{"id":119472,"date":"2020-12-21T13:57:20","date_gmt":"2020-12-21T13:57:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=119472"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:25:35","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:25:35","slug":"come-affrontare-un-coniuge-negativo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-affrontare-un-coniuge-negativo\/","title":{"rendered":"Come affrontare un coniuge negativo in 12 modi intelligenti"},"content":{"rendered":"

Welcome to a step-by-step guide on how to deal with a negative spouse, as written by someone who’s lived to tell the tale.<\/em><\/p>\n

Dire che vivere con una persona negativa e dover camminare su gusci d'uovo \u00e8 estenuante, \u00e8 un'affermazione che non si pu\u00f2 fare. enorme<\/em> sottovalutazione.<\/p>\n

Qualche anno fa, quando stavo ancora con il mio ex, mi sono trovata in una situazione simile. La persona che avevo conosciuto era completamente sparita nel giro di pochi mesi da quando stavamo insieme.<\/p>\n

La sua positivit\u00e0 iniziale e tutto ci\u00f2 che lo appassionava si sono trasformati in un malumore senza fine, pieno di energia negativa, e per me \u00e8 stato un periodo davvero difficile.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tutto quello che riuscivo a pensare era: “What do I do? What’s going on with the person I was hoping to one day have a happy marriage with?”<\/em><\/p>\n

I couldn’t handle my own thoughts, as being with your negative spouse (or life partner) regularly and having no escape messes with la vostra salute mentale<\/a> Un momento importante.<\/p>\n

I wasn’t just going to give up, though.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I’ve always been a perfectionist, which means I gave it my all to find a way out of that black hole. Voglio dire, cosa si fa quando il tuo amata<\/a> \u00e8 costantemente sopraffatto da emozioni negative?<\/em><\/p>\n

Se si vuole che funzioni, ci si spinge oltre. Andate in terapia matrimoniale. Cercate di non farvi influenzare dal suo atteggiamento negativo.<\/p>\n

Below, I\u2019ll discuss how I made the best out of a bad situation. We ultimately didn’t work out (per motivi diversi<\/em>), ma questi consigli hanno cambiato enormemente le carte in tavola.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Vi sentite insicuri sul matrimonio? 7 pro e contro per capirlo<\/a><\/p>\n

Una guida pratica su come affrontare un coniuge negativo<\/h2>\n

Don’t let their negativity ruin your well-being. Regain your positive energy and put yourself in the BEST situation to help your spouse with these life-changing tips.<\/em><\/p>\n

Non prendete mai sul personale la loro negativit\u00e0<\/h2>\n

\"Coppia<\/p>\n

It’s rarely about you. It’s almost always about their inner struggles. They direct it at you, as you live with them, but it’s never something to take personally.<\/p>\n

That’s what helped me stay sane. I focused on myself and all the ways that I could help myself feel better.<\/p>\n

If my partner chooses negativity, fine. That doesn’t have to be my reality. Anche se pu\u00f2 essere difficile vivere con una persona del genere, si pu\u00f2 sempre scegliere quanto lasciarsi influenzare da lei.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Certo, si tratta di una soluzione temporanea, ma i passi che seguono sono molto pi\u00f9 dettagliati su come gestire un coniuge negativo.<\/p>\n

Lasciate che la vostra energia positiva prevalga<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

If you’re a naturally positive person, let that prevail every day. The moment your spouse comes home and brings that negative energy, shift your focus onto something positive.<\/p>\n

Let’s say they had a bad day at work (surprise, surprise!) and complained from the moment they walked through the door. Say that it sucks for them, but you just made their favorite meal, which you’re sure will make them feel better!<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 solo un esempio che pu\u00f2 funzionare o meno. Il punto \u00e8 sostituire i loro schemi negativi con i vostri schemi positivi. Siate felici<\/a> e cercare di dare loro un motivo per sorridere.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si spera che questo possa essere sufficiente, almeno fino a quando non si decider\u00e0 la prossima linea d'azione.<\/p>\n

Figure out what’s going on before judging them<\/h2>\n

\"woma<\/p>\n

\u00c8 successo qualcosa di recente che potrebbe averli portati a diventare improvvisamente fortemente negativi?<\/p>\n

