{"id":13241,"date":"2020-07-15T08:17:52","date_gmt":"2020-07-15T08:17:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=13241"},"modified":"2022-02-26T22:39:48","modified_gmt":"2022-02-26T22:39:48","slug":"luomo-della-lettera-fatto-sentire-non-amabile","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/luomo-della-lettera-fatto-sentire-non-amabile\/","title":{"rendered":"Una lettera all'uomo che mi ha fatto sentire come se fossi io quella non amabile"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In questo mondo, tutto ci\u00f2 che ho sempre voluto \u00e8 stato amare ed essere amata. Sono una ragazza testarda e ho sempre saputo di poter fare qualcosa una volta che mi ci fossi messa d'impegno.<\/p>\n<p>Tutto ci\u00f2 che ho ottenuto nella vita me lo sono guadagnato con i miei sforzi e la mia dedizione. Nulla mi \u00e8 mai stato servito su un piatto d'argento.<\/p>\n<p>Credo che questo sia uno dei motivi principali per cui <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/desiderio-ha-combattuto-duramente-ancora-possibilita\/\">Ho lottato cos\u00ec tanto per te<\/a>. Because life showed me that I can\u2019t get anything I want that easily and that I have to walk a mile longer than anyone else does for it, so I figured I\u2019d have to do the same in love too.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You were everything I ever looked for or could possibly ask for and once you were in my life, I knew I couldn\u2019t let you go. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>I told myself it wasn\u2019t gonna be easy, but I believed that it would be worth it in the end. But what I thought would be worth it actually cost me way too much.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sono sempre stata una combattente. Non mi sono mai accontentato di ottenere ci\u00f2 che pensavo di meritare.<\/p>\n<p>And I knew that here and there I\u2019d have to receive a few punches along my life\u2019s road, but what you gave me wasn\u2019t just a punch, it was a knockout I barely recovered from.<\/p>\n<p>Mi hai trattato in modo miserabile e io l'ho permesso. Hai demolito completamente la mia fiducia, l'hai schiacciata sulla faccia della terra.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91318\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Upset-couple-finding-out-results-of-a-pregnancy-test-in-the-bedroom.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia sconvolta che scopre i risultati di un test di gravidanza in camera da letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"540\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Upset-couple-finding-out-results-of-a-pregnancy-test-in-the-bedroom.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Upset-couple-finding-out-results-of-a-pregnancy-test-in-the-bedroom-300x203.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/Upset-couple-finding-out-results-of-a-pregnancy-test-in-the-bedroom-768x518.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/> Now that I look back, I can\u2019t believe I\u2019d ever let that happen to me. I was one of those who knew her worth. But somewhere down the road, I obviously forgot that.<\/p>\n<p>Quello che mi colpisce di pi\u00f9 \u00e8 che niente di quello che ho fatto \u00e8 stato abbastanza buono per te.<\/p>\n<p>You kept comparing me to others and you kept asking me why I couldn\u2019t be like them. My efforts were useless, my battles were meaningless to you.<\/p>\n<p>But you\u2019re one hell of an actor, you know? You convinced me that there wasn\u2019t anything about me to be love, that I only had bad sides and how I was this person who was extremely hard to love.<\/p>\n<p>Mi hai fatto sentire come se non fossi amabile e che avrei dovuto essere fortunata ad avere qualcuno come te che mi amava.<\/p>\n<p>Mi ci \u00e8 voluto un po' per capire che<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/screw-making-think-shes-unlovable-one\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> it wasn\u2019t me who was unlovable<\/a>eri tu. E poich\u00e9 eri cos\u00ec com'eri, avevi bisogno di mettermi costantemente a terra per farmi stare accanto a te.<\/p>\n<p>You needed me to see you as this God-given creature and how I was blessed to have you next to me. But you weren\u2019t a blessing, you were a curse.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91319\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-living-room-1.jpg\" alt=\"coppia sconvolta seduta in salotto\" width=\"800\" height=\"540\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-living-room-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-living-room-1-300x203.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-living-room-1-768x518.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Perch\u00e9 ti sentivi male con te stesso, hai fatto sentire male anche me. Perch\u00e9 hai lasciato che qualcuno ti convincesse che eri difficile da amare, hai fatto sentire anche me come se non fossi amabile. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Hai permesso a qualcuno di distruggere la tua sicurezza e la tua autostima e poi hai fatto lo stesso con me. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>You projected your insecurities onto me because they had convinced you of everything you\u2019d been trying to convince me.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You shouldn\u2019t have done that. You shouldn\u2019t have made it a chain reaction. Regardless of how bad you felt, instead of stopping the chain, you continued it.<\/p>\n<p>Sapevi quanto faceva male eppure eri capace di farlo anche a qualcun altro. Eri capace di fare le stesse cose a me, alla persona che avrebbe fatto qualsiasi cosa per te.