{"id":118720,"date":"2020-12-14T11:06:29","date_gmt":"2020-12-14T11:06:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=118720"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:29:36","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:29:36","slug":"linguaggio-dellamore-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/linguaggio-dellamore-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Capire i traumi e i fattori scatenanti del partner \u00e8 un linguaggio d'amore"},"content":{"rendered":"

Per molto tempo sono stata convinta che la mia precedente relazione fosse fallita perch\u00e9 io e il mio ex avevamo I diversi linguaggi dell'amore<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You see, love languages are a big deal in each romantic relationship. I\u2019m sure you know them all: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Tocco fisico<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Per farla breve, dopo aver analizzato a lungo, ho capito che il suo linguaggio d'amore era il contatto fisico.<\/p>\n

Quest'uomo non aveva alcuna espressione verbale d'amore. Infatti, l'unico modo in cui era in grado di dimostrare affetto era con l'aiuto del tocco intimo.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s wrong with that? Well, for an insecure girl like me, this brings a bunch of doubts to the table.<\/p>\n

Quest'uomo mi sta solo usando? Il suo unico obiettivo \u00e8 quello di entrare nei miei pantaloni? Perch\u00e9 non mi dice mai che mi ama?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Queste erano le domande che mi frullavano in testa. Prima ancora di conoscere il concetto di linguaggio dell'amore, queste domande mi stavano divorando.<\/p>\n

Vedete, I wasn\u2019t aware of the fact that different people express love in different ways.<\/strong> So, I spent most of my relationship feeling emotionally neglected and questioning my ex\u2019s feelings.<\/p>\n

Tutti gli esperti insegnano l'importanza di conoscere il proprio significant other\u2019s love language<\/a>. Queste preziose informazioni permettono di avere una visione incredibile di tutta la sua personalit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

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Not only that: it also gives you a chance for healthier communication. When you are familiar with a man\u2019s love language, you immediately open the doors to his heart and mind.<\/p>\n

Imparate ad avvicinarvi a loro e a soddisfare i loro bisogni emotivi.<\/p>\n

Even though I\u2019m not saying that the theory of the five love languages isn\u2019t as important as the experts are saying, but there is another thing you must pay attention to if you want a healthy relationship and a happy love life.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about your partner\u2019s deeply rooted traumas and triggers. I\u2019m talking about his heartbreaks and mental health conditions.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about his emotional wounds that later turned into scars.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 \u00e8 diventato la persona che \u00e8 oggi? Cosa lo ha trasformato in un uomo emotivamente distrutto, incapace di dire tre semplici parole?<\/p>\n

Naturally, it goes both ways \u2013 or at least, it should. You can\u2019t love a woman who\u2019s been through hell and back the same way you\u2019d love a girl who\u2019s never experienced the pain of heartbreak.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As a mature man, you have to be brave enough to dig under her layers and find what\u2019s hidden deep inside of her.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter if your partner was in an abusive relationship, wasted years on a narcissistic manipulator, or can\u2019t get over a painful childhood \u2013 they are a trauma survivor.<\/p>\n

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They are struggling with issues you know nothing about, and it\u2019s your job to help them along the way.<\/p>\n

And when you love a trauma survivor \u2013 you have to make your relationship feel like home for them. You have to shower them with love and security.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is what they need, even though they\u2019ll probably never ask for it. Trust me: Solo quando lo farete sarete veramente legati l'uno all'altro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Only when you see each other\u2019s vulnerabilities exposed will you be sure that you\u2019ve gained your partner\u2019s trust, despite everything they\u2019ve been through in the past.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: it\u2019s not your responsibility to fix people. You\u2019re not a rehabilitation center for damaged men.<\/p>\n

So, if you don\u2019t want to deal with someone\u2019s traumas and triggers, that\u2019s perfectly okay. Just be honest with yourself and him and walk away in time before they get used to your presence.<\/p>\n

Ma quando decidete di accogliere davvero un'altra persona nella vostra vita, che vi piaccia o no, questa viene con un bagaglio emotivo.<\/strong> They won\u2019t bring only laughter and happiness along.<\/p>\n

When you love someone, you also have to love the traumatized child in them. You\u2019re there to help them heal their old wounds, even those they think they\u2019ve forgotten about.<\/p>\n

Quando si ama qualcuno, bisogna accettare anche i suoi demoni.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You have to embrace their darkness and help them see the light at the end of the tunnel. And that\u2019s the most important linguaggio dell'amore<\/a> di tutti.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

For the longest time, I was convinced that my previous relationship failed because my ex and I had different love languages. You see, love languages are a big deal in each romantic relationship. I\u2019m sure you know them all: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. To cut a…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":118724,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-118720","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Understanding-Your-Partners-Traumas-And-Triggers-Is-A-Love-Language-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/118720","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=118720"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/118720\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/118724"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=118720"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=118720"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=118720"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}