{"id":127588,"date":"2021-03-19T00:47:41","date_gmt":"2021-03-19T00:47:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=127588"},"modified":"2022-02-27T13:34:18","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T13:34:18","slug":"ecco-perche-non-hai-mai-avuto-una-ragazza","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ecco-perche-non-hai-mai-avuto-una-ragazza\/","title":{"rendered":"Cari ragazzi, ecco perch\u00e9 non avete mai avuto una ragazza"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If you\u2019re one of those men who never had a girlfriend, you probably think that you\u2019re the only one. Well, that\u2019s what everyone thinks when they don\u2019t fit in the conventional sequence: <i> finish school &#8211; find a job &#8211; <\/i><b><i>trovare una ragazza<\/i><\/b><i> &#8211; get married &#8211; have kids.&nbsp; <\/i><\/p>\n<p>If everyone around you has a girlfriend except you, this might make you feel ostracized from society and\/or disappointed in yourself (assuming you want to have a girlfriend, but for some reason, you still don\u2019t).&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Truth be told, some men may act like they don\u2019t really care about the fact that they never had a girlfriend or they don\u2019t even want to have one. Still, the majority of them will think that they are doing something wrong (which is not so far from the truth).<\/p>\n<p><b>Esclusione di responsabilit\u00e0:<\/b> This is not an article about judging single guys, glorifying them, or pitying them. It\u2019s about stating the facts based on other \u201cforever single\u201d men\u2019s experiences for the sake of helping you step up your dating game.<\/p>\n<p>(Potete ringraziarmi pi\u00f9 tardi).<\/p>\n<h2>Do you think you\u2019re doing something wrong or there\u2019s something wrong with all the girls out there?&nbsp;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-127590 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-beautiful-man-sits-on-a-bench-and-looks-in-front-of-him.jpg\" alt=\"un uomo bellissimo si siede su una panchina e guarda davanti a s\u00e9\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-beautiful-man-sits-on-a-bench-and-looks-in-front-of-him.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-beautiful-man-sits-on-a-bench-and-looks-in-front-of-him-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-beautiful-man-sits-on-a-bench-and-looks-in-front-of-him-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-beautiful-man-sits-on-a-bench-and-looks-in-front-of-him-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-beautiful-man-sits-on-a-bench-and-looks-in-front-of-him-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-beautiful-man-sits-on-a-bench-and-looks-in-front-of-him-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-beautiful-man-sits-on-a-bench-and-looks-in-front-of-him-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-beautiful-man-sits-on-a-bench-and-looks-in-front-of-him-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Since I\u2019m a straightforward person by nature, I hope you\u2019ll get used to me writing exactly what I mean with no sugar coating.<\/p>\n<p><b>Yes, I\u2019m a female myself, and I don\u2019t think that every single girl out there is perfect girlfriend material.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>There are plenty of girls who are only interested in a man\u2019s financial status (if you catch my drift) and who don\u2019t even bother to get to know you better because all they\u2019re interested in is you being able to indulge them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>La cosa arriva al punto che le ragazze osano persino chiedere a un ragazzo di pagare il loro divano $2500 dopo il secondo appuntamento (\u00e8 successo a una mia amica che \u00e8 single da un po').&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Alcune ragazze sono segnate dalle loro relazioni passate, quindi hanno difficolt\u00e0 ad aprirsi con qualcuno di nuovo.<\/p>\n<p>Altre ragazze (me compresa) hanno un'avversione per gli uomini generici che usano frasi sdolcinate per rimorchiare e sono orgogliosi della loro mentalit\u00e0 a basso sforzo.<\/p>\n<p>There are also plenty of minimalist, creative, fun, and hard-working girls who simply don\u2019t have time to date anyone, let alone be in a relationship at the moment.<\/p>\n<p>Basta parlare di ragazze. <b>The point is, not every girl\u2019s personality and lifestyle is bound to match yours, which is okay.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><b>Now, let\u2019s talk about you.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p><i> Are you satisfied with your approach when it comes to girls (if there were any approaches whatsoever)? Do you think you\u2019re doing something wrong? Or, that you could work more on improving yourself and stepping up your dating game? <\/i><\/p>\n<p>If your answer is no on the last question, then you can be sure you\u2019re doing something wrong. No matter how handsome, smart, or fun you are, there is always room for improvement.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Some guys forget that, and that\u2019s how they find themselves stuck in the realm of \u201cnever had a girlfriend\u201d. Don\u2019t be one of those guys.<\/p>\n<p><b>No, there\u2019s nothing wrong with you if you never had a girlfriend, but if you think that you shouldn\u2019t keep working on yourself, then there is something wrong with you.<\/b> Questo non \u00e8 solo essenziale nel mondo degli appuntamenti, ma anche in generale.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3>Continua ad aggiornare la sua lista immaginaria di <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lui\/inside-his-mind\/tratti-della-fidanzata-perfetta-secondo-gli-uomini\/\"> I tratti di una fidanzata perfetta <\/a> ma non pensate mai a ci\u00f2 che avete da offrire loro?&nbsp;<\/h3>\n<p>If you ask me, this is the worst that could happen to any man out there. It\u2019s okay if you are shy or if you aren\u2019t that confident.