{"id":13505,"date":"2018-01-31T11:56:03","date_gmt":"2018-01-31T11:56:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=13505"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:50:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:50:01","slug":"lamore-delle-donne-continua-ad-andare-avanti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lamore-delle-donne-continua-ad-andare-avanti\/","title":{"rendered":"L'amore delle altre donne \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che mi fa andare avanti"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have been through some intense changes to my life the last six months – I separated from my husband, graduated from a Master\u2019s program, and just recently filed for divorce. I have had many friends, family, co-workers, and acquaintances reach out to me to provide comfort, encouragement, and support. Their words inspire me and often give me the confidence that I need to continuare ad andare avanti.<\/a> A volte non si tratta nemmeno di andare avanti, ma di passare oltre. A volte, per le donne, \u00e8 pi\u00f9 facile abbattersi a vicenda che sostenersi e darsi forza a vicenda.<\/p>\n

My decision to leave my marriage was not one taken lightly, but I\u2019ve received nothing but respect from my peers. I hear comments like, \u201cYou are so strong\u201d, \u201cI am so proud of you\u201d, \u201cYou are brave for going after what you want\u201d and, \u201cI admire you.\u201d<\/em> Non sono certo queste le parole che userei per descrivermi. Non mi sento forte, ci sono giorni in cui mi ci vuole ogni fibra del mio essere per alzarmi dal letto, per stamparmi un sorriso in faccia e non avere voglia di nascondermi nel mio letto tutto il giorno.<\/p>\n

When I first moved out, I did nothing most days. If I didn\u2019t have the kids, it was very difficult to do much of anything. Strong was definitely not me. I also thought there was nothing to be proud of. I was failing at keeping my marriage and family in one piece. I was not proud of wanting to break the vows that I had taken in front of our family and friends\u2014\u201dTill death do us part.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

I was far from feeling brave\u2014more like broke, sad, and angry, with a tinge of happiness. Brave is not leaving my bed for a whole weekend because I miss my kids so much. Brave is not wiping out my entire savings account so I can make ends meet and make sure that my kids think that we are OK. I am not brave, I am scared shitless every day. I am scared I am making the wrong decision.<\/p>\n

Ho due figli, ho paura di rovinarli oltremodo, quindi non mi sono sentita coraggiosa nemmeno una volta. Un'altra cosa che la gente dice \u00e8, \u201cI admire you,\u201d<\/em> though I don\u2019t know why anyone would admire me. I am just two seconds away from this shitshow having a nervous breakdown.<\/p>\n

There is nothing to admire about moving from a four-bedroom, fully-remodeled farmhouse to a two-bedroom low-income apartment. No need to admire that my kids and I eat SpaghettiOs on a regular basis because they are cheap and my anxiety is so bad that I can\u2019t eat anything else anyway. Or the fact that I take showers when my kids are there, so they can\u2019t hear me crying or puking. Real admirable behavior there, folks.<\/p>\n

The other day at work, a co-worker was telling me that a guy we work with was checking me out. I laughed and said it was probably because I had crumbs on my shirt or something like that. She is always giving me compliments\u2014 \u201cYour skin looks so great\u201d , \u201cI like your new shirt,\u201d<\/em> bla, bla.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t ever just take the compliment and move on. I don\u2019t see myself like that, I never have been able to and I just don\u2019t think I ever will be able to do that. There are a lot of people in the world who can be cruel and unkind, but I don\u2019t know if those people could hold a candle to the things I tell myself on a daily basis. For example, I just graduated from a Master\u2019s of Organizational Leadership program. It is a five-semester program, which I crammed into four so I could graduate early, while working full-time and managing my family – only to be disappointed in myself that I graduated with a 3.89 and not a 4.0 GPA. What in the world is wrong with me, lol?<\/p>\n

When I am close to breaking point, I will get a compliment from someone or a card in the mail. Women, I plead with you. Reach out to the person in your life you know is struggling, or even better, someone who isn\u2019t\u2014just because!<\/p>\n

If you see a mom in the store on the verge of tears, give her a quick smile and an \u2018I have been there\u2019 look. You may be the one who helps her to make it through the tantrum in the store and make it home without bursting into tears. If you see a woman with a pretty shirt on, tell her! You have no idea the impact you may make on her.<\/p>\n

Abbiamo bisogno di pi\u00f9 amore e incoraggiamento<\/a>perch\u00e9 non abbiamo idea di quello che una persona sta passando. So che per me \u00e8 l'amore di quelle donne che mi fa andare avanti. Sentire qualcuno che mi dice che non sono sola o che \u00e8 con me, pu\u00f2 significare pi\u00f9 di quanto si possa pensare.<\/p>\n

di Missy Latwesen<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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