{"id":118452,"date":"2020-12-11T12:07:21","date_gmt":"2020-12-11T12:07:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=118452"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:41:58","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:41:58","slug":"alcune-persone-sono-destinate-a-dare-piu-amore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/alcune-persone-sono-destinate-a-dare-piu-amore\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c8 possibile che alcune persone siano destinate a dare pi\u00f9 amore di quanto ne riceveranno mai?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Being on the verge of my thirties has got me thinking. You know how it rolls: you sit down one night, you have a panic attack and you wonder if you\u2019ll have enough time to do all the things on your elenco delle cose da fare<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Now, I sound like I\u2019m about to turn 80 at least. But, this is a big deal as well – your thirtieth birthday is not just a milestone – it is also an important turning point.<\/p>\n

Having this in mind, you recapitulate everything you\u2019ve done so far; you put each one of your accomplishments and failures on a scale and you wait to see which side will be heavier.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s exactly what I tried doing. Dopo aver analizzato le mie amicizie, le relazioni familiari e la mia carriera, \u00e8 arrivata la parte pi\u00f9 spaventosa: la mia vita sentimentale.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been running from these thoughts for a while now, but there has come a time for me to admit the bitter truth: rispetto ad altri aspetti della mia vita, le mie relazioni sentimentali sono (e ognuna di esse \u00e8 stata) un grande, grosso disastro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is not a phase that will go away. In fact, it\u2019s not that I\u2019m heartbroken as we speak.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, il fatto \u00e8 che la mia vita sentimentale non \u00e8 mai stata come l'avevo immaginata. For as long as I can remember, I\u2019ve been unhappy in love.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that I never had a serious, relazione impegnata<\/a>. Ho avuto la mia parte di fidanzati che ho amato e che mi hanno ricambiato.<\/p>\n

\u201cSo, how come you\u2019ve always been unhappy?\u201d, you must ask. Come mai tutte le sue relazioni sono fallite?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Queste domande mi hanno tormentato per un po', ma alla fine ho avuto le risposte.<\/p>\n

I miei standard sono troppo elevati? No, non lo sono.<\/strong> Al diavolo; la maggior parte delle volte sembrava che non avessi alcuno standard.<\/p>\n

Sto cercando troppo? Si.<\/strong> Ma aspettate: come \u00e8 possibile pretendere troppo e allo stesso tempo non avere standard?<\/p>\n

Well, you see – the only thing I asked for in all of my relationships was love.<\/p>\n

Hi, everyone, I\u2019m addicted to someone loving me and I do require too much love from the other person. And, there has come a point for my addiction to be healed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"specchio<\/p>\n

Vedete, per tutti questi anni ho incolpato i miei partner di non essersi mai presi abbastanza cura di me. In un modo o nell'altro, I\u2019ve been colui che ha amato di pi\u00f9<\/a> in tutte le mie relazioni.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m imagining things – I was really the one making most of the sacrifices, the one putting in more effort, and the one carrying all the weight.<\/p>\n

Di conseguenza, continuavo a essere quello che veniva preso in giro e lasciato indietro.<\/p>\n

Sembra uno schema, vero? Quindi, di chi \u00e8 la colpa?<\/p>\n

Per anni, Pensavo che nessuno dei miei ex fosse in grado di amarmi come meritavo.<\/strong>. Mi sentivo emotivamente trascurata e li consideravo colpevoli della mia insoddisfazione.<\/p>\n

Ma poi ho capito: Confrontavo la quantit\u00e0 di amore che ricevevo con quella che davo. Per tutto questo tempo ho pensato che il mio modo di amare fosse l'unico modo giusto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If a guy loves me any less – it\u2019s apparent that he doesn\u2019t love me at all.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tutte le mie relazioni erano pi\u00f9 o meno uguali: non appena me ne sono resa conto, ho messo tutto il mio impegno per cambiare la situazione.<\/p>\n

Stavo facendo tutto ci\u00f2 che era in mio potere per far s\u00ec che questi uomini si interessassero di pi\u00f9 a me.<\/strong> Ero sottilmente mendicando attenzione<\/a> and affection, and I kept falling into despair every time I didn\u2019t receive it.<\/p>\n

After some time, things would break apart. Sometimes, the men next to me couldn\u2019t handle the pressure of being constantly accused of indifference.<\/p>\n

On some other occasions, I ended things because I couldn\u2019t stand feeling so unloved.<\/p>\n

Poi, mi sono reso conto che I was born to give more love than I\u2019ll ever receive. That is my fatal flaw that will eventually be the cause of my emotional downfall.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know if I have a greater capacity for love than most people; if I consciously choose men who are unable to give their hearts out or if I secretly enjoy my role.<\/p>\n

Ma la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che ogni volta succede la stessa cosa: Lascio entrare gli uomini in tutto il mio cuore senza tenerne alcuna parte solo per me.<\/p>\n

Quello che so \u00e8 che commetto un errore enorme ogni volta che cerco di costringere un ragazzo ad amarmi di pi\u00f9. Invece, dovrei sforzarmi di amarlo di meno.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You see, you can\u2019t control the way others treat you. You can\u2019t force anyone into loving you more nor can you push them into reciprocating your feelings.<\/p>\n

L'unica persona su cui avete il controllo completo siete voi.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t force a guy to text you more often, but you can start texting him less frequently.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t make a guy make sacrifices in your relationship, but you can stop taking all the weight on your shoulders. You know what they say: \u201cIf you can\u2019t beat them, join them\u201d.<\/p>\n

The examples are endless, but you get the point. No, you shouldn\u2019t do it as part of your hidden agenda to make him fall for you harder.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re doing it to take your dignity back and to heal your own broken ego.<\/p>\n

Or, you can just leave and wait for a man who will give you the same amount of love he\u2019s getting from you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, prima di prendere questa decisione, vi prego di dirmi questo: Ami troppo? So che \u00e8 cos\u00ec.<\/p>\n

Infine, la quantit\u00e0 di amore e devozione che date al vostro partner fa bene alla vostra salute mentale?<\/p>\n

\u00c8 salutare amare qualcuno pi\u00f9 di quanto si ami se stessi?<\/strong> Credo che entrambi conosciamo queste risposte.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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