{"id":12576,"date":"2020-08-18T08:17:34","date_gmt":"2020-08-18T08:17:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=12576"},"modified":"2022-01-13T00:14:24","modified_gmt":"2022-01-13T00:14:24","slug":"smettere-di-trovare-scuse-uomo-tratta-come-merda","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/smettere-di-trovare-scuse-uomo-tratta-come-merda\/","title":{"rendered":"Smettete di trovare scuse per l'uomo che vi tratta di merda"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b><i>Anche se siamo lontani chilometri e anche se non mi conosci, siamo cos\u00ec vicini e uniti nel nostro dolore.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>I know how you feel every single day. I know that you are the one who wants this relationship to work out but darling, you can\u2019t be the only one trying.<\/p>\n<p>Sooner or later you will be fed up with all his stupid excuses and his reasons why he doesn\u2019t give you the love you need. I know that because I have been there.<\/p>\n<p>Just like you, I was once in love with a man who didn\u2019t give a damn about me. And I was the one who was trying so hard for us to make it <b><i>. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>I was the one who would buy the peace in our home, paying for it with my tears. I was the one who was lighting a fire in our bedroom when he didn\u2019t want to sleep with me. And most of all, I was the one who loved him more than he loved me.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>I was the girl who was so easy to love\u2014the one who deserved everything but in the end, got nothing. And that fact broke my heart. It took me so much time to recover and to pick myself up again.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-107310\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/an-attractive-woman-sits-at-the-window-and-looks-outside.jpg\" alt=\"una donna attraente si siede alla finestra e guarda fuori\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/an-attractive-woman-sits-at-the-window-and-looks-outside.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/an-attractive-woman-sits-at-the-window-and-looks-outside-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/an-attractive-woman-sits-at-the-window-and-looks-outside-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/an-attractive-woman-sits-at-the-window-and-looks-outside-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/an-attractive-woman-sits-at-the-window-and-looks-outside-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It was a long process and I had to go through it all alone while he was seeking another victim. I couldn\u2019t believe that someone who swore his love to me could do that to me.<\/p>\n<p>I couldn\u2019t believe that he treated me like shit all the time and I just thought that it was just a phase and that he would change.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Perch\u00e9 le persone cambiano quando amano, ma credo che lui non mi abbia mai amato.<\/i><\/b> Ero solo quella a cui si rivolgeva quando le cose si facevano difficili. Ero solo quella che gli faceva comodo in quel momento. E lui lo sapeva bene.<\/p>\n<p>Lo vedeva dal modo in cui lo guardavo quando eravamo soli. Lo sentiva dal modo in cui toccavo il suo corpo quando dormiva.<\/p>\n<p>Lo sentiva dal modo in cui lo baciavo. Lo sentiva dal forte battito del mio cuore quando si sdraiava sui miei seni.<\/p>\n<p>Ma anche se sapeva tutte queste cose, non mi ha mai dato quello che desideravo tanto. Era solo un uomo che mi ha fatto imparare una lezione di vita in un modo difficile.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 stato un uomo che mi ha picchiato fino a farmi morire emotivamente, senza lasciare nulla agli altri che stavano per entrare nella mia vita. Con lui ero completamente svuotata, senza la sensazione di felicit\u00e0 che avevo prima.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Con lui, ho perso me stessa perch\u00e9 ero cos\u00ec preoccupata delle cose che lui voleva che facessi.<\/i><\/b> .<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-107311\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/outside-under-a-tree-a-man-hugs-a-sad-woman.jpg\" alt=\"fuori, sotto un albero, un uomo abbraccia una donna triste\" width=\"800\" height=\"532\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/outside-under-a-tree-a-man-hugs-a-sad-woman.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/outside-under-a-tree-a-man-hugs-a-sad-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/outside-under-a-tree-a-man-hugs-a-sad-woman-768x511.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/outside-under-a-tree-a-man-hugs-a-sad-woman-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Con lui sono diventata comodamente insensibile e, lungo la strada, ho imparato a vivere cos\u00ec. Ma un giorno mi sono vista allo specchio e sono rimasta scioccata dal suo riflesso.<\/p>\n<p>I couldn\u2019t even recognize myself anymore. I looked like a ghost wearing a tracksuit two sizes larger, with greasy hair and dark rings under my eyes.<\/p>\n<p>My lips were pale just like my skin and my eyes barely opened. There wasn\u2019t that sparkle in my eyes anymore and there wasn\u2019t a smile on my lips. I was just a shell of the girl I once was and I didn\u2019t like anything about that.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 stato il mio campanello d'allarme e ho capito che dovevo fare qualcosa della mia vita. Cos\u00ec l'ho lasciato, anche se questo mi ha lacerato il cuore.