{"id":125223,"date":"2021-01-22T19:11:53","date_gmt":"2021-01-22T19:11:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=125223"},"modified":"2022-03-15T00:51:23","modified_gmt":"2022-03-15T00:51:23","slug":"ignorare-il-coniuge-durante-la-separazione","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ignorare-il-coniuge-durante-la-separazione\/","title":{"rendered":"24 regole e regole per ignorare il coniuge durante la separazione"},"content":{"rendered":"

You’ve filed for divorce, and you’re probably asking yourself, \u201cwhat should I do now?\u201d To be honest, I\u2019ve got to tell you that a difficult period is ahead of you no matter what you choose to do.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ignorare il coniuge durante la separazione \u00e8 probabilmente il modo migliore per affrontarlo.<\/p>\n

I know you’re now asking how to do it and if it’s even possible to ignore someone after many years of marriage. How do you ignore someone who was such a great part of your life for so long?<\/em><\/p>\n

This will be especially difficult if children are involved. It’ll be impossible to completely ignore your spouse if you have kids together because you’ll have to communicate about them, at least.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, anche questa comunicazione deve essere ridotta al minimo. Dovete parlare solo delle cose importanti che riguardano i vostri figli; tutto il resto deve essere ignorato.<\/p>\n

Credetemi, anche se questa tecnica sembra molto difficile in questo momento, vi aiuter\u00e0 a superare questo processo nel modo pi\u00f9 rapido e indolore possibile.<\/p>\n

Per prima cosa, prima di continuare a leggere, dovete essere completamente sicuri della vostra decisione di divorziare.<\/p>\n

Forse si pu\u00f2 scrivere una sorta di “Should I get a divorce?” checklist<\/a> e lasciate che vi aiuti a decidere.<\/p>\n

I hope you\u2019ve really tried to save the marriage and that you’ve visited a marriage counselor before deciding to file for divorce.<\/p>\n

Ignoring your spouse during your separation \u2014 My own experience<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Vi racconto la mia storia. Ho avuto una relazione d'amore con il mio compagno per tre anni prima di decidere di sposarci.<\/p>\n

We were married for three more years. So, I’d spent six years with him, and I suppose that’s enough time to know someone, right?<\/p>\n

Well, to be honest, I think that even a lifetime isn’t enough to know someone entirely because I’ve been living with myself for more than thirty years, and I still manage to surprise myself with some of my decisions and actions.<\/em><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, lo conoscevo abbastanza da capire quando mentiva. Conoscevo anche il nostro rapporto abbastanza bene da capire quando qualcosa non andava tra noi.<\/p>\n

Per i primi due anni del nostro matrimonio, eravamo una di quelle coppie felicemente sposate che sembrano non avere nulla o nessuna persona che possa mai frapporsi tra loro o danneggiare\/rovinare il loro matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Poi abbiamo avuto il nostro bambino e, proprio in quel momento, tutto \u00e8 cambiato. Ho notato che mio marito era cambiato e che ci stavamo allontanando.<\/p>\n

Ero consapevole che i suoi sentimenti erano cambiati, ma ogni volta che lo affrontavo, lui negava tutto.<\/p>\n

He didn’t know how to communicate in a healthy way, which is one way men distruggere i loro matrimoni<\/a>. Mi sembrava di vivere con un coinquilino o con qualcuno che conoscevo appena per quell'ultimo anno di matrimonio.<\/p>\n

To cut this long story short, he didn’t want to get a divorce even though he was aware that we no longer loved each other.<\/p>\n

In qualche modo, \u00e8 riuscito a convincermi che dovremmo andare in terapia di coppia e cercare di far funzionare il nostro matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Ho accettato, anche se ero consapevole che ci trovavamo in una situazione di matrimonio senza amore<\/a> beyond saving. Of course, all of that didn’t help us reconnect again, and to be honest, I didn’t want to get my husband back.<\/p>\n

