{"id":118415,"date":"2020-12-11T12:02:56","date_gmt":"2020-12-11T12:02:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=118415"},"modified":"2022-02-22T12:08:10","modified_gmt":"2022-02-22T12:08:10","slug":"un-chiaro-rifiuto-per-una-falsa-promessa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/un-chiaro-rifiuto-per-una-falsa-promessa\/","title":{"rendered":"Preferisco sempre un chiaro rifiuto a una promessa fasulla"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>L'altro giorno stavo facendo un normale brunch domenicale con le mie amiche.<\/p>\n<p>Dopo aver raccontato le nostre noiose vite dell'ultima settimana, come sempre, abbiamo finito per parlare dei misteri infiniti: ragazzi, appuntamenti e storie d'amore (che sorpresa!).<\/p>\n<p>In primo luogo, abbiamo discusso delle nostre attuali situazioni amorose e poi (di nuovo, come sempre) siamo tornati al passato.<\/p>\n<p>You see, the four of us have been BFFs since high school, so we\u2019re all very familiar with each other\u2019s romantic history in detail.<\/p>\n<p>In qualche modo, sono diventata l'argomento principale della conversazione. Tutte e tre hanno convenuto che le mie relazioni con gli uomini sono state diverse dalle loro.<\/p>\n<p>E avevano ragione. <strong>Ognuno di loro ha sprecato anni in quasi relazioni, in storie d'amore e non, o in <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/me-ne-vado-sono-fottutamente-stanco-di-un-amore-a-meta\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">amori a met\u00e0<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ma non ho mai percorso quella strada<\/strong>. Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019ve had my share of heartbreaks.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-118419\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/beautiful-brunnette-woman.jpg\" alt=\"bella donna bruna che pensa profondamente seduta e indossa un nastro nero\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/beautiful-brunnette-woman.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/beautiful-brunnette-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/beautiful-brunnette-woman-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/beautiful-brunnette-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/beautiful-brunnette-woman-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/beautiful-brunnette-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/beautiful-brunnette-woman-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/beautiful-brunnette-woman-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, <strong>la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che, a differenza di loro, nessun ragazzo mi ha mai trascinato su<\/strong>. S\u00ec, ho sofferto per le mie rotture e ho persino affrontato l'infedelt\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, I was the kind of girl who always knew where she stood. I\u2019ve never been in a loveless relationship or with a guy who couldn\u2019t make up his mind about me.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, they all spent most of their lives chasing guys who didn\u2019t have the decency to choose them for real.<\/p>\n<p>Piangevano per dei ragazzi immaturi che non sapevano cosa volevano.<\/p>\n<p>Tutte e tre le mie amiche si sono imbattute in ragazzi che facevano il bello e il cattivo tempo, che le tenevano come opzione di riserva e che uscivano con loro quando erano convenienti.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019ve been involved with men who disappeared and then marched back into their lives. Of course, they\u2019ve had <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/smettere-di-avere-problemi-di-relazione-con-qualcuno-con-cui-non-si-ha-una-relazione\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">problemi di relazione<\/a> con questi uomini con cui non hanno mai avuto una vera relazione.<\/p>\n<p><strong>That\u2019s why I always choose a man who knows what he wants over one who has doubts about our relationship, even if I\u2019m not on the list of his ambitions.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-118420\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/rear-view-of-a-woman.jpg\" alt=\"vista posteriore di una donna seduta che indossa un abito nero e argento con cinturino a spaghetti\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/rear-view-of-a-woman.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/rear-view-of-a-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/rear-view-of-a-woman-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/rear-view-of-a-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/rear-view-of-a-woman-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/rear-view-of-a-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/rear-view-of-a-woman-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/rear-view-of-a-woman-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>D'altra parte, nessuno di questi uomini ha avuto il coraggio di dire loro la dura verit\u00e0 direttamente in faccia.<\/p>\n<p>Invece, le hanno portate avanti per mesi o addirittura per anni, mentre le mie ragazze erano troppo impegnate a cercare di rendersi conto di ci\u00f2 che le aveva colpite e a capire cosa stesse realmente accadendo.<\/p>\n<p>Sounds familiar, right? Well, I\u2019m sure you know exactly what I\u2019m talking about. If you have never been a protagonist of this scenario, I\u2019ll bet that at least one of your friends has.<\/p>\n<p>Devo ammettere che per fortuna non mi sono mai trovata in una situazione simile.<\/p>\n<p>Ero pi\u00f9 bella delle altre ragazze? No. Ero pi\u00f9 intelligente? Pi\u00f9 divertente? Pi\u00f9 saggia? Di nuovo, no.