{"id":126750,"date":"2021-03-02T12:13:16","date_gmt":"2021-03-02T12:13:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=126750"},"modified":"2022-01-16T20:38:42","modified_gmt":"2022-01-16T20:38:42","slug":"come-parlare-con-un-ragazzo-che-ti-piace","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-parlare-con-un-ragazzo-che-ti-piace\/","title":{"rendered":"Come parlare con un ragazzo che ti piace (e ottenere rapidamente la sua attenzione)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Mentre scrivo, mi viene in mente la telefonata di ieri sera che ho avuto con un ragazzo. Era la nostra prima telefonata dopo un po' di tempo di messaggi, ed \u00e8 inutile dire quanto mi sentissi nervosa.<\/p>\n<p>Mentre aspettavo che mi chiamasse, ogni secondo mi sembrava un'eternit\u00e0 e pi\u00f9 aspettavo, pi\u00f9 ero in ansia.<\/p>\n<p>Il motivo per cui ero cos\u00ec nervosa era che mi piaceva molto e volevo lasciare una buona impressione.<\/p>\n<p>Queste sono le cose che occupano la mia mente: <em>Come lo saluto? Cosa gli dico dopo? Cosa succede se prevale un silenzio imbarazzante? Come posso eliminare il silenzio imbarazzante e continuare la conversazione?<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Mentre pensavo a tutte queste cose, mi sono improvvisamente bloccato nel momento in cui ho visto che mi stava chiamando.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>L'ho salutato con un semplice <em>Ciao<\/em>pensando che non si pu\u00f2 sbagliare, giusto? Mi chiese come fosse andata la mia giornata. Gli risposi e poi mi fermai per qualche secondo.<\/p>\n<p>Il motivo per cui ho smesso di parlare \u00e8 che mi sembrava che la conversazione stesse andando in una direzione sbagliata. Riuscivo a percepire il suo sottotono robotico e la sua tensione.<\/p>\n<p>A un certo punto gli ho chiesto questo: <em>Tell me something you don\u2019t want me to know about yourself.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>He said that he is actually a shy guy and he has difficulties opening up to others, and that\u2019s why he expected me to be the one talking all the time.<\/p>\n<p>Bit by bit, I helped him open up more and more about himself, and he said that he hadn\u2019t felt so vulnerable, yet fulfilled in a long time when talking to girls.<\/p>\n<p>And, that\u2019s when I knew that I was doing it right.<\/p>\n<p>Ora, la conclusione di tutta questa conversazione \u00e8 la seguente: <strong>When talking to a guy you like, don\u2019t focus only on yourself and what you want to say to him. Instead, focus on encouraging him to share things with you because that\u2019s what will make him like you! That&#8217;s what will <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-far-innamorare-un-ragazzo-di-te-2\/\">farlo innamorare di voi<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2>Se volete che vi piaccia e che si apra con voi, dovete creare un legame emotivo.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126753 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-talking-4.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che parla con una donna seduto in un caff\u00e8\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-talking-4.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-talking-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-talking-4-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-talking-4-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-talking-4-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-talking-4-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-talking-4-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/man-talking-4-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Creare un legame emotivo \u00e8 una delle cose pi\u00f9 importanti quando si tratta di conversare (soprattutto con qualcuno che vi piace). Quindi, come si fa a entrare in sintonia con un ragazzo che ti piace?<\/p>\n<p>Entrate in contatto con lui ponendogli domande significative che lo aiuteranno ad aprirsi con voi. L'errore pi\u00f9 grande che potreste commettere \u00e8 concentrarvi solo sulle cose che volete condividere di voi stessi.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t get me wrong. He wants to get to know you better and he wants you to share things with him, and you should do that, but you should also be interested in what he has to share with you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Il problema dei ragazzi \u00e8 che sono abituati ad ascoltare solo le ragazze, invece di ricambiare e concentrarsi sulla creazione di un legame emotivo.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Scegliere <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/80-cose-di-cui-parlare-con-il-proprio-ragazzo-per-conoscerlo-meglio\/\">argomenti che vi aiuteranno a conoscerlo meglio<\/a>. Chiedetegli quali sono i suoi interessi, i suoi obiettivi futuri, le sue pi\u00f9 grandi paure, le sue debolezze e i suoi punti di forza.<\/p>\n<p>Se volete che un ragazzo si apra con voi, dovete farlo sentire a suo agio nel condividere le cose con voi.<\/p>\n<p>Dovete dargli spazio per esprimersi e trovare il coraggio di mostrare anche a voi il suo lato vulnerabile.<\/p>\n<h2>Every man\u2019s biggest desire is to feel free to be vulnerable with you.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126754 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-listening-to-man-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna in top bianco che ascolta uomo all&#039;aperto\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-listening-to-man-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-listening-to-man-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-listening-to-man-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-listening-to-man-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-listening-to-man-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-listening-to-man-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-listening-to-man-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-listening-to-man-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>S\u00ec, vogliono mostrare la loro mascolinit\u00e0, i loro punti di forza e vantarsi dei loro successi, perch\u00e9 \u00e8 nella loro natura.<\/p>\n<p>They are competitive and protective of their women, and that\u2019s why they often have a hard time expressing their deepest feelings and opening themselves up to you.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 qui che entrate in gioco voi. <strong>There isn\u2019t a single man on earth who won\u2019t choose to open up to you and be vulnerable with you if he feels comfortable enough to do so.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You need to make him feel comfortable about sharing things with you just as I made that guy confess that he\u2019s usually shy around women and he needs some time to open up to me.<\/p>\n<p>Oserei dire che per questo motivo gli piaccio ancora di pi\u00f9 e che la nostra conversazione gli \u00e8 piaciuta ancora di pi\u00f9 (come ha ammesso).<\/p>\n<h2>The easiest way to get a man\u2019s attention is by being creatively honest.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126755 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-talking-6.jpg\" alt=\"donna con camicetta gialla che parla con un uomo in un caff\u00e8\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-talking-6.