Poi ho chiesto il divorzio e ho deciso di ignorarlo completamente durante il processo di separazione. Ad essere onesti, questo ci ha aiutato entrambi e ha reso le cose molto pi\u00f9 facili per entrambi.<\/p>\n

We both knew that divorce would be difficult, but we were aware that sometimes it’s better to do it than stay in an matrimonio infelice<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Now that it’s all behind us, we have a really good relationship, and the most important thing is that we both take care of our son, because that’s truly the most important thing.<\/p>\n

The dos and don’ts of ignoring your spouse during your separation<\/h2>\n

Whether you’re ignoring your spouse during your separation because you want it all to end as quickly and painlessly as possible, or it’s just how you cope with your feelings, these dos and don’ts will help you to achieve the goal you want.<\/p>\n

If you’re ignoring your spouse because you think it\u2019s the best to make them realize that it’s their loss and somehow get your wife\/husband back, these dos and don’ts may help you with that, but I would advise you not to do it.<\/p>\n

It’s not worth it. They’re not worthy of you nor your precious time. If someone is so blind and isn’t able to see your worth, there is no point in trying to get them to see it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Credere nel potere del regola del divieto di contatto<\/em><\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Credo che una delle migliori tecniche per affrontare qualsiasi tipo di rottura per entrambi i partner sia sua maest\u00e0, la regola del divieto di contatto<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n

Because for as long as you stay in touch with someone, you won\u2019t be able to break up with that person for good.<\/p>\n

\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200bI know it’ll be difficult. You were sure that this person was your soulmate and that you’d stay together forever. You spent so much time with them, and they\u2019re still a huge part of your own life.<\/p>\n

Vi siete abituati a loro. Vi siete abituati a svegliarvi accanto a loro ogni mattina e ad accoccolarvi con loro nel letto ogni sera. Vi siete abituati a vederli e a parlare con loro ogni giorno.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now, all of a sudden, all of that must stop. You can’t see them, nor can you call them just to hear their voice. I just want to prepare you; this will be a difficult task.<\/p>\n

Come si fa a ignorare ed evitare una persona che \u00e8 stata la vostra met\u00e0 per cos\u00ec tanto tempo, giusto? Tuttavia, la regola del divieto di contatto dura solo 30 giorni, dopodich\u00e9 potete smettere di evitare il vostro futuro ex coniuge.<\/p>\n

I know what you’ll now be saying, \u201cIt’ll be 30 days of hell.\u201d Hmm, probably, but just know that this rule is so powerful that it’ll make everything so much easier for you.<\/p>\n

Surprisingly, the last few days of the no contact rule month will be awful. The last one will probably be the worst, but you’ll see that everything will be so much clearer and easier for you the next day.<\/p>\n

However, if you endure it all and manage not to be in contact with your spouse at all, you’ll make the separation process a whole lot easier, both for you and your spouse.<\/p>\n

Ci sono davvero tanti I vantaggi della regola del divieto di contatto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

DON’T answer their phone calls<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I know this sounds like a challenging thing to do, especially if you still have feelings for your spouse. Even if you don’t, you probably still respect them and don’t want to make them suffer.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 meglio cos\u00ec, credetemi. Se continuate a mantenere i contatti con il vostro coniuge, non farete altro che complicare ulteriormente le cose.<\/p>\n

You’ll remind each other of all the things you went through together, and then it’ll be even harder for you to end things with them for good.<\/p>\n

D'altra parte, potreste anche finire per discutere di alcuni problemi e disaccordi coniugali irrisolti e peggiorare la situazione per entrambi.<\/p>\n

I’m sure that’s the last thing you need right now.<\/p>\n

There will be days when you’ll be thinking, “Oh, god, should I text her\/him just to see how they are?” But you have to ignore it all.<\/p>\n

Even if your spouse doesn’t reach out and you really want to know how they feel, consider it as you being forbidden to initiate contact.<\/p>\n

