{"id":126538,"date":"2021-03-02T01:13:31","date_gmt":"2021-03-02T01:13:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=126538"},"modified":"2021-08-30T13:40:31","modified_gmt":"2021-08-30T13:40:31","slug":"dire-a-un-ragazzo-che-ti-piace","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/dire-a-un-ragazzo-che-ti-piace\/","title":{"rendered":"Prima di dire a un ragazzo che ti piace, leggi questo"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Whenever I have a crush on someone, I turn into this: I can\u2019t sleep properly, eat, or socialize with other people without always thinking about that one person, aka the object of my affection (and the main cause of so many sleepless nights).<\/p>\n<p>Dopo alcuni giorni\/settimane o addirittura mesi passati a fantasticare su di lui (l'uomo dei miei sogni) e a passare tonnellate di ore sui suoi profili sui social media, di solito raccolgo le forze per pormi quella famosa domanda: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/come-dire-a-un-ragazzo-che-ti-piace\/\">Dovrei dirgli che mi piace<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Nota:<\/strong> Ogni ragazzo per cui ho una cotta \u00e8 il ragazzo dei miei sogni (sciocco, lo so).<\/p>\n<p>La mia mente \u00e8 occupata dai seguenti pensieri: <em>You should tell him you like him. If you don\u2019t do it, some other girl will. What if you lose him because of your overthinking and waiting for him to make the first move?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Wait, I never even had him, so I certainly can\u2019t lose him! I swear to God. I\u2019ll never have a crush again. Wait, I don\u2019t even have control over that. My life is over \u2013 the end. Wait, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/mi-piace-24-domande-puo-chiedere-sapere-sicuro\/\">Se mi piace<\/a>?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Dopo aver pensato intensamente per qualche giorno a tutti i pro e i contro del dire a un ragazzo che mi piace e aver consultato tutte le mie amiche su cosa dovrei fare, ottengo sempre la stessa risposta: <strong>Dovresti dirgli che ti piace. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Quando chiedo loro perch\u00e9, mi rispondono cos\u00ec: <strong>Perch\u00e9 non avete nulla da perdere.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Rimango senza parole per qualche secondo, pensando a me stesso: <em>OMG, that makes perfect sense. Why haven\u2019t I thought of that before?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Se gli dico che mi piace, sapr\u00f2 se gli piaccio o no. <strong>Either way, I\u2019ve got nothing to lose.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Either way, I win because if he likes me, I\u2019ll be the happiest person in the world, and if he doesn&#8217;t, I\u2019ll be sad for a few days, but then I\u2019ll be grateful for not wasting any more time thinking about him.<\/p>\n<p>Dopo tutto questo arriva la parte pi\u00f9 difficile, ovvero imparare <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/come-dire-a-un-ragazzo-che-ti-piace-15-modi-per-dimostrargli-i-tuoi-sentimenti\/\">Come dire a un ragazzo che ti piace<\/a>. <em>Devo semplicemente dirgli che mi piace di punto in bianco o devo farlo in modo pi\u00f9 sottile?<\/em> Questa storia degli appuntamenti \u00e8 davvero frustrante.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re feeling the same way as the old me, here are all the lessons that I\u2019ve learned when it comes to telling a guy you like him.<\/p>\n<h2>Lesson 1: There\u2019s nothing wrong with a woman making the first move!<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126541 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna che sorridono mentre bevono bevande all&#039;aperto\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Seriously, girls. There\u2019s truly nothing wrong or shameful about a woman making the first move. If you don\u2019t think that way, you should discard this gender stereotyping immediately.<\/p>\n<p>Even though you will rarely see a girl making the first move in the movies, this doesn\u2019t mean that it\u2019s prohibited.<\/p>\n<p>Chiedete a qualsiasi ragazzo la sua opinione sul fatto che siano le donne a fare la prima mossa e vi dir\u00e0 questo: <strong>A girl making the first move is beyond hot. It shows that she\u2019s confident and she\u2019s not afraid to take the initiative.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Bene, ragazze! <strong>Quindi, avete due possibilit\u00e0:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You can continue playing \u201chard to get\u201d and wait for him to notice you and eventually approach you.