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<\/p>\nL'altro giorno mi ha mandato un messaggio che mi ha fatto andare su tutte le furie. Dopo aver cercato di analizzare ogni singola parola che aveva scritto, ho deciso di chiedere un parere professionale. Ho riunito le mie amiche e ne abbiamo parlato davanti a un caff\u00e8.<\/p>\n
Siamo tutti d'accordo sul fatto che dovrebbe esistere un'intera scienza degli sms negli appuntamenti e che ci sono alcune regole non scritte da imparare per navigare in questo o quell'altro modo.<\/p>\n
In fact, there is a list of toxic texts we\u2019ve all received at one point (and are probably guilty of sending). Here is what we have decoded for you.<\/p>\n
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So, this is a basic toxic text. You send it to your boyfriend when he\u2019s out without you to ruin his night. The truth is that you don\u2019t want him to have fun. Actually, the last thing you want is him to have a great time.<\/p>\n
Desiderate di dispiacersi per lui<\/a> per essere uscito senza di te. Volete che passi tutta la notte a rimproverarsi per avervi lasciate sole a casa.<\/p>\n However, you won\u2019t tell him that straightforwardly. In fact, when he asked you if you\u2019d mind him spending the night with the boys, you said you were perfectly fine with it.<\/p>\n Here is another textbook example of passive-aggressive behavior we\u2019re all sometimes guilty of.<\/p>\n The truth we\u2019re all aware of but refuse to say out loud is that there is a huge difference between typing, \u201cOkay,\u201d \u201cOK,\u201d \u201cK,\u201d and, \u201cKK\u201d.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to add an emoji or anything; the difference between one or two letters will be enough to express your emotions.<\/p>\n There is nothing wrong with, \u201cOkay.\u201d It really means that you\u2019re fine with whatever is being said to you. If you add an extra smiley face, there is nothing toxic about this text.<\/p>\n \u201cKK,\u201d means that you\u2019ve gotten the message. You\u2019ll send this to your BF when he tells you that he\u2019s on his way to pick you up or that he\u2019s done with that errand you two were talking about.<\/p>\n When you type, \u201cOK,\u201d and put a period at the end, everything is pretty clear; everything is far from okay.<\/p>\n However, \u201cK,\u201d is the worst of them all. It\u2019s cold and it sends the message that you don\u2019t want to bother to even type a decent reply.<\/p>\n You refuse to waste your time explaining what\u2019s wrong or why you\u2019re mad. Maybe you even typed a long paragraph about your feelings but erased everything and just sent, \u201cK\u201d.<\/p>\n What does this mean? \u201cI see that you don\u2019t care about me<\/a> anyhow, so I won\u2019t try anymore.\u201d \u201cIt\u2019s apparent that you want to be left alone, so I won\u2019t be calling or texting anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n When you get this text, the other party feels emotionally neglected. However, instead of telling you this straightforwardly, they\u2019ll try turning the tables so they can be the one to leave first.<\/p>\n No, I\u2019m not talking about really leaving the relationship or breaking up, this refers to leaving the conversation.<\/p>\n The worst thing you can do here is to say things such as: \u201cThanks, I really need some time off to clear my thoughts,\u201d or imply in any other way that you really don\u2019t want to be bothered.<\/p>\n This text is a cry for validation. If your boyfriend sends it to you, he wants you to say something like: \u201cNo, you\u2019re not bothering me at all, let\u2019s talk.\u201d<\/p>\n Invio di un simpatico testo romantico della buonanotte<\/a> at the end of your day is a sign that you\u2019re thinking of your loved one. You want them to be the last person you message before you enter the world of dreams.<\/p>\n In sostanza, inviare e ricevere gli sms della buonanotte \u00e8 un segno di grande affetto. Tuttavia, questo messaggio pu\u00f2 anche essere piuttosto tossico.<\/p>\n Have you ever been in a situation where someone wrote to you, \u201cGood night,\u201d mid-discussion? Or maybe you were the one to do it?<\/p>\n It\u2019s nowhere near nighttime and they\u2019re obviously not going to sleep. Instead, this text literally means: \u201cI\u2019m done talking to you,\u201d (but I don\u2019t want to directly tell you to back off).<\/p>\n This is a toxic text you\u2019ll probably get from your manipulative ex.