To cut a long story short, when you hear your phone beeping and you see their name on the screen of your phone, just delete their text message without even looking at what they\u2019ve written.<\/em><\/p>\n

DO talk with them if it’s an emergency<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Let’s be honest. There is no such thing as an easy or painless breakup.<\/p>\n

Separating from someone you\u2019ve spent a long period of time with is always difficult, no matter who initiated the breakup or what the reason for it was.<\/p>\n

Dovete essere preparati al fatto che la procedura di divorzio sar\u00e0 difficile, dolorosa ed emotivamente drenante sia per voi che per il vostro futuro ex marito\/moglie.<\/p>\n

If you were the one who initiated the breakup, your spouse will most surely have a hard time accepting the fact that you’re going your separate ways after so many years of marriage.<\/p>\n

Probabilmente vi raggiungeranno e vi chiederanno di parlare e di risolvere la situazione. Potrebbero persino suggerirvi una consulenza matrimoniale per aiutarvi a risolvere il problema. aggiustare il vostro matrimonio in crisi<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you’re completely sure that you’ve made the right decision, even if it hurts to see them suffer, you shouldn’t change your mind.<\/p>\n

The truth is that sooner or later, you’ll be divorced. Postponing the divorce won’t make things easier. On the contrary, it may only hurt both of you more.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, in an emergency, you should answer their calls or reply to their text messages. But you’re ONLY allowed to do that in serious cases of emergency.<\/p>\n

This is especially important if you’ve got kids together. Suppose your spouse wants to talk about child support or some other important things regarding your kids.<\/p>\n

DON’T do anything that might provoke a reaction from your partner<\/h2>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 un momento difficile della vostra vita. Dovete riflettere bene su ogni passo che fate.<\/p>\n

Your goal is to end the divorce process as soon as possible, not hurt your spouse’s feelings by provoking them and then ignoring their reaction, right?<\/p>\n

Even if you’ve immediately found someone new, and you have every right to do so, you shouldn’t jump into a relationship with that person right away.<\/p>\n

That’s something that will definitely provoke a reaction from your spouse. It might piss them off because they may think it\u2019s the reason you wanted to divorce in the first place.<\/p>\n

Also, don’t ever flirt with someone else in front of your soon-to-be-ex-husband\/wife. It’s really awful, and it’ll definitely make them change their opinion of you or provoke an even worse reaction from their side.<\/p>\n

frequentare gli amici che avete in comune<\/h2>\n

\"amici<\/p>\n

If you’re ignoring your spouse during the separation, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn\u2019t hang out with the friends you have in common. It’s not fair to them because they aren’t guilty of your separation.<\/p>\n

In questo modo, potreste perdere alcuni grandi amici, persone che vi sono sempre state vicine e che vi vogliono sinceramente bene.<\/p>\n

Of course, sometimes they might invite both you and your spouse to a gathering where it’ll be impossible to avoid your partner.<\/p>\n

They’ll probably try to avoid it initially, at least until the divorce process concludes because they won\u2019t want to make things more difficult for you.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, se vi trovate in questa situazione, dovreste cercare di avere il minor numero possibile di contatti con il vostro coniuge.<\/p>\n

Don’t ignore them if they ask you something in front of all those people, but keep away from them as much as you can.<\/p>\n

If you see that things have become awkward, you should go back home. I’m sure your friends will understand and won’t be mad at you because you\u2019ve left.<\/p>\n

DON’T talk to them about your partner or your marriage<\/h2>\n

\"amici<\/p>\n

Even if you’re on a trial separation with your spouse or started the divorce process, you shouldn’t talk about your spouse or your separation in front of your friends.<\/p>\n

Don’t put your best friends in an uncomfortable position. It’s not fair to make them choose sides because it’s something they aren’t okay with.<\/p>\n

I’m sure you’ll be able to hang out with them together again after the divorce. Time will pass, and you’ll both move on, and it’ll be a lot easier for both of you to hang out together with your friends.<\/p>\n

