{"id":12593,"date":"2020-04-18T09:07:29","date_gmt":"2020-04-18T09:07:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=12593"},"modified":"2022-07-19T08:49:59","modified_gmt":"2022-07-19T08:49:59","slug":"accade-finalmente-di-scartare-il-narcisista-manipolatore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/accade-finalmente-di-scartare-il-narcisista-manipolatore\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco cosa succede quando si abbandona finalmente un narcisista manipolatore"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-cose-da-sapere-per-sfuggire-a-una-relazione-narcisistica\/\">Lasciare una relazione narcisistica<\/a> \u00e8 estremamente difficile. Quel bastardo bugiardo spazza via la vostra autostima e il vostro rispetto per voi stessi.<\/p>\n<p>After you\u2019re done with him, you don\u2019t have the strength to move on. Trusting people is the last thing you\u2019ll do.<\/p>\n<p>Only after you survive the long and painful healing process and after you realize that it wasn\u2019t your fault things didn\u2019t work out and that he made you believe in things that are not true, you are able to look at life from a different perspective.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Le relazioni narcisistiche creano dipendenza.<\/strong> You get used to their mistreatment and it becomes your life. He becomes like a fix that you need to take every day otherwise you\u2019ll be in crisis. His insults and manipulations become the air that you breathe and you don\u2019t want to suffocate. That\u2019s why you stay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Le relazioni narcisistiche sono impegnative.<\/strong> Some women stay in that relationship although they are unhappy because they keep hoping things will change. They cling on to the idea they will change him and make him a better person. And actually, narcissists are such good actors that they know just the right moment to pretend they have changed\u2014the moment when the woman has had enough and once again, they manipulate her into staying.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Le relazioni narcisistiche sono umilianti.<\/strong> These people take away everything positive about you. They take your will for life. They shove you and corner you with no hope of getting out. You just keep going round in circles hoping you\u2019ll find the way out but it never happens.<\/p>\n<p><strong>He turns you into a shadow of the woman you once were. He takes away everything you had and creates a woman of his taste\u2014the one he could control and finally destroy.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ma una persona pu\u00f2 prendere quanto basta <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/dio-perdona-labusatore-ancora-innamorato\/\">abuso<\/a>. All women put a stop to this behavior eventually. Narcissists get them to the point they don\u2019t really care what is going to happen to them.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-83486 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Quarrel-between-young-lovers-walking-in-the-streets-of-the-city.jpg\" alt=\"Lite tra giovani innamorati che passeggiano per le strade della citt\u00e0\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Quarrel-between-young-lovers-walking-in-the-streets-of-the-city.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Quarrel-between-young-lovers-walking-in-the-streets-of-the-city-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Quarrel-between-young-lovers-walking-in-the-streets-of-the-city-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Non hanno pi\u00f9 paura e la loro coscienza prende il sopravvento. Quel poco di forza rimasta in loro urla per uscire e finalmente scartano il subdolo bastardo.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But the struggle doesn\u2019t end there. That is just the beginning of the journey. That was just the first step they were brave enough to take.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ora viene la parte difficile. Tutte le donne che hanno avuto la forza di <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/modello-di-relazione-narcisistico\/\">Liberarsi da una relazione narcisistica<\/a> si trovano a dover riscoprire l'amore per se stessi.<\/p>\n<p>Si trovano di fronte alla sfida di trovare il rispetto per se stessi e di perdonare se stessi per aver creduto a tutte le bugie e le manipolazioni narcisistiche fino a quel momento.<\/p>\n<p>Women have to deal with healing and fighting his tries to get them back. You see, narcissists can\u2019t live without their victims. They have to have someone to leech off of.<\/p>\n<p>They have to have someone who will be their punching bag, someone who will make them feel better, and someone to lash out at. And they will try with everything they\u2019ve got to get you back.<\/p>\n<p>Correlato: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/guida-definitiva-allindividuazione-del-narcisista-dopo-la-sua-morte\/\">La guida definitiva per ignorare un narcisista (Individuazione e conseguenze)<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Questo \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che ci si pu\u00f2 aspettare quando si abbandona finalmente un narcisista:<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Vi perseguiter\u00e0 e vi molester\u00e0<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-83487 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/An-angry-girl-looks-at-the-phone.jpg\" alt=\"Una ragazza arrabbiata guarda il telefono\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/An-angry-girl-looks-at-the-phone.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/An-angry-girl-looks-at-the-phone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/An-angry-girl-looks-at-the-phone-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/> &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ogni persona normale capirebbe, se non subito, dopo un po' di tempo, che bisognava lasciare una relazione che ci procurava pi\u00f9 sofferenza che felicit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>Ma, a differenza delle persone normali, un narcisista vedr\u00e0 il vostro abbandono come una sconfitta da parte vostra e non potr\u00e0 ammettere la sconfitta.<\/p>\n<p>He can\u2019t get that you were afraid for your safety and he will see you leaving him as abandonment, but no one abandons a narcissist because, in his own eyes, he is perfect. He sees your relationship as a competition and you won.<\/p>\n<p>Since he can\u2019t accept the fact you discarded him first, he will stalk and harass you for months and maybe even years after you break up.<\/p>\n<p>Egli <a href=\"https:\/\/www.hercampus.com\/life\/17-memes-are-so-you-stalking-people-social-media\" rel=\"noopener\">vi perseguitano sui social media<\/a>venire a casa vostra, mandarvi messaggi, chiamarvi o addirittura usare qualcun altro per cercare di manipolarvi e farvi tornare da lui.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 pronto a fare letteralmente di tutto, dall'hackerare il vostro computer al mettervi in crisi e minacciarvi.