{"id":11907,"date":"2021-01-02T14:51:16","date_gmt":"2021-01-02T14:51:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=11907"},"modified":"2024-10-28T01:49:33","modified_gmt":"2024-10-27T23:49:33","slug":"anno-sono-finalmente-pronto-ad-accettare-che-non-e-stata-colpa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/anno-sono-finalmente-pronto-ad-accettare-che-non-e-stata-colpa\/","title":{"rendered":"Quest'anno sono finalmente pronto ad accettare che non \u00e8 stata colpa mia"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sai, quando i cuori si spezzano, non si spezzano mai. Tra noi due, credo che il mio si sia spezzato pi\u00f9 del tuo.<\/p>\n<p>To be honest, I\u2019m not sure if your heart broke at all. If it hurt you just for a second or if you just for a second paused and wondered how I am.<\/p>\n<p>Actually, I\u2019m pretty sure that while I was having trouble falling asleep, you were sleeping like a baby. Knowing that you\u2019re okay while I was feeling like the biggest wreck made me fall into pieces even more.<\/p>\n<p>And there wasn\u2019t a single night that I haven\u2019t wondered what was it that I did wrong. Where did I fail; what was my mistake that made you so<a href=\"https:\/\/www.elitedaily.com\/dating\/love-turns-to-apathy\/1103703\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> indifferente ai miei sentimenti<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Mi sono abbattuta per cos\u00ec tanto tempo.<\/strong> I hated myself for not having you and accepting the fact that I don\u2019t actually have you anymore was as painful as the heartbreak itself.<\/p>\n<p>At some point, I hated myself for losing you. And I kept thinking it was my fault and that if I tried harder if I did some things differently, we might\u2019ve still been together. But there isn\u2019t anything else I could have done to make you stay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Vi ho dato il meglio di me.<\/strong> I tried harder than I have ever tried and although I wasn\u2019t perfect, I tried to be perfect just for you. I accepted you just the way you are with all your imperfections, but you were never really ready to do the same for me.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-122255 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-sad-Asian-woman-is-sitting-by-the-window-with-a-smartphone-in-her-hands.jpg\" alt=\"una donna asiatica triste \u00e8 seduta accanto alla finestra con uno smartphone in mano\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-sad-Asian-woman-is-sitting-by-the-window-with-a-smartphone-in-her-hands.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-sad-Asian-woman-is-sitting-by-the-window-with-a-smartphone-in-her-hands-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-sad-Asian-woman-is-sitting-by-the-window-with-a-smartphone-in-her-hands-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-sad-Asian-woman-is-sitting-by-the-window-with-a-smartphone-in-her-hands-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-sad-Asian-woman-is-sitting-by-the-window-with-a-smartphone-in-her-hands-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-sad-Asian-woman-is-sitting-by-the-window-with-a-smartphone-in-her-hands-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-sad-Asian-woman-is-sitting-by-the-window-with-a-smartphone-in-her-hands-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-sad-Asian-woman-is-sitting-by-the-window-with-a-smartphone-in-her-hands-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s when I realized I actually did all I could, but even that wasn\u2019t enough to make you stay. Because you were never truly meant to stay.<\/p>\n<p>Per molto tempo sono rimasta depressa. <strong>Per molto tempo mi sono intrappolata nel passato, riproducendo vecchi film nella mia testa e cercando di capire tutto quello che era successo.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I had trouble getting out of the bed and when I actually made myself get up, I\u2019d stand in front of the mirror and watch the stranger staring back at me. And seeing a stranger in the mirror can be pretty ugly you know.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I\u2019ve heard so many people with different resolutions for this year. But I only have one\u2014to stop beating myself down and finally accept the truth.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>I think I\u2019m finally ready to accept it wasn\u2019t my fault.<\/strong> Mi hai trattato male comunque e poi te ne sei andato.<\/p>\n<p>Invece di abbracciare la mia vita una volta <a href=\"https:\/\/tinybuddha.com\/blog\/5-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">la tossicit\u00e0 mi ha lasciato<\/a>Sono rimasta aggrappata al dolore che mi hai causato.<\/p>\n<p>You have this habit of making me feel like everything&#8217;s my fault and I guess when you walked away from my life, you left that one part of you to forever remain carved into my skin.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-122256 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-1.jpg\" alt=\"una donna depressa seduta in poltrona\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>And for a long time, it stayed a part of me as well, but now I\u2019m finally ready to wash away all your marks on my skin.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I\u2019m finally capable of understanding that nothing I did could make you stay.<\/strong> I went through the mourning phase, I went through my anger phase and now I\u2019m finally at the acceptance phase.