{"id":13142,"date":"2018-01-25T09:26:58","date_gmt":"2018-01-25T09:26:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=13142"},"modified":"2022-05-18T22:16:38","modified_gmt":"2022-05-18T22:16:38","slug":"fare-molti-sforzi-trovare-delle-scuse-forse-avrei-potuto-farlo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/fare-molti-sforzi-trovare-delle-scuse-forse-avrei-potuto-farlo\/","title":{"rendered":"Se ti fossi impegnato tanto quanto le tue scuse, forse ce l'avremmo fatta."},"content":{"rendered":"

Ho passato cos\u00ec tanto tempo a trovare scuse per te, a perdonarti per i tuoi errori, darvi una seconda possibilit\u00e0<\/a> and hoping that one day we\u2019ll come to the same page. I hoped that one day you\u2019ll see how hard I was trying for us and that you\u2019ll try to match my efforts.<\/p>\n

In qualche modo mi sono convinto che tu mi ami davvero e che, nel profondo, vuoi stare con me. Mi sono detta che devo solo darti il tempo di capire come stanno le cose e che alla fine le cose si risolveranno.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ti ho amato con tutto il mio corpo e la mia anima. Ti ho amato quanto una donna pu\u00f2 amare un uomo. E non ho mai voluto toglierti nulla di ci\u00f2 che<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t deserve or that I wasn\u2019t ready to give you myself. I just wanted you to love me as honestly as I loved you. And I wanted to see you trying. But, obviously, I wanted too much.<\/p>\n

C'era sempre qualcosa che non andava in te. C'era sempre qualcosa che ti impediva di fare le cose che una persona normale avrebbe fatto senza nemmeno pensarci due volte.<\/p>\n

C'era sempre un motivo per cui si doveva annullare i nostri piani all'ultimo minuto<\/a>. There was always a reason why you couldn\u2019t pick up the phone or a perfect explanation of why it took you hours to text me back.<\/p>\n

C'era sempre qualcosa di pi\u00f9 importante che esserci per me quando avevo pi\u00f9 bisogno di te. C'era sempre una scusa <\/a>o un motivo o qualcosa che \u00e8 venuto fuori all'ultimo minuto.<\/p>\n

It took me a while to see that you really had a perfect reason to not show up when you supposed to\u2014you just didn\u2019t care enough.<\/p>\n

Ho continuato a resistere, sempre troppo cieco e troppo ingenuo per vedere le cose che mi mostravi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

La tua bocca mi diceva una cosa, ma il modo in cui ti comportavi mi diceva qualcosa di completamente opposto. E io ero confuso.<\/p>\n

My heart was telling me one thing and my mind something completely opposite. I should\u2019ve known that a person\u2019s effort sometimes matters more than love does.<\/p>\n

It was always easier for you to come up with excuses than it was for you to try. And I was so easily convinced. I kept saying that it doesn\u2019t matter and how it\u2019s not that big of a deal…how something must\u2019ve stopped you in your intention to be there for me.<\/p>\n

Ho continuato a farlo finch\u00e9 non ho capito che non c'\u00e8 nulla in questo mondo che possa impedirti di essere l\u00ec per me se ti interessa davvero.<\/p>\n

I always wore my heart on my sleeve and I never loved just so I\u2019d be loved back. I always gave my best and always had my purest intentions.<\/p>\n

Ma si sa, si pu\u00f2 dare a qualcuno solo fino a un certo punto.<\/strong> C'\u00e8 un limite fino al quale si pu\u00f2 continuare a dare senza ricevere nulla in cambio. Quando si supera questa linea, ci si spezza.<\/p>\n

When people ask me how is it possible we didn\u2019t make it when I loved you so much and when I tried so hard, I just remember how in love, it\u2019s impossible to make things work if there is only one person trying.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s doomed to end up sadly when there is one person bending over backwards to make things work and another one is just coming up with excuses. Love (if that was what you felt) doesn\u2019t survive without effort.<\/a><\/p>\n

Actually, I almost gave up on myself so I\u2019d make us work. I almost demolished all my values and all my beliefs to get your love.<\/p>\n

I almost deleted everything off of my priority list and decided to focus only on you. But then I realized I\u2019d just lose myself in my effort to make you love me.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t do it. I didn\u2019t choose you to be the only important thing in my life because I realized I\u2019m not half as important to you as you are to me.<\/p>\n

Mi sono resa conto che ero l'unica a provarci davvero. A un certo punto mi sono chiesta cosa sarebbe successo se avessi smesso di provarci. E ho avuto la mia risposta.<\/p>\n

Quando mi sono tirato indietro, you didn\u2019t fight back.<\/a> You didn\u2019t reach out to me. You didn\u2019t try to stop me. You didn\u2019t decide it\u2019s time to actually make an effort. You let me go. And it seemed to be the easiest thing you did.<\/p>\n

If it was meant to be, it would be\u2014wasn\u2019t this your ultimate excuse?<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you had tried perhaps we would\u2019ve made it. If you had put in as much effort as you made excuses, maybe it would be.<\/p>\n

But you didn\u2019t. So don\u2019t blame it on destiny or anything else. For once, be a man and say how it was your fault.<\/p>\n

Tesoro, questa volta tocca a te.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I know that I have no sins here other than staying longer than I should have and fighting for someone who never made an actual effort for me. I tried, you didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

So, I\u2019m done. I\u2019m finally done.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I spent so much time making excuses for you, forgiving you for your mistakes, giving you second chances and hoping that one day we\u2019ll come to the same page. I hoped that one day you\u2019ll see how hard I was trying for us and that you\u2019ll try to match my efforts. Somehow I convinced myself…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":13156,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13142","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/neil-fedorowycz-469549.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13142","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13142"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13142\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13156"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13142"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13142"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13142"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}