{"id":125801,"date":"2021-02-01T11:30:35","date_gmt":"2021-02-01T11:30:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=125801"},"modified":"2022-03-10T18:25:43","modified_gmt":"2022-03-10T18:25:43","slug":"la-regola-del-non-contatto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/la-regola-del-non-contatto\/","title":{"rendered":"La regola del non contatto: Il modo migliore per andare avanti (o per riconquistarli)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Quando ci si lascia, il mondo diventa un limbo pieno di commedie romantiche, tonnellate di gelato, pianti, incapacit\u00e0 di addormentarsi e convinzione di non potersi pi\u00f9 innamorare.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, it doesn\u2019t have to necessarily be in that exact order, but you get the idea.<\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re going through a breakup, all you can do is think about them, what you could have done to make things different, and what they are doing right now.<\/p>\n<p>Quando si rompe con qualcuno, <strong>you can\u2019t stop visiting their profile on social media and secretly hoping that they will eventually text you<\/strong> (assuming you still have feelings for them). In some cases, you can&#8217;t stop thinking about <em><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/mi-ha-bloccato-cosa-significa\/\">Perch\u00e9 mi hanno bloccato<\/a>?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Or you might start convincing yourself that you\u2019ve already moved on in a record time<\/strong>ma voi stessi sapete che le probabilit\u00e0 che questo sia vero sono davvero basse.<\/p>\n<p>When you break up with someone, you end up feeling lost, confused, tempted to do things you know you shouldn\u2019t but worry not. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/regola-del-divieto-di-contatto\/\">La regola del non contatto<\/a> viene in soccorso!<\/p>\n<h2>Che cos'\u00e8 la regola del divieto di contatto?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-125807 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-looking-at-phone-5.jpg\" alt=\"donna che guarda il telefono mentre \u00e8 sdraiata sul letto\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-looking-at-phone-5.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-looking-at-phone-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-looking-at-phone-5-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-looking-at-phone-5-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-looking-at-phone-5-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-looking-at-phone-5-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-looking-at-phone-5-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-looking-at-phone-5-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>In sostanza, la regola del divieto di contatto \u00e8 un periodo di tempo durante il quale ci si astiene dal contattare il proprio ex. Ci\u00f2 significa niente messaggi e niente telefonate.<\/p>\n<p>Ci\u00f2 significa anche non visitare i loro social media, non stalkerarli e non andare a trovarli nella vita reale.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/cosa-pensa-durante-lassenza-di-contatto-6-pensieri-piu-comuni2\/\">La regola del non contatto<\/a> significa tagliare i contatti in tutti i sensi, in modo da potersi schiarire le idee, avere un po' di spazio e di tempo per se stessi e per separarsi dall'altro.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Se eseguita correttamente, questa regola aiuta a guarire correttamente dalla rottura e accelera il processo di guarigione.<\/p>\n<p>Vi permette di crescere come persona, ma pu\u00f2 anche aiutarvi a ricongiungervi con il vostro ex nel modo giusto se entrambi credete che tornare insieme sia la cosa giusta da fare.<\/p>\n<h2>L'importanza della regola del divieto di contatto dopo una rottura<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-125808 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-sitting-near-water-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna con cappello nero seduta vicino all&#039;acqua\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-sitting-near-water-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-sitting-near-water-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-sitting-near-water-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-sitting-near-water-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-sitting-near-water-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-sitting-near-water-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-sitting-near-water-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/woman-sitting-near-water-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>To demonstrate the importance of the no contact rule, I\u2019ll use three practical examples:<\/p>\n<p><strong>a)<\/strong> Let\u2019s say that you want to forget about someone and <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-dimenticare-un-ex\/\">andare avanti<\/a>, but you keep visiting their profile, you keep texting, calling them (or maybe both) while still hoping that you\u2019ll somehow magically heal and forget them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>b)<\/strong> Now, let\u2019s say that you have no idea what to do after a breakup. You\u2019re feeling totally confused, and you\u2019re not sure whether you should move on or reunite. You still have feelings for them and hope that one day you\u2019ll <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/15-modi-efficaci-per-far-si-che-lui-ti-rivoglia-in-poco-tempo\/\">tornare insieme<\/a>, but you\u2019re not sure whether you should. So, you keep texting them, calling them (or maybe both) in the hope that you\u2019re somehow magically offered a solution to your problem.