{"id":13442,"date":"2020-08-30T09:37:20","date_gmt":"2020-08-30T09:37:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=13442"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:08:07","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:08:07","slug":"ottenere-lamore-tossico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ottenere-lamore-tossico\/","title":{"rendered":"Come superare un amore tossico"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Ho sempre pensato che avrei trovato un uomo di cui mi sarei innamorata e che avremmo vissuto per sempre felici e contenti. Pensavo che una volta incontrata una persona speciale, sarebbe stata la mia persona, la mia anima gemella e il mio vero partner.<\/p>\n<p>But unfortunately, that didn\u2019t happen. Instead, I met a person who was anything but good. And the worst part was that I could see signs screaming that he was bad from miles away but I still decided to give him a chance.<\/p>\n<p>Ero ingenua e pensavo che l'amore potesse cambiare chiunque, anche lui che era cos\u00ec incasinato.<\/p>\n<p>So, our story began\u2014the one where I suffered, and he got all that he had ever wanted. It was so easy to control me because I fell in love with him, thinking that after some time passed, he would fall in love with me too.<\/p>\n<p>But that wasn\u2019t something that he wanted.<\/p>\n<p>Invece, voleva una ragazza che facesse le cose come voleva lui, che lo amasse e perdonasse i suoi errori che avrebbe ripetuto pi\u00f9 e pi\u00f9 volte.<\/p>\n<p>He wanted a girl who kept her mouth shut because he always had something smart to say. He was happy seeing that I was a bird in a cage but this time it wasn\u2019t a golden one.<\/p>\n<p>Era una gabbia piena di miseria e di dolore, quella in cui mi sentivo cos\u00ec male, che gli dava la possibilit\u00e0 di distruggermi.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I once loved a man who couldn\u2019t love me back.<\/strong> Maybe that was just his decision because if he had loved me he wouldn\u2019t have hurt me so badly.<\/p>\n<p>Non \u00e8 una cosa che si fa alle persone che si amano. L'ho amato con tutto il mio cuore e la mia anima, pensando che sarebbe cambiato e che mi stava maltrattando solo perch\u00e9 aveva dei problemi nella sua vita.<\/p>\n<p>But now I know that I shouldn\u2019t have made excuses for him. From the first time he treated me like I didn\u2019t deserve, I should have left him. But, at that time, I wasn\u2019t strong enough to do that.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Una volta ho amato un uomo che mi ha promesso una vita che meritavo.<\/strong> Invece mi ha fatto vivere un inferno in cui dovevo sacrificare tutto per farlo sentire felice.<\/p>\n<p>I put my life on hold because of him and he didn\u2019t even ask me why I was doing that when he saw that it wasn\u2019t making me happy. He knew that I would do anything for him, so he just let me drown in his <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/segni-comuni-sintomi-dellamore-tossico\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">amore tossico.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Non si \u00e8 mai impegnato per rendermi felice, anche se voleva che facessi delle cose per lui. Non mi ha mai trattato bene e non mi ha mai dato l'amore che meritavo.<\/p>\n<p>L'uomo di cui mi ero innamorata cos\u00ec tanto era l'essere umano pi\u00f9 egoista che avessi mai conosciuto, ma lo amavo comunque con tutto il mio cuore e la mia anima, senza pensare di potermi allontanare da lui.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Una volta ho amato un uomo che mi ha fatto credere di essere io quella non amabile.<\/strong> He made me think that I didn\u2019t deserve the love people write books about.<\/p>\n<p>He made me believe that I didn\u2019t deserve anything special and that I should be satisfied with what he gave me. That man never thought about my needs and my wishes but he dared to take the right to think and to feel instead of me.<\/p>\n<p>With him, I felt like I didn\u2019t have any common sense and that he always had the last word. He took my sanity, my free will and my right to judge.<\/p>\n<p>Voleva solo trasformarmi in una bambola che avrebbe potuto controllare dandole solo briciole d'amore dalla sua tavola. E anche se sembrava orribile, per qualche tempo ho pensato che stesse facendo la cosa giusta.<\/p>\n<p>Sono stata cieca nel vedere che si \u00e8 approfittato di me per tutto quel tempo e che io ero solo una persona che era l\u00ec per dimostrargli che anche lui poteva essere amato e che non era cos\u00ec distrutto come si pensava.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Una volta ho amato un uomo che mi ha fatto perdere la fiducia nell'amore.<\/strong> A causa sua, pensavo che non avrei mai pi\u00f9 trovato l'amore. Pensavo che nessuno mi avrebbe voluto, cos\u00ec distrutta e triste.<\/p>\n<p>I thought that because of him, I would never find a man who would love me like I deserved because he always told me that men like that didn\u2019t exist.<\/p>\n<p>He told me that men just pretend to love girls and after some time they take them for granted. He also told me that it goes like that in life and that I can\u2019t change it.<\/p>\n<p>Because of him, I stopped believing in stories about Prince Charming who would come when you least expected him and who would take you to the love land\u2014the place where love is so real that you can almost touch it. Because of him, I lost all that was making me move forward.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Una volta ho amato un uomo che mi ha dimostrato che era vano lottare per il suo amore.<\/strong> E ha fatto in modo di dimostrarmelo tante volte.<\/p>\n<p>Every time he neglected me when we were in company, he would show me that he didn\u2019t give a damn about me. Every time a good-looking girl would walk past him, he showed me that <a href=\"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/lacey-ramburger\/2016\/12\/if-he-doesnt-respect-you-he-doesnt-love-you\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">he didn\u2019t respect me.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Every time I was sad, he would just leave the house like he wasn\u2019t leaving anyone special inside.<\/p>\n<p>And because of him, I learned to finally fight for my rights because I saw that he wouldn\u2019t do that for me. Because of him, I made a huge step forward, starting to live my life again with the people I liked.<\/p>\n<p>Alla fine mi sono liberata da lui, dimostrandogli che anche io potevo avere un'opzione.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Alla fine mi sono decisa e mi sono allontanata dalle sue mani tossiche, dalle sue dolci parole tossiche che riuscivano sempre a ingannarmi, e perdendo lui ho finalmente trovato me stessa. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Mi sono resa conto di meritare molto di pi\u00f9 di quanto lui potesse darmi e, per la prima volta nella mia vita, ho messo me stessa al primo posto!<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I always thought that I would find a man who I would fall in love with and that we would live happily ever after. I thought that once I met someone special, he would be my person, my soulmate, and my true match. But unfortunately, that didn\u2019t happen. Instead, I met a person who was&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":13455,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13442","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/joshua-rawson-harris-488109.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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