{"id":12804,"date":"2020-06-19T14:50:59","date_gmt":"2020-06-19T14:50:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=12804"},"modified":"2022-01-24T14:10:44","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T14:10:44","slug":"ragazza-delle-lettere-sopravvissuta-ad-un-abuso-narcisistico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ragazza-delle-lettere-sopravvissuta-ad-un-abuso-narcisistico\/","title":{"rendered":"Lettera alla ragazza che \u00e8 sopravvissuta all'abuso narcisistico"},"content":{"rendered":"

Avete passato dei momenti difficili. In realt\u00e0, \"tempi duri\" non \u00e8 sufficiente a descriverli. Avete passato l'inferno.<\/p>\n

Quello che avete vissuto pu\u00f2 essere letteralmente paragonato all'inferno.<\/p>\n

Forse ci sono altre ragazze o altre donne che hanno vissuto qualcosa di simile, e forse solo loro possono capirti.<\/p>\n

But someone who hasn\u2019t experienced the things you did can\u2019t even begin to understand what happened to you.<\/p>\n

You know, what happened to you doesn\u2019t actually resemble anything anyone else ever went through.<\/p>\n

Ci saranno delle somiglianze tra alcune storie, ma non ci sono due storie uguali.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why it hurts even more to try to tell your own story.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why your heart breaks even more when they say they understand and then end up blaming you for staying so long.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They don\u2019t understand, how could they possibly?<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

If they haven\u2019t experienced it in their own skin, if they haven\u2019t been in your head, if they haven\u2019t cut your heart open to see what is in it and if they haven\u2019t peeked into your soul to see the amount of fear you were feeling, they can\u2019t possibly understand how or why you stayed so long.<\/p>\n

Era convinta di essere amata, che mettersi con il suo aguzzino sarebbe stato il viaggio della sua vita. Che con lui avresti sperimentato un amore fuori dal mondo.<\/p>\n

You were told how you were one of a kind and how you were all he\u2019d been looking for. You were promised eternal love, but all you got was eternal hell.<\/p>\n

Non sapevi mai a cosa andavi incontro. Speravi nel meglio, ma hai finito per ottenere il peggio.<\/p>\n

And don\u2019t fool yourself that you could’ve been smarter or more careful. You couldn’t.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Because your heart and your mind were never programmed to notice someone who\u2019s really good at disguising. And your tormentor was excellent at disguising.<\/p>\n

Sembrava un ragazzo buono e premuroso. Faceva tutto bene. Sembrava troppo bello per essere vero.<\/p>\n

He convinced you that he was the best you\u2019d ever get and that he truly cared. It was one hell of a play he performed to get you hooked. And once you were all his, he changed.<\/p>\n

He didn\u2019t change all at once. He started changing little by little.<\/p>\n

He shifted one thing at a time because he wanted to get you used to the pain bit by bit, so that once you saw his true face, you wouldn\u2019t be surprised.<\/p>\n

Aveva capito tutto. Aveva preparato il suo piano da tempo.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

He did everything he could to trap you in his net and feed off of your pain. He knew you\u2019d never leave since you were not that type of person.<\/p>\n

Non lasciate mai coloro che amate, per quanto vi facciano del male.<\/p>\n

You never give up. You\u2019re the type of person who fights till her last breath and that\u2019s exactly what he was counting on.<\/p>\n

For so long, you\u2019ve been asking yourself what it was that you did wrong. For so long, you\u2019ve replayed ricordi nella tua testa<\/a> per vedere cos'altro si sarebbe potuto fare per sistemare le cose.<\/p>\n

But there wasn\u2019t anything else you could\u2019ve done to make things right, since he wanted everything to go wrong for you.<\/p>\n

The worst part isn\u2019t the fact that you couldn\u2019t let go. The worst part is that you struggled even after everything ended.<\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

La cosa peggiore \u00e8 che in te erano rimasti tratti di amore per lui una volta che aveva finito con te.<\/p>\n

It took you a while to escape him, but it took you even longer to accept the truth and what you\u2019d been through in order to let go of the feelings that were running wild in you.<\/p>\n

Ma anche quando siete sfuggiti alla sua rete tossica, i sentimenti tossici che vi aveva impresso sono rimasti pi\u00f9 a lungo di quanto speravate. <\/strong><\/p>\n

You continued to apologize for everything, even when you knew there wasn\u2019t anything you did wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hai continuato a pensare che tutto il male che era successo era colpa tua<\/a>, anche quando la met\u00e0 delle cose non aveva nulla a che fare con voi.<\/p>\n

Avevate paura di parlare, temevate di mostrare le vostre emozioni o di confrontarvi con qualcuno.<\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I sentimenti che continuava a proiettare su di lei mentre stavate insieme sono rimasti anche dopo che aveva chiuso con lei.<\/p>\n

Now that it\u2019s all over you still blame yourself, but I promise you that none of what happened to you was your fault.<\/p>\n

Il tuo aguzzino era troppo subdolo perch\u00e9 tu potessi accorgerti che qualcosa sarebbe andato storto.<\/p>\n

So there wasn\u2019t a thing you could\u2019ve done differently. Stop beating yourself up about it. It is not your fault.<\/p>\n

Dovete smettere di vedervi come una vittima quando vi guardate allo specchio. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 non siete una vittima. Siete dei sopravvissuti. Siete sopravvissuti all'inferno. Riconoscetelo. Lasciate che faccia male e poi lasciate che guarisca.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Okay, you\u2019re a bit rotto ora<\/a>, but aren\u2019t we all? Okay, you\u2019re still scared, but aren\u2019t we all a little bit scared?<\/p>\n

None of this means your story ends here. It\u2019s where it begins. Because the only way to go from the bottom is up.<\/p>\n

Quindi smettete di scappare dal vostro passato. Smettete di scappare da ci\u00f2 che vi \u00e8 successo.<\/p>\n

Smettete di imbottigliare i vostri sentimenti e di tormentarvi per quello che avete passato.<\/p>\n

Be proud that you\u2019re still standing after the hell you\u2019ve been through and don\u2019t be ashamed of your wounds and scars because they are the proof of your battles and proof that you\u2019re a true warrior.<\/p>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

La luce alla fine del tunnel c'\u00e8, basta avere un po' di pazienza e apparir\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n

C'\u00e8 un futuro luminoso che vi aspetta, ma dovete smettere di stare fermi nello stesso punto e iniziare a camminare verso di esso.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you know what one famous poet said? He said: \u201cThe wound is the place where the light enters you.\u201d<\/p>\n

You are not broken, you’re full of places where the light can enter. Remember this.<\/p>\n

\"Lettera<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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