Potrebbe trattarsi di problemi sul lavoro, di problemi con i familiari o di natura finanziaria?<\/p>\n

There has to be a reason for their behavior. Nobody just wakes up and decides that they’ll be grumpy from today onward.<\/p>\n

If you feel like they won\u2019t be straight with you, try to figure it out on your own. Who knows, you just might be onto something.<\/p>\n

Dealing with a negative spouse doesn\u2019t always have to be a problem. Sometimes, it takes figuring out their inner issue and helping them get on top of it.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Mio marito \u00e8 cattivo con me e sta lentamente rovinando il nostro matrimonio<\/a><\/p>\n

Ascoltateli con attenzione e vedete se potete aiutarli in qualche modo.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Listen to the words that they’re saying. Your spouse might be unwilling to say exactly what is going on, but they might accidentally give you a hint.<\/p>\n

Il mio consiglio \u00e8 di ascoltare attentamente. Potreste scoprire molto pi\u00f9 di quanto pensate. E con un po' di fortuna, potreste anche essere in grado di aiutare in qualche modo.<\/p>\n

Concentratevi su tutte le loro caratteristiche POSITIVE (e ricordatele anche a loro).<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Li avete sposati, quindi ci deve essere qualcosa di positivo in loro! Allora, come vi hanno conquistato?<\/p>\n

It can be difficult to reminisce about the happier times right now but try. That way, you’ll uncover so many happy memories that you’ve suppressed due to their sudden negative emotions.<\/p>\n

Avevate un matrimonio felice e il vostro coniuge vi rendeva molto felici, giusto?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Se tornate a quei tempi e ricordate a voi stessi (e a loro) quanto erano belle le cose non molto tempo fa, potrebbe essere la spinta di cui hanno bisogno per tornare a essere quelli che erano.<\/p>\n

Creare confini sani<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

How far are you willing to let their negativity go? There have to be healthy boundaries to what you’re willing to accept.<\/p>\n

A un certo punto, dovete dire di no. No alla loro energia negativa, no ai loro commenti negativi, no al fatto che cerchino di trasformarvi in una persona stanca.<\/strong> I limiti ci sono per un motivo.<\/p>\n

Una persona negativa cercher\u00e0 sempre di fare la vittima e di farvi sentire dispiaciuti per lei. Ma come pu\u00f2 questo portare a una risoluzione positiva?<\/p>\n

Pity doesn\u2019t get you anywhere. Taking action does.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Il vostro coniuge \u00e8 sempre stato negativo o \u00e8 una cosa recente?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ha sposato un narcisista sotto mentite spoglie<\/a>? Il vostro coniuge \u00e8 sempre stato un fascio di negativit\u00e0 o \u00e8 successo di recente?<\/em><\/p>\n

This plays a huge role in how your marriage unfolds. If this is who your spouse has always been, then you’re going to have a hard time changing their innate personality.<\/p>\n

BUT, if they used to be a happy-go-lucky person, something had to make them act this way, so there’s hope after all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now, I’m not saying figuring it out will be easy for anyone involved, but it means it could end on a happy note.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: 20 segni di un matrimonio senza amore e 6 modi efficaci per affrontarlo<\/a><\/p>\n

Circondatevi di persone la cui energia corrisponde alla vostra<\/h2>\n

\"gruppo<\/p>\n

Si tratta dei membri della famiglia, dei colleghi di lavoro, degli amici pi\u00f9 cari e di tutti coloro con i quali \u00e8 facile stare insieme.<\/p>\n

Avere intorno energia positiva influisce in modo determinante sul vostro umore. Le persone negative vi risucchiano tutta la gioia, trasformandovi in un brontolone pessimista.<\/p>\n

Don’t socialize with anyone who’s an energy vampire.<\/strong> Rimanete vicini alle persone che vi rendono felici di essere vivi e alle persone la cui presenza vi influenza in tutti i modi migliori.<\/p>\n

Those are the people who’ll help you survive this entire marriage ordeal with a bit more ease.<\/p>\n

