{"id":13131,"date":"2020-05-25T08:34:48","date_gmt":"2020-05-25T08:34:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=13131"},"modified":"2022-01-24T22:17:45","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T22:17:45","slug":"sopravvivere-allabuso-narcisistico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/sopravvivere-allabuso-narcisistico\/","title":{"rendered":"Sopravvivere all'abuso narcisistico"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Vi siete mai sentiti come se tutto ci\u00f2 che dite fosse sbagliato? Per quanto vi sforziate, nulla di ci\u00f2 che fate \u00e8 mai abbastanza buono?<\/p>\n<p>Sembra che non riusciate mai a portare a termine ci\u00f2 che vi siete prefissati nel modo in cui avevate previsto?<\/p>\n<p>Vi sentite cos\u00ec perch\u00e9 ve lo dice il vostro partner?<\/p>\n<p>All too often, women enter into relationships with charming, charismatic, intriguing men who seem to fit the bill of the \u2018perfect Prince Charming\u2019, only to quickly realize they\u2019ve fallen for an imposter.<\/p>\n<p>Come se all'improvviso si fosse acceso un interruttore, un giorno si svegliano e tutto ci\u00f2 che credevano vero non era altro che fumo negli occhi.<\/p>\n<p>Benvenuti nel mondo di <strong>abuso narcisistico.<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-spaventosi-segnali-che-il-vostro-fidanzato-e-un-narcisista-patologicamente-invidioso\/\">Narcisismo patologico<\/a>Il narcisismo, detto anche narcisismo subclinico o disturbo narcisista di personalit\u00e0 (NPD), \u00e8 una variante della psicopatia ed \u00e8 una condizione molto reale e molto grave.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-97725\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-posing.jpg\" alt=\"donna maltrattata in posa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-posing.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-posing-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-posing-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-posing-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-posing-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Il disturbo \u00e8 caratterizzato da un falso senso di grandiosit\u00e0 che nasconde una profonda vergogna associata a un trauma.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s a fancy way of saying the narcissists are great actors. Their exterior self doesn\u2019t match the interior.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-tattiche-di-pulizia-che-i-narcisisti-utilizzano-per-prosciugare-i-loro-corpi\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Narcisisti<\/a> inizialmente si presentano come molto affascinanti, socievoli, benvoluti e benestanti. Questo, naturalmente, attira i potenziali partner.<\/p>\n<p>However, victims unlucky enough to be sucked into the sadistic game quickly begin to feel as if something is wrong in their relationship\u2014although many find they can\u2019t put a finger on just what.<\/p>\n<p>Slowly and surely the narcissist\u2019s mask is removed, and little by little cracks begin to surface, until the deranged monster that was always hidden underneath becomes visible.<\/p>\n<p>Relationships with narcissists typically follow a path defined by three stages \u2013<strong> idealizzare, svalutare, scartare.<\/strong> All'inizio tutto sembra perfetto.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-97726\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/man-kissing-smiling-woman.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che bacia una donna sorridente\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/man-kissing-smiling-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/man-kissing-smiling-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/man-kissing-smiling-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/man-kissing-smiling-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/man-kissing-smiling-woman-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Le vittime vengono travolte. Si sentono estremamente fortunate per aver trovato il loro compagno ideale.<\/p>\n<p>Nella svalutazione, invece, il narcisista inizia a punzecchiare e a fare commenti dispregiativi qua e l\u00e0 sulla vittima, facendole iniziare a dubitare di se stessa e a sentirsi come se non potesse vivere senza il suo compagno.<\/p>\n<p>This goes on for a substantial amount of time\u2014long enough for the victim to feel entirely trapped if she so allows.<\/p>\n<p>Le vittime iniziano a sentirsi molto ansiose e possono sperimentare attacchi di panico in svalutazione, oppure scivolare in una profonda depressione.<\/p>\n<p>They feel as if everything they\u2019ve ever believed is a lie, everyone they\u2019ve ever trusted is untrustworthy. Nothing seems to matter anymore.<\/p>\n<p>E questo \u00e8 molto, molto mirato. Il narcisista ha preparato la strada per una dipendenza totale e per affidarsi a lui.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-97727\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/violent-man-rising-hand-on-woman.jpg\" alt=\"uomo violento che alza le mani sulla donna\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/violent-man-rising-hand-on-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/violent-man-rising-hand-on-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/violent-man-rising-hand-on-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/violent-man-rising-hand-on-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/violent-man-rising-hand-on-woman-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Si \u00e8 assicurato che la sua vittima sia fisicamente, mentalmente, emotivamente e finanziariamente dipendente e che non possa andarsene facilmente.