<\/p>\n<p>Correlato: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/10-segni-di-ossessione\/\">Segni di ossessione: 10 segni che lui \u00e8 pericolosamente ossessivo, non innamorato<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Vi incolper\u00e0 di tutto<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-83488 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Angry-couple-arguing-furiously-in-a-bar.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia arrabbiata che litiga furiosamente in un bar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Angry-couple-arguing-furiously-in-a-bar.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Angry-couple-arguing-furiously-in-a-bar-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Angry-couple-arguing-furiously-in-a-bar-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>All'inizio, si comportava come se fosse fortunato ad averti e che tu fossi una tale benedizione. Si comporta come se fosse super fortunato ad avere una persona cos\u00ec brava come lei.<\/p>\n<p>Ma quando la relazione fa il suo corso e lui inizia a mostrare il suo vero volto, le cose si deteriorano. Per questo motivo, dar\u00e0 la colpa a voi.<\/p>\n<p>Inventer\u00e0 una scusa stupida per far ricadere su di voi la colpa della rottura della vostra relazione.<\/p>\n<p>The reason is completely irrelevant\u2014what\u2019s important is that everything is your fault.<\/p>\n<p>Questo \u00e8 cos\u00ec scioccante e offensivo e i narcisisti lo fanno solo perch\u00e9 vedono che non c'\u00e8 modo che voi due possiate mai tornare insieme, quindi si assicurano di cancellare i loro nomi e si illudono di non aver fatto nulla di male.<\/p>\n<p>Correlato: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/i-segnali-di-allarme-di-un-fidanzato-dispotico\/\">18 segnali d'allarme di un fidanzato dispotico<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Triangolazione post-rottura<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-83490 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/girl-alone-at-home-sitting-in-living-room.jpg\" alt=\"ragazza sola a casa seduta in salotto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/girl-alone-at-home-sitting-in-living-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/girl-alone-at-home-sitting-in-living-room-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/girl-alone-at-home-sitting-in-living-room-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Cercher\u00e0 di creare deliberatamente un <a href=\"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/anonymous\/2016\/03\/you-are-the-other-woman-in-a-love-triangle\/\" rel=\"noopener\">triangolo amoroso<\/a> per sminuirvi e riportare la vostra mente al periodo in cui eravate con lui.<\/p>\n<p>In queste situazioni, dovete fare attenzione ai social media, evitarli e cercare di non andare nei luoghi in cui potreste incontrarlo.<\/p>\n<p>Questo \u00e8 molto importante, perch\u00e9 siete ancora in fase di guarigione e qualsiasi visione di lui o anche un tentativo fallito di farvi ingelosire pu\u00f2 farvi tornare i dubbi e la mancanza di rispetto.<\/p>\n<p>You have to make sure to have no contact whatsoever with your narcissist, so you deny him the chance of sucking you back into the hell you\u2019ve lived in.<\/p>\n<p>Correlato: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/come-ferire-emotivamente-un-uomo-narcisista-6-modi-efficaci-per-farlo\/\">Come ferire emotivamente un uomo narcisista<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Vi far\u00e0 sentire in colpa per farvi restare<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-83493 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/couple-talking-at-cafe-and-drinking-tea.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che parla al caff\u00e8 e beve il t\u00e8\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/couple-talking-at-cafe-and-drinking-tea.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/couple-talking-at-cafe-and-drinking-tea-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/couple-talking-at-cafe-and-drinking-tea-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Dopo che avrete finalmente scartato un narcisista, egli cercher\u00e0 di farvi sentire in colpa per tornare da lui.<\/p>\n<p>Vi ricorder\u00e0 tutte le cose meravigliose che ha fatto per voi mentre stavate insieme, e sono state molte, ma purtroppo ognuna di quelle azioni aveva un secondo fine.<\/p>\n<p>Ogni volta che faceva qualcosa di bello per te, voleva qualcosa in cambio.<\/p>\n<p>He will shove these things into your face, hoping you\u2019ll remember only the good things and give him another chance.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Vi far\u00e0 fare brutta figura<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-83494 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/man-arguing-with-crying-woman.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che discute con una donna che piange\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/man-arguing-with-crying-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/man-arguing-with-crying-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/man-arguing-with-crying-woman-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t dodge this bullet. You can\u2019t hide the fact that you broke up because the narcissist wants to make sure everyone knows you broke up and now it\u2019s time for those people to choose sides.<\/p>\n<p>Il vostro narcisista vuole che sperimentiate un abbandono totale da parte dei vostri amici.<\/p>\n<p>Vi parler\u00e0 male sui social media e spettegoler\u00e0 su di voi ogni volta che ne avr\u00e0 l'occasione.<\/p>\n<p>Cercher\u00e0 di convincere le persone che avete fatto tutte le cose che lui vi ha fatto in realt\u00e0. Vuole raccogliere pi\u00f9 simpatia possibile e farvi passare per il cattivo.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-83485 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/This-Is-What-Happens-When-You-Finally-Discard-A-Manipulative-Narcissist-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Ecco cosa succede quando si abbandona finalmente un narcisista manipolatore\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/This-Is-What-Happens-When-You-Finally-Discard-A-Manipulative-Narcissist-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/This-Is-What-Happens-When-You-Finally-Discard-A-Manipulative-Narcissist-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/This-Is-What-Happens-When-You-Finally-Discard-A-Manipulative-Narcissist-Pinterest.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Leaving a narcissistic relationship is extremely hard. The lying bastard wipes out your self-esteem and your self-respect. After you\u2019re done with him, you don\u2019t have the strength to move on. Trusting people is the last thing you\u2019ll do. Only after you survive the long and painful healing process and after you realize that it wasn\u2019t&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":115489,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12593","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/This-Is-What-Happens-When-You-Finally-Discard-A-Manipulative-Narcissist-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":24,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. 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