Se i vostri amici iniziano la conversazione o vi consigliano di cercare di far funzionare il vostro matrimonio prima di porvi fine per sempre, dovreste chiedere loro gentilmente di restarne fuori.<\/p>\n

Il vostro matrimonio e il vostro divorzio sono una questione privata e solo voi e il vostro coniuge avete il diritto di prendere decisioni cos\u00ec importanti sul vostro matrimonio.<\/em><\/p>\n

Altri hanno il diritto di commentare e di parlarne, ma nessuno ha il diritto di interferire.<\/p>\n

I’m sure your friends only want what’s best for you and your partner and they can offer their sincere advice, but you two are the only ones who can make the final decision.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cercare conforto in un'altra persona<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You’ve been in a loving relationship with someone who was your main supporter in life. Now, when you’re going through such a difficult period in life, you need support and comfort more than ever.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, now you can’t get it from your spouse. That’s why you should find it outside of your marriage.<\/p>\n

You’re sad, confused, stressed, and maybe even hurt, and you need someone who’ll give you that emotional support you desperately need right now.<\/p>\n

No matter whether you’re a man or a woman, you’re a human being. You are weak, just as we all are.<\/em><\/p>\n

It’s okay to cry because I know how much this hurts. I also know that it gets easier with time and when you find someone with whom you can share your sorrows.<\/em><\/p>\n

Hai bisogno di trovare una spalla su cui piangere. I tuoi sentimenti sono opprimenti in questo momento e imbottigliarli \u00e8 la cosa peggiore che tu possa fare.<\/p>\n

Your feelings will come to the surface sooner or later. I know that it’s hard to accept that things have drastically changed in the last year.<\/p>\n

But, you don’t have to go through it alone. Find someone who’ll want more than anything to be there for you in these difficult days.<\/p>\n

DON’T involve your friends or family members in this<\/h2>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

You should open up to your best friend or a family member. You should share your feelings with them, but you shouldn’t drag them into your marriage problems.<\/p>\n

You’ll put them in a difficult position, especially if they had a good relationship with your spouse. They won’t know how to react and what to do.<\/p>\n

You can and should hang out with them but only to keep yourself busy and divert your thoughts away from your problems. If you talk with them about your separation, too, you’ll never be able to heal from it.<\/p>\n

Un'altra cosa che voglio consigliarvi \u00e8 di rispettare i vostri suoceri anche dopo la fine del vostro matrimonio. Anche queste persone hanno fatto parte della vostra vita e meritano rispetto. Naturalmente, deve essere reciproco.<\/p>\n

Concentratevi su voi stessi ora<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You should use this quiet time to dedicate to yourself more. I’m assuming that you were focused on your spouse before, but now it’s time to shift that focus back onto yourself.<\/p>\n

Parlate onestamente con voi stessi. Come vi sentite? Pensate di aver preso la decisione giusta? \u00c8 troppo difficile per voi ignorare il vostro coniuge?<\/p>\n

Se sentite che tutto questo sta influenzando negativamente la vostra salute mentale, dovreste parlare con un professionista e chiedergli aiuto.<\/p>\n

Se avete dovuto lasciare la casa che condividevate con il vostro coniuge, dovreste cercare subito una nuova casa.<\/p>\n

It’s time to think about your own life now and prioritize yourself above everyone and everything else.<\/strong><\/p>\n

DON’T neglect self-care<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You’re closing the door to your previous life and starting another life for yourself. Make self-care one of the resolutions for that new life.<\/p>\n

So che questo \u00e8 un periodo molto stressante per voi, che ha lasciato delle conseguenze su di voi, sul vostro corpo e sulla vostra pelle.
\nThat’s why now more than ever, you need to take care of your looks, your skin, and your body in general.<\/p>\n

Also, looking good will give you confidence, and you need it now to help you fight everything that’s coming.<\/p>\n