<\/p>\n<p>The final stage is every woman\u2019s worst nightmare.<\/p>\n<p>Suddenly, they\u2019ve entered into an episode of Investigation Discovery\u2019s <em>Chi c***o ho sposato?<\/em> perch\u00e9 il narcisista sceglie di scartarli totalmente una volta per tutte.<\/p>\n<p>La svalutazione di solito passa al disconoscimento quando la vittima comincia a vendicarsi, a mettere fuori gioco il narcisista e, cos\u00ec facendo, a infliggere <strong>lesione narcisistica.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 un termine usato per descrivere la reazione del narcisista nei confronti di una vittima che lo sfida.<\/p>\n<p>Non solo \u00e8 ferito e si sente offeso, ma diventa completamente determinato a distruggere il suo avversario.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-97728\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/angry-young-man-yelling-at-crying-woman.jpg\" alt=\"giovane arrabbiato che urla contro una donna in lacrime\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/angry-young-man-yelling-at-crying-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/angry-young-man-yelling-at-crying-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/angry-young-man-yelling-at-crying-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/angry-young-man-yelling-at-crying-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/angry-young-man-yelling-at-crying-woman-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He\u2019s worked so hard to take everything valuable away, so the victim is nothing more than a pawn.<\/p>\n<p>Come osa sfidare questo! Come si permette di mettere in dubbio il processo! Non si fermer\u00e0 davanti a nulla per vendicarsi e assicurarsi che venga punita.<\/p>\n<p>I narcisisti sono abili bugiardi e manipolatori. Usano e abusano, e le loro false facciate non sono altro che gusci robotici programmati per distruggere.<\/p>\n<p>Sotto sotto, sono quasi disumani. Smascherarli scatener\u00e0 la furia narcisistica.<\/p>\n<p>E se una vittima \u00e8 abbastanza fortunata da uscirne relativamente illesa, pu\u00f2 aspettarsi di vivere un'esperienza a tempo indeterminato. <strong>pulizia<\/strong>\u2014consistent lingering. Narcissists never go away.<\/p>\n<p>Le vittime che sono state scottate (e continuano a esserlo) dai narcisisti sono iperconsapevoli dei tratti narcisistici, forse paranoici.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-97729\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-bedroom.jpg\" alt=\"Donna maltrattata seduta sul pavimento in camera da letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-bedroom.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-bedroom-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-bedroom-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-bedroom-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/abused-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-bedroom-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>They tend to carry the trauma into future relationships. However, this doesn\u2019t necessarily need to be so.<\/p>\n<p>The key to healing from narcissistic abuse is to spend a sufficient amount of time alone. That\u2019s right\u2014completely alone.<\/p>\n<p>Non possiamo avere paura del tempo trascorso solo con noi stessi.<\/p>\n<p>After all, we need to truly understand what we are attracted to and what makes us tick, so to speak, so the cycle isn\u2019t repeated and future partners aren\u2019t bruised and beaten by emotional baggage.<\/p>\n<p>Dobbiamo anche evitare il pi\u00f9 possibile di avere contatti con chi ci maltratta. Anche se ci sono problemi di custodia dei figli.<\/p>\n<p>Anche se abbiamo amici in comune. Soprattutto, dobbiamo <a href=\"http:\/\/www.marcandangel.com\/2015\/05\/10\/16-simple-ways-to-love-yourself-again\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">imparare ad amare di nuovo noi stessi.<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><strong>di Sara E. Teller<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-97732\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/pinterest-Surviving-Narcissistic-Abuse.jpg\" alt=\"Sopravvivere all&#039;abuso narcisistico\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/pinterest-Surviving-Narcissistic-Abuse.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/pinterest-Surviving-Narcissistic-Abuse-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/pinterest-Surviving-Narcissistic-Abuse-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/pinterest-Surviving-Narcissistic-Abuse-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/pinterest-Surviving-Narcissistic-Abuse-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever felt like everything you say is wrong? No matter how hard you try, nothing you do is ever good enough? You can never seem to accomplish what you set out to do the way you had intended? Do you feel this way because your partner is telling you so? All too often,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":97730,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13131","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/Surviving-Narcissistic-Abuse.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":4,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. 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