<\/p>\n<p><strong>So, you know what the difference is between me and them? You see, unlike them, I\u2019m the kind of gal who will always take rejection over false promises.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not scared of the harsh truth. In fact, I prefer it over deception.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-118421\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-with-her-half-body.jpg\" alt=\"donna con il suo mezzo corpo che si sporge dalla finestra con messa a fuoco selettiva\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-with-her-half-body.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-with-her-half-body-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-with-her-half-body-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-with-her-half-body-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-with-her-half-body-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-with-her-half-body-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-with-her-half-body-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-with-her-half-body-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>I don\u2019t comfort myself by believing in lies, and you won\u2019t make me calmer if you tell me what I want to hear.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s be honest: nobody enjoys being rejected.<\/p>\n<p>A guy telling me he\u2019s not interested in me would probably hurt my ego in a given moment. However, this situation most certainly won\u2019t be the cause of your misery in the long run.<\/p>\n<p>I prefer a guy who tells me that he\u2019s not into me over one who leads me on, raising my hopes without any solid backup.<\/p>\n<p>Preferisco un uomo abbastanza coraggioso da proporre una relazione senza legami, piuttosto che uno che finge di essere impegnato mentre \u00e8 in giro a fare la vita da scapolo.<\/p>\n<p>L'ultima cosa di cui ho bisogno sono false promesse e scuse vuote.<strong> I <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/non-accontentarti-di-un-uomo-che-sceglie-quando-prestarti-attenzione\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">rifiutare di accontentarsi di un ragazzo<\/a> whose action doesn\u2019t support his words.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t need a man who will sweet talk me into believing him while he is actually manipulating me.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-118423\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-sitting.jpg\" alt=\"donna che pensa seduta sul molo vicino al lago\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-sitting.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-sitting-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-sitting-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-sitting-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-sitting-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-sitting-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-sitting-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-sitting-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>I don\u2019t need a guy who will keep on telling me how much he loves me when he has never moved an inch to prove that imaginary love he allegedly feels for me.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t need someone who is likely to become a part of my emotional baggage&#8230; a man who will make me question my worth and leave me wondering why I wasn&#8217;t good enough to earn the title of his girlfriend.<\/p>\n<p>Mi rifiuto di accontentarmi di un ragazzo che mi mente in faccia senza battere ciglio o di un ragazzo che mi incasina la testa e l'autostima o di un ragazzo che \u00e8 l\u00ec solo per farmi perdere tempo prezioso.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Quando un uomo integro mi dice che <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/il-lato-brutto-di-capire-che-non-mi-amera-mai-abbastanza\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">he doesn&#8217;t love me enough<\/a> or that he doesn&#8217;t want me in his life, he is giving me an opportunity to move on.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In questo caso, le mie aspettative scompaiono e tutte le mie false speranze si trasformano in cenere.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, that hurts &#8211; I won&#8217;t lie to you. But, at least everything becomes crystal clear.<\/p>\n<p><strong>When you get rejected, you&#8217;re actually being saved. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/hai-schivato-un-proiettile-quando-ti-ha-lasciata\/\">You&#8217;ve dodged the bullet<\/a> unlike all the other girls. You won&#8217;t put your life on hold nor will you keep on waiting for a miracle that will never happen.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The other day, I was having a regular Sunday brunch with my girlfriends. After catching up with reports of our boring lives for the past week, as always, we ended up talking about the neverending mysteries: boys, dating, and romances (how surprising was that!). Firstly, we hashed over our current love situations, and then (again,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":118425,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-118415","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Ill-Take-A-Clear-Rejection-Over-A-Fake-Promise-Any-Time-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/118415","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=118415"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/118415\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/118425"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=118415"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=118415"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=118415"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}