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Ho dovuto lasciarlo perch\u00e9 non c'era altro a cui aggrapparsi. <\/i><\/b> E anche se \u00e8 stato il momento peggiore della mia vita, non me ne pentir\u00f2 mai perch\u00e9 quel giorno mi sono salvata da lui.<\/p>\n<p>So, now while I am telling my story to you, I know that you are going through all the same shit I have been through and I don\u2019t want you to mess up your life as I did with mine.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-107313\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair.jpg\" alt=\"una donna depressa seduta in poltrona\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-depressed-woman-sitting-in-an-armchair-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I want you to be smarter and to not let him treat you like shit. I want you to stand up for yourself and to fight against anyone who doesn\u2019t give you what you deserve. Trust me, baby, you deserve so much more than he can give you <b><i>.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><b><i>So che adesso pensi di amarlo, ma quando ti renderai conto di tutto quello che ti ha fatto e quando conterai tutte le volte che hai superato lo schifo che ti ha fatto, vedrai che alla fine non vale pi\u00f9 la pena aspettare.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Non ha fatto alcuno sforzo per farti rimanere e probabilmente sarebbe pi\u00f9 felice se tu lo lasciassi cos\u00ec da poter passare a un'altra vittima.<\/p>\n<p>Si fermer\u00e0 solo quando si imbatter\u00e0 in colei che non lo amer\u00e0 abbastanza da mostrargli che razza di stronzo \u00e8.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, per favore, se tieni a te stessa e se vuoi avere una bella vita, smetti di trovare scuse per lui e <a href=\"https:\/\/tinybuddha.com\/blog\/how-to-leave-a-toxic-relationship-when-youre-still-in-love\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">allontanarsi e basta.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Dicendo tutte quelle belle cose su di lui non fate altro che mentire a voi stesse e pi\u00f9 lo fate e pi\u00f9 ci crederete. Quindi fermatevi in tempo e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lascia-un-uomo-che-non-ti-merita\/\">leave that toxic man because he doesn\u2019t deserve you<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t you see that you are way better than him and that he will never give you the amount of love you need?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-107315\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-looking-in-the-mirror.jpg\" alt=\"una bella donna che si guarda allo specchio\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-looking-in-the-mirror.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-looking-in-the-mirror-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-looking-in-the-mirror-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-looking-in-the-mirror-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/a-beautiful-woman-looking-in-the-mirror-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Can\u2019t you see that if you stay with him, he will just use you and then dump you like you were never a part of his life?<\/p>\n<p>Trust me, I know that hurts badly. I know that because I have been there and I don\u2019t want you to go through the same pain I once experienced.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Voglio che sappiate che non troverete mai quella giusta se non lasciate andare quella sbagliata.<\/i><\/b> Siate abbastanza forti da prendere questa decisione ora per evitare di piangere in seguito.<\/p>\n<p>Show yourself and him as well that you are not anyone\u2019s option and that you don\u2019t want to be treated like one. Show him that you are good on your own and that you don\u2019t need him to complete you.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>Hai solo bisogno di qualcuno che ti accetti completamente!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-107308 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Stop-Making-Excuses-For-The-Man-Who-Treats-You-Like-Shit-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Smettete di trovare scuse per l&#039;uomo che vi tratta di merda\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Stop-Making-Excuses-For-The-Man-Who-Treats-You-Like-Shit-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Stop-Making-Excuses-For-The-Man-Who-Treats-You-Like-Shit-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Stop-Making-Excuses-For-The-Man-Who-Treats-You-Like-Shit-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Stop-Making-Excuses-For-The-Man-Who-Treats-You-Like-Shit-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/Stop-Making-Excuses-For-The-Man-Who-Treats-You-Like-Shit-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Even if we are miles away and even if you don\u2019t know me, we are so close and united in our pain. I know how you feel every single day. I know that you are the one who wants this relationship to work out but darling, you can\u2019t be the only one trying. Sooner or&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12576","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":1,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. 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