Don’t let anyone project their unhappiness on you<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Vi sembrer\u00e0 duro, ma il fatto che si tratti del vostro coniuge NON gli d\u00e0 il diritto di avvelenarvi con i suoi commenti negativi.<\/p>\n

Remember that no one has power over you. If they’re unhappy, they need to be able to work it out within themselves.<\/p>\n

You’re always going to be their support system, but they need to be the one to take action. You’re nobody’s puppet.<\/p>\n

Non permettete mai a nessuno di scendere a compromessi la propria felicit\u00e0<\/a> just because they don’t know any other way to be.<\/strong> Aiutateli, siate la loro cassa di risonanza, ma non permettete mai che la loro negativit\u00e0 vi consumi.<\/p>\n

Help your spouse realize that they’re the root of their problem<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Don’t let your spouse’s l'arte malvagia dello scaricabarile<\/a> li aiuta a sfuggire alla responsabilit\u00e0 delle loro azioni. Molto probabilmente sono la radice dei loro problemi.<\/p>\n

Until they face their demons head-on, they’ll never be able to shake this negativity. So, to answer your question: Come posso gestire un coniuge negativo?<\/em> – Let them realize that they hold the key to their happiness.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe they’ll finally be able to accept it, or maybe they’ll keep refusing to assumersi la responsabilit\u00e0 delle proprie azioni<\/a>. Either way, it’s entirely on loro<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Farli uscire di casa e fare cose insieme<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Come ultimo passo della mia guida su come affrontare un coniuge negativo, raccomando di passare pi\u00f9 tempo di qualit\u00e0 insieme.<\/p>\n

If you both live busy lives and are often apart due to work commitments (and whatnot), it’s time to get your spouse out of the house and do something as a couple.<\/p>\n

Ci sono cos\u00ec tanti attivit\u00e0 di coppia divertenti<\/a> che vi far\u00e0 innamorare di nuovo l'uno dell'altra. Andate in bicicletta, rivivete il vostro primo appuntamento<\/a>, listen to fun podcasts together, or anything else you’re both into!<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can’t wave a magic wand and expect things to change in an instant, but you can speed up the process by reminding yourselves of why you got married in the first place.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: 18 segni che tua moglie vuole lasciarti e come salvare il tuo matrimonio<\/a><\/p>\n

Abbiate fiducia nel fatto che coloro che VOGLIONO rimanere nella vostra vita rimarranno sempre.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u201cNever underestimate your power to change yourself; never overestimate your power to change others.\u201d<\/strong><\/em> \u2013 Wayne W. Dyer<\/p>\n

If your spouse is meant to stay in your life, they’re going to stay. If, after everything you’ve done for them, they still make zero effort to change their ways, let things flow at their natural pace.<\/p>\n

Don’t try to make someone stay if they keep proving that they don’t care enough to make it work.<\/p>\n

Si pu\u00f2 amare qualcuno pi\u00f9 di quanto le parole possano dire, ma a un certo punto bisogna mettere il proprio benessere al primo posto. Le persone cambiano e la vita accade in un batter d'occhio. Invece di resistere, accettatela.<\/p>\n

Right now, it might not make a lot of sense. But one day, you’ll realize that letting things happen the way they’re supposed to is the best decision you could’ve made.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No one can say for certain what’s going to happen. All you can do is try your best to make life with a negative person bearable.<\/p>\n

If all your efforts go to waste, you always have yourself. It’s better to be alone than surrounded by constant negativity.<\/p>\n

Come modificare i vostri schemi di pensiero negativi<\/h2>\n

Se anche voi lottate contro gli attacchi di energia negativa, ecco alcuni passi utili che potete fare per migliorare voi stessi.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Immediately resist the urge to engage in negative self-talk.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The moment you catch yourself drifting away in negative self-talk, nip it in the bud. That’s the surest way to keep it under control.<\/p>\n

You have to learn how to keep yourself in check. If you don’t control your emotions, they’re going to take control of your life. All it takes is some willpower and perseverance.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Surround yourself with positive people.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"gruppo<\/p>\n