<\/li>\n<li>Potete fare la prima mossa e impressionarlo con la vostra sicurezza e il vostro coraggio.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Se scegliete la seconda opzione, avrete maggiori possibilit\u00e0 di conquistarlo. Perch\u00e9? Perch\u00e9 \u00e8 raro trovare una donna cos\u00ec audace e sicura di s\u00e9 che non abbia paura di approcciare per prima gli uomini.<\/p>\n<p>If you approach him first, he won\u2019t think of you as being desperate or an easy target.<\/p>\n<p>He will think of you as a woman who knows what she wants and is not afraid to get it. THAT\u2019S the kind of woman every man is dying to be with!<\/p>\n<h2>Lezione 2: AUTOCONFIGENZA, ragazze.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126542 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna che flirtano in piedi sulla spiaggia\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-flirting-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Anche se questa lezione \u00e8 strettamente collegata alla precedente, merita comunque di essere affrontata come unit\u00e0 separata.<\/p>\n<p>Self-confidence is the HOLY GRAIL. It is the main thing you need to focus on when approaching a guy or when he\u2019s approaching you.<\/p>\n<p>Se i livelli di fiducia sono elevati, met\u00e0 del lavoro \u00e8 fatto. <strong>Credetemi, potete indossare il vestito pi\u00f9 costoso, il trucco perfetto e quant'altro, ma lui noter\u00e0 se non avete autostima.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Essere sicuri di s\u00e9 significa essere se stessi, accettare le proprie imperfezioni e vederle come un marchio di fabbrica anzich\u00e9 come qualcosa di negativo. Significa essere innamorati di se stessi.<\/p>\n<h3>Lezione secondaria 1: essere innamorati di se stessi \u00e8 obbligatorio.<\/h3>\n<p>If you want to win a guy, you need to show him that your world is a fun place to be. You need to be who you are instead of pretending to be something you\u2019re not.<\/p>\n<p>Se lo fate, lui lo sapr\u00e0. Quindi, assicuratevi di trovare il vostro stile unico quando si tratta di vestirvi, parlare e persino camminare.<\/p>\n<h2>Lesson 3: No matter how anxious you\u2019re feeling, you won\u2019t die.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126543 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna che si guardano negli occhi mentre sono in piedi vicino alla finestra\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-making-eye-contact-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m an anxious person by nature, so whenever I\u2019m about to approach a guy (be it in person or via text), my anxiety goes wild. I literally feel like I\u2019m about to die, but that never happens.<\/p>\n<p>So, no matter how afraid, confused or anxious about it you are, know that in the end, everything will be alright. I\u2019ve been through this multiple times, and I\u2019m still alive and kicking.<\/p>\n<h3>Lezione secondaria 2: \u00e8 vietato pensare troppo.<\/h3>\n<p>The moment you start overthinking your decision to tell him you like him, it\u2019s game over. Don\u2019t let that happen! Instead of thinking about all the possible worst-case scenarios, think about positive outcomes.<\/p>\n<p>Ho un'amica che ha questo bisogno di spegnere il telefono per qualche ora quando invia una richiesta di amicizia a un ragazzo che le piace.<\/p>\n<p>When he texts her for the first time, I\u2019m sure she turns her phone off for a few days because she overthinks. Don\u2019t be her. Don\u2019t overthink but think positively instead.<\/p>\n<h2>Lezione 4: la semplicit\u00e0 \u00e8 la vostra migliore amica.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126544 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna che parlano in piedi all&#039;aperto\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-talking-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Il motivo per cui preferisco frequentare i ragazzi \u00e8 che sono esseri pi\u00f9 semplici di noi donne.<\/p>\n<p>Simplicity is something that I crave for every second and day of my life, but I\u2019ve also accepted the fact that it\u2019s something unattainable for me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Se pensate di essere in grado di padroneggiare la semplicit\u00e0, ecco alcuni semplici consigli su <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/come-approcciare-un-ragazzo-senza-sembrare-disperati-10-passi-per-il-successo\/\">come approcciare un ragazzo (senza sembrare disperati)<\/a>:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Stabilite un contatto visivo prolungato con un ragazzo che vi piace.