<\/p>\n<p>And in this phase, I\u2019m accepting that you were just another toxic person in my life that I didn\u2019t notice right away.<\/p>\n<p>That you\u2019re just someone who entered my life to teach me a lesson, break my heart and someone who was bound to walk away once his job was done.<\/p>\n<p>But I feel that the hell you\u2019ve put me through and the hell I put myself through somehow made me feel stronger.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I\u2019ve finally got on good terms with myself to be able to accept that it\u2019s not that I wasn\u2019t good enough.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Because in life, if the person makes you feel like you\u2019re not good enough, it\u2019s the person that\u2019s wrong and not something with you.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-122257 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-lying-on-the-beach-and-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"una bella donna sdraiata sulla spiaggia che pensa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-lying-on-the-beach-and-thinking.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-lying-on-the-beach-and-thinking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-lying-on-the-beach-and-thinking-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-lying-on-the-beach-and-thinking-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-lying-on-the-beach-and-thinking-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-lying-on-the-beach-and-thinking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-lying-on-the-beach-and-thinking-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-lying-on-the-beach-and-thinking-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You constantly made me feel this way. You made me feel like nothing I did was either enough or right. And this year I\u2019m finally ready to accept it was you who wasn\u2019t right.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-ti-vuole-piu-indietro\/\">I\u2019m done apologizing or wishing you back<\/a>.<\/strong> I\u2019m no longer allowing myself to be a victim or to dim my voice or apologize for the things I wasn\u2019t guilty of.<\/p>\n<p>And I\u2019m done allowing you to project your insecurities on me. All I wanted was to love you and be loved by you. But all I got was broken.<\/p>\n<p>So there is no point in wishing to go back to something that was bad for me. I wish I realized this earlier, but it\u2019s never too late.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I\u2019m no longer afraid to lose what wasn&#8217;t meant to be.<\/strong> I\u2019m no longer afraid to let go of someone who wasn\u2019t good to me. I\u2019m <a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/shannon-kaiser\/stop-blaming-yourself-for_b_5692105.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">non mi sento pi\u00f9 in colpa<\/a> for things I\u2019m not guilty of.<\/p>\n<p>This year I\u2019m finally ready to accept it wasn\u2019t my fault and move on. I\u2019m finally ready to walk through this year without the burden of the failed relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/This-Year-Im-Finally-Ready-To-Accept-That-It-Wasnt-My-Fault-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Quest&#039;anno sono finalmente pronto ad accettare che non \u00e8 stata colpa mia\" class=\"wp-image-163251\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/This-Year-Im-Finally-Ready-To-Accept-That-It-Wasnt-My-Fault-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/This-Year-Im-Finally-Ready-To-Accept-That-It-Wasnt-My-Fault-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/This-Year-Im-Finally-Ready-To-Accept-That-It-Wasnt-My-Fault-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/This-Year-Im-Finally-Ready-To-Accept-That-It-Wasnt-My-Fault-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/This-Year-Im-Finally-Ready-To-Accept-That-It-Wasnt-My-Fault-pinterest-640x960.jpg 640w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/This-Year-Im-Finally-Ready-To-Accept-That-It-Wasnt-My-Fault-pinterest-720x1080.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/This-Year-Im-Finally-Ready-To-Accept-That-It-Wasnt-My-Fault-pinterest-800x1200.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/This-Year-Im-Finally-Ready-To-Accept-That-It-Wasnt-My-Fault-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You know, when hearts break, they never break even. Out of us two, I think mine got broken more than yours did. To be honest, I\u2019m not sure if your heart broke at all. If it hurt you just for a second or if you just for a second paused and wondered how I am&#8230;.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":176619,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11907","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/This-Year-Im-Finally-Ready-To-Accept-That-It-Wasnt-My-Fault-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11907","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11907"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11907\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":176621,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11907\/revisions\/176621"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/176619"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11907"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11907"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11907"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}