<\/p>\n Avete presente la persona che avete amato tanto ma che, in un modo o nell'altro, ha finito per prendersi gioco di voi? Certo, non sei mai riuscito a chiudere, ma con il tempo sei riuscito a guarire.<\/p>\n Ora, mesi dopo la sua scomparsa dalla vostra vita, eccolo l\u00ec: il suo nome sul vostro schermo.<\/p>\n You expect an apology or something like that but you get this. You get a text in which he reminds you of some great memory you two had together. What\u2019s up with that? What is this uomo tossico<\/a> cercando di raggiungere l'obiettivo?<\/p>\n Beh, lui vuole ammorbidire il tuo cuore. Vuole che tu ricordi tutti i bei momenti trascorsi insieme, invece di concentrarti sul modo in cui ti ha ferito.<\/p>\n Naturalmente, il suo obiettivo finale \u00e8 quello di spezzarti il cuore ancora una volta o semplicemente di entrare nei tuoi pantaloni.<\/p>\n You saw that your BF liked some girl\u2019s selfie or you suspect that he is with his female friends whom you don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n However, you won\u2019t ask him about it. You won\u2019t be a mature person and demand a logical explanation.<\/p>\n Instead, you\u2019ll just send him this text. You\u2019re making it clear that you know what he\u2019s been up to. Not only that, you\u2019re also telling him that you won\u2019t compete for his attention.<\/p>\n You\u2019re giving him to them without lifting a finger because you don\u2019t see him as worthy of you fighting.<\/p>\n You send or receive this when you\u2019re breaking up. Wishing all the best to your ex means you\u2019re a kind, good-hearted person who holds no grudges against the ones who have hurt her.<\/p>\n O almeno, questo \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che sareste se le vostre intenzioni fossero oneste. Ma sappiamo tutti che non lo sono.<\/p>\n In fact, when you send this text, you\u2019re only trying to humiliate the other person by showing that you\u2019re the better person. You want them to feel even more guilty about everything they\u2019ve done to you.<\/p>\n You want them to think, \u201cOh, I\u2019ve hurt this girl so much but despite that, she still wants me to be happy.\u201d Of course, what you don\u2019t add is, \u201c… but I know that will be impossible without me.\u201d<\/p>\n Forse non lo vedete ora, ma spezzandomi il cuore<\/a> wasn\u2019t worth it. Leaving me for someone else was the biggest mistake of your life.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have the rest of your life to regret this poor choice. You\u2019ll grieve over me and you\u2019ll miss me, sooner or later.<\/p>\n This is what this toxic text actually means, doesn\u2019t it? If you send it, you want the person who\u2019s hurt you to feel bad about everything he\u2019s done to you. You\u2019re basically being passive-aggressive here.<\/p>\n You clearly don\u2019t agree with whatever he\u2019s saying or you don\u2019t believe a word that\u2019s coming out of this man\u2019s mouth.<\/p>\n Either way, you don\u2019t plan on wasting any time or energy on dealing with him. You don\u2019t want him to do any explaining, nor do you want you two to argue. So, you just send this text.<\/p>\n Basically, it means, \u201cYou\u2019re talking nonsense but I\u2019ll let you be because I couldn\u2019t care less.\u201d<\/p>\n Quando si riceve questo messaggio, pu\u00f2 essere un segno che l'altra persona \u00e8 un adulto maturo che vuole risolvere i problemi faccia a faccia.<\/p>\n However, if we\u2019re talking about your ex, I assure you that his intentions are not so honest. In fact, this man knows he\u2019ll have an easier time manipulating you when he sees you in person.<\/p>\n\u201cK\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cI won\u2019t bother you anymore.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cGood night.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cHey, remember that time\u2026?\u201d<\/h2>\n
![\"donna](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-near-wall.jpg\")
<\/p>\n\u201cEnjoy your time with all those other guys\/girls since they have your attention now.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cI hope you have a good life.\u201d<\/h2>\n
![\"uomo](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-looking-at-phone.jpg\")
<\/p>\n\u201cI hope it was worth it.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u201cIf you say so.\u201d<\/h2>\n
![\"uomo](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/man-using-phone.jpg\")
<\/p>\n\u201cCome over, let\u2019s talk in person.\u201d<\/h2>\n
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