Il modo pi\u00f9 semplice per mantenere la positivit\u00e0 e la giusta rotta \u00e8 stare accanto a persone che tirano fuori il meglio di s\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Who’s your go-to person in times of need? Call them up whenever you need a break.<\/p>\n

Fate lunghe passeggiate, parlate di cose positive e sorridete insieme. Le soluzioni pi\u00f9 semplici sono sempre le migliori.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Cultivate an attitude of gratitude.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Be grateful for everything you’ve got. It might not be a whole lot, but it’s more than some people have. Be grateful for waking up every day and having the ability to kick the day’s ass.<\/p>\n

Siate grati per le persone che fanno parte della vostra vita e che rendono tutto questo proficuo. Siate grati per la vostra salute e per quella dei vostri familiari.<\/p>\n

Doesn’t that put it ALL in perspective?<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: 9 valori relazionali fondamentali che ogni coppia dovrebbe avere<\/a><\/p>\n

\u2022 Seek professional help if it comes to that.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. If your mind is messed up, it’ll reflect badly on the quality of your life.<\/p>\n

I took that step a few years ago, and it resulted in major changes in my life. You can’t even imagine how much a licensed professional can help you turn things around.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Change your sleeping habits.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

Sleep is so important. If you don’t get enough of it, it’ll make you cranky, low on energy, and with a short fuse.<\/p>\n

If you go to sleep way too late and get up very early, it’s time to change your sleeping patterns. You’d be surprised how much the quality of your sleep can affect your daily life.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Eat healthily and exercise.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

I’m sure you’ve already heard this a million times. Only, something tells me that you rolled your eyes every time and grabbed a bite of your delicious cheeseburger. Ho caldo?<\/em><\/p>\n

Yes, exercise and healthy eating habits take a LOT of willpower, but once you get used to it, you’ll never allow yourself to go back. I can testify to that first-hand.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Try new, adventurous things you’ve never dared to do before.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

Don’t let your life fall into a rut. Before you realize it, you’ll have wasted your youth on never doing anything outside of your daily schedule. It’s time to break out of it.<\/p>\n

Un'avventura unica nella vita con il tuo migliore amico<\/a>. Go skydiving (especially if you’ve always wanted but never allowed yourself to do it). Get out of your comfort zone and start enjoying life!<\/p>\n

\u2022 Do one thing every single day that makes you smile.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

This one’s simple. What makes you happy? For me, it’s hearing my best friend’s voice, spending time with my nieces, eating Maltesers, and cuddling with my dog.<\/p>\n

Figure out your own and do one thing from your list every single day. If you can, start your day like that and see how much more energized, productive, and positive you’ll be.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Love yourself through all your flaws and shortcomings.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

L'amore per se stessi \u00e8 il pi\u00f9 importante di tutti. Siete voi a insegnare agli altri come trattarvi. Pi\u00f9 amate voi stessi, pi\u00f9 lo faranno anche gli altri.<\/p>\n

S\u00ec, avete dei difetti. S\u00ec, di tanto in tanto sbagliate. Ma anche io e tutti gli altri.<\/p>\n

Nobody\u2019s trying to be the perfect human specimen. We’re all just doing the best with what life gave us. Love yourself through every up and down and see your world change.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Obiettivi del matrimonio: 15 cose principali su cui tutte le coppie sposate dovrebbero concentrarsi<\/a><\/p>\n

Nutrire la mente con pensieri positivi<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

And don’t let anyone’s negativity overwhelm your positivity. You can’t change who your spouse is, but you can change your willingness to live with it.<\/p>\n

You are who you surround yourself with. You can’t choose your family members, but you can distance yourself from their negative energy. It’s never wrong to prioritize your well-being.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, creating some healthy distance is necessary to realize who’s meant to stay and who’s a mere passerby in your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se da un lato spero sinceramente che la mia guida aiuti il vostro matrimonio in modo significativo, dall'altro dovete anche rendervi conto che you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s important to keep a sane head throughout this ordeal, as your thoughts shape the reality that you live in. In the words of the inspiring Mahatma Gandhi:<\/p>\n

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Quando \u00e8 necessario tagliare i ponti con le persone? ( + 7 consigli per farlo)<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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