{"id":14392,"date":"2020-04-13T09:34:58","date_gmt":"2020-04-13T09:34:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=14392"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:47:44","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:47:44","slug":"di-tornare-da-lui-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/di-tornare-da-lui-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Ogni volta che pensate di tornare da lui, leggete questa frase"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I know it\u2019s hard for you to shut him out of your life, from your head, from your heart. I know you go to bed at night, all alone, fighting with your thoughts, staring at the empty, cold walls.<\/p>\n<p>I know that you are lonely, but that doesn\u2019t mean you have to<a href=\"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/kim-quindlen\/2015\/01\/heres-what-happens-if-you-go-back-to-him-when-you-know-you-shouldnt\/\" rel=\"noopener\"> tornare da lui<\/a>. So che vi siete abituati a lui e al suo tocco.<\/p>\n<p>So che siete stati intorno a lui per tanto tempo e non sapete nient'altro. <em><strong>So che pensate che vi dia sicurezza, mentre in realt\u00e0 vi rende ansiosi.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t stop rewinding in your mind everything you\u2019ve been through, in the hope that you\u2019ll find the situation where everything went wrong.<\/p>\n<p>There is an eternal fight inside you because one part of you knows it\u2019s best for you to forget him and move on, but the other part is still hooked on to him.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69759\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta sul letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quella piccola parte di voi ha paura e vi trattiene. Vi fa girare in tondo e<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/11-cose-che-le-donne-hanno-ferito-molte-volte\/\"> farsi male<\/a> ogni volta.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>So che morite dalla voglia di scoprire quando l'amore \u00e8 scomparso. Dove \u00e8 andato tutto storto? Perch\u00e9 \u00e8 diventato tutto cos\u00ec disordinato e complicato?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Smettete di perseguitarlo. Smettete di chiamare il suo numero e di mettere gi\u00f9 il telefono in preda al panico dopo aver capito cosa stavate per fare.<\/p>\n<p>Stop looking at his profile to see where he\u2019s at and who he is with. That won\u2019t make it any easier.<\/p>\n<p>Ti far\u00e0 solo sentire peggio. Ti far\u00e0 desiderare ancora di pi\u00f9 il suo ritorno.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>You know why you left. You left because he wasn\u2019t the same man you fell in love with. You know that, so don\u2019t go back to him.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69760\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-next-to-her-boyfriend.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta sul letto accanto al suo ragazzo\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-next-to-her-boyfriend.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-next-to-her-boyfriend-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-next-to-her-boyfriend-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t turn back time and relive the moments when the two of you were in love, when he cared about you, when he loved you. Those times are gone and nothing will bring them back.<\/p>\n<p>Non \u00e8 pi\u00f9 l'uomo di una volta. \u00c8 cambiato.<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t have to know why or when he changed, you just have to understand that he changed and nothing will bring him back.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Erase him from your memories because you\u2019re only hurting yourself. He doesn\u2019t care about you and even if you go back to him, he will hurt you again because he still won\u2019t care.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>A volte sogni di cambiarlo e di fargli capire che il suo comportamento \u00e8 sbagliato, che si comporta da perfetto idiota. \u00c8 questo che ti d\u00e0 speranza e ti spinge a tornare da lui.<\/p>\n<p>But you have to realize that you can\u2019t change him, you can\u2019t help him. He is the only one who has the power to do that and if he doesn\u2019t want to or doesn\u2019t get that he needs help, there is no point in staying.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69761\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-in-pink-coat.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste con cappotto rosa\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-in-pink-coat.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-in-pink-coat-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-in-pink-coat-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando stavate insieme e le cose hanno iniziato a cambiare, vi ricordate come vi sentivate? Ricorda che era lei la responsabile di tutto ci\u00f2 che accadeva di brutto?<\/p>\n<p>Eri tu che volevi lavorare sulla tua relazione, volevi salvare ci\u00f2 che era rimasto della vostra relazione.<\/p>\n<p>Hai cercato con tutte le tue forze di guardare al di l\u00e0 di tutte le cose stupide che aveva fatto, ma in qualche modo tutto ti si \u00e8 ritorto contro.<\/p>\n<p>Vi ricordate che avete trascorso dei bei momenti insieme, quando vi siete dimenticati di tutto quello che stava succedendo.<\/p>\n<p>Pensavate davvero che la vostra relazione avesse ritrovato la sua vecchia scintilla, pensavate che fosse stato solo un periodo difficile e ringraziavate Dio per questo, perch\u00e9 lo amavate.<\/p>\n<p>Ebbene, quella bolla \u00e8 scoppiata in un attimo perch\u00e9 il suo comportamento \u00e8 cambiato all'improvviso. \u00c8 impazzito senza motivo. Ha creato litigi dal nulla.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69762\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/couple-fighting-in-the-kitchen.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che litiga in cucina\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/couple-fighting-in-the-kitchen.