{"id":126792,"date":"2021-03-02T12:18:07","date_gmt":"2021-03-02T12:18:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=126792"},"modified":"2022-05-11T11:12:41","modified_gmt":"2022-05-11T11:12:41","slug":"come-avvengono-le-relazioni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-avvengono-le-relazioni\/","title":{"rendered":"Il fascino del frutto proibito nei matrimoni: come nascono le relazioni"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sapete qual \u00e8 la cosa che pu\u00f2 indurre un uomo o una donna a prendere decisioni impulsive?<\/em><\/p>\n

What\u2019s one thing that can make you forget to be grateful for what you have and become thirsty for something new?<\/em> It\u2019s il richiamo del frutto proibito.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When two people decide to marry, they don\u2019t think about anything else but making each other happy. They can\u2019t wait to spend more time together, (eventually) have kids (or not), and connect on a deeper level.<\/p>\n

Il matrimonio \u00e8 una delle cose pi\u00f9 belle del mondo perch\u00e9 d\u00e0 la sensazione di appartenere, di essere curati e di essere un tutt'uno con l'altro.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ogni matrimonio ha i suoi alti e bassi. The lure of forbidden fruit doesn\u2019t strike you overnight.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There\u2019s something that triggers partners to start thinking about alternatives and finding happiness someplace else.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s something that makes partners choose to have a secret affair instead of salvare il loro matrimonio.<\/a><\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 le scappatelle si verificano nei matrimoni?<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 i partner sposati scelgono di tradire il proprio coniuge a un certo punto? Qual \u00e8 la cosa che li spinge a farlo? Oppure ci sono pi\u00f9 cose che li spingono a cercare una storia d'amore alternativa?<\/em><\/p>\n

Uno dei motivi principali per cui si verificano le relazioni nei matrimoni \u00e8 quando un coniuge (o entrambi i coniugi) iniziano a mancare qualcosa nel loro matrimonio senza dirlo all'altro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Possiamo collegare questo aspetto anche alla mancanza di una comunicazione sana.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ci sono molti fattori che possono influenzare un matrimonio e trasformarlo in un incubo, e alcuni di questi sono: orari frenetici, mancanza di tempo da trascorrere insieme e mancanza di impegno nel matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Once a marriage no longer provides certain elements that are crucial for every spouse\u2019s happiness, they decide to find these elements someplace else.<\/p>\n

Ora, la vera domanda \u00e8: Why don’t spouses choose to fight for their marriage instead and talk to their partner about it?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Non posso dare la risposta giusta a questa domanda perch\u00e9 varia da persona a persona.<\/p>\n

What I can tell you is that a possible reason why spouses avoid talking to their partner about what\u2019s missing in their relationship is because they want to avoid conflicts.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the thing with marriages. For as long as you refuse to acknowledge that you have a problem in the marriage, everything is perfect.<\/p>\n

Yup, everything is perfect, but only on the surface. If you scratch the surface, then you\u2019ll notice how everything starts melting and showing its true colors.<\/p>\n

Still, there are also spouses who talk, but their significant other doesn\u2019t listen or doesn\u2019t want to understand the seriousness of the situation they\u2019re in.<\/p>\n

Scioccante, ma vero: I tradimenti avvengono anche nei matrimoni felici.<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s imagine a couple that has everything needed for a decent life and a happy marriage.<\/p>\n

Sono finanziariamente stabili, hanno il sostegno delle loro famiglie, si rispettano a vicenda, si completano a vicenda e cos\u00ec via.<\/p>\n

Allora, cosa spinge uno di loro a scegliere di iniziare a cercare una relazione segreta?<\/strong> I\u2019ll give you some time to guess for yourself. The answer is: Qualcosa di diverso.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Potreste essere la coppia pi\u00f9 ricca del mondo, con il miglior lavoro e la casa pi\u00f9 grande, ed essere benedetti da un amore incondizionato, ma tutto questo non significa nulla quando uno dei due partner decide di volere qualcosa di diverso.<\/p>\n

That \u2018different\u2019 doesn\u2019t have to be better or worse. What matters is that it\u2019s different from what they have now in their marriage and in their life in general.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve seen couples from happy marriages live together for years while both having secret lovers.<\/p>\n

As a matter of fact, recently, one of the married guys texted me subtly asking whether I\u2019m interested in \u201cgetting to know him better\u201d (if you catch my drift).<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che gli ho detto:<\/strong> Per rispetto a tua moglie e a un bambino, non avrei mai avuto nulla con te.<\/em><\/p>\n

