{"id":117944,"date":"2020-12-14T10:45:48","date_gmt":"2020-12-14T10:45:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=117944"},"modified":"2022-03-24T02:08:37","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T02:08:37","slug":"disturbo-ossessivo-dellamore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/disturbo-ossessivo-dellamore\/","title":{"rendered":"Cause, sintomi e trattamento del disturbo ossessivo dell'amore"},"content":{"rendered":"

Il disturbo ossessivo d'amore \u00e8 molto diverso dalla tipica infatuazione o dall'amore romantico. In parole povere, si tratta di una fissazione per il proprio interesse romantico.<\/p>\n

You just think that you\u2019re in love with this special someone, but you\u2019re actually obsessed with them in an unhealthy way.<\/p>\n

La gelosia possessiva, il desiderio di controllare l'oggetto del vostro affetto e i pensieri maniacali su di lui vi travolgono.<\/p>\n

Anche se l'OLD non rientra nel Manuale diagnostico e statistico dei disturbi mentali, \u00e8 certamente un disturbo potenzialmente pericoloso che deve essere preso sul serio.<\/p>\n

When you suffer from it, you’re convinced that your obsessive thoughts are real love. You can’t eat, you can’t sleep and all you do is think about your loved one \u2013 just like when you\u2019re in love.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, c'\u00e8 un'enorme differenza tra avere una relazione sana e soffrire di un disturbo ossessivo dell'amore. Ecco le cause, i sintomi e le opzioni di trattamento di questo disturbo mentale.<\/p>\n

Cause del disturbo ossessivo dell'amore<\/h2>\n

You have to be aware of one thing: things that you\u2019re dealing with right now didn\u2019t arise today. They didn\u2019t hit you out of the blue.<\/p>\n

In most cases, all of your mental disorders have been there for a while. You just failed to notice them or they didn\u2019t swim up to the surface until now.<\/p>\n

Trauma profondamente radicato.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 esattamente il caso del vostro disturbo ossessivo d'amore. La sua causa principale risiede nel vostro radicato traumi<\/a>probabilmente di origine infantile.<\/p>\n

You might have had a perfectly normal childhood\u2013 or at least that\u2019s how things appeared to be. You had enough food, a place to sleep, and a seemingly \u201cnormal\u201d family.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, la maggior parte delle persone che sviluppano questo e altri disturbi simili sono state in realt\u00e0 trascurati emotivamente da bambini<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re not even aware that you feel like your caregivers didn\u2019t love you enough or maybe you were always missing their support.<\/p>\n

Or, maybe they pushed you too hard. Is it possible that they\u2019ve always behaved like you failed to meet their expectations?<\/p>\n

Well, that is why you keep feeling like you\u2019re not good enough. This is especially the case with the kids whose parents left them behind, but it can also happen to those who had them physically around.<\/p>\n

Basically, we all spend our entire lives healing our childhood traumas, and now, you\u2019re trying to get the love you didn\u2019t get back then.<\/p>\n

Stile di attaccamento insicuro.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Un'altra causa comune di OLD \u00e8 la vostra stile di attacco<\/a>. I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve already heard about all four of them: secure, sprezzante-evitante<\/a>ansioso-preoccupato e timoroso-evitante.<\/p>\n

Se avete un atteggiamento ansioso-preoccupato, ambivalente, o stile di attaccamento insicuro<\/a>Da bambino, poi, eri costantemente preoccupato che i tuoi genitori ti rifiutassero.<\/p>\n

Queste paure continuano a tormentarvi per tutta l'et\u00e0 adulta. Proiettate tutti i vostri traumi sui vostri partner romantici.<\/p>\n

Siete talmente ossessionati dalla possibilit\u00e0 che vi lascino che finite in una co-dipendente<\/a> relazione.<\/p>\n

Nel profondo, non vi siete mai fidati dei vostri genitori. Li consideravate inaffidabili e avete passato tutta l'infanzia ad aspettarvi che vi abbandonassero ogni minuto.<\/p>\n

