{"id":13058,"date":"2020-08-24T08:34:27","date_gmt":"2020-08-24T08:34:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=13058"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:13:44","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:13:44","slug":"lettera-donna-rotta-ok-amore-spaventato","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lettera-donna-rotta-ok-amore-spaventato\/","title":{"rendered":"Una lettera alla donna spezzata: Va bene avere paura dell'amore"},"content":{"rendered":"

Love is scary. Giving your heart to someone, hoping they won\u2019t drop it. Letting someone in, hoping they won\u2019t rob you of all you hold dear. Trusting someone that they won\u2019t leave.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s scary as fuck. And you are right to be scared. I\u2019m scared, too.<\/p>\n

But love is also the most beautiful thing there is. It\u2019s emotion, power. It\u2019s healing and pain. It\u2019s both pleasure and suffering at the same time, but damn, it\u2019s beautiful.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We wouldn\u2019t be going back to it if it wasn\u2019t. We wouldn\u2019t have hope to love again someday, if we didn\u2019t love the love itself. But, what happens when the painful past is stronger than our hope? What happens when we\u2019re too afraid to face the love?<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve all loved someone we shouldn\u2019t have. We all gave our heart to the wrong people, hoping that maybe, they\u2019ll appreciate it.<\/strong> La prima volta che mi hanno spezzato il cuore ero cos\u00ec confusa.<\/p>\n

I was so blindly in love that I couldn\u2019t imagine he could simply walk away. How could he? He told me he loves me. He told me he wants us to grow old together.<\/p>\n

He told me I\u2019m the best thing that happened to him. And he just walked away. How could he?? Well, he could, and he did. Sono stato preso in giro<\/a>ma speravo ancora che ci fosse qualcuno che mi amasse.<\/p>\n

\"fuori,<\/p>\n

Ho sperato e mi hanno spezzato il cuore un altro po' di volte. Ho subito lividi e maltrattamenti, e vorrei potervi dire che dopo mi sono alzata e ho urlato al mio passato:<\/p>\n

\u201cI still believe in love. I still believe in myself!\u201d<\/em> But I didn\u2019t. It took me quite some time to only whisper to myself: \u201cI believe in you girl. You can believe in love again.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

I wish I could tell you that it gets easier; that the moment you meet that special someone, love becomes less scary. It doesn\u2019t. But it\u2019s worth it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll find that someone who will turn your world upside down. You\u2019ll find that someone who will make you realize that you\u2019ve never been more afraid of love than when you\u2019re with him.<\/p>\n

Ma cavolo.., it\u2019s worth it.<\/a> It\u2019s worth believing he will stay; it\u2019s worth believing he won\u2019t hurt you. Because, deep down, you know he will stay no matter what.<\/p>\n

You know he\u2019s afraid as much as you are\u2014maybe even more. But you both faced your fears and decided to stay.<\/p>\n

Yes. Love is scary. Yes, I\u2019m scared too. But it\u2019s okay. It\u2019s okay to shut some people out. It\u2019s okay to take your time to get better, to take your time to let certain people in.<\/p>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

It\u2019s okay to build walls, because sometimes they\u2019re the only thing that\u2019s protecting our hearts.<\/strong> It\u2019s okay to run away, if you\u2019re not ready.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t push yourself to do things you\u2019re not comfortable with. Don\u2019t force yourself to love someone if you\u2019re not ready. Don\u2019t bring yourself down, if everyone around you pressures you into giving in to love.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not a machine. You can\u2019t get better if you switch it off and on again. You need time, you need space. Even if it takes you years to get there, it\u2019s okay.<\/a><\/p>\n

But trust me, one day when you look back, you will see how far you\u2019ve come. You will see how brave you\u2019ve become; how badass you were this whole time.<\/p>\n

And you\u2019ll see that love is still scary, no matter how much better you get. No matter how strong you are, it\u2019s still damn scary. <\/strong><\/p>\n

But you\u2019re one hell of a wonder woman and there\u2019s nothing stopping you from conquering that fear.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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