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>But, if you\u2019re constantly dreaming about having the perfect girlfriend (according to your \u201cperfect standards\u201d), but aren\u2019t willing to work on yourself, then this is truly unfair and unrealistic to say the least.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Yes, almost every man thinks about himself as being a great catch, but that\u2019s just how you see yourself. Note that every girl has different standards as well.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Alcune ragazze preferiscono i ragazzi normali con un grande senso dell'umorismo, mentre ad altre piacciono di pi\u00f9 gli uomini forti che sprizzano sicurezza o una combinazione di entrambi.<\/p>\n<p><b>No, <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-motivi-per-non-abbassare-gli-standard-di-un-singolo\/\"><b>you shouldn\u2019t lower your standards just because you\u2019re single<\/b><\/a><b>, but you also shouldn\u2019t be too picky or let unrealistic expectations rule your love life.&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Be who you are. Be your best self every day. Don\u2019t stagnate, and don\u2019t think that you are perfect in every aspect of your life because none of us is.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2>Forse il motivo per cui non hai mai avuto una ragazza \u00e8 perch\u00e9 continui a parlarne?<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-127591 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-man-and-a-woman-drink-wine-and-talk.jpg\" alt=\"un uomo e una donna bevono vino e parlano\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-man-and-a-woman-drink-wine-and-talk.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-man-and-a-woman-drink-wine-and-talk-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-man-and-a-woman-drink-wine-and-talk-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-man-and-a-woman-drink-wine-and-talk-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-man-and-a-woman-drink-wine-and-talk-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-man-and-a-woman-drink-wine-and-talk-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-man-and-a-woman-drink-wine-and-talk-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/a-man-and-a-woman-drink-wine-and-talk-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Di recente, una delle mie amiche stava messaggiando con un ragazzo e tra loro c'\u00e8 stata un'intesa fin dal primo giorno. Lui la faceva ridere in continuazione, era premuroso e diverso da tutti i ragazzi con cui lei aveva messaggiato o era uscita finora.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>E poi, BOOM! Un giorno, di punto in bianco, le disse che non aveva mai avuto una ragazza (anche se aveva trent'anni).<\/p>\n<p>Si \u00e8 immediatamente spaventata, mi ha chiamato e mi ha detto: <b>OMG ci deve essere qualcosa di sbagliato in lui perch\u00e9 non ha mai avuto una ragazza prima!&nbsp;<\/b><\/p>\n<p>As reasonable as I am, I told her to calm down because there are plenty of reasons why someone has never had a girlfriend, and it doesn\u2019t have to mean that there\u2019s something wrong with him.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>When she asked him why he has never had a girlfriend before, he told her that he didn\u2019t have time for that because he wanted to fully commit to his job. He didn\u2019t want his potential girlfriend to feel neglected due to possible lack of attention or similar.<\/p>\n<p>Dopo le sue parole, la donna si \u00e8 immediatamente ricreduta e ha capito che questa era una spiegazione logica. <b>Well, some girls won\u2019t even ask you about the reason why you never had a girlfriend, and that\u2019s a problem.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Many girls just freak out when you tell them that, and they immediately start assuming that you\u2019re a player, a selfish guy, a commitment-phobe, or something of sorts.<\/p>\n<p>Smettono immediatamente di mandarti messaggi e di uscire con te, e tu finisci per pensare a cosa hai fatto di sbagliato.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Practically, you haven\u2019t done anything wrong, but there\u2019s also no need to keep repeating that you never had a girlfriend to every new girl you meet.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, it\u2019s better to keep some things to yourself (especially the ones that won\u2019t cause harm if you don\u2019t tell the truth).&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3>Oppure, il motivo per cui non hai mai avuto una ragazza \u00e8 che fai schifo a leggere i segnali?<\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-127592 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Young-man-wearing-winter-clothes-with-a-smartphone-in-his-hand-walking-in-the-street.jpg\" alt=\"Giovane uomo che indossa abiti invernali con uno smartphone in mano, camminando per strada\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Young-man-wearing-winter-clothes-with-a-smartphone-in-his-hand-walking-in-the-street.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Young-man-wearing-winter-clothes-with-a-smartphone-in-his-hand-walking-in-the-street-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Young-man-wearing-winter-clothes-with-a-smartphone-in-his-hand-walking-in-the-street-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Young-man-wearing-winter-clothes-with-a-smartphone-in-his-hand-walking-in-the-street-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Young-man-wearing-winter-clothes-with-a-smartphone-in-his-hand-walking-in-the-street-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Young-man-wearing-winter-clothes-with-a-smartphone-in-his-hand-walking-in-the-street-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Young-man-wearing-winter-clothes-with-a-smartphone-in-his-hand-walking-in-the-street-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Young-man-wearing-winter-clothes-with-a-smartphone-in-his-hand-walking-in-the-street-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Many men actually have no idea when a woman is genuinely interested in them. Sometimes, they think she\u2019s interested even when she\u2019s not, so they ask her out and she rejects them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Other times, a woman is totally interested in them, but they misinterpret the signs and never ask her out, thinking she doesn\u2019t give a damn about them.