<\/p>\n<p><strong>c)<\/strong> Or you\u2019re one hundred percent sure that you want to get back together, but you\u2019re not sure whether they want the same thing. So, you keep texting them, calling them (or maybe both), hoping that they will eventually change their mind.<\/p>\n<p>Ora permettetemi di farvi una domanda importante: <strong>Pensate che in uno di questi tre esempi, contattarli dopo una rottura sia una buona idea? Se s\u00ec, perch\u00e9? Se no, perch\u00e9 no?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Since I can\u2019t know your answer, I\u2019ll just explain to you why it is not a good idea to keep contacting your ex after a breakup. The answers are pretty simple:<\/p>\n<p><strong>a)<\/strong> Se volete dimenticarli e andare avanti, contattarli vi render\u00e0 ancora pi\u00f9 confusi e non riuscirete a smettere di pensare a loro.<\/p>\n<p><strong>b)<\/strong> If you have no idea what you should do after a breakup, it\u2019s better to give it some time than to go in the wrong direction by making impulsive decisions.<\/p>\n<p><strong>c)<\/strong> Se volete tornare insieme, ma il vostro ex non ne \u00e8 sicuro, contattarlo lo far\u00e0 sentire sotto pressione e peggiorer\u00e0 ulteriormente le cose. Invece, dovete dargli un po' di spazio e di tempo per pensare a ci\u00f2 che vuole davvero.<\/p>\n<p>Per questo motivo, signore e signori, la <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/recupero-della-rottura-regola-del-divieto-di-contatto-per-90-giorni\/\">90 giorni di divieto di contatto<\/a> after a breakup is your best bet. If you don\u2019t believe me, I have a solution for that too:<\/p>\n<h3>Perch\u00e9 la regola del non contatto funziona sempre?<\/h3>\n<p>Io stessa ero scettica sul potere della regola del non contatto, ma quando ho iniziato ad applicarla, la mia vita e la mia prospettiva sulle rotture sono cambiate drasticamente.<\/p>\n<p>I used to be one of those people who couldn\u2019t do anything without thinking about my ex and feeling the urge to contact him.<\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t even aware of how torturing all this was, and once I applied the no contact rule, I blossomed.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not saying that the transition was easy. It was painful, distressing, and overall challenging, but the most important thing is that it\u2019s DOABLE, and any of you can do it only if you really want to.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If you\u2019re still skeptical or indifferent about this rule, here\u2019s why the no contact rule always works:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Vi permette di disintossicarvi e di schiarirvi le idee.<\/li>\n<li>Vi d\u00e0 una nuova prospettiva sulle cose<\/li>\n<li>Vi d\u00e0 la possibilit\u00e0 di rimettervi in sesto.<\/li>\n<li>It reminds you that you\u2019re the creator of your own happiness<\/li>\n<li>D\u00e0 all'altra persona lo spazio per <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/si-pentira-di-avermi-persa-7-segni-che-lo-fara-come-farglielo-capire\/\">mi manchi<\/a> (il che \u00e8 ottimo se anche voi ne sentite la mancanza)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Mi piace vedere la regola del divieto di contatto come una sorta di riabilitazione. Quando si trascorre cos\u00ec tanto tempo con una persona, in un certo senso se ne diventa dipendenti perch\u00e9 \u00e8 una parte importante della propria vita.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s the main reason why you can\u2019t stop thinking about them and why you feel the temptation to contact them after a breakup.<\/p>\n<p><strong>By applying this rule, you\u2019re allowing yourself to reconnect with your true self and clear all the negativity that accumulated during the time you were together.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you want to move on, it\u2019s essential that you give yourself some space and time to heal properly.<\/p>\n<p>If you want to get back together, it\u2019s also essential that you give your relationship some time to cool off and heal as well.<\/p>\n<h2>La regola del non contatto e la psicologia maschile<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-125809 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/man-looking-through-window-2.jpg\" alt=\"uomo pensieroso con camicia a righe che guarda attraverso la finestra\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/man-looking-through-window-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/man-looking-through-window-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/man-looking-through-window-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/man-looking-through-window-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/man-looking-through-window-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/man-looking-through-window-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/man-looking-through-window-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/man-looking-through-window-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Molte donne mi hanno chiesto della regola del no contact e della sua influenza sulla specie maschile.