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Well, unfortunately for you, I came to my senses. I realized it wasn\u2019t me and that it had nothing to do with me.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Mi ci \u00e8 voluto un po', ma sapete come si dice: meglio tardi che mai.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I realized I didn\u2019t have to be your punching bag. And that I shouldn\u2019t let you treat me bad just because you felt bad about yourself. I wasn\u2019t gonna let you break me just because I loved you.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91320\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-bedroom.jpg\" alt=\"coppia sconvolta seduta in camera da letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"531\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-bedroom.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-bedroom-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/upset-couple-sitting-in-bedroom-768x510.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t gonna let you turn me into a doormat that anyone could walk over, just so you\u2019d be able to keep your head on the surface.<\/p>\n<p>No woman should ever feel the way you made me feel. No woman should ever feel like she\u2019s the unlovable one, like she\u2019s hard to love or that she only has this one shot in life for love and no matter how bad her love treats her, that she\u2019s supposed to put up with it.<\/p>\n<p>Because if you treat me poorly, it\u2019s not love, it\u2019s poison and I don\u2019t have to settle for it.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m a fighter, but I learned that sometimes you need to stop fighting and walk away if what you\u2019re fighting for isn\u2019t worth it.<\/p>\n<p>I bent over backwards to make things work and in the end, it didn\u2019t work out.<\/p>\n<p>Alla fine, invece di sentirmi come se avessi abbandonato una relazione, mi sono sentita come se fossi appena strisciata sotto un edificio demolito da un terremoto. Ma almeno ho avuto modo di essere <a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/raymmar-tirado\/stuck-in-love-the-one-tha_b_4843496.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">quello che \u00e8 riuscito a scappare.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ho deciso di essere io a fermare la catena, sai. Ho deciso che non avrei fatto le stesse cose che tu hai fatto a me o che sono state fatte a te.<\/p>\n<p>I decided to be strong enough when you couldn\u2019t, I decided to be the man when you couldn&#8217;t and I decided not to hurt others just because I was hurt.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91321\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/close-up-of-beautiful-blonde-woman.jpg\" alt=\"primo piano di una bella donna bionda\" width=\"800\" height=\"535\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/close-up-of-beautiful-blonde-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/close-up-of-beautiful-blonde-woman-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/close-up-of-beautiful-blonde-woman-768x514.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/anno-finalmente-so-abbastanza-bene\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">I know I\u2019m good enough.<\/a> Forse mi hai visto come quello non amabile, ma so bene che non posso credere di essere come mi hai visto tu.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>The way you painted me is the exact portrait of how you see yourself. I don\u2019t want to do those things to myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t want to fight anymore for you. I don\u2019t want to fight for someone who made me feel the way you did, like I\u2019m the unlovable one.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re not someone I should give my heart to. You\u2019re someone who would have destroyed me if I\u2019d continued fighting for you, so I stopped.<\/p>\n<p>Telling myself I deserved more wasn\u2019t selfish. It was the best thing I could do. It was what I needed in order to keep myself on the surface.<\/p>\n<p>My conscience is clear. What you did to me doesn\u2019t have to define me. But it will definitely serve as a hard-learned lesson in life that sometimes I need to fight for myself as hard as I do for others.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-91316 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Una lettera all&#039;uomo che mi ha fatto sentire come se fossi io quella non amabile\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest-1448x2048.jpg 1448w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One-Pinterest.jpg 1587w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In this world, all I ever wanted was to love and be loved. I am a stubborn girl and I always knew that I could do something once I put my mind to it. Everything in life that I got was earned by my efforts and my dedication. Nothing was ever served to me on&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":91315,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13241","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-The-Man-Who-Made-Me-Feel-Like-I-Was-The-Unlovable-One.jpeg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13241","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13241"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13241\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/91315"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13241"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13241"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13241"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}