_4304548.html\" rel=\"noopener\">la mia vita stava cadendo a pezzi<\/a>. I\u2019ll tell you how.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Although I\u2019d almost lost my self-respect and self-love, in my darkest times I rediscovered it. I found shelter in myself from all the anger that was growing inside me.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><em><strong>Il mio lato buono, il mio amore per me stessa, ha vinto la tristezza e la paura che provavo perch\u00e9 avevo paura di diventare pi\u00f9 che sufficiente per me stessa. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><em><strong>Avevo paura di diventare la persona che ero una volta.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sono sopravvissuto a un cuore spezzato come tutti gli altri. Mi sono soffocata con le mie stesse lacrime e ho passato molte notti sveglia a gridare il tuo nome.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I spent days not wanting to get up out of the bed, trying to find the reason why we didn\u2019t work out.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I blamed myself for not trying hard enough, but then I realized it was not my fault. It was never my fault. I just wasn\u2019t something you needed, nor were you something that I needed.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><em><strong>Ho passato troppo tempo a cercare di renderti felice, dimenticandomi della mia felicit\u00e0. Ho ignorato i miei sentimenti fino al punto di perdere il mio vero io.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ho cercato di essere abbastanza per te, ma non avrei mai dovuto essere tua. Sei entrato nella mia vita con un solo scopo, quello di ricordarmi di rispettare e amare me stesso e di <a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/christine-hassler\/you-cant-change-him-so-st_b_927558.html\" rel=\"noopener\">never change for anyone&#8217;s sake<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><em>Questa \u00e8 stata la lezione che ho imparato a fatica, ma ne \u00e8 valsa la pena, quindi grazie.<\/em><\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">When we broke up, I thought I was going to be lost. I thought I\u2019d lost my strength because I thought you were the one who gave it to me. I thought you were the reason<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Ho continuato ad andare avanti e a lottare. Ora mi rendo conto che mi stavate trattenendo.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">You were making me hate myself and what I\u2019d become. That isn\u2019t supposed to happen with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dopo essere sopravvissuta alle montagne russe emotive, ho finalmente trovato una persona forte. Ho trovato qualcuno che mi spinge a volere di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I found someone who told me it\u2019s alright to be something you want to be.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I found someone who told me it\u2019s important to love yourself and only then can you love someone else.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\"><em><strong>Quel qualcuno ero io.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I want to give all the love I used to give others to myself. That way I\u2019m going to grow stronger and when I mature completely I will be able to love someone who truly deserves it. But first of all, I have to find myself.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I know that after all I have been through, after I realized what I needed, that I\u2019m the one who is in control of my life. I\u2019m the one who decides what\u2019s right and what\u2019s wrong with me.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I\u2019m the one who can change the course of my own happiness. And I wouldn\u2019t be able to do it without your help.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">I wouldn\u2019t be able to do it if you hadn\u2019t left me and made me realize that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.elitedaily.com\/life\/finding-imitation\" rel=\"noopener\">Devo trovare me stesso<\/a>Dopo tanto dolore e tante lacrime, alla fine l'ho fatto.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Dopo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/perdere-fatto-trovare\/\">Mi sono trovato<\/a> and chose to love myself, I realized that I\u2019m going to spend the rest of my life with myself and because of that I have to make peace with myself.<\/p>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Devo essere la migliore amica di me stessa e l'unica persona che posso cambiare sono io.<\/p>\r\n\r\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-41965\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/herway.net-24.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/herway.net-24.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/herway.net-24-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/herway.net-24-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>For most of my life, I have given attention and affection to all who asked. I\u2019ve put everyone else\u2019s needs before my own, which led me to ignore my own. The only thing I got from trying to make everyone around me happy was a broken heart. That made me realize that no one is&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":11611,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11601","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abdiel-ibarra-249876-1-1024x649.jpg",1024,649,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11601","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11601"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11601\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11611"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11601"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11601"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11601"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}