{"id":126948,"date":"2021-03-05T12:22:43","date_gmt":"2021-03-05T12:22:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=126948"},"modified":"2022-01-04T15:48:36","modified_gmt":"2022-01-04T15:48:36","slug":"uomini-e-donne-non-possono-mai-essere-solo-amici","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/uomini-e-donne-non-possono-mai-essere-solo-amici\/","title":{"rendered":"Uomini e donne non possono mai essere \"solo amici\" (o forse s\u00ec?)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Le donne e gli uomini possono essere \"solo amici\"? \u00c8 possibile avere un'amica o un amico senza provare sentimenti romantici per loro?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s something interesting, almost all of my romantic relationships started with that famous saying, <em>\u201cOh, we\u2019re just friends.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Ricordo vividamente che altre persone mi chiedevano di quel ragazzo con cui passavo tanto tempo. Ogni volta che qualcuno mi chiedeva se stavamo insieme, io ridevo immediatamente in modo sarcastico.<\/p>\n<p>I felt in a way offended by others asking me such questions because I couldn\u2019t imagine being in a romantic relationship with him \u2013 my guy best friend.<\/p>\n<p><strong>After some time, I \u201csomehow magically\u201d changed my opinion. <\/strong>Actually, I was scared of myself because I didn\u2019t even know that those feelings existed in me until then.<\/p>\n<p>Non avevo mai sognato di innamorarmi del mio migliore amico (ho ripetuto questa frase una volta di troppo nella mia testa).<\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t only mad at myself but at the whole universe for not giving us a chance to be \u201cjust friends\u201d with people of the opposite gender.<\/p>\n<p>But then again, I still have other guy friends with whom I haven\u2019t fallen in love \u201cyet.\u201d I guess the keyword here is the word YET (or maybe not).<\/p>\n<h2>Is it possible for a man and a woman to be \u201cjust friends\u201d without eventually falling for each other?<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126951 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2.jpg\" alt=\"donna che parla con l&#039;uomo mentre \u00e8 seduta all&#039;aperto\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-talking-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Given that this is a complex matter and there is no right or wrong answer, I\u2019ll just express my personal opinion in the hope that this will help you find an answer or a hypothesis for yourself.<\/p>\n<p><strong>My personal opinion is that men and women can be \u201cjust friends,\u201d but chances are that at some point, they will fall for each other.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>They say that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. That clich\u00e9 perfectly describes the differences between men and women.<\/p>\n<p>Well, there is probably a reason why we\u2019re so different from each other.<\/p>\n<p>To understand it better, let\u2019s list a few things (read: gender stereotypes) that are characteristic of men and women:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>A differenza degli uomini, alle donne piace parlare molto.<\/li>\n<li>A differenza delle donne, gli uomini hanno difficolt\u00e0 a esprimere i propri sentimenti.<\/li>\n<li>A differenza degli uomini, le donne sono pi\u00f9 sensibili.<\/li>\n<li>A differenza delle donne, agli uomini piace vantarsi e mostrare la propria forza e mascolinit\u00e0.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If we look closely at the above list, we can draw some logical conclusions. For example, women like to hang out with men because they don\u2019t talk that much, which means they will listen to them.<\/p>\n<p>Or men like to hang out with women because they are more sensitive, which helps them open up and be vulnerable. You see, the reason why we\u2019re so different is that we\u2019re supposed to complement each other.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Both men and women offer something that the other gender doesn\u2019t. So, yes, it is not only possible to be \u201cjust friends\u201d with the opposite sex, but it is necessary.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/true-love\/bff\/ragioni-del-migliore-amico-maschio\/\">Ogni ragazza dovrebbe avere un migliore amico maschio<\/a> e viceversa.<\/p>\n<p>By surrounding ourselves with different types of people and people from the opposite gender, we learn new perspectives, understanding how the opposite gender functions \u2013 we are evolving.<\/p>\n<h2>Tuttavia, queste differenze possono anche attrarci a un livello pi\u00f9 profondo verso il sesso opposto.<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126953 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna che mangiano il gelato seduti sulle scale\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-eating-ice-cream-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Sapete tutto l'uno dell'altro, parlate delle vostre paure, dei vostri sogni, avete una lunga lista di battute interne e vi sentite come l'unica persona che vi capisce veramente.<\/p>\n<p>But you are still \u201cjust friends\u201d with them. Now, the question is: <strong>Per quanto tempo?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>At some point, you might find yourself re-reading their texts before going to sleep, listening to their favorite song on repeat, and fantasizing about being more than \u201cjust friends.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Ad un certo punto, potreste iniziare a cercare <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/16-segni-evidenti-che-il-tuo-amico-si-sta-innamorando-di-te\/\">Segni che il tuo amico maschio prova qualcosa per te<\/a> (or your girl friend) while still convincing yourself that you haven\u2019t developed romantic feelings for them.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Forse lei o <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/11-segni-che-gli-piaci-piu-di-unamica-ma-ha-troppa-paura-di-ammetterlo\/\">Gli piaci pi\u00f9 di un'amica, ma ha troppa paura di ammetterlo.<\/a>. Forse entrambi provate le stesse cose, ma nessuno dei due ha il coraggio di ammetterlo o di parlarne.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t want to ruin your friendship because of something more meaningful you might have in the future. Should I repeat the previous sentence?<\/p>\n<p>Lasciate che vi dica una cosa. L'amicizia \u00e8 una delle relazioni pi\u00f9 potenti in assoluto.