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-talking-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-talking-6-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-talking-6-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-talking-6-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-talking-6-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-talking-6-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-talking-6-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>What does it mean to be \u2018creatively honest\u2019? It means saying exactly what you want to say to him at that very moment. It means being yourself instead of pretending to be something you\u2019re not.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The easiest way to get a man\u2019s attention is to be creative when answering his questions instead of being predictable like the majority of other people.<\/strong> THAT\u2019S what guys cherish most!<\/p>\n<p>Vogliono una donna che sfidi le loro convinzioni invece di annuire a ogni singola cosa che dicono.<\/p>\n<p>That guy you like wants you to contradict him; to show him that you have your own opinions on certain topics and that you\u2019re not afraid of expressing them.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re capable of inspiring a guy with your unique perspective on things, you\u2019re already halfway there. He will be mesmerized by your boldness, intelligence, and inspiring aura.<\/p>\n<p><strong>If you want to get a man\u2019s attention, you need to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/le-cose-di-cui-parlare-con-un-ragazzo-lo-interessano\/\">Mantenere l'interesse durante la conversazione<\/a>:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Farlo ridere.<\/li>\n<li>Parlate delle vostre passioni.<\/li>\n<li>Fategli domande di approfondimento.<\/li>\n<li>Rimanere MISTERIOSI.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>There\u2019s a reason why I wrote mysterious in caps lock, and the reason is to accentuate the importance of it.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Uno degli errori pi\u00f9 grandi che si possono commettere quando si parla con un ragazzo che ci piace \u00e8 quello di condividere troppo le cose con lui.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I understand that you want to tell him everything about yourself, and you\u2019re dying for him to finally know every single detail about your life, but you shouldn\u2019t do it.<\/p>\n<p>Se volete catturare e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-amano-essere-chiamati-i-ragazzi\/\">mantenere la sua attenzione<\/a>devi rimanere misterioso per lui.<\/p>\n<h2>Bisogna dargli tutto un po' alla volta, in modo che continui a tornare per averne ancora.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126758 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-5.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna che sorridono seduti in un caff\u00e8\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-5.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-5-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-5-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-5-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-5-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-5-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-smiling-5-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s exactly what I did last night. I didn\u2019t want to talk about myself so much and, at one point, the guy told me: <em>I want to get to know you better. Why aren\u2019t you talking about yourself and your life?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>(I hope he won\u2019t be reading this.) <strong>Dear guy, the reason why I didn\u2019t want to talk much about myself is because you would soon lose interest in me and our conversations would become boring.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Gi\u00e0. Tutti i ragazzi non vedono l'ora che tu condivida qualcosa di te e a volte ti implorano di farlo, ma non devi mai esagerare.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t ever overshare things about yourself to a guy because if you do, nothing will ever be the same.<br \/>\nI want you to remember these two things. If you want to get a guy\u2019s attention, you need to:<\/p>\n<p><strong>1. Scegliere sempre <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/argomenti-per-parlare-con-i-ragazzi\/\">Argomenti interessanti di cui parlare con un ragazzo<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Non rivelate mai troppo di voi stessi, ma mantenete un po' di mistero.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I like to think of being mysterious as a box of chocolates. Imagine that you give a guy a box of chocolates and you let him open it up immediately and see what\u2019s inside of it. After some time, he will lose interest.<\/p>\n<p>Ora immaginate di mostrargli una scatola di cioccolatini, ma di proibirgli di aprirla. Invece, la aprite e gliene date uno. Il giorno dopo gliene date un altro e cos\u00ec via.<\/p>\n<p>Il punto \u00e8 che non sapr\u00e0 mai cosa si nasconde esattamente in quella scatola di cioccolatini. Rimarr\u00e0 un mistero per lui e lo far\u00e0 desiderare ancora di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s exactly how a man perceives a woman as well. If you reveal to him too much about yourself, he will not be tempted to learn more about you because there will be no mystery.<\/p>\n<h2>No matter how much you like him, don\u2019t ever be anything else than YOURSELF.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126759 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-drinking-coffee-2.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna sorridenti mentre bevono un caff\u00e8 in un bar\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-drinking-coffee-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-drinking-coffee-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-drinking-coffee-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-drinking-coffee-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-drinking-coffee-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-drinking-coffee-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-drinking-coffee-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/couple-drinking-coffee-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When we really like a guy, we become tempted to do anything for him and even present ourselves as something we\u2019re not.<\/p>\n<p>No matter how much you like this one guy, don\u2019t ever be anything else other than your true self.<br \/>\n<em>Say what you really mean even if he might not like it. Don\u2019t pretend to be a lady if you\u2019re a legit tomboy.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t think about what he might want from you, but offer him to get to know the REAL you. That\u2019s a surefire way of getting and keeping any guy\u2019s attention.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As I\u2019m writing this, I\u2019m recalling last night\u2019s call that I had with one guy. It was our first call after some time of texting, and needless to say how nervous I felt about it. As I was waiting for him to call me, every second felt like an eternity, and the more I waited,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":126752,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29647],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-126750","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-seducing-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29647,"label":"seducing men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/How-To-Talk-To-A-Guy-You-Like-And-Get-His-Attention-Quickly-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29647,"name":"seducing men","slug":"seducing-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29647,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Seducing men is much more than wearing a hot outfit. 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