Meritate di coccolarsi e viziarsi<\/a>. Use shopping as your comfort. Oh, it’ll also help occupy yourself from thinking about your soon-to-be-ex-husband\/wife and your separation.<\/p>\n

Ignorateli anche sui social media<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I’m not saying that you should delete or block them on your social media accounts, but you should behave like they’re on your block list.<\/p>\n

If they haven\u2019t still come to terms with the separation, they’ll probably try to reach out to you through social media too. Once again, you need to ignore these texts also.<\/p>\n

If they see that you’re ignoring them, they’ll probably try to get to you by posting some sad songs or some romantic ‘thinking of you’ messages<\/a>, ma cerca di ignorarlo.<\/p>\n

They may also send you some photos of the two of you together, trying to remind you how happy you were before, and it’ll probably be difficult for you to ignore that.<\/p>\n

Dovete essere davvero tenaci, perch\u00e9 rispondere a questi messaggi non far\u00e0 altro che fargli pensare che c'\u00e8 ancora speranza di salvare il matrimonio, il che complicherebbe ancora di pi\u00f9 le cose.<\/em><\/p>\n

DON’T share anything from your personal life on social media<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Potrebbe essere meglio prendere un disintossicazione dai social media<\/a>. That way, your spouse won’t be able to reach you, and it would be easier for you to ignore them.<\/p>\n

If you don’t want to do that, I would advise you not to be too active on social media. Don’t share things you\u2019re doing and your location because your spouse will probably use that to follow you.<\/p>\n

I would especially advise you not to share anything that may provoke a negative reaction from your spouse \u2013 for example, a photo of you with someone else or pictures from your nights out.<\/p>\n

Also, don’t change your relationship status until the divorce process has concluded. It may also provoke a negative reaction from your spouse.<\/p>\n

Cercate di rilassarvi con i vostri migliori amici<\/h2>\n

\"tre<\/p>\n

You should call your best friends and invite them over or ask them to go hang out. They’ll try to cheer you up, and having them around will help deal with your marriage problems.<\/p>\n

Potete anche organizzare un viaggio con loro o una piccola fuga nel fine settimana. Uscire con i vostri migliori amici distoglier\u00e0 i vostri pensieri e far\u00e0 s\u00ec che ignorare il vostro coniuge durante la vostra vita di coppia non sia pi\u00f9 un problema. il processo di separazione<\/a> molto pi\u00f9 facile.<\/p>\n

After all, your friends know you best. They’ll know how to help you relax and how to help you not worry about your divorce too much.<\/p>\n

If you feel the need to, you can also open up to one of your best friends. This will help take that burden off your soul, and you’ll feel a lot better after that little session with one of your friends.<\/p>\n

DON’T send them drunk texts<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Se volete uscire e divertirvi con gli amici, fatelo pure, ma fate attenzione ai drink. Se vi ubriacate, potreste finire per mandare messaggi al vostro coniuge, il che sarebbe un errore, no?<\/p>\n

If you want to get drunk because you think it would relax you and make you forget about your problems, then you should give your phone to your friends and tell them that they shouldn’t give it back to you until you sober up.<\/p>\n

Sending a drunk text to your partner would be a huge mistake. It would ruin everything you\u2019ve done up to now. That’s why you should really think about this if you want to go out and have fun with your friends.<\/p>\n

Incontrare nuove persone<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

After you’ve firmly decided that you’re done with your married life, you have every right to meet new people.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, dovrebbe avvenire solo dopo che si \u00e8 completamente sicuri di voler porre fine al proprio matrimonio.<\/p>\n

You don’t have to meet new romantic partners; you can also try to meet someone and hang out as friends first.<\/p>\n

Maybe that friendship will grow into something bigger over time, or perhaps they’ll become your best friend.<\/p>\n

You never know. It doesn’t matter, in both cases, that new person can help you get through this rough period in your life.<\/p>\n

