{"id":120516,"date":"2020-12-23T17:22:01","date_gmt":"2020-12-23T17:22:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=120516"},"modified":"2021-08-30T13:47:57","modified_gmt":"2021-08-30T13:47:57","slug":"luomo-che-mi-ha-fatto-sentire-come-se-fosse-impossibile-da-amare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/luomo-che-mi-ha-fatto-sentire-come-se-fosse-impossibile-da-amare\/","title":{"rendered":"Una lettera all'uomo che mi ha fatto sentire impossibile da amare"},"content":{"rendered":"

You left me with only one sentence that is still etched deep in my mind: \u201cYou are so hard to love.\u201d Really, after everything that happened, you had the guts to tell me that I\u2019m the unlovable one?<\/p>\n

Ho dato troppo e non ho mai chiesto n\u00e9 ricevuto nulla in cambio.<\/em> That\u2019s why it was a hell of a thing for you to make me feel like I\u2019m the unlovable one. But I have to admit\u2026 You almost succeeded in convincing me.<\/p>\n

Quasi. Una parola cos\u00ec importante per me. Tu quasi<\/em> made me feel like I\u2019m too hard to love. You quasi<\/em> ha spezzato la mia fede nel vero amore.<\/p>\n

Tu quasi<\/em> mi ha fatto dubitare del mio valore. Tu quasi<\/em> Sei riuscito a fare tutto questo, ma alla fine hai fallito perch\u00e9 ero molto pi\u00f9 forte di quanto pensassi.<\/p>\n

I know I never asked for much. I was never interested in material things or precious gifts. I never asked you to spend time with me 24\/7. I wasn’t too needy, and I never tried to change you.<\/p>\n

Ti ho accettato cos\u00ec come sei. Ho accettato tutto di te, tutti i tuoi lati positivi, cos\u00ec come quelli negativi. Ho accolto tutti i tuoi difetti.<\/em> Purtroppo mi sono innamorato completamente di te e di tutte le tue imperfezioni.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, I’m not trying to make myself out as a saint. I have flaws, and I also made mistakes. However, I was willing, and I was trying hard to change and be a better person for you… For us.<\/p>\n

Volevo solo che mi amassi nello stesso modo in cui io ho amato te<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Volevo solo il tipo di amore che ho sempre sognato. Sai, quello mozzafiato, incondizionato<\/a>un amore bellissimo, di quelli che capitano una volta nella vita.<\/p>\n

And no, don’t tell me that I asked for too much because I loved you that way. The only problem is that I wanted it from the wrong person. Cercavo l'amore giusto con la persona sbagliata.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Niente di ci\u00f2 che ho fatto \u00e8 stato abbastanza per te<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ho provato e riprovato con tutte le mie forze a dimostrarti che ti amavo davvero. Pensavo che fosse colpa mia, in qualche modo, se eri cos\u00ec freddo e distante nei miei confronti.<\/p>\n

Tu non mi ha mai apprezzato<\/a>, neither as a person nor as a girlfriend. You were aware that as much as you ignored my efforts, I’d continue to try to be a better girlfriend to you.<\/p>\n

Il mio errore \u00e8 stato quello di idealizzarti<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

In my eyes, you were a perfect man. I would say that\u2019s my biggest mistake. Pensare a te come a un ragazzo perfetto e metterti su un piedistallo quando eri cos\u00ec lontano dall'essere perfetto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

My other mistake was letting you inside my heart and, even worse, in my head. I allowed you to make me doubt myself, to decrease my value, and make me feel like I’m not worthy of being loved.<\/p>\n

Alla fine, sento di dovervi ringraziare, dopotutto<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Yes, you did leave me with many insecurities. I was convinced that I was unworthy of love. You said that love isn’t meant for everyone, and I was trying to come to terms with that.<\/p>\n

I thought that God had forgotten me when it comes to love…<\/p>\n

Ma, sapete una cosa? Tutte quelle insicurezze mi hanno reso la donna che sono oggi: una donna sicura di s\u00e9, coraggiosa, indipendente e donna forte<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m a woman who knows what she wants from life and who won\u2019t allow anyone to take the wheel of her life because only she should steer it.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, mi dispiace per te<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You tried to make me feel that I was the one who is hard to love when actually, you’re the one who is impossible to love.<\/p>\n

Hai rinchiuso il tuo cuore e hai costruito un enorme muro, una fortezza intorno ad esso, in modo che nessuno potesse mai avvicinarsi ad esso.<\/p>\n

Maybe, you did it out of fear because you don’t want anyone to hurt you and break your heart.<\/p>\n

But, I think that the real reason you did it is that you’re weak.<\/p>\n

You’re a coward who cannot confront his own feelings and thinks that it’s better to run away from things than to accept the risk those things bring with them.<\/p>\n

That’s why I can’t be angry at you or hate you anymore. I honestly feel sorry for you, a weak man who’ll forever be alone, sad, and lonely.<\/em><\/p>\n

I’m still alone, but I’ll never be lonely. You see, you didn’t manage to convince me I’m unlovable after all.<\/p>\n

Ci sono cos\u00ec tante persone nella mia vita che mi amano per quello che sono, che amano tutte le mie imperfezioni e i miei difetti e che mi amano per tutte le ragioni giuste.<\/p>\n

That’s why even though I’m alone, I’ll never be lonely.<\/p>\n

Today I’m the happiest woman alive because I finally got closure with this letter and realized something very important: I’m worthy of the purest and most beautiful kind of love and belonging.<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You left me with only one sentence that is still etched deep in my mind: \u201cYou are so hard to love.\u201d Really, after everything that happened, you had the guts to tell me that I\u2019m the unlovable one? I gave too much and never asked for or got anything in return. That\u2019s why it was…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":120525,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-120516","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-Im-Impossible-To-Love-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","parent":29651,"count":207,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29653,"category_count":207,"category_description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. ","cat_name":"letters","category_nicename":"letters","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/120516","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/41"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=120516"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/120516\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/120525"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=120516"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=120516"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=120516"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}