Now, when you\u2019re all grown up, this is how you feel about your partner. You question their loyalty and live in constant fear of them walking away from you.<\/p>\n

Un passato d'amore infelice.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You know how I told you that everything that\u2019s going on with you now dates back to your past? Well, this doesn\u2019t mean that I\u2019m necessarily talking about your childhood here only.<\/p>\n

OLD can be caused by your love life history as well. If you\u2019ve spent your share of time in a matrimonio senza amore<\/a> or in abusive relationships \u2013 this is the key to your problem.<\/p>\n

The same way some parents treated their kids, that\u2019s exactly how your partners from the past treated you. They made you feel unloved, unwanted, and not good enough.<\/p>\n

This is especially true if you\u2019ve experienced infidelity from your loved one. Consequently, you start to believe that all women or men are the same.<\/p>\n

Quindi, vi aspettate che ogni persona che entra nella vostra vita abbia gli stessi modelli comportamentali.<\/p>\n

If your ex had considered you not enough and looked for the things you couldn\u2019t give them outside of your relationship, then what prevents your next partner from doing the same thing?<\/p>\n

Pertanto, non avete altra scelta che fare tutto il possibile per tenerli al vostro fianco.<\/p>\n

Disturbo ossessivo-compulsivo.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

People suffering from OCD have a tendency of developing OLD. But, I\u2019m talking about real OCD here \u2013 not the trend in which everyone who is allergic tend to miss self-diagnose themselves with this disorder.<\/p>\n

Esiste anche una cosa chiamata relazione OCD<\/a>. Basically, here, you have obsessive behaviors and thoughts connected to your relationship. You can\u2019t control either no matter how hard you try.<\/p>\n

Erotomania.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Un'altra condizione di salute mentale comune tra le persone con OLD \u00e8 l'erotomania, che pu\u00f2 essere causata dalla schizofrenia o dal disturbo bipolare.<\/p>\n

Here, the patient believes they\u2019re in love with a celebrity to the point where they end up having obsessive thoughts about them that they can’t control.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t mistake this with being someone\u2019s biggest fan. You can be fascinated by their career or even see them as a role model.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, quando si soffre di erotomania, si sviluppa una sorta di disturbo ossessivo-compulsivo per il proprio interesse amoroso.<\/p>\n

Non solo: vi convincete anche che questa persona provi dei forti sentimenti per voi.<\/p>\n

Anche se il vostro oggetto d'amore \u00e8 chiaramente irraggiungibile per voi, continuate a credere che voi due siate destinati a stare insieme e che questo sia vero amore.<\/p>\n

In some extreme cases, patients start stalking their love interest or even become violent when they don\u2019t reciprocate their love.<\/p>\n

Disturbo borderline di personalit\u00e0<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Il Disturbo Borderline di Personalit\u00e0 spesso si accompagna al VECCHIO. \u00c8 caratterizzato da instabilit\u00e0 emotiva, comune a chi soffre di VECCHIAIA.<\/p>\n

In fact, fear of abandonment is both of these mental health disorder’s number one symptom.<\/p>\n

Insicurezza.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You don’t have to suffer from a mental health condition to develop OLD. In fact, this disorder is sometimes caused by seemingly small things.<\/p>\n

Low self-esteem is common for everyone suffering from an obsessive love disorder. Your insecurities might have different underlying causes, but they\u2019re always there.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, nella maggior parte dei casi, questo non \u00e8 cos\u00ec evidente. Anzi, potreste addirittura interpretare il ruolo di un individuo sicuro di s\u00e9 che non mostra alcun segno di insicurezza.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that you only lie to others about this \u2013 you\u2019re not being honest towards yourself either.<\/p>\n

Vi rifiutate di affrontare i vostri problemi di bassa autostima perch\u00e9 sapete che guardare la verit\u00e0 negli occhi vi spezzerebbe.<\/p>\n

Il problema \u00e8 che, nel profondo, il vostro subconscio narcisistico pensa che la persona amata sia migliore di voi.<\/p>\n