<\/p>\n<p>Some of them (for some reason) thought that this rule doesn\u2019t work for them, and others were just interested in how men perceive it.<\/p>\n<p>Permettetemi di rispondere alla prima domanda: <strong>S\u00ec,<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-segni-che-la-regola-del-divieto-di-contatto-sta-funzionando\/\"> La regola del divieto di contatto funziona<\/a> su tutti, e gli uomini non fanno eccezione.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re wondering how they behave during the rule, this is exactly <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/comprensione-della-psicologia-maschile-durante-la-regola-del-divieto-di-contatto\/\">cosa accade nella sua mente durante la regola del non contatto<\/a> (accompagnati dai miei commenti tra le parentesi):<\/p>\n<p>- <strong>Sar\u00e0 confuso.<\/strong> (<em>OMG, she used to text me and call me all the time, and now I\u2019m starting to think that this woman is no longer alive. Maybe she finally moved on or met someone else \u2013 or maybe both.<\/em>)<\/p>\n<p>- <strong>He\u2019ll wonder about what\u2019s happening in your head and life.<\/strong> (<em>I wonder if she still likes me. She might still be in love with me, but she doesn\u2019t want me to know it, and that\u2019s why she\u2019s ignoring me. I wonder what she\u2019s doing right now. Maybe she\u2019s thinking about me too but pretending that she\u2019s not. Wait, is that even possible?<\/em>)<\/p>\n<p>- <strong>Potrebbe anche sentirsi arrabbiato.<\/strong> (<em>I hate this woman. Who does she think she is ignoring me like that and deleting me from her life? I know what she is. She\u2019s a passive-aggressive manipulator, and I\u2019m better off without her anyway. If only I could stop thinking about her and delete my feelings for her, my life would be easier.<\/em>)<\/p>\n<p>- <strong>Potrebbe anche iniziare a sentire la vostra mancanza<\/strong> <strong>(ammesso che provi ancora qualcosa per te<\/strong><em><strong>).<\/strong> (I can\u2019t stop thinking about the way she smiles, the way she eats her favorite chocolate, the way her eyes spark with joy whenever she sees me. Well, whenever she used to see me. God, I miss her so much, and it\u2019s killing me.<\/em>)<\/p>\n<p><strong>Nota:<\/strong> Uno dei pi\u00f9 grandi <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-segni-che-gli-manchi-durante-il-periodo-di-assenza-di-contatto\/\">segni che gli manchi durante il periodo di assenza di contatto<\/a> \u00e8 se inizia a mandarti messaggi.<\/p>\n<p>Spero che queste spiegazioni vi abbiano aiutato a capire che cosa succede esattamente nella sua mente una volta che avete interrotto i contatti. Ci sono due possibili esiti:<\/p>\n<p><strong>a)<\/strong> O svilupper\u00e0 un sentimento pi\u00f9 forte per lei e inizier\u00e0 un ricongiungimento.<\/p>\n<p><strong>b)<\/strong> O alla fine andr\u00e0 avanti.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s also one important thing you should keep in mind. Not every male will respond to the rule in this way. If you go no contact with a narcissist, things might be different.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Uno dei <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/4-cose-che-accadranno-quando-non-avrete-piu-contatti-con-un-narcisista\/\">cose che accadono quando non si ha pi\u00f9 contatto con un narcisista<\/a> \u00e8 che fingano di assumersi la responsabilit\u00e0 e promettano di cambiare.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>They will do this because they know they messed it up, and there is no chance you would want to get back together if they don\u2019t promise you that they will change.<\/p>\n<p>Ora la domanda \u00e8: <em>Sono davvero pronti per un cambiamento o dicono di esserlo solo per manipolarvi?<\/em> Attenzione.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you break up with someone, your whole world becomes a limbo filled with romcoms, tons of ice cream, crying, being unable to fall asleep, and convincing yourself that you\u2019ll never fall in love again. Of course, it doesn\u2019t have to necessarily be in that exact order, but you get the idea. When you\u2019re going&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":125806,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29630],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-125801","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-no-contact"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29630,"label":"no contact"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/The-No-Contact-Rule-The-Best-Way-To-Move-On-Or-Get-Them-Back-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29630,"name":"no contact","slug":"no-contact","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29630,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Sometimes silence speaks louder than words. 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