He respected my decision and didn\u2019t push things further. One more thing… I was really interested in why he would do such things behind his wife\u2019s back, so I openly asked him about it.<\/p>\n

Mi ha detto questo:<\/strong> Pensavo che ci si potesse innamorare del proprio coniuge ed essere felici per il resto della vita con lui. <\/em>Now, I see that it is impossible because human beings are not meant to be in love with one person for the rest of their lives. It’s in their nature to always seek something different from what they have.<\/em><\/p>\n

La sua risposta mi ha davvero stupito e ho iniziato a pensare che forse, dopo tutto, c'\u00e8 del vero.<\/p>\n

Forse la natura del desiderio umano di cercare la variet\u00e0 \u00e8 quella da biasimare per la ricerca di relazioni al di fuori del matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Perhaps those spouses are still in love with each other, but they have to appease their human desire for variety in order to be completely happy in marriage. Hmm\u2026<\/p>\n

\u00c8 sbagliato frequentare un uomo o una donna sposati?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s another question that is really difficult to answer, and it depends on different perspectives.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re the one who is married, but innamorato di un'altra persona<\/a>, chances are you don\u2019t see it as something wrong (until your spouse finds out about it).<\/p>\n

Uno dei pi\u00f9 grandi signs that you\u2019re married, but in love with someone else<\/a> \u00e8 prestare pi\u00f9 attenzione all'altra persona che al proprio coniuge.<\/p>\n

Now, do you think it\u2019s okay toward your current partner to pay more attention to others than them? I\u2019ll let you think about it.<\/p>\n

Quasi tutte le relazioni segrete iniziano con amicizie inappropriate nel matrimonio<\/a>. Potrebbe trattarsi di un collega, di un ragazzo o di una ragazza a caso incontrati in palestra o simili.<\/p>\n

Ben presto le amicizie si trasformano in qualcosa di pi\u00f9 significativo e, prima di quanto si pensi, ci si ritrova ad avere una relazione.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s nothing wrong with having friends outside of marriage, but the problem arises when those friendships become more prioritized than the one you have with your spouse.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see things from other perspectives. Let\u2019s say that un uomo sposato \u00e8 innamorato di te<\/a>. Che cosa fai?<\/p>\n

Do you continue hanging out with him even though you know that he\u2019s in love with you and he might want something more from you?<\/p>\n

Do you tell him something similar to what I told that married guy I was talking about above? Do you tell him that he\u2019s being disrespectful toward his wife and children?<\/em><\/p>\n

Puoi dirglielo o puoi continuare a frequentarlo, pensando che ti dia la priorit\u00e0 rispetto a sua moglie.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry to spoil this to you, but the chances of a married man leaving his wife because of la sua amante<\/a> sono davvero bassi, se non addirittura inesistenti.<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9? Because the reason why he\u2019s cheating on his wife in the first place is because he wants both to keep her and to experience something different \u2013 you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Un uomo di questo tipo non abbandonerebbe mai ci\u00f2 che ha (la moglie) perch\u00e9 sa che pu\u00f2 trovare facilmente molte donne diverse, ma non pu\u00f2 trovare altrettanto facilmente un'altra moglie (per non parlare della sensazione di essere giudicato dalla societ\u00e0 per aver lasciato la moglie).<\/p>\n

That might sound harsh, but it\u2019s the truth.<\/p>\n

La stessa cosa vale quando si tratta di uscire con una donna sposata<\/a>, but it\u2019s slightly even worse in some aspects.<\/p>\n

Dato che gli uomini sono eccessivamente protettivi nei confronti delle loro donne, pensate a cosa succederebbe se suo marito scoprisse la vostra relazione.<\/p>\n

DISCLAIMER:<\/strong> If you\u2019re having an affair with a married woman\/man, or you\u2019re married, but in love with someone else, I\u2019m not trying to judge you or prove to you that you\u2019re wrong. I\u2019m trying to understand you and put things in perspective.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf it’s true that men and women can be ‘just friends’, then how come all cheaters first start out as ‘just friends?\u201d \u2013 Oliver Markus Malloy<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

This is an interesting hypothesis. When it comes to marriages, there is a thin line between being \u2018just friends\u2019 with someone outside the marriage and gradually becoming something more than that.<\/p>\n

Be it unhappy or happy, any marriage can be threatened by the lure of a forbidden fruit because it\u2019s in our nature to keep seeking something different from what we have at the moment.<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s in our nature to take things for granted and think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.<\/em><\/p>\n

The only time we\u2019ll learn to control ourselves is when we learn to detach from the sinful and irrational aspects of our nature.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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