You see yourself as replaceable and not worthy of their love and attention, so you do everything you can to devalue them. After all, that is the only way in which you two can be on the same level, isn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n

Not only that: you also think that you\u2019ll never find someone else if they leave you. You see yourself as non amabile<\/a> and you don\u2019t think you deserve happiness.<\/p>\n

So, it doesn\u2019t matter how your significant other treats you \u2013 you keep seeing them as a jackpot. After all, they\u2019re the only one who agreed on being with you.<\/p>\n

Quali sono i sintomi del disturbo ossessivo dell'amore?<\/h2>\n

Anche se ogni persona \u00e8 unica, esistono alcuni modelli comportamentali comuni a tutti i soggetti affetti da OLD. Queste sono le bandiere rosse a cui prestare attenzione se si sospetta di avere questa condizione.<\/p>\n

Gelosia estrema.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

One of the first symptoms of obsessive love disorder is uncontrollable jealousy. But, I\u2019m not talking about cute, typical jealousy here that all couples in love have.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about gelosia malsana<\/a> che vi travolge e si impadronisce completamente dei vostri pensieri.<\/p>\n

Gelosia ossessiva<\/h3>\n

The name speaks for itself: you\u2019re obsessed with the fact that your significant other is doing something behind your back.<\/p>\n

Vede tutti come una minaccia: gli amici, i colleghi, i conoscenti e letteralmente ogni singola persona con cui comunica.<\/p>\n

Ogni volta che escono senza di voi, manifestate diversi tipi di comportamenti ossessivi. Pensate alla possibilit\u00e0 che si innamorino di qualcun altro.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re constantly worried that they\u2019ll find someone better than you and that they\u2019ll replace you in the blink of an eye.<\/p>\n

You check their phone, looking for suspicious text messages, you follow them around and you’re always in search of some kind of evidence.<\/p>\n

Gelosia delirante<\/h3>\n

Esiste anche una cosa chiamata gelosia delirante o morbosa, che \u00e8 ancora pi\u00f9 grave.<\/p>\n

Questo disturbo si accompagna talvolta ad altre malattie mentali, come l'erotomania, la schizofrenia o il disturbo bipolare.<\/p>\n

In the case of delusional disorder, you\u2019re jealous of \u201cyour\u201d celebrity\u2019s loved one and life that doesn\u2019t include you.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, morbid jealousy also happens in real relationships. Basically, you\u2019re convinced that your partner is unfaithful despite not having any proof or facts for your doubts.<\/p>\n

Si inventano scenari impossibili per sostenere la propria ossessione. Si diventa paranoici e si trasforma l'intera vita in una ricerca di prove per le proprie affermazioni deliranti.<\/p>\n

Disturbo dell'attaccamento.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

It\u2019s perfectly normal to be emotionally attached to your partner \u2013 after all, that\u2019s a part of every romantic relationship.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, quando si soffre di OLD, si manifestano i segni di un disturbo da attaccamento malsano, che \u00e8 anche una malattia mentale.<\/p>\n

Your significant other is the center of your Universe. You\u2019re only happy when they\u2019re around and you don\u2019t care about anything happening outside of your relationship.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not just emotionally dependent on them \u2013 you\u2019ve also developed a form of addiction. You couldn\u2019t imagine spending a day without this person since they\u2019re the only ones giving your life meaning.<\/p>\n

Everything besides them is pointless, and you put all of your focus and effort into maintaining this relationship. It\u2019s your cause of existence and the only reason to breathe.<\/p>\n

Pensieri ossessivi.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

What if my boyfriend or girlfriend leaves me? Do they really love me? What if they\u2019re seeing someone else? How can I prevent them from walking away from me?<\/p>\n

Do these questions sound familiar? Don\u2019t get me wrong: we all have similar thoughts when our relationship enters a crisis.<\/p>\n

However, you\u2019re different. These thoughts appear in your mind out of nowhere, even if everything is going smoothly.<\/p>\n