<\/li>\n<li>Trovate un motivo per iniziare una conversazione.<\/li>\n<li>Trova un motivo per rivederlo.<\/li>\n<li>Digli che ti piace di persona (per i pi\u00f9 coraggiosi).<\/li>\n<li>Digli che ti piace via messaggio (per i meno coraggiosi).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Se scegliete di dirgli che vi piace via messaggio, avete la possibilit\u00e0 di farlo in modo pi\u00f9 sottile.<\/p>\n<p>You can use a GIF that says I like you, or you can pretend that you\u2019re joking by adding a few emojis. Subtle and simple is definitely the way to go!<\/p>\n<h2>Lezione 5: le vostre vibrazioni sono pi\u00f9 importanti del vostro abbigliamento.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126546 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2.jpg\" alt=\"donna con berretto bianco che sorride mentre usa lo smartphone\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-smiling-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Regardless if you\u2019re seeing him in person or you\u2019re just texting, your vibes are equally important. There\u2019s something called texting vibes, so your texting style can tell him a lot about your personality.<\/p>\n<p>The other day when I was texting with a guy, he told me that he\u2019s impressed by my laid-back attitude and he enjoys texting with me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Me l'ha detto dopo pochi messaggi, il che significa che i primi messaggi sono cruciali quando si tratta di lasciare un'impressione forte.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Assicuratevi quindi che le vostre vibrazioni siano positive, perch\u00e9 \u00e8 questo che lo attirer\u00e0 in primo luogo. Il vostro abbigliamento pu\u00f2 attirare la sua attenzione, ma le vostre vibrazioni e la vostra personalit\u00e0 sono ci\u00f2 che manterr\u00e0 la sua attenzione.<\/p>\n<p>Also, don\u2019t worry that much about being nervous around him. Most guys find it cute because it tells them that you really like them and worry about making a great impression.<\/p>\n<h2>Lezione 6: aspettatevi lo scenario migliore, ma preparatevi anche al peggio.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126547 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling.jpg\" alt=\"uomo in camicia blu che sorride guardando una donna\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-smiling-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I know what you\u2019re thinking: <em>Che diavolo ti prende, donna? Come posso essere ottimista nell'approcciare un ragazzo e allo stesso tempo prepararmi al peggio?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I know it\u2019s easier said than done, but you have to be mentally prepared for the worst. When you tell him that you like him, you can only hope you\u2019re on the same page.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Here\u2019s my verified formula:<\/strong> Tell him you like him (subtly or directly), don\u2019t expect anything from him, and hope for the best.<\/p>\n<p>Pray that he\u2019s one of those shy guys waiting on a girl to make the first move or that he liked you all this time but wasn\u2019t sure that you liked him too.<\/p>\n<p>Even if none of these are the case, don\u2019t see it as the end of the world if he reacts in a way that doesn\u2019t please you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ricorda:<\/strong> You\u2019ve got nothing to lose.<\/p>\n<h3>Sub Lesson 3: \u201cTwenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn\u2019t do than the ones you did do.\u201d \u2013 Mark Twain<\/h3>\n<p>S\u00ec. Quando mi guardo indietro, ci sono cos\u00ec tante cose che vorrei aver fatto (o fatto in modo diverso), ma non posso pi\u00f9 influenzarle.<\/p>\n<p>Oggi scelgo di concentrarmi sul momento e di fare le cose invece di rimpiangere di non averle fatte. Tra vent'anni riderai dei tuoi pensieri eccessivi nel dire a un ragazzo che ti piace.<\/p>\n<p>Capirete quanto tutto sia semplice.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Whenever I have a crush on someone, I turn into this: I can\u2019t sleep properly, eat, or socialize with other people without always thinking about that one person, aka the object of my affection (and the main cause of so many sleepless nights). After a few days\/weeks or even months of fantasizing about him (my&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":126540,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-126538","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/Before-Telling-A-Guy-You-Like-Him-Read-This-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? 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