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>So, maybe the reason why you never had a girlfriend is that you suck at reading signs? Let me tell you one thing. If a woman laughs at your jokes (even the corny ones), then you know she\u2019s interested in you.<\/p>\n<p>If a woman keeps texting you (doesn\u2019t let you wait for long between replies), then you know she probably likes you. Also, if a woman ignores your texts, pretends to be busy 24\/7, or tells you openly that she\u2019s interested in dating you, then she PROBABLY means it.<\/p>\n<h3>Se avete bisogno di pi\u00f9 <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/motivi-per-cui-non-hai-mai-avuto-una-ragazza\/\"> motivi per cui non hai mai avuto una ragazza <\/a> , concedetevi un po' di tempo:<\/h3>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b style=\"color: #0a0a0a;\">D\u00e0 troppe informazioni. <\/b><span style=\"color: #0a0a0a;\"> (Yes, we\u2019re interested in your funny childhood stories, but we really don\u2019t want to know everything about your every single family member and their love life.)<\/span><\/li>\n<li><b style=\"color: #0a0a0a;\">You\u2019re not confident.<\/b><span style=\"color: #0a0a0a;\"> (Surely, you don\u2019t need to be a Wall Street businessman in order to exert some confidence. At least, show her that you have your own opinion on certain matters.)&nbsp;<\/span><\/li>\n<li><b> You\u2019re too picky. <\/b> (Noup. You\u2019ll never find that one unicorn perfect girlfriend because they don\u2019t exist, so do yourself a favor and lower your standards.)&nbsp;<\/li>\n<li><b>You\u2019re too pushy.<\/b> (Being \u201ctoo anything\u201d is not a good thing, especially if you\u2019re too pushy. Give that woman some space to breathe and decide if she likes you or not on her own.)<\/li>\n<li><b>You\u2019re boring.<\/b> (Se il vostro principale traguardo di vita \u00e8 bere birra con i vostri amici mentre guardate il calcio, allora dovete seriamente pensare a cosa state sbagliando).&nbsp;<\/li>\n<li><b>Ci si arrende facilmente.<\/b> (Amico, hai mai sentito parlare di \"giocare duro per ottenere\"? Se una donna si innamora troppo presto di te, la apprezzeresti allo stesso modo piuttosto che se dovessi lavorare di pi\u00f9 per conquistarla? E io l'ho pensato).&nbsp;<\/li>\n<li><b>Metti le ragazze su un piedistallo.<\/b> (She might look like a goddess in your eyes, but trust me, no girl wants to be treated like a queen 24\/7. No, she\u2019s not out of your league, and there\u2019s no need to go out of your way to impress her. Being a gentleman will suffice.)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Or, the reason why you never had a girlfriend is that you don\u2019t want one.&nbsp;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-127593 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/the-man-sitting-on-the-back-looks-away-and-laughs.jpg\" alt=\"l&#039;uomo seduto dietro guarda altrove e ride\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/the-man-sitting-on-the-back-looks-away-and-laughs.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/the-man-sitting-on-the-back-looks-away-and-laughs-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/the-man-sitting-on-the-back-looks-away-and-laughs-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/the-man-sitting-on-the-back-looks-away-and-laughs-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/the-man-sitting-on-the-back-looks-away-and-laughs-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/the-man-sitting-on-the-back-looks-away-and-laughs-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/the-man-sitting-on-the-back-looks-away-and-laughs-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/the-man-sitting-on-the-back-looks-away-and-laughs-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If that is the case with you, don\u2019t worry. I\u2019m not one of those people who will judge you for your life and love decisions.<\/p>\n<p>If you don\u2019t want to have a girlfriend because you have more important things to pay attention to in life at the moment, that\u2019s totally fine.<\/p>\n<p><b>Don\u2019t let society, your family members, or your friends pressure you. <\/b> You\u2019re <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-segni-che-stai-uscendo-con-un-uomo-adulto\/\">un uomo adulto<\/a> and you, yourself, know what\u2019s best for you. Right? Right.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you\u2019re one of those men who never had a girlfriend, you probably think that you\u2019re the only one. Well, that\u2019s what everyone thinks when they don\u2019t fit in the conventional sequence: finish school &#8211; find a job &#8211; find a girlfriend &#8211; get married &#8211; have kids.&nbsp; If everyone around you has a girlfriend&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":39,"featured_media":127589,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29642],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-127588","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-guy-talk"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29642,"label":"guy talk"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/Dear-Fellas-This-Is-Why-You-Never-Had-A-Girlfriend-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Owen Scott","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/hase\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29642,"name":"guy talk","slug":"guy-talk","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29642,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Welcome to the land of juicy topics and lots of helpful tips on love and relationships. 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