Your partner is all you can think about, but you don’t think much about their well-being: your entire focus is on their presence in your life.<\/p>\n

And, the worst part is that you can\u2019t control your mind \u2013 it goes the other way around.
\nBeh, se questo non \u00e8 un segno evidente di un VECCHIO, allora cos'\u00e8?<\/p>\n

Possessivit\u00e0.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

C'\u00e8 un'enorme differenza tra gelosia e possessivit\u00e0<\/a>. When you\u2019re jealous, your biggest fear is your partner\u2019s infidelity.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to lose them to another man or woman, and you will do everything in your power to prevent that from happening.<\/p>\n

However, when you\u2019re possessive, you want this person for yourself only.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t like your significant other\u2019s friends and family members simply because they give them the attention that should be reserved for you only.<\/p>\n

Se dipendesse da voi, lascerebbero il lavoro. Non avrebbero hobby o interessi al di fuori della vostra relazione.<\/p>\n

Dovrebbero smettere di esistere come individui e investire tutte le loro energie nell'essere la vostra ragazza o il vostro ragazzo.<\/p>\n

After all, that\u2019s how you roll, so why wouldn\u2019t they? It would be best if you could become this person\u2019s only preoccupation.<\/p>\n

Desiderio di controllo.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The next on the list of symptoms of obsessive love disorder is the fact that you\u2019re a control freak.<\/p>\n

I hate to break it to you, but you\u2019re not your partner\u2019s caregiver nor are they a little child without any proper decision-making skills.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest: you\u2019re masking your real intentions here.<\/p>\n

You go under false pretenses that you\u2019re just trying to protect them from everything bad in this harsh world and act like you’re just worried about their well being.<\/p>\n

You pretend that you\u2019re taking over a part of their burden while you\u2019re actually prendere il controllo<\/a> nel corso della loro vita, passo dopo passo.<\/p>\n

Volete che il vostro partner viva la sua vita a modo vostro. In pratica, questo significa che deve seguire i vostri ordini senza fare domande inutili.<\/p>\n

After all, you know what\u2019s best for them, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

In cerca di rassicurazioni.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve already established a fact that you\u2019re insecure and that you\u2019re trying to heal your insecurity in all the wrong ways \u2013 through your romantic relationships.<\/p>\n

When you suffer from this mental disorder, you\u2019re constantly seeking reassurance from your partner.<\/p>\n

You ask them questions, such as: \u201cDo you love me?\u201d \u201cCould you live without me?\u201d \u201cWhat would you do if we broke up?\u201d<\/p>\n

Non importa come vi trattano o cosa fanno per dimostrarvi il loro amore, non vi fidate mai fino in fondo. Anche se \u00e8 evidente quanto siete importanti per il vostro partner, i vostri dubbi vincono sempre.<\/p>\n

The worst thing is that there is no right answer to either of these questions \u2013 at least not the one that would leave you satisfied.<\/p>\n

Maybe they\u2019re not telling you how much they love you as often as you would like to hear it. Or, you\u2019re not happy with the tone of their voice.<\/p>\n

Questo sintomo, da solo, pu\u00f2 essere un segno di ansia da relazione<\/a>. Tuttavia, se si manifestano anche altri segni, una cosa \u00e8 certa: si soffre di VECCHIAIA.<\/p>\n

Incapacit\u00e0 di accettare il rifiuto.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to actually be in a romantic relationship in order to show red flags of obsessive love disorder. It\u2019s enough for you to have a crush on someone and for that person to reject you.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be real: nobody likes hearing \u201cno\u201d for an answer. It\u2019s not pleasant to find out that the person you like doesn\u2019t like you back.<\/p>\n

Questa consapevolezza schiaccia la nostra autostima e pu\u00f2 far sentire tutti infelici per un po'. Tuttavia, che ci piaccia o no, queste cose accadono.<\/p>\n

Usually, people in this situation feel bad for some time, but eventually move on. You have to accept that someone isn\u2019t attracted to you or simply doesn\u2019t want to give you a chance.<\/p>\n