Meeting new people isn’t a bad thing. On the contrary, it might help you to stop thinking and obsessing over your spouse.<\/p>\n

Quindi, uscite o iscrivetevi a un'app di incontri online che possa aiutarvi a conoscere nuove persone.<\/p>\n

You don’t have to meet someone and jump into a new relationship immediately, but it’s good to meet new people you can hang out with.<\/p>\n

It’ll help divert your thoughts from everything bad that’s going on in your life right now.<\/p>\n

Of course, if you think you can work things out with your spouse and if you’re on a trial separation, you should totally ignore this.<\/p>\n

You’re allowed to meet someone new only if you’ve decided, and you really must be one hundred percent sure in that decision, that you want to end your marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

DON’T jump into a new relationship<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I’ve already said that you shouldn’t start a new romantic relationship, but now I want to explain why it’s a bad thing.<\/p>\n

In the beginning, you’ll feel like it’s helping you to forget about your marriage problems, but afterward, you’ll understand that it was the worst possible thing you could do, both to your partner and yourself.<\/p>\n

Prima di iniziare una relazione con qualcuno di nuovo, dovete darvi il tempo di guarire e riprendervi completamente dalla vostra relazione.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even though you’re completely sure that you don’t have any feelings for your spouse anymore, you need to spend some time alone to clear out your thoughts and feelings.<\/p>\n

If you don’t do it, you’ll probably be stuck with some emotional baggage that won’t allow you to fall in love with someone else and fully enjoy a new relationship.<\/p>\n

Siate gentili quando li vedete<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Ignoring your spouse during your separation doesn’t mean that you should be rude when you see them on the street or when you suddenly run into them.<\/p>\n

If you’re both invited to a family gathering or something similar, you should behave nicely and talk to them if they approach you.<\/p>\n

Of course, keep a distance because you don’t want to give them hope that you’ve changed your mind.<\/p>\n

You’ve got to be especially nice to them if you have kids together. They are and always will be the father\/mother of your kids, remember that.<\/p>\n

DON’T trash talk them<\/h2>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

First of all, you\u2019ve spent some of your life with this person, and talking badly about them would be talking badly about yourself too.<\/p>\n

You were in a loving relationship and made some beautiful memories together. There’s no point in saying bad things about someone you used to love.<\/p>\n

Again, this is especially important if you have kids together because that’ll affect them negatively the most. You’re two grown-up, civilized people, and you should behave as such.<\/p>\n

Prendete le cose con calma<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

So che vuole chiudere la faccenda il pi\u00f9 in fretta possibile, ma dovrebbe cercare di prendere le cose con calma e fare un passo alla volta.<\/p>\n

Per prima cosa, dovreste tornare a casa e avere una conversazione onesta con il vostro partner. Poi dovete essere onesti anche con voi stessi.<\/p>\n

Is this the first time you’ve thought about divorce, or is it something you’ve been thinking about for some time now?<\/p>\n

You have to think it through. You need to be sure that there’s no way to make your marriage work and that il divorzio \u00e8 l'unica opzione<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You should file for divorce only when you’ve tried all options to make things work back home, like consulenza matrimoniale<\/a>parlare con il coniuge, ecc.<\/p>\n

DON’T expect that this will be easy<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

After you\u2019ve tried to salvare il matrimonio<\/a> and until you’re convinced that divorce is the only option, only then should you file for divorce.<\/p>\n

However, you need to be prepared that it won’t be easy. Vi aspetta un viaggio infernale e dovete essere pronti a combattere tutto ci\u00f2 che vi si presenta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There will probably be a lot of phone calls and surprise visits from your spouse, and you need to be prepared to handle it carefully. After all, you don’t want to hurt your spouse, right?<\/p>\n

Of course, if you have kids together…<\/em><\/h2>\n

Parlate loro dei vostri figli<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Quando stavo divorziando dal mio ex marito, avevamo un figlio di un anno e, naturalmente, dovevamo parlare di lui e concordare le cose relative al nostro bambino. L'ultima cosa che volevamo era litigare per il nostro bambino.<\/p>\n