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/couple-fighting-in-the-kitchen-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/couple-fighting-in-the-kitchen-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t even remember how it all happened, how you found yourself in the situation where you felt like a piece of shit, unworthy of living.<\/p>\n<p>Come ti sei trovata nella situazione in cui lui ti urlava contro il cervello?<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Come \u00e8 stato possibile passare da un momento di completa felicit\u00e0 a quella che sembra un'eternit\u00e0 di tristezza assoluta?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Ogni volta che desiderate tornare da lui, ricordate che eravate la persona su cui ha sfogato le sue frustrazioni.<\/p>\n<p>Ricordate che la sua rabbia e la sua collera sono state proiettate su di voi e dopo, lui si sentiva meglio e voi vi sentivate uno schifo. Volete davvero rivivere tutto questo?<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>He doesn\u2019t deserve you and he never did.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>All'inizio era dolce, si preoccupava per te. Ti chiamava solo per dirti che ti amava, ma poi tutto questo \u00e8 scomparso, come se qualcuno avesse spento un interruttore.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69764\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/happy-man-laying-on-woman-in-the-living-room.jpg\" alt=\"uomo felice sdraiato su una donna in salotto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/happy-man-laying-on-woman-in-the-living-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/happy-man-laying-on-woman-in-the-living-room-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/happy-man-laying-on-woman-in-the-living-room-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He became someone you no longer recognized. He wasn\u2019t your person anymore, he was just a person.<\/p>\n<p>Volevi uscirne, ma era come se sapesse che stavi per lasciarlo e quindi tornava ai bei tempi andati e diventava la persona di cui ti eri innamorata, solo per trattenerti, per <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/7-motivi-per-cui-attirare-gli-uomini-emotivamente-danneggiati\/\">emotivamente<\/a> ricattarti, per farti sentire troppo in colpa per lasciarlo.<\/p>\n<p>And when you decided to stay, everything would be the same, so he would stop caring, and he would ignore you and treat you like you didn\u2019t even exist.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Ancora una volta sei stata lasciata degradata e ferita. Tutta sola in una relazione con un uomo che si era trasformato in un mostro completo.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>So che avevi paura di andare avanti. So che \u00e8 stato incredibilmente difficile per lei lasciarlo, perch\u00e9 era tutto ci\u00f2 che conosceva da tempo.<\/p>\n<p>You doubted yourself because you thought you wouldn\u2019t it make a day without him. But you were wrong. You found that strength and you left. That was the best thing you could have ever done.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69765\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/calm-woman-meditating.jpg\" alt=\"donna calma che medita\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/calm-woman-meditating.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/calm-woman-meditating-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/calm-woman-meditating-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t ruin it by <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/non-lasciare-che-la-vita-sia-ascoltata-2\/\">tornare indietro.<\/a> There will always be hard days when you don\u2019t want to get out of bed.<\/p>\n<p>There will be days when you won\u2019t be able to look yourself in the mirror.<\/p>\n<p>There will be days when you will want to get back to him. Don\u2019t, just don\u2019t. You\u2019re better off alone.<\/p>\n<p>Pensate al dolore e all'infelicit\u00e0 che vi ha causato e ricordate che non c'\u00e8 niente di peggio di questo.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t go back to him because you deserve so much more than him. You\u2019re so much stronger and more beautiful when he isn\u2019t around.<\/p>\n<p>You shine bright when you are away from him, so please don\u2019t go back to him.<\/p>\n<p><em>You know that this has to end sometime. Let it be this time. Don\u2019t go back to him.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-69757\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Every-Time-You-Think-About-Going-Back-To-Him-Read-This-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Ogni volta che pensate di tornare da lui, leggete questa frase\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Every-Time-You-Think-About-Going-Back-To-Him-Read-This-pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Every-Time-You-Think-About-Going-Back-To-Him-Read-This-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Every-Time-You-Think-About-Going-Back-To-Him-Read-This-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I know it\u2019s hard for you to shut him out of your life, from your head, from your heart. I know you go to bed at night, all alone, fighting with your thoughts, staring at the empty, cold walls. I know that you are lonely, but that doesn\u2019t mean you have to go back to&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":69766,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14392","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/Every-Time-You-Think-About-Going-Back-To-Him-Read-This.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14392","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14392"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14392\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/69766"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14392"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14392"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14392"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}