But, not you. You refuse to grasp this idea and you\u2019re completely unable to take rejection. Ironically, when it happens, your feelings for this person intensify.<\/p>\n

Diventate ossessionati da loro e mettete tutte le vostre energie nel tentativo di fargli cambiare idea.<\/p>\n

Stalking.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

A great number of people suffering from OLD become stalkers at one point in their lives. It doesn\u2019t matter if your love object doesn\u2019t want you or you doubt your partner\u2019s fidelity.<\/p>\n

Either way, it\u2019s likely that you\u2019ll invest all of your energy in getting to the bottom of their whereabouts and activities.<\/p>\n

You might follow them around or use every opportunity to go through their phone and social media \u2013 the bottom line is the same.<\/p>\n

Come si cura il disturbo ossessivo dell'amore?<\/h2>\n

Nessun contatto.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

If you want to heal yourself from this mental illness, the first must-do is to cut all possible ties with the object of your infatuation, especially if we\u2019re talking about the person you\u2019re not even romantically involved with.<\/p>\n

Fidatevi: non \u00e8 una persona con cui potete avere una relazione sana.<\/p>\n

Non \u00e8 pi\u00f9 possibile apparire nei luoghi in cui si potrebbero incontrare, non \u00e8 pi\u00f9 possibile chiedere di loro agli amici e ai familiari e non \u00e8 pi\u00f9 possibile pedinarli sui social media.<\/p>\n

Naturalmente, qualsiasi messaggio o telefonata \u00e8 fuori discussione.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not doing this to make them feel your absence. You\u2019re doing it to cure yourself.
\nI know this is the last thing on your mind, but trust me \u2013 it\u2019s the only possible option.<\/p>\n

Auto-occupazione.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Nel frattempo, dovete tenervi occupati. Concentratevi sull'occuparvi di qualsiasi cosa o persona che non sia il vostro interesse amoroso.<\/p>\n

You see, you\u2019ve spent so much time and energy obsessing over this person, so now, you have a lot of empty space in your life.<\/p>\n

The second you get bored, you\u2019ll go back to your old ways. That is exactly why you have to find new ways to keep yourself physically and mentally tired.<\/p>\n

Find new hobbies, hit the gym, start learning new things, go out with your friends\u2026 Do whatever it takes to keep your mind off your obsession.<\/p>\n

Psicoterapia.<\/h2>\n

\"terapeuta<\/p>\n

Chiedere un parere medico per i vostri problemi di salute non \u00e8 una vergogna. Visitate un professionista o chiamate una linea di emergenza sanitaria se avete la sensazione che il vostro stato stia sfuggendo al vostro controllo.<\/p>\n

You’ll get the help you need and experts will present you with different treatment options until you find the one that suits you the best.<\/p>\n

When you go to psychotherapy, a mental health professional won\u2019t just handle your symptoms: they will also dig deep inside of you to find the underlying causes of this condition.<\/p>\n

La psichiatria sembra spaventosa, ma credetemi: a volte \u00e8 l'unico posto dove si pu\u00f2 imparare a trovare un amore sano in futuro.<\/p>\n

There, you\u2019ll be surrounded by experts who will hold your hand along the path of your recovery.
\nVerranno eseguiti diversi tipi di valutazione per aiutarvi a risolvere il problema a lungo termine.<\/p>\n

Farmaci.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Finally, if nothing else helps, you\u2019ll get medication to help you.<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t take any medication without consulting your doctor. Stick to the prescribed dose and I promise you that you\u2019ll feel better in no time.<\/p>\n

Per concludere:<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be honest with you: an obsessive love disorder can be a severe condition, but luckily, it can be treated effectively.<\/p>\n

The most important thing is that you\u2019re aware that you might have a problem. Otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be here, would you?<\/p>\n

It means that you\u2019ve made the first and the hardest step: you faced your condition as much as it scares you. From now on, everything will be much easier and you will heal!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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