Volevamo che il processo di separazione si svolgesse nel modo pi\u00f9 agevole possibile, quindi dovevamo accordarci sul mantenimento e sull'affidamento dei figli.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 inevitabile. Dovete ricordare che i vostri figli sono i pi\u00f9 importanti e dovete cercare di rendere tutto questo pi\u00f9 facile per loro, perch\u00e9 probabilmente avranno difficolt\u00e0 ad accettare il vostro divorzio.<\/p>\n

DON’T involve your children in your mess<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

If you’ve decided to divorce your spouse, then you must be aware that it’s something between you and them. Don’t involve other people, especially your kids.<\/p>\n

They deserve to have a happy family, even if their mommy and daddy aren’t together anymore. And it\u2019s possible, trust me, because I\u2019ve gone through this twice already.<\/p>\n

I’m a child of divorced parents, and I divorced a man with whom I have a one-year-old son. I never saw my parents fight, and I never fought with my husband, well, not in front of our kid anyway.<\/p>\n

I vostri figli sono la parte pi\u00f9 importante di questa storia.<\/p>\n

If the divorce gets ugly at any stage, you need to be sure that your children aren’t in the middle of it and that they don’t know what’s happening between you two.<\/p>\n

Don’t bring your quarrels and issues back home to your kids. Trust me, it could leave some irreparable consequences on their mental health.<\/p>\n

Passare del tempo con i bambini<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

You have to leave your kids out of your divorce as much as possible. Don’t fight about them and try to reach an agreement on child support and visitation issues.<\/p>\n

You’re their parent, and even if you don’t get custody, no one will forbid you from seeing and hanging out with your kids.<\/p>\n

Even if your partner has a hard time accepting your separation, they shouldn’t forbid you from coming back home to see your kids.<\/p>\n

Non ho mai litigato con mio marito e credo che questo ci abbia aiutato a rimanere in buoni rapporti. La scorsa settimana abbiamo persino fatto una piccola vacanza in famiglia insieme.<\/p>\n

I only want what’s best for my son, and I suppose it’s something we all want for our kids.<\/p>\n

DON’T spend time with your kids at your partner’s home<\/h2>\n

\"madre<\/p>\n

You should spend time with your kids, but doing it at your partner\u2019s home would be a bad thing. If you do, then you won\u2019t be able to ignore your partner.<\/p>\n

La prima volta che parlate con il vostro partner di andare a trovare i vostri figli, sottolineate che li volete fuori o che volete stare con loro a casa vostra.<\/p>\n

It would be for the best. That way, you’ll get to spend time with your kids in peace, without having to pay attention to the possible tension between you and your soon-to-be-ex-husband\/wife.<\/p>\n

Per concludere<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I know it’s difficult to accept that things have changed so much since last year when you were a happily coppia sposata<\/a> and couldn’t even imagine that one day it\u2019d come to this.<\/p>\n

Life is unpredictable. Sometimes, even if we still have feelings for our spouse, we’re aware that divorce is the best option for both of you.<\/p>\n

However, if divorce is something you’ve been thinking about since last week, you should take some time to think about it some more.<\/p>\n

Dovreste iniziare con una consulenza matrimoniale o con qualcos'altro che pensate possa aiutare a salvare il matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Married life isn’t easy; I know that. But, when you’re with the right person, together, you can overcome all obstacles that come your way.<\/p>\n

Quando e se deciderete di divorziare, ignorare il vostro coniuge durante la separazione aiuter\u00e0 a facilitare il processo per entrambi.<\/p>\n

Of course, sometimes it’ll be almost impossible, but with these tips, you’ll manage to deal with it in the most painless way, if we can say it that way.<\/p>\n

I’ll end this with one more tip for you: arm yourself with patience because you’ll definitely need it, maybe now more than ever.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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