<\/p>\n<p>Everything stems from friendship. The greatest relationships have started with two people being \u201cjust friends,\u201d which brings us to another hypothesis:<\/p>\n<h3>Being \u201cjust friends\u201d is sometimes just a bridge to something more meaningful and larger than ourselves.<\/h3>\n<p>Yes, men and women can be \u201cjust friends,\u201d but they can also be more than that. Not every friendship is bound to turn into something more meaningful (romantic), which is totally okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>But sometimes, the reason why you were \u201cjust friends\u201d is that you were meant to evolve and become lovers.<\/strong> Il fatto \u00e8 che le persone perdono troppo tempo a pensare e a definire le cose.<\/p>\n<p>Why aren\u2019t we be able to do both? Why do people of the opposite gender have to be categorized as either \u201cjust friends\u201d or lovers?<\/p>\n<p>When we stop thinking about it and embrace every possible outcome of a friendship (or the lack of thereof), we\u2019ll stop forcing this unnecessary categorization and unpopular or popular opinion.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m aware that by saying this, I\u2019m directly criticizing my own story, but maybe that was my intention after all; to make a hypothesis in the title and then prove how it can be wrong.<\/p>\n<h2>Tuttavia, imparare a evitare di innamorarsi di un amico pu\u00f2 (a volte) essere un vero e proprio salvavita.<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126954 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna che parlano seduti su una roccia\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/couple-sitting-on-rock-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>While there\u2019s nothing wrong with you two being more than \u201cjust friends,\u201d still, if you for some reason don\u2019t feel comfortable with that idea, you need to master how to avoid falling in love with your friend.<\/p>\n<p>Vorrei iniziare questa mini-guida dicendo che la nostra mente \u00e8 davvero magnifica. Potete allenarvi a non provare sentimenti per qualcuno semplicemente stabilendo alcune regole di base:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Definite la vostra amicizia.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Always remind yourself of why you became friends in the first place. Treat your friend of the opposite gender as your family member so that you\u2019re not tempted to think about them as a potential lover.<\/p>\n<p>Ma soprattutto, continuate a frequentare altri e sentitevi liberi di parlare di altri ragazzi o ragazze senza preoccuparvi di far ingelosire il vostro amico.<\/p>\n<p>Well, your friend shouldn\u2019t be jealous, and you shouldn\u2019t be worrying about that in the first place.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Stabilite dei limiti.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Avoid holding hands (if you don\u2019t want to be perceived as a legit couple), avoid snuggling intimately, or kissing.<\/p>\n<p>Also, try limiting time spent with them. Remember that they are not, and they should not be your only friend. You\u2019re supposed to hang out with other people as well, go on dates, and so on.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Trascorrere il tempo in gruppo invece che a tu per tu.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Trascorrere del tempo solo da soli pu\u00f2 essere un'abitudine rischiosa. Provate invece a passare il tempo in gruppo, includendo anche gli altri amici.<\/p>\n<p>L'obiettivo \u00e8 evitare di concentrarsi eccessivamente su di loro o di stabilire un legame solo con loro.<\/p>\n<p>Se il vostro amico preferisce ancora uscire solo a tu per tu, sentitevi liberi di inventare scuse. Inoltre, quando passate del tempo a tu per tu, limitatevi ai luoghi pubblici invece che al suo o al vostro appartamento.<\/p>\n<p>We all know what it means when someone invites you to dinner at their place. If you add wine to the equation, there you have it: From being \u201cjust friends\u201d to lovers.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Trovate delle distrazioni.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If you notice that you\u2019re catching feelings for them, it\u2019s important to find distractions and surround yourself with other people.<\/p>\n<p>Decrease the amount of time spent with them, go for a walk (without them!), draw something, watch TV shows, go for a drink with some of your friends you haven\u2019t seen in a while.<\/p>\n<p>By distracting yourself, you\u2019ll protect yourself from developing even more feelings for them.<\/p>\n<p>Still, if you notice that it is impossible to distract yourself from thinking about them, you might as well tell them how you feel (but only if you\u2019re ready to become something more).<\/p>\n<h2>\u201cA guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point or another, they will fall for each other&#8230; Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever.\u201d \u2013 Dave Matthews<\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-126956 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling.jpg\" alt=\"donna con capelli ricci che sorride mentre guarda un uomo\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/woman-smiling-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A friendship is a promise that you\u2019ll always be there for each other no matter what. That promise sometimes evolves into deeper feelings followed by a romantic relationship.<\/p>\n<p>A guy and a girl can be \u201cjust friends&#8221; and time will show if they were meant to be something more than that.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Can women and men be \u201cjust friends\u201d? Is it possible to have a girl friend or a guy friend without eventually developing romantic feelings for them? Here\u2019s something interesting, almost all of my romantic relationships started with that famous saying, \u201cOh, we\u2019re just friends.\u201d I vividly remember other people asking me about that one guy&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":126950,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29624],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-126948","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-friends-and-family"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29624,"label":"friends&amp;family"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Men-And-Women-Can-Never-Be-Just-Friends-Or-Can-They_-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29624,"name":"friends&amp;family","slug":"friends-and-family","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29624,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? 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